Uxinzelelo lwabantwana: imiqondiso kunye nendlela yokulawula

Umxholo

• Iimpawu eziphambili zoxinzelelo
• Ungalunceda njani uLawulo loMntwana wakho kwiXhala
• 1. Sukuzama ukuthintela uloyiko lomntwana
• 2. Nika ixabiso kwinto evakalelwa ngumntwana
• 3. Zama ukunciphisa ixesha loxinzelelo
• 4. Jonga imeko ebangela ixhala
• 5. Ziqhelanise nezinto zokuphumla kunye nomntwana

Ukuxhalaba yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ixhaphakile, kubomi babantu abadala nasebantwaneni, nangona kunjalo, xa olu xinzelelo lomelele kwaye luthintela umntwana ukuba aphile ubomi bakhe ngesiqhelo okanye athathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, kunokuba yinto ekufuneka yenziwe ilungisiwe yajongiswa ukuvumela uphuhliso olupheleleyo ngakumbi.

Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana abonise iimpawu zoxinzelelo xa abazali bahlukana, xa befuduka, betshintsha isikolo okanye xa kusweleke umntu omthandayo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, xa bejamelene nezi meko zibuhlungu ngakumbi, abazali kufuneka banike ingqalelo kwindlela aziphethe ngayo umntwana. , ujonge ukuba uyayiqhelanisa nemeko leyo, okanye ukuba ukhulisa uloyiko olungenangqondo nolugqithisileyo.

Ngokwesiqhelo xa umntwana eziva ekhuselekile, ekhuselwe kwaye exhaswa, uye azole kwaye azole. Ukuthetha nomntwana, ukujonga emehlweni abo, ukuzama ukuqonda umbono wabo kunceda ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo, ukufaka isandla kuphuhliso lwabo.

Iimpawu eziphambili zoxinzelelo

Ngokukodwa abantwana abancinci bakufumana kunzima ukubonakalisa indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, abanako ukuthi baxhalabile, kuba bona ngokwabo abayiqondi eyona nto ixhalabisayo.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho imiqondiso enokunceda abazali ukuba babone imeko yoxinzelelo, enje:

• Ukuba nomsindo kunye nokulila kunesiqhelo;
• Ubunzima bokulala;
• Ukuvuka rhoqo kunesiqhelo ebusuku;
• Ukumunca umnwe wakho okanye ukuphinda uchame ibhlukhwe yakho;
• Ukuba namaphupha amabi rhoqo.

Kwelinye icala, abantwana abadala, banakho ukubonakalisa indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi ezi mvakalelo aziqondwa njengoxinzelelo kwaye umntwana angaphela ebonisa ukungazithembi kunye nobunzima ekugxileni, umzekelo, okanye enye into ukuzama ukunqanda imisebenzi yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla, njengokuhamba nabahlobo okanye ukuya esikolweni.

Xa ezi mpawu zithambile kwaye zidlulile, kuhlala kungekho sizathu senkxalabo, kwaye zimele imeko yoxinzelelo lwethutyana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kuthatha ngaphezulu kweveki enye ukudlula, abazali okanye abanonopheli kufuneka babukele kwaye bazame ukunceda umntwana ukuba aliphumelele eli nqanaba.

Ungalunceda njani uLawulo loMntwana wakho kwiXhala

Xa umntwana engena kwingxaki yoxinzelelo engapheliyo, abazali, abanonopheli kunye namalungu osapho abaluleke kakhulu ekuzameni ukwaphula umjikelo kunye nokubuyisela impilo entle. Nangona kunjalo, lo msebenzi unokuba nzima kwaye nabona bazali baneenjongo ezintle banokugqibela ngokwenza iimpazamo ezandisa uxinzelelo.

Ke, into efanelekileyo kukuba, nanini na xa kuchongwa imeko enokubakho yoxinzelelo olugqithisileyo okanye olungapheliyo, nxibelelana nesayikholojisti, ukwenza uvavanyo oluchanekileyo kwaye ufumane isikhokelo esimiselweyo kwimeko nganye.

Okwangoku, ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda ukulawula uxinzelelo lomntwana zibandakanya:

1. Sukuzama ukuthintela uloyiko lomntwana

Abantwana abajamelana nexhala bahlala benoloyiko, njengokuhamba esitratweni, ukuya esikolweni okanye nokuthetha nabanye abantu. Kwezi meko, into ekufuneka yenziwe kukungazami ukusindisa umntwana kwaye ususe zonke ezi meko, kuba ngaloo ndlela, ngekhe akwazi ukoyisa uloyiko lwakhe kwaye akazukudala iindlela zokuloyisa uloyiko. Ukongeza, ngokuphepha imeko ethile, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba unezizathu zokufuna ukuyiphepha loo meko, kuba umntu omkhulu uyabaphepha.

Nangona kunjalo, umntwana akufuneki anyanzelwe ukuba ajongane noloyiko lwakhe, kuba uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo lunokuyenza mandundu imeko. Ke ngoko, into ekufuneka yenziwe kukuthatha uloyiko ngokwendalo kwaye, xa kunokwenzeka, bonisa umntwana ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba aloyise olu loyiko.

2. Nika ixabiso kwinto evakalelwa ngumntwana

Kwilinge lokunciphisa uloyiko lomntwana, kuqhelekile ukuba abazali okanye abanonopheli bazame ukuxelela umntwana ukuba akufuneki bakhathazeke okanye akufuneki boyike, nangona kunjalo, ezi ntlobo zamabinzana, nangona kusithiwa injongo elungileyo, inokuvavanywa ngumntwana njengesigwebo, njengoko banokuziva ukuba le nto bayivayo ayilunganga okanye ayivakali, umzekelo.

Ke, eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukuthetha nomntwana malunga nokoyika kwakhe kunye nezinto azivayo, eqinisekisa ukuba ukwicala lakhe ukumkhusela kwaye azame ukunceda boyise imeko. Olu hlobo lwesimo sengqondo ngokubanzi lunefuthe elihle ngakumbi, njengoko linceda ukomeleza ingqondo yomntwana.

3. Zama ukunciphisa ixesha loxinzelelo

Enye indlela yokunceda umntwana wakho akwazi ukumelana noxinzelelo kukubonisa ukuba ixhala yimvakalelo yexeshana kwaye iyanyamalala, nokuba kubonakala ngathi akukho ndlela yokuphucula. Ke ngoko, xa kunokwenzeka, abazali kunye nabakhathaleli kufuneka bazame ukunciphisa ixesha loxinzelelo, elihlala likhulu ngaphambi kokwenza nawuphi na umsebenzi. Oko kukuthi, becinga ukuba umntwana woyika ukuya kugqirha wamazinyo, abazali banokuthi kufuneka baye kugqirha wamazinyo iiyure ezi-1 okanye ezi-2 ngaphambili, ukuthintela umntwana ekubeni abe nale ngcinga ixesha elide.

4. Jonga imeko ebangela ixhala

Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba luncedo emntwaneni ukuba azame ukuphonononga indlela avakalelwa ngayo kwaye aveze imeko ngendlela enengqiqo. Ke, ucinga ukuba umntwana woyika ukuya kugqirha wamazinyo, umntu unokuzama ukuthetha nomntwana malunga noko acinga ukuba kwenziwe ngugqirha wamazinyo kwaye kubaluleke ngantoni ebomini bakhe. Ukongeza, ukuba umntwana ukhululekile ukuthetha, umntu unokucinga ngento embi enokwenzeka kuloo meko kwaye ancede umntwana enze isicwangciso kwimeko yoloyiko.

Uninzi lwexesha, inqanaba loxinzelelo linokuncitshiswa xa umntwana evakalelwa kukuba unesicwangciso sakwimeko embi, emnika ukuzithemba ngakumbi ukoyisa uloyiko.

5. Ziqhelanise nezinto zokuphumla kunye nomntwana

Le yindlela yokudala, elula enokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba alawule amanqanaba abo oxinzelelo xa eyedwa. Ngenxa yoku, umntwana kufuneka afundiswe imisebenzi yokuphumla, enokunceda ukuguqula ingcinga kuloyiko aluvayo.

Inkqubo efanelekileyo yokuphumla iquka ukuphefumla okunzulu, ukusezela imizuzwana emi-3 kunye nokuphefumlela enye i-3, umzekelo. Kodwa ezinye izinto ezinje ngokubala inani lamakhwenkwe ezimfutshane okanye ukumamela umculo zinokunceda ukuphazamisa kunye nolawulo olungcono lwexhala.

Jonga ukuba ungalutshintsha njani uhlobo lokutya komntwana wakho ukunceda ukulawula uxinzelelo.