Ukwahlukana Okwaguqula Ubomi Bam

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Ngeendlela ezininzi, ukuphela kuka-2006 lelinye lawona maxesha amnyama ebomini bam. Ndandihlala nabantu endandingabaziyo eNew York City, kude nekholeji ukuqala kwam ukuqeqeshwa, xa umfana wam oneminyaka emine ubudala - lowo ndadibana naye kwiqela lecawa, endandithandana naye ukusukela ndandineminyaka eli-16 ubudala. - wabizwa ukuba andixelele, ngokukhawuleza kunye nethoni yenyani, ukuba yena nentombazana awayedibene nayo kwindawo yokubuyela yamaKatolika "baphelile" kwaye wayecinga ukuba kufuneka "sibone abanye abantu. " Ndisayikhumbula indlela endisabela ngayo kula mazwi, njengoko ndandihleli isitokhwe-sesegumbini lam lokulala elikwi-Upper East Side: isicaphucaphu sigcwalisa umzimba wam ukusuka ezantsi ukuya phezulu. Iibrashi zomkhenkce empumlweni, ezidleleni, esilevini. Ukuqiniseka ngesiquphe ukuba izinto zahlukile, kwaye zambi, ngonaphakade.

Kwaye iintlungu zimane zisiza, kwiinyanga emva koko: bendiya kulunga, ndixakeke yimagazini yam yoqeqesho, emva koko ndicinge ngaye - hayi, ngayo: ukungcatshwa, inqindi elinzima ukuya emathunjini. Andikholwa ukuba umntu ebendithembele kuye ngokupheleleyo angandonzakalisa kakhulu. Kuyavakala ukuba yinto eyimbali ngoku, kodwa ndaziva ndililolo, kude nabahlobo bam abasenyongweni, ndidiniwe kukuziphatha ngendlela eqhelekileyo, kwaye, njengelungelo, ekhuselekileyo eneminyaka engama-20 ubudala, ndingakulungelanga ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kwisicwangciso sobomi bam.

Kuba sasizotshata. Sifumene konke ukuba: Uya kwisikolo semed, emva kokubamba i-MCAT endichithe iiyure ndimnceda ukuba ayifundele. Uya kungena kwiinkqubo zakhe zamaphupha, enkosi kulo lonke uncedo lwam lokuhlela ezo zincoko zesicelo. Sasihamba siye eChicago, isixeko esikhulu esikumgama nje omalunga nemizuzu engama-90 ukusuka kubazali bethu- emva kweeyure ezingenakubalwa kunye nokuhlwa kunye nohambo oluchithwe kunye, usapho lwakhe, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ndaziva ngathi lusapho lwam. Ndingafumana umsebenzi kwimpapasho yasekuhlaleni. Sakuba nomtshato omkhulu wamaKhatholika (NdandingumLuthere, kodwa ndikulungele ngokupheleleyo ukuguquka) kunye nenani elincinci, elilawulekayo labantwana. Besihleli sithetha ngayo oko sathandana kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Sihleliwe.

Kwaye lonke ikamva laqhekeka laza lawa. Uyifumene le nto ayifunayo, ngokwazi kwam: Amaxesha athile kuGoogle-ukutyhilwa kutyhila ukuba ungugqirha eMidwest, utshate nentombazana elungileyo yamaKatolika awandixelela yona ngobo busuku. Andizazi ngokwam, kuba khange sithethe kwiminyaka eli-10. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba ndonwabile ngekamva lakhe, engaphazanyiswa.

Ndikhumbula obunye ubusuku ngasekupheleni kuka-2006, ndingajongwa njengokuma kodwa yonke into ibalulekile kum. Kwakunobusuku obufudumele ngokungaqhelekanga ngoNovemba, kwaye emva kokugqiba usuku lokungena kwi-Times Square, ndahamba ndaya eBryant Park. Ndihleli kwitafile encinci eluhlaza kwaye ndibukele umhlaba usihla ngokuqhekeka kwemithi ejijekileyo, njengezakhiwo ezijika igolide ekukhanyeni kwelanga kunye neNew Yorkers ezihamba, zizele bubuchule kunye nenjongo. Kwaye ke ndayiva, ngokucacileyo ngokungathi umntu wayihlebeza endlebeni yam: "Ngoku unokwenza nantoni na oyifunayo."

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