Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ajongane nomhlaza

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• Abantwana ukuya kwiminyaka emi-6
• Uziva njani?
• Kwenziwe ntoni?
• Abantwana abaneminyaka emi-6 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala
• Uziva njani?
• Kwenziwe ntoni?
• Ulutsha oluneminyaka eli-13 ukuya kweli-18 ubudala
• Uziva njani?
• Kwenziwe ntoni?
• Ngexesha lonyango, kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bangaziva ngathi batya kwaye banciphise umzimba, ke jonga indlela yokuphucula ukutya komntwana kunyango lomhlaza.

Abantwana kunye nolutsha bayasabela ekuchongeni umhlaza ngokwahlukileyo, ngokobudala babo, ukukhula kunye nobuntu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo kubantwana abakubudala obufanayo kwaye, ke ngoko, kukwakhona ezinye iindlela ezinokwenziwa ngabazali ukunceda umntwana wabo ukuba amelane nomhlaza.

Ukubetha umhlaza kunokwenzeka, kodwa ukufika kweendaba akusoloko kufunyanwa ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo, ukongeza kunyango oluneziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezininzi ezichaphazelekayo. Nangona kunjalo, zikho ezinye iindlela ezinokukunceda woyise eli nqanaba libuthathaka ngendlela egudileyo kwaye ekhululekile.

Abantwana ukuya kwiminyaka emi-6

Uziva njani?

Abantwana beli xesha bayoyika ukwahlulwa kubazali babo, kwaye bayoyika kwaye bacaphuke kuba kufuneka benze iinkqubo zonyango ezibuhlungu, kwaye banokuba nomsindo, bakhwaze, babethe okanye balume. Ukongeza, banokuba namaphupha amabi, babuyele kwiindlela ezindala zokuziphatha ezinje ngokumanzisa ebhedini okanye ukuncanca ubhontsi nokwala ukusebenzisana, ukumelana neeodolo okanye ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu.

Kwenziwe ntoni?

• Ukuzola, ukuwola, ukuwola, ukucula, ukudlala ingoma yomntwana okanye ukumphazamisa ngeethoyi;
• Soloko uhlala nomntwana ngexesha leemvavanyo zonyango okanye iinkqubo;
• Yenza isilwanyana esithandwayo somntwana, ingubo okanye ithoyizi egumbini;
• Yenza igumbi elonwabisayo, elinemibala esibhedlele, elinokukhanyisa okuhle, ngezinto zomntwana ezizodwa kunye nemizobo eyenziwe ngumntwana;
• Gcina ishedyuli yesiqhelo yomntwana, njengokulala kunye namaxesha okutya;
• Thatha ixesha losuku lokudlala nomntwana, ukudlala okanye ukwenza umsebenzi;
• Sebenzisa umnxeba, ikhompyuter okanye ezinye iindlela ukuze umntwana abone kwaye eve umzali ongenakho ukuba kunye nabo;
• Nika iinkcazo ezilula kakhulu zento eyenzekayo, nokuba ukhathazekile okanye uyalila, umzekelo "Ndiziva ndibuhlungu kwaye ndidiniwe namhlanje kwaye ukulila kuyandinceda ukuba ndibengcono";
• Fundisa umntwana ukuba aveze iimvakalelo zakhe ngendlela esempilweni njengokuzoba, ukuthetha okanye ukubetha umqamelo, endaweni yokuluma, ukukhwaza, ukubetha okanye ukukhaba;
• Vuza indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle komntwana xa esebenzisana neemviwo zonyango okanye iinkqubo, ngokunika i-ayisi khrim, umzekelo, ukuba oku kunokwenzeka.

Abantwana abaneminyaka emi-6 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala

Uziva njani?

Abantwana beli xesha banokucaphuka ngenxa yokuphoswa sisikolo kwaye basilele ukubona abahlobo kunye nabo bafunda nabo, benetyala lokucinga ukuba kungenzeka babangele umhlaza kwaye banexhala lokucinga ukuba umhlaza uyafika. Abantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emi-6 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala nabo bangabonakalisa umsindo nosizi lokuba baye bagula kwaye ubomi babo butshintshile.

Kwenziwe ntoni?

• Chaza isicwangciso sokuchonga nokunyanga ngendlela elula yokuba umntwana asiqonde;
• Phendula yonke imibuzo yomntwana ngokunyanisekileyo nangokulula. Umzekelo ukuba umntwana ubuza "Ngaba ndiza kulunga?" phendula ngokunyanisekileyo: "Andazi, kodwa oogqirha baya kwenza konke okusemandleni";
• Gxininisa kwaye uqinise umbono wokuba umntwana akabangeli mhlaza;
• Mfundise umntwana ukuba unelungelo lokukhathazeka okanye lokucaphuka, kodwa kufuneka athethe nabazali bakhe ngalo;
• Yabelana notitshala kunye nabo ufunda nabo ngokwenzekayo emntwaneni, umkhuthaze ukuba enze njalo naye;
• Hlela imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yokubhala, ukuzoba, ukupeyinta, ikholaji okanye umthambo;
• Nceda umntwana aqhakamshelane nabantakwabo, abahlobo kunye nabo afunda nabo ngokundwendwela, amakhadi, ukufowuna, imiyalezo, imidlalo yevidiyo, uthungelwano lwentlalo okanye i-imeyile;
• Yenza isicwangciso somntwana sokunxibelelana nesikolo, ajonge iiklasi kwikhompyuter, akwazi ukufikelela kwimathiriyeli kunye nomsebenzi wesikolo, umzekelo;
• Khuthaza umntwana ukuba ahlangane nabanye abantwana abanesifo esifanayo.

Ulutsha oluneminyaka eli-13 ukuya kweli-18 ubudala

Uziva njani?

Abakwishumi elivisayo baziva bexhelekile kukuphoswa sisikolo kwaye bayeke ukuba kunye nabahlobo babo, ukongeza ekuziva ukuba abanayo inkululeko okanye inkululeko kwaye bafuna inkxaso yabahlobo babo okanye yootitshala, abangasoloko bekho. Abakwishumi elivisayo banokudlala ngento yokuba banomhlaza okanye bazame ukucinga ngento elungileyo kwaye ngelinye ixesha, bavukele abazali babo, oogqirha kunye nonyango.

Kwenziwe ntoni?

• Nika intuthuzelo novelwano, kwaye usebenzise uburharha ukujongana nokukhathazeka;
• Bandakanya umntwana ofikisayo kuzo zonke iingxoxo malunga nesifo okanye isicwangciso sonyango;
• Khuthaza umntwana wakho ofikisayo ukuba abuze yonke imibuzo koogqirha;
• Gxininisa kwaye uqinise umbono wokuba ulutsha alubanga ngumhlaza;
• Vumela umntwana ofikisayo athethe neengcali zempilo zodwa;
• Khuthaza abakwishumi elivisayo ukuba babelane nabahlobo ngeendaba zokugula kwabo kwaye bahlale benxibelelana nabo;
• Mkhuthaze ofikisayo ukuba abhale idayari ukuze aveze iimvakalelo zakhe;
• Lungiselela utyelelo ngabahlobo kwaye nicwangcise imisebenzi kunye, ukuba kunokwenzeka;
• Yenza isicwangciso sokuba ulutsha luqhubeke lunxibelelana nesikolo, lubukele iiklasi kwiikhompyuter, lukwazi ukufikelela kwizixhobo kunye nomsebenzi wesikolo, umzekelo;
• Nceda ulutsha lube nokunxibelelana nolunye ulutsha olufikisayo olunesi sifo.

Abazali nabo bayasokola kunye nabantwana babo banesi sifo kwaye, ke, ukubakhathalela kakuhle, kufuneka bayinyamekele impilo yabo. Uloyiko, ukungazithembi, ukuziva unetyala kunye nomsindo kunokuncitshiswa ngoncedo lweengqondo, kodwa inkxaso yosapho ikwabalulekile ukuvuselela amandla. Yiyo loo nto kucetyiswa ukuba abazali babekele bucala ixesha phakathi evekini lokuphumla nokuthetha ngale nto kunye neminye imiba.

Ngexesha lonyango, kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bangaziva ngathi batya kwaye banciphise umzimba, ke jonga indlela yokuphucula ukutya komntwana kunyango lomhlaza.