Ukuqonda uxinzelelo lobudala

Umxholo

• Kukuthini ukubuyela umva kwiminyaka yobudala?
• Iindidi zokuhlehla kubudala
• Njengempawu
• Zonyango
• Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo
• Ukuzinceda
• Ukuhlaziya iminyaka yobudala
• Ngaba ukuhlehla kubudala kukhuselekile?
• Ukuthatha

Ukulungiswa kobudala kwenzeka xa umntu ebuyela kwimeko encinci yengqondo. Oku kubuyela umva kunokuba yiminyaka embalwa kuphela encinci kuneminyaka yomntu yasemzimbeni. Inokuba incinci kakhulu, kubuntwana bokuqala okanye kwasebusaneni.

Abantu abaziqhelanisa nobudala bokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo bangaqala ukubonisa isimilo solutsha njengokuncanca ubhontsi okanye ukukhwina. Abanye banokwala ukubandakanyeka kwiincoko zabantu abadala kwaye baphathe imicimbi abajongane nayo.

Ukulungiswa kweminyaka ngamanye amaxesha kusetyenziswa isayikholoji kunye nehipnotherapy. Ingasetyenziselwa njengesixhobo sokuzinceda, okanye into eyenziwa ngumntu ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufumane ukuba ulungelelwaniso lobudala lunokusetyenziswa nini kwaye unokufikelela ntoni.

Kukuthini ukubuyela umva kwiminyaka yobudala?

USigmund Freud wayekholelwa ekubeni ukubuyela umva kweminyaka yayiyindlela yokhuselo engekho zingqondweni. Yayiyindlela i-ego eyayinokuzikhusela ngayo kwixinzelelo, uxinzelelo, okanye umsindo.

Okwangoku, ezinye iingcali zengqondo zicinga ngokuhlengahlengiswa kobudala njengendlela yabantu yokufezekisa iinjongo zonyango. Ingasetyenziselwa ukunceda isigulana sikhumbule iinkumbulo zengozi okanye yeziganeko ezibuhlungu. Umgqirha unokunceda isigulana sabo ukuba siphilise ngokufanelekileyo kula mava.

Ugqirha wezifo zengqondo uCarl Jung wayekholelwa ekubeni ukubuyela umva kweminyaka ayisiyondlela yokubaleka nantoni na. Wayekholelwa ukuba ukunyanzelwa kweminyaka kunokuba ngamava amnandi. Ingasetyenziselwa ukunceda abantu bazive bebancinci, bengaphantsi koxinzelelo, kwaye bavule ngakumbi.

Ngazo zonke ezi mbono zahlukeneyo zokuhlehla kubudala, iintlobo ezininzi zikhona.

Iindidi zokuhlehla kubudala

Nganye kwezi ntlobo zokuhlehla kubudala zabelana ngezinto ezimbini eziqhelekileyo:

• Abantu ababuyela umva babuyela kwimeko encinci yengqondo kuneminyaka yabo yobudala. Ubude beminyaka buyahluka kuhlobo kuhlobo kunye nomntu kumntu.
• Ukunyanzelwa kobudala akunandlela yakwabelana ngesondo.

Njengempawu

Ukuhlehla kobudala kunokuba sisiphumo sombandela wezonyango okanye wengqondo. Umzekelo, abanye abantu abajamelene noxinzelelo olukhulu okanye iintlungu banokubuyela ekuziphatheni njengomntwana njengendlela yokujamelana noxinzelelo okanye uloyiko.

Imicimbi ethile yempilo yengqondo yenza ukuba ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kubekhona. Ukulungiswa kweminyaka kunokuba luphawu lwenye yezi meko:

• schizophrenia
• dissociative isazisi sokuphazamiseka
• Ingxaki yeschizoaffective
• Uxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo lwasemva (PTSD)
• Ukudakumba okukhulu
• Isifo sengqondo esiyingozi
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obunemida

Ukuhlehla kobudala kunokubakho kukuphazamiseka kubuntu xa abantu bejongana ubuso ngobuso neenkumbulo ezibandezelayo okanye izinto ezibangela. Kule meko, ukubuyela umva kweminyaka kunokuba yinto ezenzekelayo.

Ngaphezulu, abanye abantu banokuqalisa ukubuyela kubudala obudala njengoko bekhula. Oku kunokuba ngumqondiso wengqondo. Isenokuba yindlela yokujongana nexhala malunga nefuthe lokuguga.

Zonyango

Ukulungiswa kobudala kunokusetyenziswa njengesixhobo sonyango. Abanye abaqeqeshi bezempilo yengqondo basebenzisa i-hypnotherapy kunye nokuhlengahlengisa kweminyaka ukunceda abaguli ukuba babuyele kumaxesha abuhlungu ebomini babo. Nje ukuba babe lapho, banokubanceda boyise umothuko kwaye bafumane unyango.

Nangona kunjalo, lo mkhuba uyimpikiswano. Ezinye iingcali zibonisa ukuba kunokwenzeka "ukutyhila" iinkumbulo ezingeyonyani. Ngaphezu koko, akucaci ukuba zithembeke kangakanani ezi nkumbulo "zibuyiselweyo".

Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo

Abantu abanembali yomothuko banokubakho ukuphinda babuye. Ngapha koko, ukubuyela umva kwiminyaka yobudala kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abaye bafumanisa ukuba bane-dissociative identity disorder (DID), ingxaki eyayifudula ibizwa ngokuba kukuphazamiseka kubuntu.

Abantu abanesi sifo bahlala benobuntu obuncinci phakathi kweempawu zabo ezahlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kukholelwa ukuba "encinci" isenokungabi bobuntu obahlukileyo. Endaweni yoko, inokuba yinguqulelo ebuyiselweyo yobuntu bokuqala.

Ngamanye amagama, umntu one-DID unokwazi yonke into, kodwa baziva ngathi bakwiminyaka eyahlukileyo. Banokuthetha njengomntwana okanye baqale ukuziphatha njengabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, "encinci" yahluke ngokupheleleyo.

Kule meko, ukubuyela umva kweminyaka yindlela yokhuselo ngokuchasene noloyiko okanye ukungazithembi. Olu hlobo lokuhlehla kubudala lunokubangelwa ziziganeko ezithile okanye uxinzelelo.

Ukuzinceda

Kwabanye, ukubuyela umva kweminyaka kunokuba yinjongo. Abanye abantu banokukhetha ukubuyela kwimeko encinci njengesixhobo sokuthintela uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Banokubuyela kwiminyaka yobudala ukuze babenokuphepha imiba enzima okanye iingxaki zobuqu.

Njengohlobo lokuzinceda, ukubuyela umva kwiminyaka yobudala kunokukunceda ubuyele kwixesha ebomini bakho xa waziva uthandwa, ukhathalelwe kwaye ukhuselekile. Ngale ndlela, oku kunokuba ngamava amahle.

Nangona kunjalo, ukubuyela umva kweminyaka kunokuba luphawu lomcimbi omkhulu wezempilo yengqondo. Kuya kufuneka uthethe nomboneleli wezempilo yengqondo malunga nalo mkhuba. Banokukunceda ufunde ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani ngokukhuselekileyo. Banokuvavanya amava akho ukumisela ukuba kuyafuneka na uhlobo oluthile lonyango.

Ukuhlaziya iminyaka yobudala

Ukuhlengahlengiswa kweminyaka akukaze kuthathwe ngokwesondo. Luhlobo lwendlela yokuzikhusela ekuvumela ukuba ubalekele ngengqondo ngexesha elahlukileyo ebomini bakho.

Oku kwahlukile ekuzenzeni ngathi mncinci. Ewe kunjalo, abanye abantu baziveza iminyaka emininzi emincinci kunenxalenye yokuziyolisa, isondo okanye ikink.

Umzekelo, amanye amalungu oluntu oluthandwayo anokusebenzisa isinxibo kunye nemizobo "yokuzenza" ngathi mncinci kwaye unamave. Oku ayisiyiyo yokwenyani yobudala.

Ngaba ukuhlehla kubudala kukhuselekile?

Akukho bungozi bendalo ekuhlehlisweni kweminyaka. Ukuba uziqhelanisa nohlobo lokuzinceda okanye ukuphumla, unokufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukwindawo ekhuselekileyo kwaye ujikeleze abantu abayiqondayo le ndlela.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, uzifumanisa ubuyela kubudala obutsha ngaphandle kolawulo lwakho, kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Unokubonisa iimpawu zomcimbi ophambili ekufuneka ujongiwe ngokwahlukileyo.

Ukuthatha

Ukuhlehla kubudala kwenzeka xa ubuyela ngengqondo kwiminyaka yobudala. Ngazo zonke iindlela, uyakholelwa ukuba ubuyile ngelo xesha lobomi bakho, kwaye ungabonakalisa isimilo somntwana, nawe.

Abanye abantu bakhetha ukubuyela kwiminyaka yobudala. Kule meko, inokuba yindlela yokujongana nokubanceda baphumle kwaye baphelise uxinzelelo. Ukuhlehla kubudala kunokuba luphawu lwempilo yengqondo, njengokuphazamiseka kwesazisi okanye iPTSD.

Ukuhlengahlengiswa kweminyaka kungasetyenziselwa indlela yokunyanga, nangona iyindlela yokuphikisana. Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokukunceda ubuyele kwixesha ebomini bakho xa wawuphethwe gadalala okanye unamava okonzakala. Ukusuka apho, unokusebenza kunye ukuphilisa.

Thetha nomboneleli wakho wezempilo ukuba ubona iimpawu zokuhlehla kweminyaka okanye unomdla wokufunda ngakumbi.