Ngaba Ubulolo bungapheliyo?

Umxholo

• Kutheni abantu bengamalolo?
• Iimpawu
• Uxilongo
• Iingxaki
• Isigulo esinganyangekiyo
• Umgangatho wokulala
• Uxinzelelo
• Uxinzelelo
• Unyango
• Iingcebiso zokuphila
• Uthintelo
• Nini ukubona ugqirha
• Umgca wezantsi

"Akukho mntu ufuna ukuba nesithukuthezi," inokuba ngumgca osuka kwingoma ye pop, kodwa iyinyani kwindalo iphela.

Ubulolo obungapheliyo ligama elichaza ubulolo obunamava ixesha elide. Ngelixa isithukuthezi, kunye nesizungu esinganyangekiyo, ayizizo iimeko ezithile zempilo yengqondo, zisengayichaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nempilo ngokubanzi.

Isizungu sichaza iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinokuthi zenzeke xa iimfuno zakho zonxibelelwano lwentlalo zingafezekiswa. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukonwabela ukuchitha ixesha uwedwa ngamanye amaxesha. Ngapha koko, ixesha lodwa linokukunceda uphumle kwaye uphinde uzivuselele. Abantu baneemfuno ezahlukeneyo ngexesha lodwa, kungoko unokufuna ngaphezulu komnye umntu ukuze uzive ungcono.

Okwangoku, ukuba wedwa kunye nokuba lilolo akufani ncam. Xa ukonwabela ukuba wedwa, akunakuziva ulilolo ngendlela engalunganga okanye unqwenela ukunxibelelana nabanye. Ukubekwa wedwa kunye nesizungu zihlala zihamba kunye, kwaye zombini zinokuchaphazela kungekuphela nje impilo yeemvakalelo kodwa kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokupheleleyo.

Funda ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nesizungu esingapheliyo, kubandakanya nendlela yokusiqonda, iingxaki ezinokubakho, kunye nezinye iindlela ezinokubangela ukonyusa unxibelelwano lwakho kunye nokuthomalalisa isithukuthezi.

Kutheni abantu bengamalolo?

Ubulolo bunokwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Umzekelo, unokuziva ulilolo ukuba:

• tshintsha izikolo okanye imisebenzi
• sebenza ekhaya
• fudukela kwisixeko esitsha
• phelisa ubudlelwane
• bahlala okokuqala bodwa

Njengoko uqheleka kwezi meko zintsha, iimvakalelo zokuziva ulilolo zingadlula, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ziyaqhubeka. Akusoloko kulula ukuthetha ngokuziva ulilolo, kwaye ukuba kunzima ukufikelela kwabanye, unokuziva ulilolo ngakumbi.

Ukungabikho konxibelelwano olunentsingiselo kukwanegalelo kwisizungu, yiyo loo nto unokuziva ulilolo nokuba unonxibelelwano olubanzi.

Mhlawumbi unabahlobo abaninzi oqhelekileyo kwaye ugcwalise ixesha lakho kwimisebenzi yoluntu kodwa ungaziva usondele kakhulu nakubani na. Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nezibini kunye neentsapho kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokuba lilolo ukuba awutshatanga kwaye awufuni ukuba njalo. Oku kunokwenzeka nokuba ungonwabanga ungatshatanga.

Ukuphila ngemicimbi yempilo yengqondo okanye yomzimba nako kunokunyusa umngcipheko wokuba lilolo. Inkxalabo yezempilo inokuba yodwa, kuba kunokuba nzima ukuyichaza indlela oziva ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha imisebenzi yentlalontle ifuna amandla amakhulu ngokweemvakalelo okanye emzimbeni, kwaye unokugqibela ngokurhoxisa izicwangciso ezininzi kunokuba uzigcinile.

Okokugqibela, ukusilela konxibelelwano lwasentlalweni kunokukwenza uzive umbi ngakumbi.

Iimpawu

Ukuba unesithukuthezi, unokuziva ulusizi, ungenanto, okanye ngokungathi usilela kwinto ebalulekileyo xa uchitha ixesha lakho wedwa. Ukuba lilolo okungapheliyo kunokubandakanya ezi mpawu zilandelayo:

• ukunciphisa amandla
• Ukuziva unenkungu okanye ungakwazi ukugxila
• ukulala, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, okanye eminye imiba yokulala
• ukunciphisa ukutya
• iimvakalelo zokungazithembi, zokuphelelwa lithemba, okanye zokungaxabiseki
• utyekelo lokugula rhoqo
• iintlungu zomzimba
• iimvakalelo zokukhathazeka okanye ukungazinzi
• ukwanda kokuthenga
• Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi
• ukwanda komnqweno wokubukela ukutya okanye ukubukela imiboniso bhanyabhanya
• Ukunqwenela ukufudumala emzimbeni, njengeziselo ezishushu, iibhafu, okanye iimpahla ezimnandi kunye neengubo

Uxilongo

Ubulolo, nokuba lilolo elingapheliyo, ayisiyiyo imeko yempilo yengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali ziya zisanda ukuqonda ukuba iindlela zokuba lilolo zinokuyichaphazela impilo yakho yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo.

Ukuba uziva ulilolo kwaye ufumana iimpawu ezingachazwanga ezinje ngemiqondiso engentla yesizungu, ukuthetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo kunokunceda.

Ingcali inokukunceda ekufumaneni naziphi na izizathu ezinokubangela impilo yakho yengqondo. Nangona kungekho sixilongo sedwa, unyango lunokukunceda ukuba ufikelele kwinkxaso kunye nezixhobo ezinokuba luncedo.

Unyango unokukufundisa iingcebiso zokuhlangabezana nesizungu kwaye akuncede ujonge iindlela zokwenza utshintsho olufanelekileyo.

Iingxaki

Iingcali ngokuya zicebisa ukuba nesizungu kunye nokuzikhetha kunokuba neziphumo ezibi kakhulu kwezempilo, nokuba zenzeka kunye okanye ngokuzimeleyo. Nanku ukujonga koko kuthethwa luphando lwamva nje.

Isigulo esinganyangekiyo

Izifundo ezingama-40 zokuzikhetha eluntwini kunye nesizungu zifumene ubungqina bokudibanisa la mazwe nomngcipheko ophezulu wokufa kwangethuba, imiba yentliziyo, kunye nokuba nzima kwempilo yengqondo.

Omnye wajonga kwiziphumo ezivela kuPhando lwezeMpilo lwaseSwitzerland lowama-2012, waza wafumana ubungqina bokudibanisa isizungu nomngcipheko owandisiweyo:

• isigulo esinganyangekiyo
• cholesterol ephezulu
• uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo
• isifo seswekile
• ukudakumba

Umgangatho wokulala

Iziphumo zokujonga ngaphezulu kwamawele angama-2 000 zibonisa ukuba abantu abadala abancinci abanesizungu bahlala benomgangatho osezantsi wokulala. Olu pho nonongo lufumene ubungqina bokuba ukufumana ubundlobongela kunokunyusa iimvakalelo zesizungu.

Ukujonga abantu abadala abangama-215 kuxhasa ikhonkco phakathi kwesizungu kunye nomgangatho wokulala okungalunganga, uqhubeka nokucebisa ukuba umgangatho olala kancinci wokulala unokubangela ubunzima ekusebenzeni emini.

Ngokwabantu abadala abangama-639, isizungu kunye nokuzihlukanisa nabantu kunokuchaphazela umgangatho wokulala.

Uxinzelelo

Ukujonga ikhonkco phakathi kwesizungu kunye nokuzihlukanisa ngokwasentlalweni kumawele angama-1,116 amawele afumene ubungqina bokuba abantu abangamalolo bahlala benokudakumba.

Ngokwezifundo ezingama-88 ezijonga ubulolo noxinzelelo, isizungu sasinefuthe "eliphakathi" kwingozi yoxinzelelo.

Uxinzelelo

Iziphumo zokujonga abantu abadala abangama-8,382 abaneminyaka engama-65 nangaphezulu zibonisa ukuba isizungu kunye noxinzelelo kukonyusa umngcipheko wokuhla kwengqondo.

Unyango

Ngelixa isizungu isenokungabi sisifo esichongiweyo, usenokufumana uncedo lokujongana neemvakalelo zokuba lilolo.

Ukufumana eyona ndlela yokujongana nesithukuthezi kuhlala kuxhomekeke kwinto ebangela oko. Umzekelo:

• Usenokuba nengxaki yokwazi abantu, nokuba ngabahlobo abatsha okanye amaqabane anokubakho othando.
• Usenokuba usandul 'ukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha kwaye waphoswa kukundwendwela kwakho kwakudala.
• Unokuba nobudlelwane obuninzi kodwa akukho nanye ebonakala inentsingiselo.
• Unokuba neemvakalelo zokungazithembi, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, okanye uxinzelelo lwentlalo oluya endleleni yokwakha unxibelelwano nabanye.

Kuzo zonke iimeko, ukuthetha nonyango kunokukunceda ufumane iindlela zokwenza utshintsho. Ukuba ujongana nemicimbi yempilo yengqondo okanye yomzimba ekuhlulayo okanye ukuziva ubulolo, ukufumana uncedo kule micimbi kunokunceda ngokwenza kube lula kuwe ukufikelela kwabanye.

Ukuba uziva ulilolo ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba kutheni, unokufumana unyango luyanceda ukunciphisa izinto ezinokubangela. Kunganzima ukujongana neemvakalelo zokuba lilolo ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento eyenzekayo. Ingcali inokukunceda uvavanye naziphi na iimeko ebomini bakho ezinokudala ezi mvakalelo.

Iingcebiso zokuphila

Kungenzeka ukuba utshintsho oluthile kwindlela yokuphila lunokukunceda uzive unesizungu. Oku akunakujongana ngokupheleleyo nezizathu zokuba nesithukuthezi, ezinje ngemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo okanye ukukhathazeka, kodwa banokukunceda uqalise.

Ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda uzive ubandakanyeka ngakumbi nabanye:

• Hlala unxibelelana nabantu obathandayo. Ukuba ufudukile, zama ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nosapho ngeveki. Iiapps ezinje ngeSkype, iSnapchat, kunye neFacebook Messenger zivumela ukuba uthumele iiklip zevidiyo okanye unxibelelane nevidiyo. Isenokungavakali ngathi unxibelelana nabantu, kodwa inokukunceda ukhumbule abantu obathandayo abasekhona kuwe.
• Amavolontiya okanye athathe inxaxheba kwiminyhadala yoluntu. Fumana iindawo ezimbalwa onomdla kuzo kwaye uzame ukuzibandakanya. Cinga ukunceda ekuthengiseni iincwadi zethala leencwadi, ukunikela ngeempelaveki ngenyanga kwindawo yokuhlala izilwanyana, ukunceda ekucoceni inkunkuma, okanye ukuchitha iiyure ezimbalwa usebenza kwibhanki yokutya yasekuhlaleni. Amathala eencwadi ayindawo elungileyo yokufumana malunga neziganeko zoluntu.
• Zama umdlalo omtsha. Ukuba uziva ulilolo kodwa unexesha elifanelekileyo, cinga ngezinto okhe wafuna ukuzizama. Umdaniso? Ngokhuni? Ubugcisa? Guitar? Ilayibrari yakho, ikholeji yasekuhlaleni, okanye eminye imibutho yoluntu iya kuba nolwazi malunga nezinto ozithandayo kunye neziganeko zalapha. Iiapps ezinje nge-Facebook kunye ne-Meetup zinokukunceda ufumane imicimbi kwindawo ohlala kuyo kwaye udibane nabantu abanomdla ofanayo.
• Phuma endlini. Itekhnoloji inokuba nezibonelelo ezininzi. Unokonwabela ukulungelwa kukutya okusiwe emnyango okanye kwiimuvi ngonxibelelwano lweWi-Fi. Kodwa iteknoloji inokwenza kube lula ukuphoswa. Zama ngokuhlwa kwindawo yokubonela yasekuhlaleni okanye uthathe uhambo oluya kwimarike yabalimi ekuhlaleni ukuze ufumane izithako zokutya kwakho okulandelayo. Yenza injongo yokubulisa kunye nokuthetha nabantu abambalwa abatsha qho uphuma, nokuba kulula nje ngoncumo kwaye "molo."
• Sebenzisa isilwanyana sasekhaya. Ukuba nesinye isidalwa esiphilayo esiza ekhaya kunokunceda ubomi bakho buzive buzele, kwaye wandise iimvakalelo zakho zonxibelelwano kwihlabathi ngokubanzi. Uphando luhlala lubonisa ukuba izilwanyana zinokuba nezibonelelo ezininzi zempilo yengqondo, kubandakanya ukunciphisa isizungu. Ngaphezu, ukuhamba inja (okanye ikati, kwezinye iimeko!) Nako ukunceda ukwandisa amathuba okuhlangana nabantu abatsha.

Uthintelo

Ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo zihlala zikunceda ukuba ungaziva ulilolo kwasekuqaleni:

• Zonwabise ngokuchitha ixesha wedwa. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube wedwa ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo ithathwa njengebalulekileyo ebantwini ukuba banonxibelelwano oluncinci nabanye. Kodwa ukuba uyalonwabela ixesha olichitha wedwa, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzive uqinisekile ngalo, nokuba xa uwedwa isenokungabi lolokhetho lwakho lokuqala.
• Khetha imisebenzi eyanelisayo nenomvuzo. Ukuphumla esofeni phambi kwenkqubo yeTV oyithandayo kunokuziva kuthuthuzela, kwaye umxholo ohlekisayo ngokukodwa, kunokuba nefuthe elihle kwimood yakho. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba ubandakanya uluhlu lwemisebenzi ebomini bakho, kubandakanya ukuyila okanye ukwenza ngokwasemzimbeni. Nokuba umamele umculo okanye ufunde incwadi kunokuba nefuthe elihle kwisizungu.
• Yenza ixesha lokuzilolonga. Ukuzilolonga kuyaziwa ukuba nefuthe elihle kwimpilo yengqondo. Ngelixa umthambo ungekhe ubusebenzise ubulolo wedwa, unokukunceda ukuphucula imeko yakho jikelele kwaye wandise indlela oziva ngayo, onokuthi ukhusele isizungu.
• Yonwabela ngaphandle. Ukukhanya kwelanga kunokunceda ukwandisa i-serotonin emzimbeni wakho, enokukunceda ukuphucula imeko yakho. Uphando lubonisa ukuchitha ixesha kwindalo kunokunceda ekunciphiseni iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo, unxunguphalo noxinzelelo. Ukujoyina ukuhamba kweqela okanye umdlalo weqela kunokukunceda unxibelelane nabanye ngaxeshanye.

Nini ukubona ugqirha

Ukuba iimvakalelo zokuziva ulilolo zihlala ixesha elide, kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukufikelela kumboneleli wakho wezempilo okanye ugqirha wezempilo yengqondo.

Cinga ngokufumana uncedo ukuba:

• iimvakalelo zokuziva ulilolo zichaphazela kakubi ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla okanye zenze kube nzima ukwenza izinto ofuna ukuzenza
• uneemvakalelo eziphantsi okanye iimvakalelo zokudakumba
• uneempawu zenye inkxalabo yezempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngoxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo
• iimpawu zempilo yomzimba azihambi emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, ziba mandundu, okanye zichaphazele ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla

Kungcono ufumane uncedo kwangoko. Ungatsalela umnxeba uncedo lwentlekele, fikelela kulowo umthandayo, okanye ufowunele igumbi lendawo engxamisekileyo. Nalu uluhlu lwezixhobo zokunceda:

• Inkqubo ye- Uthintelo lokuZibulala kuZwelonke inikeza simahla, inkxaso yemfesane iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, iintsuku ezisi-7 ngeveki, iintsuku ezingama-365 ngonyaka. Ungabatsalela umnxeba ngo-1-800-273-8255 okanye unxibelelane nabo ngencoko ye-Intanethi.
• Ukuba ungathanda uncedo ekufumaneni inkxaso yezempilo yengqondo, ukuSetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zeMpilo yeNgqondo kukwabonelela ngolwazi olujikelezileyo kunye nokunceda ekufumaneni unyango, nangona benganikeli ngeenkonzo zokucebisa ngefowuni.
• Umbutho woxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo eMelika ubonelela ngamaqela enkxaso yasimahla kwi-Intanethi, ukuba ujongana noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kunye nesizungu. Fumana iqela elikufutshane nawe kwiwebhusayithi yabo.

Umgca wezantsi

Ayonto imbi ukuhlala wedwa, okanye ukonwabele ukuba wedwa. Kodwa ukuba wedwa xa ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha nabanye abantu kungakhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokuziva ulilolo kwaye ube nezinye iimpembelelo kwiimvakalelo zakho, ukulala, kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokupheleleyo.

Abanye abantu banesithukuthezi ngokudlula, kodwa abanye abantu banokuziva bengamalolo iinyanga okanye iminyaka bengaphucuki.

Isizungu asiyondawo yempilo yengqondo ngonyango olucetyiswayo, ngoko ke usenokuzibuza ukuba ungajongana njani nalo. Ukoyisa isizungu kungabonakala kungumceli mngeni wokwenene, ngakumbi ukuba uneentloni, ungenisile, okanye ukufumanisa kunzima ukudibana nabantu abatsha. Ingathatha ixesha, kodwa kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha okanye ukomeleza unxibelelwano olukhoyo ebomini bakho.

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento onokuyenza ukuze uzive unesizungu, cinga ngokufikelela kunyangi onokuthi akunike uncedo nenkxaso.