Ukuqonda ukukhula koBantwana

Umxholo

• Kukuthini ukukhula kokukhula komntwana?
• Zenzeka nini?
• Zeziphi iimpawu zokukhula ngokukhawuleza?
• Ungenzani?
• Yise kude

Kunyaka wokuqala nosana, kuninzi okumangazayo-kwiminwe yabo kunye neenzwane zabo ezithandekayo, amehlo abo amahle, indlela emangalisayo abanokuthi ngayo bavelise ukuqhushumba ilweyile elinxiba i-intshi nganye yengubo kunye nesihlalo semoto, kwaye kangakanani zikhula kanye phambi kwamehlo akho. Ezinye zezi ngokucacileyo ziyonwabisa ngakumbi kunabanye.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukufika kwakho okutsha kuyakubuphinda kabini ubunzima babo bokuzalwa ngeenyanga ezi-5 kwaye ukubuphindaphinda kathathu ekupheleni konyaka wokuqala. Ukukhula okuninzi ukukwenza kunyaka nje omnye!

Ngapha koko, ngezinye iintsuku kunokuziva ngathi awungekhe ugqibezele ukuhlamba ngokukhawuleza ngaphambi kokuba baphume iimpahla zabo. Ayisiyongcinga yakho ukuba bakhula ngokukhawuleza - mhlawumbi kukukhula nje.

Kukuthini ukukhula kokukhula komntwana?

Ixesha lokukhula lixesha apho umntwana wakho enexesha elinzima ngakumbi lokukhula. Ngeli xesha, banokufuna ukuncanca rhoqo, batshintshe iindlela zabo zokulala, kwaye ngokubanzi babe fussier.

Ngelixa ezinye zezi mpawu zokukhula zinokubonakala ngathi zihlala ixesha elide ngelixa ujongene nazo, ukukhula okukhulayo kuhlala kuphela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ukuya evekini.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukukhula kunyaka wokuqala akukhona nje malunga nobungakanani, kodwa kukwayiwo ukukhula. Ngexesha lamaxesha xa abantwana besebenza ekufundeni izakhono ezintsha unokubona ezinye zezi zikhombisi ezifanayo.

Zenzeka nini?

Ngelixa lonke usana lukhethekile, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube namava okukhula okumbalwa kunyaka wokuqala. Apha kulapho unokubona ukukhula kokukhula kosana lwakho:

• Iiveki ezi-1 ukuya kwezi-3 ubudala
• Iiveki ezi-6
• Iinyanga ezi-3
• Iinyanga ezi-6
• Iinyanga ezili-9

Ewe kunjalo, kukho uluhlu, kwaye ezinye iintsana zinokuba nokuqaqamba okungathethekiyo okanye okubonakalayo. Ngethuba nje umntwana wakho esitya rhoqo ngokwaneleyo, evelisa ii-diapers ezimanzi nezimdaka, kwaye ngokulandela ijika labo kwitshathi yokukhula unokuqiniseka ukuba bakhula kakuhle.

Zeziphi iimpawu zokukhula ngokukhawuleza?

Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuyakubakho utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha olucebisa ukuba umntwana wakho ubeka umsebenzi owongezelelweyo ekukhuleni. Ukubona le miqondiso ilandelayo kunokuthetha ukuba ukuqhuma kokukhula okanye ukukhula kuyasebenza.

• Ukongezwa kokondla. Ukuba umntwana wakho unomdla ngequbuliso ekondlaneni ngeqela okanye akabonakali anelisekile emva kokugqiba ibhotile yakhe yobisi lwebele okanye ifomula banokuba nomnqweno owandayo wokudibana neemfuno zomzimba wabo okhulayo.
• Tshintsha ukulala. Oku kunokuhamba kunye nokondla okongeziweyo (ngubani ongathandi i-snack yasezinzulwini zobusuku?). Olu tshintsho lunokuthetha ukuvuka kwangethuba ukusuka ekuphumleni, phakathi phakathi kokuvuka ebusuku, okanye (ukuba ungomnye wabanethamsanqa!) Ixesha elide okanye elininzi rhoqo. Ngapha koko, ndicebisile ukuba ukwanda kwexesha lokulala bekungumbono wokonyuka kobude kwiiyure ezingama-48.
• Ubungqongqo. Nditsho nabona bantwana bonwabileyo banokufumana into encinci ngexesha lokukhula. Ukwanda kwendlala, ukuphazamiseka kwiindlela zokulala, kunye neentlungu ezikhulayo zisenokuba ngunobangela.

Ungenzani?

• Bondle xa belambile. Ukuba umntwana wakho omncancisayo uhlala onwabile ukuhamba iiyure ezintathu phakathi kokondla kodwa ngequbuliso kubonakala ngathi ulambile emva kweeyure ezi-2 (okanye ngaphantsi), qhubeka ukondle ngemfuno. Oku kuya kuhlala kuphela iintsuku ezimbalwa kwaye ukondla okongeziweyo kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba ukubonelelwa kwakho kuyahlangabezana neemfuno zabo. Ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci usebenzisa ubisi olungumgubo okanye ubisi olunempompo unokufuna ukunikezela ngeyunithi eyongezelelweyo ngexesha lokutya kwasemini okanye phakathi kokutya ukuba basabonakala ngathi balambile.
• Bancede balale. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukulandela ukhokelo lwabo ukuba bafuna ukuphumla okongeziweyo. Ukuba awukwazi ukubenza balale, fowunela umonde wakho nokuba izinto zinzima ngakumbi ngexesha lokulala okanye ngokuvuka ebusuku. Kubalulekile ukugcina indlela yesiqhelo yokulala kunye neshedyuli xa kunokwenzeka ngolu phazamiso lufutshane. Iya kwenza ukuba ubuyele kumkhondo ngokulula xa sele ukhule ngokukhula.
• Yiba nomonde nothando. Nika ii-cuddles ezongezelelweyo kunye nexesha lokuphumla kunye. Xa benomdla ungazama ulusu ulusu, ukuhlamba, ukufunda, ukucula, ukugungqa, ukuhamba ngaphandle, okanye nantoni na umntwana wakho ayithandayo.
• Zinyamekele kakuhle. Ayisiyomntana wakho nje ohamba ngolu tshintsho. Banokuba nzima kuwe, nabo. Nika ingqalelo kwiimfuno zakho zokutya kunye nokuphumla. Vumela abanye abathanda umntwana wakho ukuba bakuncede ngononophelo ukuze ufumane ikhefu.
• Nika ingqalelo impilo yonke yomntwana. Kuba iintsana azinako ukusixelela ukuba baziva njani kunyaka wokuqala kunokuba nzima ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo xa izinto zingalunganga. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlangabezana nezinye iimpawu ngaphaya kwale ichazwe apha ngasentla jonga ukuba ingaba yenye into ngaphandle kokukhula kokukhula. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa iimpawu zokugula njengomkhuhlane, ukukhawuleza, ukungabikho kwamanzi (amancinci amancinci okanye amdaka), okanye ezinye izinto qiniseka ukuba uthetha nodokotela wezilwanyana.

Yise kude

Ngaphambi kokuba uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci osandul 'ukuzalwa uya kuba (ungoyiki?) Banokukhula okuninzi ekufuneka bekwenzile ukuze bafike apho, kwaye akusayi kuhlala kulula. Ngethamsanqa banakho ukubagcina ubondla, ubathande kwimiceli mngeni, kwaye ubhiyozele ukukhula kwabo okumangalisayo.