Iindlela ezi-5 zokubulela zilungile kwiMpilo yakho

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Kulula ukugxila kuzo zonke izinto ofuna ukuba nazo, ukuzidala, okanye amava, kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba ukuxabisa into osele unayo inokuba sisitshixo sokuphila ubomi obunempilo, ubomi obonwabisayo. Kwaye awunakuphikisana nesayensi. Nazi iindlela ezintlanu ukuziva unombulelo kunokuphucula impilo yakho:

1. Ukuba nombulelo kunokunyusa izinga lolwaneliseko lwakho ebomini.

Ngaba ufuna ukuziva wonwabile? Bhala inqaku lokubulela! Ngokwophando olwenziwe nguSteve Toepfer, unjingalwazi oncedisayo kuPhuhliso lwaBantu kunye neziFundo zoSapho kwiYunivesithi yaseKent State eSalem, ukonyusa izinga lakho lokwoneliseka ebomini kunokuba lula njengokubhala ileta yombulelo. U-Toepfer ubuze izifundo ukuba zibhale ileta efanelekileyo yombulelo kuye nabani na abamfunayo. Okukhona bebhala iileta ezininzi, kokukhona bachaze ukuba baneempawu zoxinzelelo, kwaye baqaphela ukuba baziva bonwabile kwaye banelisekile bubomi ngokubanzi. "Ukuba ujonge ukwandisa intlalo-ntle yakho ngokwenza izinto ngenjongo, thatha imizuzu eli-15 amaxesha amathathu ngaphezulu kweeveki ezintathu kwaye ubhale iileta zombulelo komnye umntu," utshilo uToepfer. "Kukho nefuthe eliqokelelweyo, ukuba ubhala ngokuhamba kwexesha, uya kuziva wonwabile, uya kuziva wonelisekile, kwaye ukuba unengxaki yeempawu zokudakumba, iimpawu zakho ziya kuncipha."

2. Umbulelo unokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho.

Kulula ukugxila kuzo zonke izinto iqabane lakho akunjalo ukwenza-bakhuphe inkunkuma, bekhetha iimpahla zabo ezimdaka-kodwa isifundo ngo-2010 sapapashwa kwiphephancwadi Ubudlelwane bobuqu ufumanise ukuba ukuthatha ixesha lokugxila kwizijekulo ezintle ezenziwa liqabane lakho kunokukunceda uzive uqhagamshelwe kwaye wanelisekile kubudlelwane bakho. Ukuthatha nje imizuzu embalwa yonke imihla ukuxelela iqabane lakho ngento enye oyithandayo ngabo kungahamba indlela ende ekomelezeni ubudlelwane benu.

3. Umbulelo unokuyiphucula impilo yakho yengqondo kunye namandla akho.

Ukuziva unombulelo kunokuba nefuthe elihle kwimpilontle yakho kunye nomgangatho wobomi, ngokutsho kophononongo luka-2007 olwenziwa ngabaphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia - Davis. Izifundo (zonke zingabamkeli bamalungu) zahlulwa zaba ngamaqela amabini. Elinye iqela ligcina amanqaku emihla ngemihla malunga neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zonyango, indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngobomi ngokubanzi, indlela ababenxibelelana ngayo nabanye, kunye nendlela ababeziva ngayo malunga nosuku oluzayo. Elinye iqela laphendula imibuzo efanayo kodwa lacelwa ukuba lidwelise izinto ezintlanu okanye abantu elinombulelo ngalo suku ngalunye nokuba kutheni. Ekupheleni kweentsuku ezingama-21, 'iqela lombulelo' liphucule impilo yabo yengqondo kunye namanqaku okuphila, ngelixa amanqaku kwiqela lolawulo enqabile. Abaphandi bathi iimvakalelo zombulelo zinokusebenza 'njengesithinteli' kwimicelimngeni enokudalwa sisifo esingapheliyo.

Sifunda ntoni? Ngaphandle kwemiceli mngeni onokuthi ujongane nayo, nokuba yimeko yezempilo, uxinzelelo lomsebenzi, okanye imiceli mngeni yokuncipha, ukuthatha ixesha lokuqonda into oyibulelayo (nokuba ikwijenali okanye uyiqaphele nje) kunokukunceda ugcine umbono oqinisekileyo kunye nokunyusa amandla akho.

4. Ukubonisa umbulelo kunokukunceda ulale ngcono.

Abaphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseManchester eNgilani bafunde ngaphezulu kwezifundo ezingama-400 (iipesenti ezingama-40 ezazinengxaki yokulala) kwaye bafumanisa ukuba abo baziva benombulelo ngakumbi bakwachaza iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezintle, ezibavumela ukuba balale ngokukhawuleza kwaye baphucule umgangatho wazo ngokubanzi. wobuthongo. Uphando lucebisa ukuba ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa ngaphambi kokulala ukubhala phantsi okanye ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo izinto ezimbalwa onombulelo ngazo zinokukunceda ukuba ulale ubuthongo obunzulu.

5. Umbulelo unokukunceda unamathele kwinkqubo yakho yokuzilolonga.

Umbulelo unokuba yinkuthazo oyidingayo ukuze unamathele kuqheliselo lwakho lokuzilolonga. Ukwenza umthambo rhoqo yayisesinye sezibonelelo ezongezelelweyo ezichazwe zizifundo kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia-Davis. Ukuba ukuziva unombulelo kunokonyusa inqanaba lakho lamandla kunye nolonwabo, kukunceda ukuba ulale ubusuku obuhle, kwaye uphucule ubudlelwane bakho, ayimangalisi into yokuba inokukunceda unamathele kwinkqubo yakho yokuzilolonga, nawe!

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