Ungayakha njani impilo elungileyo yeemvakalelo

Umxholo

• Ijongeka njani isebenza?
• 1. Ukuqaphela iimvakalelo ezikhathazayo xa zivela
• 2. Ukuzibamba ngokwakho
• 3. Ukufuna ukwazi
• Kutheni le nto ibaluleke kangaka?
• Ndingayiphucula njani impilo yam yeemvakalelo?
• 1. Ziqhelanise nommiselo weemvakalelo
• 2. Ukuzilolonga
• 3. Yomeleza unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni
• 4. Khumbula
• 5. Fumana ukulala okusemgangathweni
• Umgca wezantsi

Kubaqalayo, ayisiyonto ifanayo nempilo yengqondo. Ngelixa la magama mabini esetyenziswa ngokutshintshisanayo, impilo yeemvakalelo "igxile ekuhambisaneni neemvakalelo zethu, ukuba semngciphekweni, kunye nokunyaniseka," utsho ugqirha wezengqondo onelayisensi uJuli Fraga, PsyD.

Ukuba nempilo entle ngokweemvakalelo yinto ebalulekileyo yokukhuthaza ukomelela, ukuzazi, kunye nolwaneliseko ngokubanzi.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukuba sempilweni ngokweemvakalelo akuthethi ukuba uhlala wonwabile okanye ukhululekile kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga. Imalunga nokuba nezakhono kunye nezixhobo zokulawula amahla ndinyuka obomi bemihla ngemihla.

Ijongeka njani isebenza?

Nanku ukukhangela kwimizekelo eqhelekileyo yempilo entle yeemvakalelo kunye nefuthe elinokuba nalo.

1. Ukuqaphela iimvakalelo ezikhathazayo xa zivela

Oku kunceda ukuba unike igama kwaye uzenze ngendlela esempilweni. Umzekelo, unokukhetha ukujongana nemfesane nomntu okucaphukisileyo okanye okucaphukisileyo kunokuba ungxolise. Okanye mhlawumbi ukhetha ukuseta imida esempilweni emsebenzini okanye nabantu obathandayo.

2. Ukuzibamba ngokwakho

Ngokuka-Fraga, oku kuthetha ukuguqula elo lizwi libalulekileyo elingaphakathi lithuba lokuzithanda kunye nemfesane.

Umzekelo, xa ufumanisa ukuba uthethe kakubi, ungabuza:

• "Ukuba umntwana wam, iqabane lam, okanye umhlobo wam osenyongweni ebenokuthetha nam ngoluhlobo, bendinokuphendula ndithini?"
• Yintoni ebangela ukuba kube nzima kum ukuziphatha ngendlela endibaphatha ngayo abanye? ”

3. Ukufuna ukwazi

Impilo yeemvakalelo iyachuma xa unomdla ngeengcinga zakho, indlela oziphethe ngayo, kunye neemvakalelo zakho kwaye kutheni zinokuvela ngamaxesha athile, utsho uFraga.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzibuza, "Kutheni ndisabela ngale ndlela?" okanye "Yintoni le idlulileyo enokuthi ikhokelele ekubeni ndibenempendulo enamandla ku-x, y, no-z?"

Kutheni le nto ibaluleke kangaka?

Ukusebenza kwimpilo yethu yeemvakalelo kubalulekile njengokukhathalela impilo yethu yomzimba.

Kwaye loo msebenzi uhlawula nge:

• Ukomelela koxinzelelo. ibonisa ukuba uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo lukwenza ube sesichengeni sokugula ngokwasemzimbeni ngokuchaphazela amajoni akho omzimba.
• Ubudlelwane obunzulu. Xa uxhotyiswe ngezakhono zokulawula iimvakalelo zakho, kulula kuwe ukunxibelelana nabanye kwaye ubonise uvelwano novelwano ngakumbi. Uyakwazi kangcono ukubamba iingxoxo kwaye uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho.
• Ukuzithemba okuphezulu. Iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo kunye namava akho anefuthe kwindlela oziva ngayo ngawe. Impilo entle yeemvakalelo ikunceda ubone okona kulungileyo kuwe ngaphandle kwemiceli mngeni.
• Amandla amaninzi. Ukuba nembono elungileyo kukwenza uzive unamandla ngakumbi kwaye kukunceda ujolise kwaye ucinge ngakumbi, ngelixa impilo yeemvakalelo engaginyisi mathe izibonelelo zakho zengqondo kwaye ikhokelela ekudinweni.

Ndingayiphucula njani impilo yam yeemvakalelo?

Impilo yeemvakalelo yinkqubo ngakumbi kunenjongo. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba sele usenza ezinye izinto ezikunceda ukomeleza impilo yakho yeemvakalelo.

Njengoko uhamba ngezi ngcebiso, khumbula ukuba impilo yeemvakalelo ayihlali ihlala ikwimeko entle. Imalunga nokuzixhobisa ukujongana nokulungileyo, okubi, nayo yonke into ephakathi.

1. Ziqhelanise nommiselo weemvakalelo

Iimvakalelo ziyakwazi kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ziya kufumana okona kulungileyo kuwe, kodwa ukufunda iindlela zokulwa ukubaphembelela kunokukunceda uphendule endaweni yokuphendula kwiimeko eziphazamisayo, uFraga ucebisa.

Iindlela zokulwa nazo zinokubandakanya:

• ukucamngca
• Ijelo
• Mamela umculo
• ndithetha nonyango

2. Ukuzilolonga

Ukuba uxinezelekile emsebenzini okanye ekhaya, ukwenza imithambo rhoqo kunokuziva kungenakwenzeka. Ukuthatha ixesha lokuzilolonga kunokukondla impilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo kunye nasemzimbeni, utshilo uFraga.

Cwangcisa ukubekela bucala imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku ngolunye uhlobo lomsebenzi womzimba. Ukuba ufutshane ngexesha, fumana iziqendu ezili-10 okanye ezili-15 zemizuzu yokuhamba ngokukhawuleza.

3. Yomeleza unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni

Unxibelelwano lwakho nabanye lunokuba nefuthe elinamandla kwimpilo yakho yeemvakalelo kunye nasemzimbeni. Ukuhlala unxibelelana nabantu obathandayo kunokubonelela ngesikhuseli xa ujongene nemiceli mngeni,

Khuthaza olu nxibelelwano ngokuchitha ixesha nabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nosapho, nokuba kungomntu okanye ngomnxeba.

4. Khumbula

Umzimba ophandayo wophando uqhagamshela ingqondo kunye nokungasebenzi kwakhona ngokweemvakalelo kunye nolwaneliseko olukhulu kulwalamano.

Ukuqiqa kunokuba lula njengokujonga kwinto enye ngexesha, ukuzama i-detox yemidiya yoluntu, okanye ukuguqula imisebenzi yasekhaya kwikhefu lengqondo. Inqaku kukuba uhambelane nokusebenza kwengqondo yakho kwaye uzinikele kwimizuzu nje embalwa kwinto oyithandayo.

5. Fumana ukulala okusemgangathweni

Ukuzincama ngokulala kukwenza ube sengozini yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Olunye uphononongo lwe-2018 lufumanise ukuba ukungalali ngokwaneleyo kukhokelela kwiingcinga eziphindaphindayo ezingalunganga. Ukudinwa ngokugqithiseleyo kunokukwenza usebenze ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuphinda usebenze ngokweemvakalelo kunokuchaphazela imbonakalo yakho, ukusebenza, kunye nobudlelwane.

Qiniseka ukuba uyahambelana nokulala kwakho kunye namaxesha okuvuka kunye nokwenza indawo yokulala yakho ukuze uphumle ngokwaneleyo

Umgca wezantsi

Impilo entle yeemvakalelo ibalulekile kwimpilo yakho iphela. Ukuba uziva ngathi iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zihamba phambili kuwe, ukhathalela iimfuno zakho ezingundoqo-njengokulala kunye nokunxibelelana nabantu obathandayo- kunokunceda.

Ukuba oko akubonakali ngathi kuyenza iqhinga, cinga ngokusebenza nonyango okanye enye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Banokukunceda uchaze ngokucacileyo imiba yempilo yakho yeemvakalelo ofuna ukuyiphucula kwaye ikuncede uze nesicwangciso.