Kutheni ndithathela ingqalelo ukongezwa kwebele Emva kokuncancisa abantwana aba-4
Umxholo
Zininzi izinto, akukho mntu uzihluphayo ukukuxelela malunga nokukhulelwa, ukuba ngumama, kunye nokuncancisa. Yeyiphi eyona inkulu? I-wringer iibhobhs zakho ezihluphekileyo zihamba.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho intetho yokuba "umzimba wakho awusoze ufane," kodwa oko kuhlala kubhekiswa ekunwebeni amanqaku, okanye isisu esithambileyo, okanye into yokuba usemngciphekweni wokuchama ngempazamo ibhlukhwe yakho ukuba uhleka ngequbuliso . Kum, ukothuka okwenyani- ngalo lonke ixesha! - ndandilumle usana ngalunye lweentsana zam ezine kwaye ndiphume ekuthobekeni ngokulingeneyo ukuzala ngaphambi kwexesha leentsuku ezimbalwa.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ndicinga ngokwandiswa kwebele.
Ikomityi igcwele
Andizange ndibenencanca enkulu kakhulu, kwaye ayizange ibaluleke kakhulu kum. Malunga neminyaka eli-12, ndikhumbula ndijonga isifuba sikamama, endathi kamva ndafumanisa ukuba sasinotyando, kwaye ndiziva ndisoyika. Ndiyathetha, kufuneka ubaleke njani nezi zinto?
Ukukhawuleza phambili kwiminyaka embalwa, kwaye bendinezibini ezincinci zam ebezilungile. Abakhange bangene endleleni, zange bandifumane ingqwalaselo engafunekiyo, kwaye kwakwanele apho ukuba andiyiyo ipanekuku eflethi. Ndandinelisekile yile meko iminyaka, kwaye umfana endithandana naye-wajika-umyeni-wajika-umyeni akazange andenze ndizive ndingenanto ngaphandle kokuhle.
Kodwa ke, nge-28, ndakhulelwa umntwana wethu wokuqala. Olunye lotshintsho lokuqala endaluphawulayo, kunye nesicaphucaphu ngokubanzi, yayisisifuba sam esidumbayo. Njengexesha lokuqala, isisu sam sathatha ixesha ukupapa, nto leyo eyenze ukuba ikomityi yam entsha ibonakale ngakumbi. Ndiqale kancinci, kwaye utshintsho lwalungekho lukhulu, kodwa kwavakala ngathi umehluko omkhulu kum.
Ngokukhawuleza, ndandizalisa ngokufanelekileyo ibra. Ndaziva ndingumfazi kwaye ndiyithanda kakhulu ibhalansi enikezwe sisifuba esikhulu. Yonke le nto yaya esihogweni ngokukhawuleza njengoko isisu sam saqala ukwenza inkqubela phambili, kodwa amabele am akhula ngokulinganayo, awayemnandi.
Isenzo sokunyamalala
Ndandinetyala lam lokuqala lokufakwa engorgement kwiintsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa emva kokuziswa, kwaye yayothusa. Ndikhumbula ndimi kwishower, ndoyisa njengoko ndizama ukuphakamisa iingalo zam ukuze ndihlambe iinwele zam kwaye ndiziva ndothuke kakhulu ngala matye adumbileyo, alukhuni. Ndiyakhumbula ndicinga, Kungenxa yoko le nto ndingazange ndize ndifumane umsebenzi we-boob.
Ukufunyanwa kwakhona kwenkqubo yokhetho enjengaleyo kundikhulule ngaphandle, kwaye ndivile ukuba ogqirha bahlala bekhulu kakhulu. Kodwa izinto zahlala phantsi, njengoko zisenza, emva koko ndonwabela izibonelelo zesifuba, okokuqala ngqa.
Emva koko kwafika imijikelezo embalwa yosana olunyulweyo, ukhulelwe, unesi, umntwana olunyulweyo, phinda. Kwaye ndiqaphele ukuba ukuncancisa iintsana zam kuza ngendleko, kwaye andithethi nje nge-roller roller coaster. Ukongeza kokuziva ndilila kancinci ukuba usana lwam lwalukhula kakhulu, utshintsho lomzimba lwandizisela mfutshane, ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kwisithuba esimalunga neeyure ezingama-72 ukusuka kwiseshoni yokugqibela yokonga, isifuba sam siyaphela. Kodwa kwakukubi nangakumbi kunoko. Ayiphelelwanga lusizi kuphela, kodwa ngenxa yokulahleka kwezicwili ezinamanqatha, babenobugovu - nto leyo eyongeze isithuko ekonzakaleni.
Ndilumle usana lwethu lokugqibela kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo. Isilayidi kwii-boobs zangaphambi kokukhulelwa ibonakala kancinci ngeli xesha, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo iyaqhubeka. Emva komntwana wethu wesithathu, ndandikhathazekile yimeko yesifuba sam kangangokuba ndatsalela ugqirha weplastiki wasekhaya ukuba andibonise. Yayiyinto eshukunyiswe ngumdla leyo, kwaye ndaye ndayeka ukurhoxa. Endaweni yoko, ndakhangela kwi-Intanethi ndafumana izinto ezimbalwa.
Andindedwa
Okokuqala, imeko yam iqheleke kabuhlungu. Ndijikeleze kwiforum emva kweforum yabasetyhini abalilayo ngenxa yokuphulukana neekomityi zabo zokonga kunye nokuphikisana notyando lwezithambiso ukuze batyebe ii-AAs zabo ze-saggy.
Okwesibini, ndiye ndabona ukuba izinto zinokuba zibi ngakumbi. Ubungakanani bebele obungalinganiyo abuqhelekanga emva kokuncancisa. Ubuncinci ndiyiphephe loo mbumbulu. Kwaye ukusuka kwinkululeko yokungahambi ngesibindi ukuya kulala phantsi esiswini sam, kukho izibonelelo zokwenene esifubeni esincinci.
Ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba uthethwano lokunyusa isifuba yeyona nto ndiyihambileyo. Ngale ndlela, bendiya kuba neempendulo ezicacileyo kwimibuzo yam malunga nenkqubo, iziphumo, ixesha lokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo, kunye nexabiso lentengo.
Andinangxaki notyando lwezithambiso kwabanye. Ndiyazibuza nje ukuba yinto endiza kuyenza ngokwam na. Inyani yile, ukuba ubundibuze kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, ngendingazange nditsho. Kodwa kwelicala leminyaka ye-10, abantwana abane, nawo onke amava aza nayo, ndiyazibuza.
Ndikhumbula amabele am apheleleyo. Baye bandenza ndaziva ndingumfazi kwaye ndonwabile, kwaye ndaziva ngathi banike umlinganiso wam kunye nenani.
Isigqibo sokugqibela
Okwangoku, ndiza kuyilinda. Ndifunde ndaweni ithile apho kungathatha unyaka emva kokulunyulwa kwezinye zeethambo zebele ezilahlekileyo ukuba zibuye.
Andazi ukuba ichanekile kangakanani loo nto, kodwa ndiyathanda ukwazi ukuba ukuphuculwa kotyando kukhetho ukuba izinto aziphucuki kwaye andikwazi kufumana uxolo nayo. Okwangoku, kwanele.
Kucetyiswa
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