Uxinzelelo emva koSondo kuqhelekile - Nantsi indlela yokujongana nayo

Umxholo

• Okokuqala, yazi ukuba awuwedwa
• Into ohlangabezana nayo inokuba yi-post-coital dysphoria
• Ibangelwa yintoni?
• Amahomoni akho
• Iimvakalelo zakho ngesondo
• Iimvakalelo zakho ngolwalamano
• Imiba yomzimba
• Uxinzelelo lwangaphambili okanye uxhatshazo
• Uxinzelelo okanye olunye uxinzelelo lwengqondo
• Yintoni ofanele uyenze ukuba uziva udandathekile?
• Fikelela kumboneleli wezempilo
• Yintoni omele uyenze xa iqabane lakho liziva lidandathekile?
• Umgca wezantsi

Okokuqala, yazi ukuba awuwedwa

Ukwabelana ngesondo kufanele kukushiye uzive wanelisekile- kodwa ukuba ukhe waziva ubuhlungu emva koko, awuwedwa.

Lea Lis, MD, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo ogxile kwezokwabelana ngesondo noqheliso eSouthampton, eNew York uthi: "Ngokwesiqhelo isini siphakamisa imeko ngenxa yokukhutshwa kwe-dopamine kunye nokwanda kwe-serotonin, ethintela ukudakumba."

Kwaye, utshilo, ukuziva udandathekile emva kwesondo-nokuba uyavumelana, ulwabelana ngesondo-yinto abantu abaninzi abaziva ngamanye amaxesha ebomini babo.

Uphononongo lwango-2019 lufumanise ukuba iipesenti ezingama-41 zabantu abanamalungu obudoda bafumana amava ebomini babo. Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba iipesenti ezingama-46 zabanini bezinto ezinobuzaza bazifumana kanye kube kanye ebomini babo.

Into ohlangabezana nayo inokuba yi-post-coital dysphoria

"I-Postcoital dysphoria (PCD) ibhekisa kwiimvakalelo ezisusela ekubeni lusizi ukuya koxinzelelo, ukuphazamiseka, umsindo-ikakhulu nasiphi na isimo esibi emva kwesondo esingalindelwanga," ucacisa uGail Saltz, MD, unjingalwazi onxulumene nesifo sengqondo kwi-NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill -Cornell School of Medicine.

Inokude ikulise.

I-PCD inokuhlala naphi na ukusuka kwimizuzu emi-5 ukuya kwiiyure ezi-2, kwaye inokwenzeka kunye okanye ngaphandle kwe-orgasm.

Umzekelo, kwafunyaniswa ukuba iimpawu zasemva kokubeleka zazikho emva kokulalana, kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngokubanzi kunye nokuphulula amalungu esini.

Ibangelwa yintoni?

"Impendulo emfutshane kukuba asazi ukuba yintoni ebangela i-PCD," utshilo uDaniel Sher, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye noochwephesha kwezesondo kwi-Intanethi. "Alukabikho uphando olomeleleyo olwenziweyo okwangoku."

Abaphandi baneengcamango ezithile nangona:

Amahomoni akho

USher uthi: "Inokuba inxulumene namahomoni abandakanyeka kuthando kunye nokuncamathisela." "Ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, inkqubo yakho yehomoni, yomzimba, kunye neemvakalelo iyanda."

Ufumana inqanaba elingakholelekiyo lokukhuthaza, ngokwasemzimbeni nangolunye uhlobo, uyaqhubeka. “Emva koko, ngequbuliso, iyayeka kwaye umzimba nengqondo yakho kufuneka ubuyele kwisiseko. Yile nto ‘yethontsi’ lomzimba elinokuzisa imeko yedysphoria. ”

Iimvakalelo zakho ngesondo

"Enye inkolelo kukuba abantu abanesazela esibi ngokungazi malunga nesondo ngokubanzi banokufumana i-PCD ngenxa yoko," kusho uSher. "Oku kunokwenzeka ngakumbi kubantu abakhulele kwimeko yokugxeka okanye yokuziqhelanisa, apho isini senziwe kakubi okanye singcolile."

Unokufuna nje ikhefu kwisini.

URobert Thomas, ingcali yezesondo, uthi: "Ukuziva udandathekile emva kokuba neentlobano zesini kunokubangelwa kukuba awukakulungeli ukwabelana ngesondo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo." "Ukuziva unetyala kunye nokuzibandakanya emva kwesondo kunokuba yinto ebonisa ukuba awunalo unxibelelwano olwaneleyo neqabane lakho."

Iimvakalelo zakho ngolwalamano

USaltz uthi: "Ukwabelana ngesondo ngamava osenyongweni kakhulu, kwaye ukusondelelana kunokusenza ukuba sazi ngakumbi ngeengcinga neemvakalelo ezingalunganga, ezibandakanya iingcinga ezilusizi okanye ezinomsindo."

Ukuba usebudlelwaneni obungazalisekisiyo, gcina iimvakalelo zenzondo kwiqabane lakho, okanye kungenjalo uzive uphoxekile ngabo, ezi mvakalelo zinokubuyela emva kunye nasemva kokwabelana ngesondo, kukwenze uzive ulusizi.

Unxibelelwano olubi emva kwesondo nako kunokubangela.

"Ukungonwabi ngamava ezesondo kunokuba luxanduva ngokweemvakalelo, ngakumbi xa ulindelo lwakho lungafezekiswanga ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo," utshilo uThomas.

Ukuba kukuma kobusuku obunye okanye ulwalamano olungaqhelekanga, usenokuziva ulusizi ukuba awumazi ngokwenene iqabane lakho. Mhlawumbi uziva ulilolo okanye mhlawumbi uyazisola ngokudibana kwakho.

Imiba yomzimba

Kunokuba nzima ukulibala malunga nemicimbi yomzimba onokuba nayo.

Ukuba uziva uneentloni okanye uneentloni malunga nendlela obonakala ngayo, inokubangela iimpawu ze-PCD, ukudana, okanye uxinzelelo.

Uxinzelelo lwangaphambili okanye uxhatshazo

Ukuba ukhe wehlelwa kukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwixa elidlulileyo, oko kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezininzi zokuba sesichengeni, uloyiko kunye nokuba netyala.

U-Lis uthi: "[Abantu] abaye baxhatshazwa ngokwesondo [banokuthi] banxulumane nokwabelana ngesondo kamva-kwanezo zivumayo okanye ezenzeka kubudlelwane obusondeleyo- kunye nentlungu yokuxhatshazwa," utshilo uLis.

Oku kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zentloni, ukuziva unetyala, ukohlwaywa, okanye ukulahleka, kwaye inokuchaphazela indlela oziva ngayo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo- nokuba lixesha elide emva koxinzelelo lokuqala.

Iindlela ezithile zokuchukunyiswa okanye izikhundla zinokubangela, ngakumbi ukuba ufumana iPTSD.

Uxinzelelo okanye olunye uxinzelelo lwengqondo

Ukuba sele uziva uxinezelekile, uxhalabile, okanye ungonwabanga kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, isini sinokubonelela ngesiphazamiso nje sexeshana. Kunzima ukuseta ezo mvakalelo ixesha elide.

Ukuba uhlala noxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, unokuba nakho ukufumana iimpawu zePCD.

Yintoni ofanele uyenze ukuba uziva udandathekile?

Okokuqala, yazi ukuba nantoni na oziva ngayo, akufuneki uzive ngathi kufuneka uzenze ngathi wonwabile kwiqabane lakho okanye ufihle indlela oziva ngayo. Kulungile ukuba uzivumele ufumane usizi.

USher uthi: “Ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo lokuzama ukuphelisa usizi lwenza kube nzima ukuba umntu azive ephilile.

Emva koko, jongisisa ngokwakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uziva ukhuselekile, emzimbeni nasengqondweni.

Ukuba uziva ukhululekile, zama ukuthetha neqabane lakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo. Ukuba uyazi, baxelele ukuba yintoni ekukhathazayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukunika ilizwi ngendlela oziva ngayo kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono kancinci.

Ukuba ungathanda ukuba wedwa, kulungile ke.

Nayi eminye imibuzo efanelekileyo onokuzibuza yona:

• Ngaba ikho into ethile eyenziwa liqabane lam ukuze ibangele iimvakalelo zam zokudakumba?
• Yintoni le ndiziva ndidandathekile ngayo?
• Ngaba ndivuselele isiganeko esibuhlungu okanye esibuhlungu?
• Ngaba oku kwenzeka kakhulu?

"Ukuba oku kuyenzeka ngamanye amaxesha, ungakhathazeki ngayo, kodwa cinga ngento enokwenzeka okanye ekhuliselwa wena ngokweemvakalelo. Ingaluncedo kuwe, ”utshilo uSaltz.

Fikelela kumboneleli wezempilo

Ngelixa ukudakumba emva kwesondo kungaqhelekanga, kuyinto enqabileyo ukuba uzive uxinezelekile emva kwesenzo esiqhelekileyo sesondo.

Isifundo se-2019 sifumanise ukuba iipesenti ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4 zepenisi ezinabantu baziva bedandathekile rhoqo. Kwesinye isifundo, iipesenti ezi-5.1 zabantu abanobuzaza bathi baziva amaxesha ambalwa kwiiveki ezi-4 ezidlulileyo.

Ngokuka-Lis, "ukuba yenzeka rhoqo, akufuneki ihoywe."

Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba uxinzelelo lwakho lwasemva kwesondo luyaphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho, lukwenza woyike okanye uphephe ukusondelelana ngokupheleleyo, okanye ukuba unembali yokuxhatshazwa kwangaphambili.

Ugqirha, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo, okanye omnye ugqirha wezempilo yengqondo uya kuba nakho ukukunceda ubone ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwaye uphonononge iindlela zokhetho kunye nawe.

Yintoni omele uyenze xa iqabane lakho liziva lidandathekile?

Ukuba uqaphela ukuba iqabane lakho liziva lidandathekile emva kwesondo, into yokuqala- kunye neyona ilungileyo onokuyenza kukujonga iimfuno zabo.

Babuze ukuba bafuna ukuthetha ngayo. Ukuba benjenjalo, mamela. Zama ukungagwebi.

Buza ukuba kukho into onokuyenza ukubanceda ubathuthuzele. Abanye abantu bayathanda ukubanjwa xa beziva belusizi. Abanye bafuna nje umntu okufuphi.

Ukuba abafuni ukuthetha ngayo, zama ukungakhubeki. Basenokungakulungeli ukuvula malunga nento ebakhathazayo.

Ukuba bacela indawo, banike - kwaye kwakhona, zama ukuba ungonzakaliswa kukuba abafuni apho.

Ukuba bathi abafuni ukuthetha ngayo okanye bacele indawo, kulungile ukuba babalandele kamva ngala mini okanye nangeentsuku ezimbalwa. Kubalulekile ukuba ubazise ukuba ubakho xa belungile.

Ukuba oku kwenzeka kakhulu, kulungile ukubabuza ukuba ngaba bacinge ngokuthetha nonyango okanye enye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Yiba nokuthantamisa xa ubuza, kwaye uzame ukungacaphuki xa bengayamkeli le ngcamango. Awufuni ukubenza bazive ngathi uthi baphukile okanye bazenze zingasebenzi iimvakalelo zabo.

Ungasoloko ubabuza malunga nokufumana uncedo kwakhona kamva ukuba usakhathazekile.

Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza njengeqabane elixhasayo kukuba ube lapho kubo nangayiphi na indlela abafuna ukuba ube yiyo.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukuziva uxinezelekile emva kwesondo kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba iyenzeka rhoqo, iphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho, okanye ikwenze uphephe isondo kunye nokusondelelana ngokupheleleyo, cinga ngokufikelela kunyangi.

USimone M. Scully ngumbhali othanda ukubhala ngazo zonke izinto zempilo kunye nesayensi. Fumana uSimone kwiwebhusayithi yakhe, kuFacebook nakuTwitter.