Iingcebiso zokuthumela imiyalezo nge-8 ngeSteamy (kunye neKhuselekileyo) iiConvos

Umxholo

• Fumana Imvume
• Dibana kuqala
• Sebenzisa ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni njenge-Foreplay
• Musa ukuzibamba
• Thela kumava angaphambili
• Yisebenzise ukuze ulahle iingcebiso
• Lumka Ngezinto Ezibonwayo
• SukuGcina okanye ukuVimba
• Uphengululo lwe

Ukusuka kwi-celebs yokuba neefoto zabantu abahamba ze kwi-200,000 ye-Snapchat yokufumana imifanekiso kwi-intanethi, ukwabelana ngolwazi olusondeleyo kwifowuni yakho ngokucacileyo kube yingozi. Oko kulihlazo kuba uphando lubonisa ukuba i-sexting ine-upside eqinisekileyo: Ukuthumela iitekisi ezirhabaxa kwiqabane lakho akugcini nje ukuvutha izinto phakathi kwamaphepha, kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho, komeleza ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye kukunceda ukuba nihlolisise iindlela ezimbini zokuzibonakalisa ngokwesondo. Yimpumelelo leyo macala onke. (Jonga: I-Sexting inokukunceda ukuba ube noBudlelwane obungcono IRL)

Kakade ke, ukuthumelelana imiyalezo ngefowuni kunokuba nzima ukuba awuzange ukwenze oko ngaphambili, ungazi ukuba mawuthini, okanye awazi ukuba iqabane lakho lithanda ntoni okanye liziva likhululekile kusini na. Kwaye akukho nanye kwezi zibonelelo zokuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni ukuba wabelana ngedatha ebuthathaka, okanye uvumele izingxoxo zakho kunye nokuwela ezandleni ezigwenxa- nokuba zezomgculeli okanye iqabane elibonakalisa ukungathembeki. Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungayithumela njani i-sex ngendlela ekhuselekileyo - kwaye ufumane okuninzi kwimiyalezo yakho - ezi ngcebiso zintlanu zokuthumela i-sexting ziyakunceda ukuhlawula ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo ngaphandle kokubeka ubumfihlo bakho emngciphekweni.

Fumana Imvume

FYI, wena rhoqo ufuna imvume yokuthumela iifoto ze-racy-okanye amagama acacisa ngesondo-okanye phambili-komnye umntu, njengoCarol Queen, i-Ph.D.Isini kunye neNcwadi yokuNwabaNdixelelwe ngaphambili Imilo. Ukuba ukhe waphoswa emoyeni i-Dick ekhohlakeleyo ikhetha kuloliwe okanye wothuswa kumdlalo omtsha weTinder, uyazi ukuba kuyayiphula njani into yokuhlaselwa ngomxholo wesondo ongamkelekanga, nokuba ziipixels ezithile kwiscreen sefowuni yakho.

Qinisekisa ukuba ubuza ummkeli ngaphambi kokuba uthumele nantoni na. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubuze, "Ngaba uyavuma ukuthumela imiyalezo?" kodwa zama ukwenza injongo yakho icace kwaye ufumane i-OK yabo ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke. Zama into enje: "Andikwazi kuyeka ukucinga ngento eyenzekileyo phezolo. Yiphindaphinde nge-sms nam?" okanye "Unditshisile kwaye ukhathaza apha. Ngaba kufuneka sithathe le convo siye kwinqanaba elilandelayo?" okanye "Ndithathe nje 🔥 selfie ... ngaphandle kwempahla. Ufuna ukubona?" (Ikwangumbono olungileyo ukujonga imithetho yemvume yesini yelizwe lakho.)

Dibana kuqala

Ngenxa yokuthandwa kokuthandana kwi-Intanethi, ungathumela umyalezo kwiqabane elitsha kangangeeveki ngaphambi kokuhlangana ubuso ngobuso. Ngelixa ulindile, gcina ithoni encinci icebisa kwaye ubenomdla kodwa hayi ngokwesondo. Ungonwaba ngokuthumela imiyalezo yeesecos ngaphambili, kodwa ukuba akukho chemistry yomntu, wabelane nje ngolwazi oluninzi lomntu onomdla kuye, uyachaza uEmily Morse, ugqirha wezesondo kunye nomphathi we Ukwabelana ngesondo noEmily ipodcast. Gcina umntu onentlantsi naye. (Idibeneyo: IiNkqubo zoBuchule boBuchule boBucala bokuPhucula ubuhlobo bakho)

Sebenzisa ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni njenge-Foreplay

Ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni kwakha ulindelo olukhulu kunye neengcebiso kwizinto ezizayo, utshilo uMorse, ke oko kulungele ukudala ubushushu ngaphambi komtshato kunye noxinzelelo. Ithoni elungileyo inokukubeka kwiimvakalelo zesondo ngaphambi kokubonana kwaye usete inqanaba lobusuku obunomdla. Malunga nokuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni, gxila ekugcineni imiyalezo emifutshane- awubhali kwinoveli yothando apha, kwaye ixesha elide lokulibaziseka linokubulala i-vibes- kodwa lifakwe iinkcukacha ezinamanzi. “Amagama aluncedo, kwaye iimeko ozityalayo engqondweni yomntu zinokunceda ukubumba isini onaso kwixesha elizayo,” utshilo. (Idibeneyo: Iimbono ezili-10 ze-Foreplay ezinokuthi zishushu kunokuba zingene)

Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabantu ludinga ukuboniswa kwangaphambili kweemvakalelo, UJenni Skyler, Ph.D., LMFT, C.S.T., utitshala wezesondo kunye ne-sexpert ehlala kwinkampani yemveliso yolonwabo uAdam noEva, baxelelwa ngaphambili.Imilo. Kwaye ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kuyindlela eqhelekileyo yokungena kulwalamano olusenyameni, ukunxibelelana ngencoko- nokuba yi-IRL okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni- kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokwakha oko.

Musa ukuzibamba

Uphando lupapashwe kwi Ijenali yoPhando lwezeSondo wafumanisa ukuba izibini ukuba text no-ubambe-bared amagama baziva banelisekile ngakumbi ngobudlelwane babo kwaye unxibelelwano olungcono ngokwesondo. Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungathumela njani imiyalezo ngefowuni, ngokuchanekileyo, yazi ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uyikhabe le convo ngamagama anoonobumba abane; UMorse ucebisa ukuba enze isiphoso kwicala lokudlala kunokuba abonise iphonografi ekuqaleni. (Cinga: "Ndisasebenza konke okwenzekileyo phezolo" okanye "Ndiyathandeka yindlela imilebe yakho ethambe ngayo.") Emva koko ufumane umzobo njengoko inqanaba lokuthuthuzela livumela. (Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuthetha ungcolileyo onokuyisebenzisa ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni okanye i-IRL.)

Thela kumava angaphambili

Ngomntu, kudla ngokuba lula ukuhamba kunye nokuhamba kwaye ufunde malunga noko iqabane lakho likufunayo kwaye liyayonwabela - kodwa oko kunokuba nzima kwisicatshulwa. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba mawuthini, kanye, cinga emva kumava ekwabelwana ngawo kunye ebeshushu kakhulu, umqeqeshi wezokwabelana ngesondo noqinisekisiweyo uGigi Engle uxelelwe ngaphambili. Imilo. Baxelele (ngeenkcukacha ezicacileyo) into oyithandayo malunga nokubaleka kutshanje kunye. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula kubo ukuba bangenelele nabo.

Yisebenzise ukuze ulahle iingcebiso

I-Sexting inokuba yindlela entle yokubonisa into oyifunayo ebhedini, kwimeko yokwamkela ngakumbi; Unalo ixesha lokucingisisa ngale nto ufuna ukuyithetha, kwaye awunyanzelekanga ukuba usebenze ukuze uyikhuphe ngamehlo. Xa uyeka ukuthanda kwakho uxelele iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ntoni kwaye ufuna ukwenza ntoni kubo, inokuphucula amava akho ezesondo, uFran Walfish, iPsyd, usapho lwaseBeverly Hills kunye nolwalamano lonyango.Ubume.

Lumka Ngezinto Ezibonwayo

Ukuthumela i-selfie enqunu kunokubonakala ngathi yindlela elula yokonwabisa iqabane lakho. Inye into ebalulekileyo ekuqwalaseleni ukuba ungathumela njani imiyalezo ekhuselekileyo kukuba, de ube umthemba ngokwenyani umlingane wakho ukuba angayi ngaphambili - intsingiselo, ngokwenene Bathembele- bambelela ekuthumeleni imiyalezo kuphela okanye ukucebisa kodwa ungatyhileli izibhamu, utsho uMorse. Nokuba uthumela imifanekiso yakho kumntu onobuqili, ulwaphulo lwezokhuseleko luyenzeka, kwaye ubudlelwane bunokuthatha ithuba. Yidlale ikhuselekile ngokungathumeli i-naked snaps konke konke, okanye uthathe amanyathelo okhuseleko afanelekileyo: cinga ngokwenyani ukuba ubathumela kubani, kwaye ukhuphe naziphi na izinto ezichazayo, njengobuso bakho kunye nee-tatoos ezizodwa, uHaley Hasen, utitshala wezesondo kunye neenkanuko Umsebenzi, uxelelwe kwangaphambili Ubume. (Eyeleleneyo: Imibhalo emi-6 onokuthi ungafuni ukuyithumela iqabane elinokubakho)

SukuGcina okanye ukuVimba

Loo mnqweno wokugcina eyona nto ishushu, eyona nto ibalulekileyo yokuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni iyaqondakala ngokupheleleyo. Ngaphandle kovuyo lokuphinda ufunde, bafana nezikhumbuzo ezinomtsalane ezikukhumbuza ngendlela omelele ngayo wena neqabane lakho nazo zonke iindawo zokuzonwabisa zokulala olonwabileyo. Kodwa ukuphelisa amathuba okuba isethi engalunganga yamehlo iwabone (kwaye igqekeza okanye idlulisele umsonto ukuze abantu abangabaziyo bayifunde, nabo), hit delete, utshilo uMorse. Cinga ngokwenza njalo, isingxengxezo sokuthumela iifowuni kungekudala. 😉

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