Iindlela ezi-5 zoomama abatsha abanokuthi bakhuphe ngakumbi "ixesha lam"

Umxholo

• 1. Qonda ukuba “ixesha lam” lithetha ukuthini ngokwenene.
• 2. Khumbula, awukwazi ukwenza yonke into ngaxeshanye.
• 3. Chitha ixesha nabahlobo bakho abadala nabatsha.
• 4. Ukuhamba kwakho sisixhobo esiyimfihlo.
• 5. Thatha ithuba leholide.
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Uyazi malunga neetrimesters ezintathu zokukhulelwa-ngokucacileyo. Kwaye mhlawumbi ukhe weva abantu bebhekisa kwikota yesine, aka kwiiveki zemvakalelo emva kokuzalwa. Ngoku, umbhali uLauren Smith Brody unceda oomama abatsha ukuba benze into ayibiza ngokuba yi "trimester yesihlanu," xa ikhefu lokuya kubeleka liphela kunye nehlabathi elingaphaya kwezityalo, amanabukeni, kunye nendlu enoburharha.

Kwincwadi yakhe entsha, ebizwa ngokufanelekileyo Ikota yesihlanu, UBrody wabelana ngesikhokelo sakhe se-no-BS sokunceda oomama, ngakumbi oomama abatsha, ukumelana nazo zonke iimfuno zehlabathi lokwenyani emva kokuba usana lungene kumfanekiso-onje isihogo Ngaba ubuyela emsebenzini, unakekele obunye ubomi, kwaye ngandlela thile uqingqe ixesha emini, uyazi, wena?

Unokucinga ukuba akukho nto injenge "ixesha lam" emva kokuba ube ngumama. Kodwa uBrody ucela ukwahluka. Ngapha koko, uthi yeyona nto inokukunceda ube ngumama ongcono, iqabane kunye nomsebenzi. Owayesakuba ngumhleli wephephancwadi nomama wabantwana ababini uthi ukuqiniseka ukuba uye wazinyamekela (ewe, kwanosana, iqabane, nemihla emiselweyo) akuyi kuba lula. Ayizukujongeka njengakuqala ngaphambi kokuba ngumama. Kodwa iyenzeka, kwaye kuya kufuneka uyenze eyona nto iphambili kuyo ngoku phambi kokuba ukungoneliseki kwexesha elide kubeke.

Apha, sabelana ngezinye zeengcebiso ezivela kuBrody ukwenza olona xabiso lwakho lubalulekileyo kwaye lubalulekile "kum." (Kwaye ngelixa ulapho, nantsi isizathu sokuba ufanele uyeke ukugxininisa malunga nomsebenzi wakho wokuphila.)

1. Qonda ukuba “ixesha lam” lithetha ukuthini ngokwenene.

Ke, uyazi ukuba kufuneka ubeke phambili ukuzikhathalela, kodwa yintoni kanye kanye loo nto kwaye uyenza njani? UBrody uthi indlela elula yokubona kanye ukuba kufuneka ulichithe njani eli xesha lixabisekileyo kukucinga ngento ekwenza uzive wonwabe kakhulu kwaye uthanda kakhulu. wena. Oko kunokuthetha ukuyokuthengela usana lwakho usana, ukubaleka, usebenze ngokuzithandela, nokuba ulwabelana ngesondo. Indlela okhetha ukuyichaza ngayo ixesha lakho wedwa ixhomekeke kuwe. Ngena kumkhwa wayo kwasekuqaleni kubomi bosana lwakho.

Ukuba ukhathazekile ngegama "yedwa" (HA! Elona xesha kuphela oomama abatsha abadla ngokufumana yimizuzu emihlanu yokuhlamba amandla unexesha) u-Brody uthi kufuneka usoloko unoncedo lokuncedisa, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba ngutata, ukukhathalela abantwana, okanye umhlobo onokuthenjwa. Awunakho ukwenza yonke into ngexesha elinye, ekhokelela kwincam elandelayo.

2. Khumbula, awukwazi ukwenza yonke into ngaxeshanye.

Ungumama kusana olusandul 'ukuzalwa. Ungumntu kwaye uzoziva uphelelwe ngamandla. Isibini xa silungiselela ukubuyela emsebenzini apho kukho amaxesha amisiweyo kunye nabaphathi kunye nabantu abaninzi abangenalo nofifi lwento ohamba kuyo, kwaye inqanaba lakho loxinzelelo linokudlula eluphahleni. (Ukuba usebenza ngempumelelo imini yonke, ukuthumela ii-imeyile, iiprojekthi zophando, ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa, ukondla usana, kunye nokufumana ixesha/amandla okwabelana ngesondo neqabane lakho, ngoko ke kudos ngenxa yokuba ungowe-supermom ngokusemthethweni.) ngawe, utshilo uBrody, khawume kancinci.

Awunakho ukwenza yonke into ngaxeshanye okanye ube yiyo yonke into kuye wonke umntu ngaxeshanye. Imalunga nento yakho unako yenza. Kulapho umnakekeli, kungenjalo waziwa njengomnye wakho obalulekileyo, umama, udade, umhlobo, okanye umntwana othembekileyo, anokungena kwaye athabathe amaqhekeza. Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo kwiqabane lakho, njengoko uBrody esithi awubabuzi ngokungathi bangabancedisi bakho. Uyabacela ukuba benjenjalo ube liqabane lakho kolu hambo luphambeneyo, kwaye ukwenza oko ekugqibeleni kuya kunceda ngamnye wenu azikhathalele.

3. Chitha ixesha nabahlobo bakho abadala nabatsha.

Ngelixa ephanda abanye oomama ngencwadi yakhe, u-Brody wafumanisa ukuba enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ezanceda abantu basetyhini ukuba babe ngumama yayikukufumana ubuhlobo obanelisayo. Abahlobo abalungileyo, ngakumbi abo unokunxibelelana kwaye unxibelelane nabo, bancede ekuphuculeni impilo yengqondo kamama omtsha "ngokwandisa amandla abo okusebenza kunye nokubonelela ngesiqinisekiso sokuba iintsana zabo zikhula ngokuqhelekileyo," ubhala uBrody. Ukwenza unxibelelwano olutsha, ngakumbi nabanye oomama abatsha, kuluncedo. Eli asiloxesha lokuba neentloni. Jonga amaqela wengxoxo entsha yabazali kwindawo-kwiofisi yabantwana, ivenkile yosana lwakho, iklasi yeyoga yasemva kokubeleka, okanye ngokukhangela kuFacebook. Ukuba ninokwazi ukubalisa, ukudibana kunokukunceda ngokwenene kwaye kukuncede ufunde izinto ezintsha malunga nokuba ngumama. Inokuba yindlela yokunxibelelana kunye nokwandisa umsebenzi wakho kwixesha elizayo!

Ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho obudala kubalulekile, ke musa ukulibala malunga nomhlobo wakho wobuntwana kunye nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni ongenakulungela ukuba nabantwana. Xa unomzuzu wokugcina, njengaxa ukhwele uloliwe ukuya nokubuya emsebenzini, fikelela kubo ukuze ugcine unxibelelwano lwakho lomelele. Ngcono okwangoku, tsalela umnxeba umntwana kwaye ucwangcise ubusuku bamantombazana. (Nazi ezinye izizathu zokuba kutheni ubambelele kule BFF yakho.)

4. Ukuhamba kwakho sisixhobo esiyimfihlo.

Umama omtsha okanye hayi, ukubambeka emva komgca wetrafikhi okanye kuloliwe omileyo xa usiya eofisini i embi kakhulu. Unokwenza ezinye izinto ezininzi ezinemveliso ngakumbi ngelo xesha. Kodwa uBrody uthi ukujonga ukuma ngxi ngokwahlukileyo-njengexesha lokwenza ukhathalelo oluncinci kuba hey, ayikho enye into onokuyenza. Basebenza imini yonke kunye nokuba ngumzali ubusuku nemini ngelixa bezama ukusebenza ngeeyure ezincinci zokulala. Ngelixa ulinde ukugcwala kwabantu, yenza ukutya okutyayo okusempilweni, umamele umculo, okanye usebenzise ukhilimu wesandla ngephunga elimnandi-yenza into ejolise kwiimpawu zakho ezintlanu ngendlela efanelekileyo yokukhohlisa inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo ukuba uphume. Unokusebenzisa ixesha lokuphumla uhleli kuloliwe ukufumana abahlobo. Kwaye nantsi ibhonasi yabasetyhini abanethamsanqa lokuphila kumgama wokuhamba apho baya khona. Yisebenzise oko ukuze uzuze kwaye wenze umthambo. Omnye umama wokuyila oqaqambisa uBrody kule ncwadi ubuza umntu oza kumgcina ukuba azise umntwana wakhe eofisini, ukuze bakwazi ukuhamba nomhambi ekhaya emva kokuphela kosuku. (Nasi isizathu sokuba ukusebenza kuluncedo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.)

5. Thatha ithuba leholide.

Ukuba unexesha leholide, lithathe.Ukubhukisha uhambo oluya eBali kunokuba yinto engekho ngqiqweni, kodwa emva kwemini eyandisiweyo kwi-spa akufuneki kube njalo. Tsalela umnxeba sitter kwaye ungabi noxinzelelo. (Kungenxa yoko ukuthatha ikhefu kulungile kwimpilo yakho.)

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