Izinto ezi-7 ezandothusayo malunga nokubaleka kwasemva kokubeleka

Umxholo

• Ndothuswa kukuthatha ixesha elingakanani ndiziva ndikhululekile kwakhona.
• Ndothuswa yindlela ekunzima ngayo ukufumana ixesha lokubaleka.
• Ndothuswa kukuba izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka zitshintshile ngokukhawuleza.
• Ndothuswa yindlela endikhula ngayo ukuthanda ukuthanda ukuqhuba isitrato.
• Ndamangaliswa yindlela encinci yokuhamba kwam.
• Ndamangaliswa kukuba kufuneka ndiqale kwisikwere sokuqala.
• Ndamangaliswa kukuqonda ukuba iinjongo zam zazingenamsebenzi.
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Ndothuswa kukuthatha ixesha elingakanani ndiziva ndikhululekile kwakhona.

U-Ashley Fizzarotti, umama wabantwana ababini ovela eNew Providence, NJ, uthi:

Ndothuswa yindlela ekunzima ngayo ukufumana ixesha lokubaleka.

“Ngaphambi kokuba ndibe nomntwana, ukubaleka bekudla ngokuba yeyona nto iphambili kusuku lwam,” utshilo uKristan Dietz, umama womnye osuka kwisiXeko saseJersey, NJ. "Ngoku, ihlala inyanzelwa ukuba iqhubele phambili kwaye iqhubeke phantsi kuluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa, kwaye ukudinwa kuhlala kuphumelela ngaphezulu kweemayile ezimbalwa."

Ndothuswa kukuba izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka zitshintshile ngokukhawuleza.

"Bendisazi ukuba izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ziyakutshintsha, kwaye ukukhulisa umntwana kuzakubuphucula ubomi bam ngeyona ndlela ibhetele, kungoko ke bendilindele ukwehla kwezizathu zam zokubaleka nokuziqeqesha, utshilo uLauren Conkey, umama waseWorcester, MA (ene usana lwesibini endleleni!). "Kodwa ixesha elide njengoko ndikhumbula, ndibe nomlilo okhuphisanayo ovutha ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Ngoko ngokunyaniseka uhlobo ndilindele ukuba ndiza kuthatha phantse kanye apho ndiyeke khona. Emva koko intombi yam yazalwa, kwaye ngokukhawuleza yonke loo nto. ixesha elibuhlungu ngaphezulu kweeshedyuli zoqeqesho kunye ne-paces kunye ne-PRs khange zibonakale ngathi zibalulekile.Yinto ebalulekileyo ukuba ndingubani, ewe, kwaye ukubaleka kuya kuhlala kuyinto ebomini bam.Kodwa ayindichazi ngendlela efanayo ukuya."

Ndothuswa yindlela endikhula ngayo ukuthanda ukuthanda ukuqhuba isitrato.

"Nangona ndiphuma nje amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki-engaphantsi kokuba ndibaleke ngaphambi kokuba ndibe nomntwana-ndiyonwabela ukubaleka kwam kakhulu ngoku, nokuba ndiqhuba ndedwa okanye kunye nomqhubi," kusho uDietz. "Phambi kokuba ndiqalise ukuqhuba ngenqwelomoya, ndaye ndaziqinisa ukuba andinakuze ndiyisebenzise. Ukubaleka bekusoloko kunjalo wam ixesha-ixesha lam lokudodobala ukusuka ekhaya kunye nomntwana imini yonke. Kodwa ndiyamangaliswa yindlela endikuthanda ngayo ukubeka unyana wam kwisitrato esihambahamba naye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima ngakumbi kwaye asiyihlanganisi imigama ephantse ilingane ukuba bendibaleka ndedwa, kodwa ukukwazi ukwabelana naye ngenye yezinto endizithandayo kuye kwaba nomvuzo kakhulu.” (Funda ezi ngcebiso zili-12 zokwenza ukubaleka ngeqela Umqhubi uhamba ukonwaba ngakumbi kunye nomntwana wakho omncinci.)

Ndamangaliswa yindlela encinci yokuhamba kwam.

Phambi kokukhulelwa, bendisoloko ndijonge ukwahlukana ngokukhawuleza okanye iPR entsha, utshilo u-Erica Sara Reese, umama womnye waseLehigh Valley, PA. "Emva kokuzalwa konyana wam, akukho nto yayibalulekile. Ndakhe ndafumana amava okuzalwa abuhlungu kakhulu, kwaye yonke into eyayibalulekile yayikukuba ndiyachacha kwaye unyana wam usempilweni. Ngoku sele eneenyanga ezili-18 ubudala, ndinomntwana onjalo. izimvo ezahlukileyo ekubalekeni kwam, ayisiyiyo isantya sam okanye ii-PRs- imalunga nokuphuma ndibethwe ngumoya, ukufumana ixesha lam, kwaye ndizomeleze nosapho lwam.

Ndamangaliswa kukuba kufuneka ndiqale kwisikwere sokuqala.

"Nangona ndibaleka uninzi lokukhulelwa kwam-kwaye ndihlala ndisebenza nasemva kokuba ndiyekile-ndaphulukana namandla amaninzi ngelo xesha kunye nokuchacha okwalandelayo," utshilo uConkey. "Ngokusisiseko kwafuneka ndiphinde ndiqeqeshe umzimba wam ukuba ndibaleke kwakhona. Loo manyathelo okuqala ayenzima kwaye anzima. Ndaziva ngathi ndingumkhohlisi emzimbeni wam. Kungaphazamisa kwaye kuthobeke ngendlela emangalisayo, kodwa ukuba unamathela kuyo, izinto ekugqibeleni ziwela kuyo. Nje ukuba ugqithe kwi-hump, ungazifumana ubaleka nolwelo kunye nesantya esikhulu kunangaphambili." (Nazi izinto ezisibhozo onokungazilindeli ngelixa ulindele-kwaye usebenze.)

Ndamangaliswa kukuqonda ukuba iinjongo zam zazingenamsebenzi.

"Ngaphandle kokuba nec-c candelo, bendicinga ukuba ndizakubaleka umdyarho weembaleki kungaphelanga nonyaka ndizelwe," utshilo u-Abby Bales, umama womnye ovela eNew York, NY. "Kodwa andizange ndigqibe ukubeka umdyarho kwikhalenda ixesha elide kunokuba bendilindele. Olu hlobo loxinzelelo belungafanelekanga ekubuyiseni kwam. Ndiyazi ukuba umzimba wam udinga ukuphumla ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na into- ndiyipilisi yomzimba, kwaye ndizazi kakuhle iiramifications zokukhulelwa emzimbeni womntu obhinqileyo, I wasn't about to be risk ukwenzakala ixesha elide ngenxa yenzuzo yethutyana.Ndandifuna nokuba kufutshane ndizonwabele unyana wam nexesha lethu silusapho. Andifuni ukubaleka okanye nayiphi na enye into ephambili kum, ngoko ke ndiyekile naziphi na iinjongo ezinxulumene nokubaleka okwethutyana. " (Wamkele usuku lokuphumla! Nantsi indlela imbaleki enye eyafunda ngayo ukuyithanda.)

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