Ungaziva njani ukonwaba, usempilweni kwaye u-Sexy

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Ukhe uqaphele ukuba abanye abantu basetyhini bayayazi indlela yokuhambisa izinto zabo, nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ngoyena mntu unzima egumbini? Inyani yile, ukuzithemba komzimba akukho nzima njengoko ucinga. Ukuyihlakulela kufuna ukwenza uhlengahlengiso oluncinci kwisimo sakho sengqondo yonke imihla."Undoqo kukugxila kwinto elungileyo ngawe endaweni yokulungisa ubunzima bakho okanye iimpazamo ozibonayo," utshilo uJean Petrucelli, Ph.D., umlawuli weNgxaki yokutya, ukunyanzeliswa, kunye neNkonzo yokuLungisa kwiWilliam Alanson White Institute eNew. KwiYork.

Zama ezi ngcebiso zilula ukuze uqalise ukuziva uzithembile namhlanje.

1Lahla ukuthanda kwakho ngamanani. Gcina umkhondo wophuculo ngaphandle kokunciphisa umzimba, ucebisa uPepper Schwartz, Ph.D., unjingalwazi kwezentlalo kwiYunivesithi yaseWashington eSeattle. U-Schwartz uthi: "Ungaziboni ukuba uziva womelele kangakanani. Iyakukunceda ufumane ukuxabisa okwenziwa ngumzimba wakho."

2Yiqhwabele izandla imizamo yakho. U-Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D., ilungu lebhodi yeengcebiso ngoMmo kunye nombhali we Guqula iNgqondo Yakho, Guqula uMzimba Wakho (Atria, 2004), usebenzisa ikhawuntara yamanqaku egalufa ukubala amaxesha enza into entle emzimbeni wakhe. "Ukuba nditya iziqhamo ezisandul 'ukuvunwa, ndiyakucofa. Ukuba ndihamba uhambo olukhawulezayo ukuya kuvuthuza umphunga endaweni yokuntywila kwingxowa yeetshipsi, ndiyacofa," utshilo. "Ukuba ndiqokelele i-10 ngokuchofoza ekupheleni kosuku, ndivuya."

3Zilolonge Ngaphandle. Ukusebenza kwindawo entle kukubeka kunxibelelana nobuhle bemvelo obuzolileyo, utshilo uSchwartz. "Ukuxuba indawo endingqongileyo kundinceda ndizive ndingaxhalabi kangako, kuba ndigxile kakhulu kwindawo endihlala kuyo kunendlela endizijonga ngayo kwisipili somthambo."

4Nceda umntu osweleyo. Ukuvolontiya ekuncedeni abo bangathathi ntweni kunokuba ungabeka amaxhala akho kwindawo efanelekileyo, ucebisa uBarbara Bulow, Ph.D, umlawuli oncedisayo weNkqubo yoNyango lweNgqondo yeYunivesithi yaseColumbia eNew York. "Okukhona ujonga iimfuno zabanye, kokukhona kulula ukulibala malunga namaxhala akho."

5 Zinike ujongo lwesipili rhoqo. "Xa ndijonga ukubonakaliswa kwam, ndiziqhelanisa nokubulela onke amalungu omzimba wam ngendlela andigcina ngayo ndisempilweni," utsho uRhonda Britten, umbhali Ndikhangeleka Ndityebile kulento? (Dutton). Ukuzikhumbuza ukuba kutheni kufuneka uzingce ngomzimba wakho kuya kukwenza uzive unomtsalane ngakumbi kwaye uzithembile. Kwaye ngubani ongayifuniyo loo nto?

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