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Umxholo

• Ukufumana i-Community Fitness
• Ukuthatha iiNxibelelwano zakhe ngaphandle kweintanethi
• Ukuziqhubela nokuba uqhubeke
• Ukujonga Phambili koko kulandelayo
• Uphengululo lwe

Kwakukho inqaku kubomi bukaDawn Sabourin xa ekuphela kwento kwifriji yakhe yayiyilitha lamanzi awayengalichukumisi unyaka. Uninzi lwexesha lakhe wayechitha yedwa ebhedini.

Phantse iminyaka elishumi, uSabourin walwa ne-PTSD kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu, olamshiya engakhuthazi ukuba atye, ahambe, ahlalisane nabanye, kwaye azikhathalele ngokwenene. "Ndiye ndazivumela ukuba ndiye kwinqanaba lokuba ndikhuphe inja yam ngaphandle kwaye ndidinwe izihlunu zam kangangokuba andizange ndikwazi ukusebenza," utshela. Ubume.

Into eyathi ekugqibeleni yamkhupha kule funk iyingozi inokukothusa: Yayiziiklasi zokomelela kweqela. (Idibeneyo: Ndaba njani uMqeqeshi weQinisekiso leQela kwiGym ephezulu)

Ukufumana i-Community Fitness

USabourin ufumanise ukuthanda kwakhe umthambo weqela emva kokuthatha inxaxheba UbumeCrush Iinjongo zakho zoMceli mngeni, inkqubo yeentsuku ezingama-40 eyilelwe kwaye ikhokelwa ngumzimba wokuqina komzimba uJen Widerstrom eyenzelwe ukuba usebenze ngayo nayiphi na injongo kunye nazo zonke iinjongo onokuba nazo, nokuba kukwehla kobunzima, amandla aphuculweyo, ugqatso, okanye, umntu ofana noSabourin , indlela yokuguqula izinto kwaye uhambe nje.

"Xa ndenza isigqibo sokwenza i-Goal Crushers, yayiyi, ngokubanzi, ukuzama kwam ukuphinda ndingene ebomini."

Dawn Sabourin

USabourin uyavuma ukuba ukujoyina umngeni “yayiyinjongo ephakamileyo” emva kokuchitha iminyaka emininzi esilwa nemiba yakhe yedwa. Kodwa, utsho, wayesazi nje ukuba kukho into ekufuneka itshintshile ukuze abuyisele ubomi bakhe endleleni.

"Iinjongo zam [zomceli mngeni] yayikukujongana nayo yonke imiba yam yonyango ukuze ingayiyo Ndingakwazi ukuzilolonga, utshilo uSabourin, owayenamava kuyo yonke into ukusuka kotyando lokwakhiwa kwamagxa ukuya ekulileni, nangaphezulu kwempilo yakhe yengqondo.

USabourin ucacisa ukuba wayefuna ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabantu. "Akunjengoba andinakuba nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, kodwa [ndaziva] ingathi ndingumntu onjalo ebantwini," uyacacisa. "Xa ndenza isigqibo sokwenza i-Goal Crushers, yayiyi, ngokubanzi, ukuzama kwam ukuphinda ndingene ebomini."

Kwiintsuku ezingama-40 kamva, umngeni wagqitywa, uSabourin waqonda ukuba wayeqala ukwenza unxibelelwano nabantu kwiqela le-Goal Crushers Facebook. Wonke umntu ebendixhasa kakhulu, utshilo ngamanye amaqhinga akhe.

Nangona u-Sabourin esenokuba akazange azisombulule ezinye zeenkxalabo zempilo yomzimba awayenazo (into ejongwe kakuhle ngugqirha, kuyavunywa), wayeqalisa ukwenza inkqubela yokwenene ekukwazini kwakhe ukuzibeka apho kwaye anxibelelane nabantu. Emva kweminyaka emininzi yedwa, uthi ekugqibeleni waziva ephuma kwigobolondo lakhe.

Ukuthatha iiNxibelelwano zakhe ngaphandle kweintanethi

Ukuqiniswa yile ngqondo intsha yoluntu, uSabourin emva koko waziva ephefumlelwe ukuba abekhoUbume Ivenkile yomzimba, isiganeko sopopu sonyaka eLos Angeles esibonelela ngeeklasi ezininzi zokuzilolonga ezifundiswa ziinkwenkwezi zomzimba ezinje ngeWiderstrom, uJenny Gaither, uAna Victoria, kunye nokunye.

Kodwa yayingeyiyo imeko yokomelela kweVenkile yoMzimba ebenomdla kwiSabourin-ubuncinci, hayi kwasekuqaleni. Ngokwenyani yayilithemba lokudibana nomnye wamaGosa wakhe awayesebenza naye, ogama linguJanelle, IRL. Yabona, uJanelle uhlala eCanada kwaye uza kwenza uhambo oluya kwiVenkile yoMzimba e-LA, ekufuphi naseSabourin. Nje ukuba uSabourin aqonde ukuba unethuba lokudibana nomhlobo osenyongweni kwi-intanethi, wayesazi ukuba akanakudlulisa-nokuba oko kuthetha ukujongana nolunye uloyiko lwakhe olukhulu.

"Kunzima kakhulu xa usuka wedwa uye kule nto ndinayo ngoku."

Dawn Sabourin

Kuyavunywa, umbono wokunxulumana nabantu ongabaziyo kumnyhadala weqela-ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuba yena kuphela nje waqala ukusebenza kwaye akazange ashiye ubutofotofo bekhaya lakhe ixesha elide leshumi leminyaka-wabeka iqhina esiswini sikaSabourin. Kodwa uthi uvile ukuba lixesha lokuba aphume ngokwenyani ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela. "[Wonke umntu] ebenentlonipho kakhulu [kwiGoal Crushers] kangangokuba ndigqibe ekubeni ndithathe ithuba," uyacacisa. "Ukungatsho ukuba andifuni ukujika [kwaye ndigoduke], kodwa kubonakala ngathi lixesha elifanelekileyo nendawo." (Idibeneyo: UkuQiniseka kweQela ayisiyonto yakho? Oku kunokuchaza ukuba kutheni)

Kulapho uSabourin wadibana neWiderstrom. Ngokobuchwephesha, abo bafazi babini babesazi ngokubandakanyeka kukaSabourin kwiqela le-Goal-Crushers Facebook, apho iWiderstrom ithatha inxaxheba khona. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, uWiderstrom uthi uye waqaphela ukuba uSabourin ekuqaleni wayemgadile. "Ndilikhumbule igama lakhe, kodwa andizange ndiyazi ukuba ukhangeleka njani kuba akazange athumele umfanekiso weprofayili," umqeqeshi uxelele. Ubume. "Yayinguye lo mntu waseDawn othi, qho emva kwexesha, 'athande' umfanekiso [kwiqela likaFacebook]. Wayetshatile, kodwa akazange abe nelizwi. Bendingazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwingqondo yakhe. . Kum, wayeyi-Dawn nje enomfanekiso weprofayili engenanto. Ngokucacileyo, kwakukho ibali elikhulu endingazange ndilibone ngelo xesha.

USabourin uthi yinkxaso kaWiderstrom eyamncedayo ukuba aphumelele kumsitho wolo suku-iqela lokuqala lokuzilolonga ngonaphakade Uthathe inxaxheba. "Xa uDawn efumene inkxaso yokwenene kubantu bokwenyani, kulapho izinto zaqala ukumtshintsha, utshilo uWiderstrom.

Ukuziqhubela nokuba uqhubeke

Emva kwaloo mini kwiVenkile yoMzimba, uSabourin uthi waziva ephefumlelwe ukugcina umfutho uqhubeka. Wagqiba kwelokuba ajoyine umngeni wokuthoba ubunzima beeveki ezintandathu kwindawo ahlala kuyo eCarlifonia. Uthi: “Ndiye ndehla ngeekhilogram ezingama-22 ndaza ndaqhubeka. "Ndisasebenza kulaa ndawo yokuzivocavoca. Ndenze abahlobo abangakholelekiyo apho abanokundenzela nantoni na, kwaye nam ndibenzele. Kuyothusa xa usuka wedwa uye kwinto endinayo ngoku."

Ibali likaSabourin lisenokuquka izibalo ezinomtsalane zokwehla kobunzima (zizonke, ulahlekelwe ziiponti ezingama-88 malunga nonyaka omnye), kodwa uWiderstrom ukholelwa ukuba inguqu yakhe ingena nzulu ngakumbi kunoko. "Umzimba, nangalo naluphi na uhlobo lokhathalelo oluqhubekayo, uya kutshintsha," utshilo. "Utshintsho lomzimba ka-Dawn lubonakala kakhulu. Olona tshintsho lukhulu kukuba ngubani lo uveza kwaye uhlala njani. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kukuhluma; umntu. Ekugqibeleni ukhupha iDawn." (Idibeneyo: Into endinqwenela ukuba ndiyazi ngokukhawuleza malunga nokulahlekelwa kwesisindo)

Elinye elichazayo umzuzu wotshintsho kuxa uSabourin (ekugqibeleni) wenza umfanekiso weprofayile kaFacebook, wabelana ngeWiderstrom-kwaye hayi nje nawuphi na umfanekiso weprofayile. Wakhetha ifoto ethathwe kwiShop ye-Shape Body.

Imifanekiso yeprofayile isenokubonakala ingathethi lukhulu kubantu abaninzi. Kodwa kwi-Widerstrom, yayimele umbono wokuzihlaziya kukaSabourin. "Oko kwakuthetha ukuzingca:" Ndiziva ndinelunda ngam, ndiziva ndikhululekile ukwabelana nabanye ngalo mzuzu ubalulekileyo, "ucacisa umqeqeshi wentsingiselo enzulu yefoto.

Xa u-Sabourin wabuyela kwiVenkile yoMzimba kulo nyaka, wothuswa yindlela aziva ekhululeke ngayo okwesibini. “Kunyaka ophelileyo, bendizama nje ukuphumelela,” utshilo. "Kulo nyaka, ndaziva ndilinxalenye yawo."

Ukujonga Phambili koko kulandelayo

Ukusukela ngoko, uSabourin uthi uqhubeka nokuzivocavoca rhoqo, ikakhulu kwiiklasi zokuzilolonga kwiqela kwindawo yakhe yokuzivocavoca. Ndiyathemba ukwakha kwi [inkqubo yam yokuzilolonga], utshilo. "Kodwa [ukuzilolonga] yeyona ihlala ihleli ebomini bam. Ndingaba nosuku olubi kwaye ndingaze ndiphume ebhedini-kunjalo, ngezinye iintsuku. Kodwa ndiyaqhubeka nokusebenza kuba yeyona njongo ndisebenza kuyo ngoku . Andazi ukuba ndiza kuphelela phi okanye yintoni injongo yam [kwixesha elizayo], kodwa lilitye lokunyathela ngethemba lokungena kwakhona kubo bonke ubomi. "

KuSabourin, uthi ukomelela kweqela kumdibanisa nenyani kwaye kumkhumbuza ngayo yonke into anokuyenza xa ezibeka emsebenzini. "Kuyandomeleza ukuba ndiphume ndiyokujongana nenye into kamva ngala mini, enye into ebomini, ndifumane enye into eyenziweyo." (Idibeneyo: IziBonelelo eziPhambili zeNgqondo kunye neMizimba yokuSebenza)

I-Widerstrom ibhekisela kwezi mpu melelo njenge "reps of life." "Ezi reps esizithathayo njengabantu ekuziphatheni kwethu ukuqala ukuzikhupha silapho," ucacisa. "Kufuneka siziqhelanise naba reps. Kufuneka siphume siye apho, kufuneka sizame, kwaye sizakufunda okuninzi malunga nento esiyenzayo, nokuba siyayithanda, nokuba asiyithandi. Amaxesha alithoba kwezili-10, izinto azihambi ngohlobo ebesicinga ngalo, kodwa siyawathanda amava. Siziva sinekratshi; siziva sinolwazi; kukho inqanaba lenkonzo.

Ngokubhekiselele kokulandelayo, uSabourin uthi akanayo "injongo yokugqibela" engqondweni. Endaweni yoko, ujolise ekuthatheni amanyathelo amancinci okuhlangana nabantu abaninzi, ukuzama ukusebenza okutsha, kunye nokuzityhiliza ngokudlula kwimida yakhe.

Kodwa ukuba inye into ayifundileyo kulo lonke eli thuba, kubalulekile ukwenza izinto ezikoyikisayo. "Andicingi ukuba nantoni na enkulu inokufezekiswa ngaphandle kokuba uzikhuphe ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela," utshilo uSabourin. "Uhlala uxinekile. Ke ndiza kuqhubeka nokutyhala, kwaye siza kubona ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngokulandelayo. Andazi ukuba unyaka olandelayo ubambe ntoni, kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba ndiza kufumana isiqingatha ubuncinci. koko ndikufezileyo kulo nyaka. Ndingavuya ngaloo nto."

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