Ukukhulisa iiHacks zoMzali kuMama one-MS

Umxholo

• 1. Musa ukubila izinto ezincinci
• 2. Musa ukuluma ngaphezu kokuhlafuna
• 3. Khuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba bazimele
• 4. Ukuphazamisa, ukuphazamisa, ukuphazamisa
• 5. Qiniseka ukuba ufumana imemo
• 6. Sebenzisa amathuba okufundisa
• 7. Khangela izizathu zokuhleka nokuncuma
• Cwangcisa unxibelelane
• 9. Thetha phandle kwaye unyaniseke kubantwana bakho
• 10. Yiba bhetyebhetye
• 11. Zivume “iintsilelo” zakho, hleka ngazo, udlulele phambili
• 12. Yiba ngumzekelo oyifunayo kubantwana bakho

Kutshanje, ndithathe umntwana wam omncinci (oneminyaka eli-14 ubudala) esikolweni. Kwangoko wafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni eyokutya, ingaba iyunifomu yakhe ye-LAX icocekile, ndingazicheba iinwele zakhe ngokuhlwanje? Emva koko ndafumana isicatshulwa kumdala wam (oneminyaka eli-18 ubudala). Wayefuna ukwazi ukuba ndingamlanda kusini na esikolweni eze ekhaya ngeempelaveki, wandixelela ukuba kufuneka afumane umzimba ukuze abe kwiqela lokulandela umkhondo, kwaye wabuza ukuba ndiyayithanda na iposti yakhe ye-Instagram. Ekugqibeleni, umntwana wam oneminyaka eli-16 ubudala wafika ekhaya evela emsebenzini ngentsimbi yesi-9. kwaye ndibhengeze ukuba ufuna ukutya amashwamshwam kwintlanganiso yangomso, ndibuze ukuba ndigqibile ukumtyikityela i-SATs, ndacela malunga nokutyelela izikolo ngekhefu lasentwasahlobo.

Abantwana bam abasengabo abantwana, abasekho kubantwana abasakhasayo, abasekho kuxhomekeke kum ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ndisengumama wabo, kwaye basaxhomekeke kum kakhulu. Basadinga ixesha, amandla, kunye nengcinga-zonke ezinokulinganiselwa xa ujongene ne-MS.

Ezi zezinye ze "hacks" zokuba ngumzali endizisebenzisayo ukugqitha emini kwaye ndiqhubeke nokuba ngumama ngendlela ecaphukisayo (ngokutsho kwabo) ebendisoloko ndiyiyo.

1. Musa ukubila izinto ezincinci

Le ayisoloko iyinto elula ukuyilawula ngabantwana ngeenxa zonke, kodwa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo zezona zibulalayo kum. Xa ndizivumela ukuba ndisebenze, ngaphandle kwexesha ndiza kusuka ekubeni nosuku olukhulu (ukungabikho kwentlungu yomlenze nokudinwa) ukuba neentlungu eziqaqambayo kunye nemilenze ebuthathaka.

Bendihlala ndichitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla kwizinto ezinjengokunxitywa ngabantwana bam kwaye ndicoce ngobumdaka babo, kodwa ndakhawuleza ndafunda ukuba la ngamandla angafunekiyo. Ukuba umntwana wam oneminyaka elishumi ufuna ukuyibhengeza "Usuku lwePajama," ndingubani mna ukuthi hayi? Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ukuhlanjwa okucocekileyo kuhlala kutyhilekile ebhasikithini kwaye kungabekwa kakuhle kwiidrowa. Icocekile nangoku. Kwaye izitya ezimdaka ziya kuhlala zikhona kusasa, kwaye kulungile.

2. Musa ukuluma ngaphezu kokuhlafuna

Ndifuna ukukholelwa ekubeni ndinokukwenza konke kwaye ndihlale ngaphezulu kwezinto. Kuyavela ukuba iphelele kwaye iyinkunzi yenkomo. Andikwazi ukusoloko ndiyenza yonke into, kwaye ndiyangcwatywa, ndigxobhozwe, kwaye ndoyisiwe.

Andingomama ongcono kuba ndibhalisela iihambo zentsimi, ndisebenza umboniso wencwadi, okanye ndibamba ipikniki ebuyela esikolweni. Ezo zizinto ezinokundenza ndibukeke ndingumama olungileyo ngaphandle, kodwa ayisiyiyo ejongwa ngabantwana bam. Kwaye abantwana bam ngabona banomdla. Ndiye ndafunda ukuthi “hayi” kwaye ndingaziva ndinyanzelekile ukuba ndithathe ngaphezulu koku.

3. Khuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba bazimele

Ukucela naluphi na uhlobo loncedo kuhlala kungumceli mngeni kum. Kodwa ndikhawuleze ndabona ukuba ukubandakanya abantwana bam "kwimodi yokunceda" kukuphumelela / ukuphumelela. Indikhulule kweminye yemisebenzi yam kwaye ibenze bazive bekhulile ngakumbi kwaye babandakanyeka. Ukwenza izinto kuba zichongiwe njengemisebenzi yasekhaya yenye into. Ukufunda ukwenza izinto ungakhange ubuzwe, okanye ukuba luncedo ngokulula, sisifundo sobomi esikhulu esiye saqaqanjelwa yiMS kubantwana bam.

4. Ukuphazamisa, ukuphazamisa, ukuphazamisa

Umama wayedla ngokundibiza ngokuba “nguKumkanikazi wokuphazamiseka.” Ngoku iza iluncedo. Fumana iziphazamiso (kokubini wena nabantwana). Nokuba kukuzisa nje esinye isifundo okanye ukukhupha into yokudlala okanye umdlalo, ukuqondisa kwakhona amaxesha ahamba ngendlela engeyiyo kundinceda ukugcina ubomi busemgceni kwaye sonke sonwabile.

Itekhnoloji izise iitoni zeziphazamiso. Ndiqale ukukhangela ii -apps kunye nemidlalo ecela umngeni kwingqondo kwaye ndiyidlala nabantwana. Ndineqela lemidlalo yopelo kwifowuni yam kwaye ndiya kuhlala nditsala abantwana (okanye nabani na ongaphakathi kweeyadi ezingama-500) ukuze andincede. Isivumela ukuba sigxile kwenye into (kwaye kuyacaca ukuba siya silumka ngaxeshanye). Umqeqeshi weBit Brains, Lumosity, 7 Amagama amancinci, kunye noJumbline zezinye zeentandokazi zethu.

5. Qiniseka ukuba ufumana imemo

Phakathi kwenkungu yengqondo, ubudala obuphakathi, kunye nemisebenzi kamama, ndinethamsanqa lokukhumbula nantoni na. Nokuba isayinela intombi yam kwii-SATs, okanye ikhumbula ixesha lokuthatha okanye uluhlu lwegrosari, ukuba andiyibhali phantsi akunakwenzeka ukuba yenzeke.

Fumana usetyenziso olukhulu lokuthatha amanqaku kwaye ulisebenzise ngokwenkolo. Okwangoku, ndisebenzisa iSimplenote kwaye kufuneka ukuba isetelwe ukuthumela i-imeyile qho xa ndongeza inqaku, elinika isikhumbuzi esiyimfuneko kamva xa ndikwikhompyuter yam.

6. Sebenzisa amathuba okufundisa

Ukuba umntu othile wenza intetho ye-snide malunga ne-Segway yam okanye ithegi yokupaka yokukhubazeka, ndisebenzisa umzuzu ukwenza abantwana bam babe ngabantu abangcono. Sithetha ngendlela ekuvakala ngayo ukugwetywa ngabanye abantu, nokuba kufuneka bazame njani ukubonisa uvelwano kubantu abajongene nokukhubazeka. I-MS yenze ukubafundisa ukuphatha abanye ngentlonipho kunye nobubele kube lula kakhulu, kuba ibonelela "ngamaxesha afundiswayo".

7. Khangela izizathu zokuhleka nokuncuma

I-MS inokuzisa izinto ezintle ebomini bakho, kwaye kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo ukuba nomzali ogulayo. Ndihlala ndihamba malunga "nokusinda" kwi-MS ngokusebenzisa uburharha, kwaye abantwana bam bayamkele naleyo bulumko.

Nangaliphi na ixesha kukho into eyenzekayo, nokuba kukuwa, uchame iblukhwe yam esidlangalaleni, okanye i-flare-up embi, sonke siyakrokra ukufumana into ehlekisayo kwimeko. Kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo, ndiye ndadibana namaxesha angalindelekanga, amabi, kunye neentloni kunokuba bendikhe ndacinga njalo, kwaye iinkumbulo zosapho lwethu zibandakanya zonke iziqhulo ezinkulu ezivele kubo. Nokuba ukuwa kakubi kuya kukhokelela kwibali elimnandi, kwaye ekugqibeleni abanye bahleke.

Cwangcisa unxibelelane

Ukwazi oko kulindelweyo kunye noko kuza kuza kunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kuthi sonke. Xa sifika endlwini yabazali bam ngeholide yethu yasehlotyeni, abantwana bahlala benesigidi kunye nezinto abafuna ukuzenza. Andiqinisekanga nokuba singafikelela kubo bonke ukuba bendingenayo i-MS! Ukuthetha ngayo nokwenza uluhlu lwezinto esiza kuzenza nesingayi kuba nakho ukuzenza zinika wonke umntu ulindelo olucacileyo. Uluhlu lokwenza uluhlu lube yenye yezinto esizenzayo ekulungiseleleni nasekulindeleni uhambo olulindelweyo. Ivumela abantwana bam ukuba bazi ukuba yintoni ekufuneka beyenzile ngexesha lasemini, kwaye indivumela ukuba ndazi kakuhle into ekufuneka ndiyenzile ukuze ndiqhubeke nemini.

9. Thetha phandle kwaye unyaniseke kubantwana bakho

Ukusukela kwasekuqaleni, bendivulelekile nabantwana bam malunga ne-MS kunye nazo zonke iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga eziza nayo. Ndiyifumene ukuba kuye kwafuneka ndijongane ne-pee yabo kunye ne-poop iminyaka, ubuncinci banokuva malunga neyam kancinci!

Nangona kungokwemvelo ukuba ungafuni ukuthwalisa abantwana bakho (kwaye ndiyakucaphukela ukuza ngathi ndimhlophe okanye ndibuthathaka), ndiye ndafunda ukuba kuyenzakalisa ngakumbi kunokulunga ukuzama ukufihla usuku olubi okanye ukuvutha kubantwana bam. Bayibona njengokuba ndilele kubo, kucacile kwaye kulula, kwaye ndingathanda ukuba ndaziwe njengomntu oqaqadayo kunoko ulixoki.

10. Yiba bhetyebhetye

I-MS ingabuchaza ngokutsha ubomi bakho ngephanyazo… kwaye emva koko uthathe isigqibo sokuphambanisa nawe uze uphinde ubuchaze kwakhona ngomso. Ukufunda ukuqengqa ngamanqindi kunye nokuziqhelanisa zombini zizakhono eziyimfuneko ukuze ube nazo xa uhlala ne-MS, kodwa zikwayizakhono ezintle zobomi abantwana bam abaza kuzithathela phambili ebomini.

11. Zivume “iintsilelo” zakho, hleka ngazo, udlulele phambili

Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo-sonke sinemicimbi. Kwaye ukuba uthi awunayo imicimbi, kulungile yiyo loo nto umba wakho. I-MS izise eyam "imiba" yam ephambili. Ukubonisa abantwana bam ukuba NDIPHILILE nabo, ukuba ndibamkele kunye nokusilela kwam ngokuhleka ndincume, ngumyalezo oqinileyo kubo.

12. Yiba ngumzekelo oyifunayo kubantwana bakho

Akukho mntu ukhetha ukufumana i-MS. Kwakungekho "ukukhangela ibhokisi engalunganga" kwisicelo sobomi. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ndikhetha indlela yokuphila ubomi bam kunye nendlela endihamba ngayo kwindlela nganye endleleni kunye nabantwana bam engqondweni.

Ndifuna ukubabonisa indlela yokuqhubela phambili, ukuba bangabi ngamaxhoba, kwaye bangayamkeli njani imeko ukuba bafuna ngaphezulu.

UMeg Lewellyn ngumama wabantwana abathathu. Wafunyaniswa ene-MS ngo-2007. Unokufunda ngakumbi malunga nebali lakhe kwibhlog yakhe, BBHwithMS, okanye uqhagamshele naye kufacebook.