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• Phula Imaphambili Kunye Neqabane Lakho
• Zibandakanye kukhathalelo lwasemva kwexesha
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Yiwa phantsi komngxuma womvundla weReddit kwaye ucofa kude kuyo yonke into onokufuna ukuyazi malunga nokhathalelo lwesikhumba, ukulala, ukukhulelwa, kwaye (ungamangaliswa kukufunda) ngesondo!

Ewe, awungekhe ukholelwe yonke into oyifundayo kwi-Intanethi kunye nemisonto yeReddit yesini ayiqwalaselwanga ngokuchaneka- "Akukho lityala kuReddit, ndiyayithanda indawo, kodwa inokuba yindawo yokuzalisa abantu abacinga ukuba bazi yonke into, "utsho uLisa Finn, utitshala wezesondo kwindawo yokudlala ngesondo eBabeland-kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba le ndawo ithandwayo ayinamagugu athile.

Ke ndiye ndabaleka iingcebiso ezimbalwa zezesondo nguFinn kunye noLateef Taylor, umfundisi wezesondo kunye nommeli wezokwabelana ngesondo, kwaye ngokuvuma kwabo, ndazama bona ngokwam.

Skrolela ezantsi ukuze ufunde malunga neengcebiso ezine zesondo ezilungileyo endizifumene kwiReddit- kwaye kwenzeka ntoni xa (iqabane lam kunye nam) ndizamile.

Phula Imaphambili Kunye Neqabane Lakho

Omnye umsebenzisi weReddit uthathe ihabhu ekwi-Intanethi ukufumanisa ukuba abanye abantu (ngaphandle kwakhe kunye nenkosikazi yakhe) bayafumana ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokufanayo. Kwiintsuku nje ezintlanu, ngaphezulu kwama-2,500 abantu bathathe iposti ukumvumela ukuba bayithande, nabo.

“Ndifumanisa ukuba ukwabelana ngokusondeleyo kwento yobuqu njengolonwabo iyinto engakholelekiyo,” ibhala iphowusta yokuqala (OP). "Kuhle kakhulu kwaye ndiyifumana isondele kakhulu!" utsho omnye umsebenzisi. Omnye ophawulayo onamanqaku angapheliyo eentlungu zokuphulula amalungu esini yi "godsend" xa besenzakala: "Ndiyakwazi ukuhlala ndikhululekile phantsi kwephedi yam yokufudumeza kwaye ndiphumle kwi-nook yengalo yomyeni wam kwaye ndiziva ndisondele kakhulu."

Iyintoni malunga nokuphulula amalungu esini esenza ukuba isondelelene nanjengoko aba Redditters besithi kunjalo? "Njengoluntu, ukuphulula amaphambili kuseyinto entle. Yinto ekucingelwa ukuba yenziwe ngasese okanye akunjalo," ucacisa uFinn. Ukwabelana oko neqabane kunokuba sesichengeni ngokwenene kwabanye, "kwaye ukuba sesichengeni ekwabelwana ngaso kungakhokelela kulwalamano olusenyongweni," utshilo.

"Ngamava amakhulu okufunda," wongeza uTaylor. "Uya kubukela kwaye ufunde ukuba iqabane lakho lithanda ukuchukunyiswa njani." Mhlawumbi uhlala ushukumisa iminwe yakho icala ngecala ngelixa bezichukumisa besebenzisa izangqa, okanye mhlawumbi ubambe isidlidlizi kanye kwi-hotspot yabo, ngelixa befuna ukuyibamba ecaleni, utshilo uTaylor. Ungalusebenzisa lonke olu lwazi ukonwaba ngcono kwiqabane lakho phantsi komgca. (Idibeneyo: 13 Iingcebiso zokuBetha ngokuPhulula amalungu esini)

NGOKUQINISEKILE ukunika eli cebiso ukuzama, ndakhupha enye yeentshukumo zam endizithandayo, kwaye iqabane lam lakhupha i-lube. Emva koko, saqokelela uBryson Tiller kwaye saqhubeka sizichukumisa, kunye. Kunye nefam, mandikuxelele: Isondele kunye ne-HOT njengoko abasebenzisi beReddit beninokukholelwa. Ingakumbi xa kukho ukudibana kwamehlo...

Zibandakanye kukhathalelo lwasemva kwexesha

Ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwakho kwi-BDSM kukhawulelweAmathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi, unokucinga ukuba umdlalo wamandla ubandakanya kuphela intlungu, izabhokhwe, iiflogger, okanye i-handcuffs. Kodwa kukho enye into ongayiboniyo; "ukunakekelwa emva" yinto (enoxanduva) iingcali ze-BDSM ziyenza emva kwesondo okanye indawo kwaye, ngokutsho kwabanye abasebenzisi beReddit, yinto ekufuneka yenziwe ngumntu wonke (kinky okanye hayi). (Idibeneyo: Isikhokelo sabaqalayo kwi-BDSM).

Yintoni ukhathalelo lwamva, kanye? Omnye umsebenzisi weReddit uchaza ukhathalelo lwasemva kwexesha njengokuthi, "ukuba mnandi kwaye uthambile kwaye sibonisana kunye emva kokwabelana ngesondo. ngamanye izandla okanye bambana ngezandla. Ngamanye amaxesha, songelani ngeengubo okanye nikhukulisane xa nithetha. "

UFinn uthi loo nto ichaneke ngakumbi okanye ingaphantsi, kwaye wongeza ukuba emva kwenkathalo imalunga nokuqinisekisa ukuba wena kunye nesithandwa sakho niziva nikhuselekile, nihlonitshwa, nikhathalelwe kwaye nikhululekile. "Nangona ibalulekile kwimifanekiso enzima okanye eqatha ye-BDSM, inokuphinda isetyenziswe emva kokwabelana ngesondo kwe-vanilla (nangona uyayichaza loo nto)," utshilo, evuma ukuba ukhathalelo lwasemva kolwabo bonke.

Ngokwenyani, ukuchitha ixesha kunye kunye emva kokwabelana ngesondo, ukuchukumisa omnye komnye ngothando, kunye nokubandakanyeka kuhlalutyo oluthile lwasemva kwesondo. UFinn uthi: “Lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha ngento oyithandileyo, ongayithandanga, into ofuna ukuyizama kwakhona, into oye waziva umnandi ngayo, okanye indlela ekubangele waziva ngayo.

Njengomntu ozivumelayo ukuba ngumsebenzi, kunokuba nzima kum ukuba ndenze ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kungasathethwa ke emva kokulalana ngesondo. Ndiyakwazi ukuma ukubandakanya i-aftercare kancinane kwi-sexytime routine yam-ingakumbi xa ndiqwalasela ulwimi lwam lothando lwe-boo ngamazwi okuqinisekisa kunye nokuchukumisa umzimba. (Awuqinisekanga ngolwimi lothando lweqabane lakho? Nantsi indlela yokuthetha ngayo-kunye nezinye iingxoxo zobomi bokwabelana ngesondo obunempilo.)

Ngenye iCawa emva kokudlala kunye nolunye ulonwabo, mna neqabane lam ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndizame. Sichithe iiyure sixabana, sicofa amacwecwe, kwaye sithandana. Njengoko unokuthekelela, yayiyothando njengekaka kwaye yasivulela ucango lokuba sithethe malunga ~eemvakalelo zethu ~. Kwakhona ndafumana i-massage, eyayiklatshi.

Phinda uchaze ukuhlamba ngesondo

Imvumelwano phakathi kwabaHlaziyi kukuba isondo leshawa, lilungile, liyoyikeka, kwaye yeyona nto ifanelekileyo ishiye imovie. "Ngu-0/10 ondicebisa, ndihlala kwimoto eqhelekileyo okanye encinci yesondo," kubhala enye iReddit. Ndiyaboyikisela ubomi bam xa [ndisabelana ngesondo] eshaweni, ubhala omnye.

Ngaphandle kwesi simo esibonakala sikwindawo yonke ngokuchasene nokwabelana ngesondo kwishawa, kukho intambo epheleleyo yeengcebiso malunga nokwenza ngcono. (Idibeneyo: Iingcebiso eziPhambili zeSondo ngoSondo malunga nokwenza isini esimangalisayo)

Ukujonga iqabane lam kwaye sihlala sihlamba kunye kodwa kunqabile ukuba sizibandakanye ne-hanky-panky ngelixa silapho, sagqiba kwelokuba sizame elinye lamacebo: Faka endaweni yokudlala kwishawari yokungena kunye ne-foreplay.

Ukwabelana ngesondo, nangona kushushu njengokuvakala, kunokuba yirhafu emzimbeni kwaye kuyingozi, ngakumbi xa kukho ukubandakanyeka, "utshilo uFinn. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba amanzi ehlamba isithambisi sendalo somzimba, ukungena kusenokungakhululeki, utshilo.

Kodwa "ukuthatha iintlobano zesini lobufazi nokungena ezimpundu etafileni ayisiyonto nje ekhuselekileyo," utshilo uTaylor. "Ikwakuvumela ukuba uphonononge isondo somlomo, i-vibrator play, i-massage, isondo esingangenisi ngesandla, i-massage, kunye nezinye izenzo zesondo onokuthi uzihoye." (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: Ezona zithuba ziPhakamileyo neziKhuselekileyo kwishawari ngokwesondo).

Ngethuba lokuqala sazama ishawa "isondo," sazisa i-pinwheel yaseWartenberg (ICYDK, yinto yokudlala yomsindo). Kwakumnandi kakhulu, saphinda sayizama loo nto kwangolo suku, kodwa kwakhona iziswe ivibrator engangeni manzi. Isigqibo sokugqibela? Ukwabelana ngesondo kweshawari engangenisi yindlela eqhumayo kunesondo leshawa eqhelekileyo.

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Ngaba ukhe ukhathazeke ngokubuza ukungahambi kakuhle kwangaphambili ukuba uza kuchitha ubusuku? Abasebenzisi beReddit banesisombululo: Yenza ibhegi encinci yococeko kunye neemveliso zesondo onokuzifuna ubusuku okanye ukrobe kude nekhaya. (Izinto ezihambelanayo: Imibuzo yokubuza umntu ngaphambi kokuba ulale naye).

Kumsonto wentsholongwane, ngaphezulu kwe-2,300 abasebenzisi beReddit baye bathatha izimvo ukuze babelane ngezinto ezifihliweyo kwiingxowa zabo zesini. Ngelixa abanye begcina nje izinto ezicocekileyo ezifana nokuhlamba ubuso, iziqholo zokuthambisa, kunye nebrashi yamazinyo, ezinye zibandakanya iipanty, i-lube, kunye nezinto zokudlala zesini-eyathi kamva uFinn noTaylor bacinga ukuba yeyona ilungileyo.

"Nanini na xa uzolala nomntu, ufuna ukuba neemveliso zesondo ezikhuselekileyo, izinto zokudlala ngokwesondo, kunye nezinto zokuthambisa eziza kukwenza uzive ukhululeke kwaye uzonwabise," utshilo uTaylor, esithi oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba unayo nakuphi na ukungezwani komzimba nezithako ezifumaneka kwiithambiso okanye kwiikhondom. “Ukulungiswa ngolu hlobo kuya kuthatha imibuzo emininzi kunye nokungaqiniseki, okunokukunceda uphumle kwaye wonwabele amava ngakumbi,” utshilo uTaylor.

Ngelixa uninzi lwabasebenzisi beReddit begcina iisaka zabo zesini kwiimoto zabo, uFinn uqaphele ukuba iikhondom kunye ne-lubes zinokonakaliswa bubushushu obugqithisileyo. "Iibhotile zeplastikhi uninzi lwezinto zokuthambisa zigcinwe kuzo ziqala ukonakala ebushushwini, kwaye nelatex inakho neekhondom," utshilo. Ngoko ke ukuba uhlala kwindawo efudumeleyo, qiniseka ukuba utshintsha ikhondom uye kwentsha emva kobushushu obushushu. (Idibeneyo: 8 Iimpazamo zeekhondom ezothusayo onokuthi uzenze)

Nangona iqabane lam kwaye sizimisele ngokwaneleyo ukuba andikhathazeki ngokubuza nayiphi na i-q kwangaphambili, ndiyayithanda umbono wokuba nemveliso yam yolonwabo kunye nam-kwaye emva kobusuku bokugqibela, masithi ndiyavuya ukuba ndenzile.

Ngaba ufuna ezinye iingcebiso zesondo?

Ukuba unomdla wokuba zeziphi ezinye iingcebiso zesini ezijikeleze iReddit, ndincoma ukuskrolela kulo msonto, ogcina kufutshane neengcebiso ezingama-2 000 malunga nokonwabisa iqabane lakho. Gcina nje engqondweni, "into esebenzela umntu omnye ayinakusebenza kuwe (kunye neqabane lakho)," kusho uFinn. "Kwaye ukuba ayenzi njalo, oko akuthethi ukuba umzimba wakho wophukile!"

Kwaye kumlambo oqhubekayo (ingcali-i-vetted!) Iingcebiso zesondo, unokuhlala ubhaliselaUbumeIncwadana yesini kunye nobudlelwane, NSFW.

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