UAlicia Keys wabelana nje ngeSitho seMzimba o-ze-Uthando alwenza qho kusasa

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U-Alicia Keys akazange abaleke ekwabelaneni ngohambo lwakhe lokuzithanda kunye nabalandeli bakhe. Ixesha eliphumelele amabhaso eGrammy ali-15 ebelichazekile malunga nokulwa imiba yokuzithemba iminyaka. Emuva ngo-2016, waqalisa uhambo olungenazinto zokuhombisa awayesebenza kulo ekwamkeleni ubuhle bakhe bendalo kunye nokukhuthaza abanye ukuba benze okufanayo. Uye wavula eyakhe indawo yokunyamekela ulusu, Keys Soulcare, ngengqondo yokuba ubuhle abupheleli nje ekondleni ulusu lwakho kodwa kukwangumoya wakho.

Ngokungathi ufuna esinye isizathu sokuthanda i-icon enomzimba, imvumi isandula kunika ujongo olusondeleyo kwindlela asebenza ngayo ekuphuculeni umfanekiso womzimba wayo yonke imihla- kwaye yinto oya kufuna ukuyizama ngokwakho. Kwividiyo ye-Instagram ekwabelwana ngayo ngoMvulo, ii-Keys zabelana ngokuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yesithethe sakhe sasekuseni: ukujonga umzimba wakhe oze kwisibuko ixesha elide kumzamo wokuxabisa nokwamkela yonke intshi yakhe.

"Le nto izokuvuthela ingqondo yakho," ubhale watsho kwi-caption. "Ngaba ukulungele ukuzama into ekwenza ungonwabi kwaphela? U 💜 @therealswizzz uhlala esithi ubomi buqala ekupheleni kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. ."

Kwividiyo, uKeys oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala uhamba nabalandeli bakhe ngenyathelo ngenyathelo. “Zijonge esipilini, kubhetele ukuba uhambe ze, kangangemizuzu esixhenxe ubuncinci, ukwakha indlela yakho ukuya kuthi ga kwimizuzu elishumi elinanye yokujonga [ukujonga] ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungene kuwe,” utsho ejonge esipilini enxibe nto ngaphandle kwebra. , iimpahla zangaphantsi ezinamanqwanqwa aphezulu, kunye netawuli esongelwe entloko.

"Thatha kuwe. Thatha kulawo madolo. Ngena kuloo mathanga. Thatha kweso sisu. Thatha kuloo mabele. Thatha kulo buso, loo mahlombe, ezi zandla - yonke into, "uyaqhubeka.

Iyavela, le nto, eyaziwa ngokuba yi "mirror exposure" okanye "ukwamkelwa kwesipili," iyafana kakhulu nendlela esetyenziswa ngabanyangi bokuziphatha ukunceda abantu baphuhlise indlela engakhethi cala kwimizimba yabo, ngokukaTerri Bacow, Ph.D. , ugqirha wengqondo ekwisiXeko saseNew York. (Eyeleleneyo: Eli Siko lokuZikhathalela ze-Nze Lindincedile Ndamkele uMzimba wam Omtsha)

"Ukubonakaliswa kwezibuko okanye ukwamkelwa kwesibuko kubandakanya ukuzijonga esipilini kwaye uchaze ubuso bakho okanye umzimba wakho ngokungathathi hlangothi," utshilo uBacow. Ubume. "Kulapho uqwalasela ubume okanye umsebenzi womzimba wakho kunobuhle, kuba awunakuba yijaji ethembekileyo yobuhle bakho ukuba ugxeka kakhulu."

Umbono kukuchaza umzimba wakho ngokwenyani kwaye uchaze amagama ngelixa ujonge injongo, wongeza iBacow. Umzekelo, 'Ndinesikhumba sombala we-X, amehlo am aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, iinwele zam zinombala we-X, ubude be-X, ubuso bam bunemilo embhoxo,' utshilo. "Hayi, 'ndimubi kakhulu.'" (Edibeneyo: Ekugqibeleni ndatshintsha iNtetho yam engeyiyo, kodwa uhambo aluzange luhle)

Ngokungafaniyo nale ndlela yokuziphatha yonyango, isithethe sikaKeys sikwabandakanya nokuzithetha. Umzekelo, njengenxalenye yesenzo sakhe, imvumi ithi imamele ingoma, "Ndilukhanyiso lomphefumlo," nguGurudass Kaur. Ithi, Ndilukhanyiso lomphefumlo, ndinobubele, mhle, ndisikelelekile, utshilo uKeys. "Umamela la mazwi kwaye uzijonge esipilini. Ukubonakalisa kwakho. Akukho sigwebo. Zama okusemandleni akho ukuba ungagwebi."

Oko bekutshiwo, amaqhosha ayazi kuqala ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukungazigwebi. "Kunzima kakhulu," wavuma. "Ininzi into eyenzekayo. Inamandla kakhulu."

Uninzi lwabantu lunetyala lokuzigweba, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kwimizimba yabo. "Sihlala siyijonga imizimba yethu ngendlela egxekayo. Sibona zonke iziphene kwaye siyigxeke," utshilo uBacow. "Kufana kakhulu nokungena egadini kunye nokubona kuphela / ukuqaphela ukhula okanye ukujonga isincoko ngosiba olubomvu kwaye ugxininise yonke impazamo. Xa ugxeka umzimba wakho kwaye uqaphele kuphela into ongayithandiyo ngayo, ufumana umkhethe kakhulu kwaye ungachanekanga. umbono womzimba wakho ngokuchasene nokubona umfanekiso omkhulu. "

Yiyo loo nto kusempilweni ngakumbi ukusebenzisa ingqondo kunye neendlela zokwamkela, ezibandakanya ukujonga kunye nokuchaza umzimba usebenzisa amagama angathathi hlangothi. Esi sisicwangciso somzuzu esikhoyo ngoku, yiyo le nto yayisenziwa nguAlicia, utshilo uBacow. (Kwakhona zama: Izinto ezili-12 onokuthi uzenze ukuze uzive ulungile eMzimbeni Wakho ngoku)

Amaqhosha aphelisa ikliphu ngokucela abalandeli bakhe ukuba bazame isiko mihla le kwiintsuku ezingama-21 ukuze babone indlela abavakalelwa ngayo emva koko. Ndiyazi ukuba izokuchaphazela ngendlela enamandla, eyakhayo, eyamkelekileyo, "wabelana. "Dumisa umzimba wakho, uthando kuwe."

Ukuba umtsha ukwamkela isibuko ukwamkelwa okanye isiko lasekuseni ngokubanzi, ukwenza njalo imizuzu esixhenxe ngosuku iintsuku ezingama-21 kunokuziva kunzima. I-Bacow icebisa ukuqala ngemizuzu emibini okanye emithathu. "Ubuninzi endinokucebisa ngabo yimizuzu emihlanu. Isiko elilungileyo lakusasa elinje kufuneka libonakale kwaye liguquguquke." (Idibeneyo: Ulenza njani ixesha lokuziKhathalela xa ungekho)

Enye into ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni kukuba ukuba uyasokola nomzimba, isithethe esifana nesi sinokuziva sinzima, singakhululekanga kwaye sinemvakalelo- kodwa uBacow uthi kufanelekile nangona kunjalo.

Ekuphela kwendlela yokulawula ukungonwabi kukuba nentumekelelo yokuyifumana amaxesha ngamaxesha, utshilo. "Kulapho kuphela apho ufumana isiphumo sokuhlala, esikunyanzela ukuba uqhelane nokungakhululeki ngaphambi kokuba kuphele."

"Ndixelela bonke abathengi bam: 'Ukuba eyona nto yenzekayo yeyokuba ungonwabi, kulungile," utshilo uBacow. “Ukungonwabi yeyona nto ingathandekiyo, kwaye phantse rhoqo okwethutyana."

Njengoko uKeys esitsho kwiposti yakhe: "Zininzi [izinto] ezinokubangela ukuba siphambane ngemizimba yethu nokubonakala kwethu. Ukuzithanda njengokuba unjalo luhambo! Ke, kubaluleke kakhulu!

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