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Umxholo

• 1. Ukuphila kakuhle
• 2. Uxinzelelo
• 3. Ubudlelwane
• 4. Impilo

Uphando lubonisa ukuba iikati zinokwenza ubomi bethu bonwabe kwaye busempilweni.

Nge-8 ka-Agasti yayiliSuku lweKati yeHlabathi. UCora mhlawumbi waqala kusasa njengokuba esenza nayiphi na enye into: ngokukhwela esifubeni sam kunye nokupeyinta egxalabeni lakhe, efuna ingqalelo. Inokuba ndilele ndimphakamisile umthuthuzeli kwaye wazimela phantsi kwayo, ethe tye ecaleni kwam. Kwi-Cora-kwaye ke kum-yonke imihla lusuku lweKati yeHlabathi.

Amakati angasivusa ngentsimbi yesine ekuseni. kunye ne-barf kwisantya esothusayo, ukanti naphi na phakathi kwe-10 ukuya kwi-30 yepesenti kuthi sizibiza "ngabantu bekati" - hayi abantu bezinja, nokuba ngamathuba alinganayo bathanda ikati kunye nabathandi bezinja. Ke kutheni sikhetha ukuzisa ezi fluffball emakhayeni ethu- kwaye sichithe ngaphezulu kwe- $ 1,000 ngonyaka kumntu ongazaliswanga ngokwemfuzo kuthi kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubonakala ngathi akanambulelo ixesha elininzi?

Impendulo icacile kum-kwaye mhlawumbi kubo bonke abathandi bekati phaya, abangadingi phando lwenzululwazi ukuthethelela uthando lwabo olunobukrakra. Kodwa izazinzulu ziyifundile kunjalo kwaye zafumanisa ukuba, ngelixa abahlobo bethu abangathandekiyo bengenakulunga kwifenitshala yethu, banokuba negalelo kwimpilo yethu yasemzimbeni nasengqondweni.

1. Ukuphila kakuhle

Ngokutsho kolunye uphando lwase-Australia, abanikazi bekati banempilo engcono yengqondo kunabantu abangenazo izilwanyana. Kwiphepha lemibuzo, bathi baziva bonwabile, bezithembile, kwaye bengoyiki kangako, kwaye balale, bagxile, kwaye bajongane neengxaki ebomini babo ngcono.

Ukwamkela ikati kunokuba kuhle kubantwana bakho, naku: kuvavanyo lwabantu abangaphezulu kwama-2 200 abancinci baseScots abaneminyaka eli-11 ukuya kweli-15, abantwana ababenolwalamano olomeleleyo neekati zabo babenobomi obuphezulu. Okukhona bebencamathele ngakumbi, kokukhona beziva belungile, benamandla, kwaye bethathela ingqalelo kwaye bengonwabanga kwaye benesithukuthezi; kwaye ngakumbi babelonwabela ixesha labo bodwa, ekuphumleni, nasesikolweni.

Ngobunzima babo bokuchasa amandla kunye neyoga-njengokulala, iikati zisenokusikhupha kwiimvakalelo zethu ezimbi. Kwisifundo esinye, abantu abaneekati baxele ukuba baneemvakalelo ezimbi kunye neemvakalelo zokuzimela kunabantu abangenazo iikati. Ngapha koko, ii-singles kunye neekati zazineemeko ezingalunganga rhoqo kunabantu abanekati kwaye iqabane. (Ikati yakho ayikaze ifike emva kwexesha kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.)

Nokuba iikati ze-Intanethi zinokusenza sincume. Abantu ababukela iividiyo zekati kwi-Intanethi bathi baziva bengonwabanga emva koko (uxinzelelo oluncinci, ukukhathazeka, nosizi) kunye neemvakalelo ezintle (ithemba elingakumbi, ulonwabo kunye nolwaneliseko). Kuyavunywa, njengoko abaphandi bafumanisileyo, olu lonwabo luba netyala ukuba siyenza ngenjongo yokuhlehlisa. Kodwa ukubukela iikati kuyabacaphukisa abantu babo okanye kusongelwe isipho ngeKrisimesi kubonakala ngathi kuyasinceda ukuba siziva siphelelwe ngamandla kwaye siphinde sifumane amandla kusuku olulandelayo.

2. Uxinzelelo

Ndiyakwazi ukungqina ukuba ikati efudumeleyo ethangeni lakho, ngokunika amathanga akho intlama elungileyo, yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphelisa uxinzelelo. Ngenye imva kwemini, ndiziva ndonganyelwe, ndakhwaza, "Ndinqwenela ukuba uCora angahlala ethangeni lam." Yabona, yabona, yandinyathela kwaye yehla kum imizuzwana kamva (nangona iinzame zokuphinda le nto ingaphumelelanga).

Kwisifundo esinye, abaphandi batyelele abantu abatshatileyo abali-120 emakhayeni abo ukujonga ukuba bazokuphendula njani kuxinzelelo-nokuba ngaba iikati ziluncedo na. Baxhonywe kwinqanaba lokubetha kwentliziyo kunye novavanyo lwegazi, abantu babekwa kwimisebenzi enzima: ukukhupha kathathu ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwinani elinamanani amane, emva koko babambe isandla sabo kumanzi e-ice (ngaphantsi kwe-40 degrees Fahrenheit) imizuzu emibini. Abantu bebehleli egumbini bodwa, isilwanyana sabo sizula zula-zula, kunye namaqabane abo (abanokubonelela ngenkxaso yokuziphatha), okanye bobabini.

Ngaphambi kokuba kuqale imisebenzi yoxinzelelo, abanini bekati babenendawo yokuphumla esezantsi yokubetha kwentliziyo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi kunabantu abangenazo izilwanyana zasekhaya. Kwaye ngexesha lemisebenzi, abanini bekati baphinde baphumelela ngcono: Babeziva ngathi banocelomngeni kunokuba besoyikiswa, ukubetha kwentliziyo yabo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi lwalusezantsi, kwaye bade benza iimpazamo ezimbalwa zezibalo. Kuzo zonke iimeko ezahlukeneyo, abanini bekati bajongeka bezolile kwaye benza ezona mpazamo zimbalwa xa ikati yabo ibikhona. Ngokubanzi, abanini bekati baphinde bachacha ngokukhawuleza emzimbeni.

Kutheni iikati zipholisa kangaka? Amakati akasayi kusigweba ngenxa yezakhono zethu ezibi zokubala izibalo, okanye sikhathazeke kakhulu xa sikhathazekile-okuchaza ukuba kutheni iikati zazinempembelelo yokuzola kunabanye ababalulekileyo kwezinye iimeko.

Njengoko uKarin Stammbach noDennis Turner beDyunivesithi yaseZurich bechaza, iikati azizizo nje izidalwa ezincinci ezixhomekeke kuthi. Sikwafumana intuthuzelo kubo-kukho isikali esipheleleyo senzululwazi esilinganisa ukuba ufumana inkxaso engakanani yeemvakalelo kwikati yakho, ngokusekwe ekubeni kunokwenzeka kangakanani na ukuba ufune kubo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zoxinzelelo.

Amakati ahlala ekho rhoqo, engaxinwanga ziinkathazo zehlabathi, anokwenza ukuba zonke iingxaki zethu ezincinci kunye namaxhala abonakale engaphezulu. Njengoko intatheli uJane Pauley isitsho, "ngekhe ujonge ikati eleleyo kwaye uzive uxhalabile."

3. Ubudlelwane

Iikati zizinto esizikhathaleleyo kwaye zisikhathaleleyo (okanye ubuncinci siyakholelwa ukuba ziyakwenza oko). Kwaye abantu abatyala imali kolu hlaselo lweentlobo ezahlukeneyo banokubona izibonelelo kubudlelwane babo nabantu, ngokunjalo.

Umzekelo, uphando lufumanise ukuba abanini bekati banolwazelelelo ngokwasentlalweni, bathembe abanye abantu ngakumbi, kwaye bathande abanye abantu kunabantu abangenazo izilwanyana zasekhaya. Ukuba uzibiza ngokuba ungumntu wekati, uya kucinga ukuba abanye abantu bathanda wena xa kuthelekiswa nomntu ongeyikati okanye inja. Okwangoku, nabantu ababukela iividiyo zekati baziva bexhaswa ngakumbi ngabantu kunabantu abangengabo abalandeli abakhulu be-feline media media.

Ngelixa olu nxibelelaniso lunokubonakala ngathi luyingxaki, iyavakala into yokuba ucinga iikati enye nje yenethiwekhi.

URose Perrine kunye noHannah Osbourne weYunivesithi yaseMpuma Kentucky babhala bathi: “Ukuziva ulungile ezinjeni / iikati kusenokubangela ukuba uvakale ngabantu.

Xa umntu-umntu okanye isilwanyana-esenza ukuba sizive silungile kwaye sinxibelelana, sakha amandla ethu obubele kunye nesisa kwabanye. Njengokuba olo phononongo lolutsha lwaseScotland lufumene, abantwana abanxibelelana kakuhle nomhlobo osenyongweni banamathele kwiikati zabo, mhlawumbi kuba bechitha ixesha bedlala njenge-trio.

UFerran Marsa-Sambola kunye noogxa bakhe babhala bathi: "Izilwanyana zasekhaya zibonakala ngathi 'zinceda ekuhlaleni,' zibangela unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu. "Isilo-qabane singazamkela, sithandane ngokuphandle, singaguquguquki, sinyaniseke, kwaye sinyaniseke, iimpawu ezinokwanelisa isidingo esisiseko somntu sokuziva ezixabisa kwaye ethandwa."

4. Impilo

Okokugqibela, ngaphandle kwento onokuba uyivile malunga neekati-to-human brain parasites, kukho ukutshitshiswa kobungqina bokuba iikati zingayilungela impilo yethu.

Kwisifundo esinye, abaphandi balandela abantu abangama-4,435 iminyaka eli-13. Abantu ababeneekati kwixa elidlulileyo babengenakufane bafe ngenxa yokuhlaselwa sisifo sentliziyo ngelo xesha kunabantu abangazange babenazo iikati-nokuba babebala ezinye izinto ezinobungozi njengoxinzelelo lwegazi, icholesterol, ukutshaya, kunye nesalathiso sobunzima bomzimba.

Oku kwakuyinyani ngabantu nokuba babengenazo iikati ngoku, abaphandi bacacisa, nto leyo ebonisa ukuba iikati zifana namayeza othintelo kunonyango lwesifo esiqhubekayo.

Kwesinye isifundo, uJames Serpell weYunivesithi yasePennsylvania walandela abantu abalishumi elinambini ababesandula ukufumana ikati. Baye bagqiba uphando ngaphakathi kosuku okanye ezimbini zokuzisa ikati yabo ekhaya kwaye emva kwexesha elininzi kwinyanga ezili-10 ezizayo. Kwinyanga enye ephawuliweyo, abantu banciphisile izikhalazo zempilo ezinjengeentloko, iintlungu zomqolo, kunye nokubanda- nangona (ngokomndilili) ezo zibonelelo zibonakala ngathi ziyaphela njengoko ixesha lihamba. Njengoko uSerpell ecamngca, kunokwenzeka ukuba abantu abakha ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nekati yabo bayaqhubeka nokubona izibonelelo, kwaye nabantu abangahambi kakuhle, abenzi njalo.

Uninzi lolu phando lweekati luyangqinelana, oko kuthetha ukuba asazi ukuba iikati ziluncedo nyani na okanye ukuba abantu bekati sele belonwabile kwaye balungelelaniswe kakuhle. Kodwa ngelishwa kuthi bathandi bekati, le yokugqibela ayibonakali injalo. Xa kuthelekiswa nabathandi bezinja, ubuncinci, sihlala sivulekele ngakumbi kumava amatsha (nokuba iikati zethu ezinweleyo azikho). Kodwa asinakuchukunyiswa, asifudumali kwaye sinobuhlobo, kwaye sine-neurotic. Sifumana iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ngakumbi kwaye sizicinezela ngakumbi, ubuchule obusenza singonwabi kwaye singoneliseki kangako ngobomi bethu.

Kwicala eliqaqambileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba iikati zisizisela uvuyo kunye novuyo njengoko sisithi benjenjalo, nangona uphando lungekude nokugqitywa. Ngapha koko, uninzi lophando lwezilwanyana lujolise ezinjeni, ngokuyinxenye kuba kulula ukuziqeqesha njengabancedisi bonyango. "Iikati zishiywe ngasemva ngophando," utshilo uSerpell. Kanti elinye ithambo lokukhetha kunye noogxa bethu be-canine.

Ngelixa silinde idatha ethe kratya, ndiza kuqhubeka ndityhutyha wonke umntu endidibana naye malunga nendlela endonwabe ngayo ukuba nekati ebomini bam-nasebhedini yam, etafileni yam yokutyela, kwaye undibukele ndisiya kwindlu yangasese. Into endilahlekelwa bubuthongo ndiyenzela uthando oluthambileyo, olunoboya.

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