Indlela Ndoyame Ngayo Umthambo Indincede Ndayeka Ukusela Kokulungileyo

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• Ukwayama NgoMthambo Endaweni Yotywala
• Izibonelelo ezi-5 eziPhambili zokukhetha uKwenza uMthambo endaweni yoTywala
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Sekuyiminyaka ndingaseli tywala. Kodwa bendingasoloko malunga nobomi be-mocktail.

Isiselo sam sokuqala-kunye nomnyama olandelayo-wawuneminyaka eli-12 ubudala. Ndaqhubeka ndisela kuso sonke isikolo samabanga aphakamileyo nakwikholeji, nto leyo eyabangela ukuba ndibe nesimilo esizisolayo. Itikiti lokunxila esidlangalaleni (okukhokelela kumhla wenkundla kunye nenkonzo yoluntu) yayilicing nje kwikhekhe. Ndiyaziwa ukuba andizithinti ngaphandle kotywala, ngoko ke ukusela kuqatsele kuyo yonke into kwaye kundenza ndingacingeleki. Yayingenguye lo ayikwazanga ukuyeka ukusela, kukuba zonke iinzame zazizezokwexeshana. Ndabucoca utywala bam xa ndandiqeqeshelwa imidyarho, ngeentsuku ezingama-40 zeLente, neyokucocwa kukaJanuwari. Ingxaki kuxa ndigqiba kusela, andikwazi ukuyeka. (Idibeneyo: Ngakanani Utywala obunokuyisela ngaphambi kokuba iqale ukuMelana noKomelela kwakho?)

Ndaye ndaya kumhlangano wam wokuqala wamanqanaba ali-12 nge-22 kodwa ndaziva ukuba andinakudibana. Ukusela kwam kwakungekho "kubi kangako." Ndonwaba kakhulu xa ndisela-isiqephu esinye esibi kuzo zonke ezintlanu zolonwabo sasifanelekile kum. Bendi sebenza ephezulu, ndiphumelele kwaye ndikrelekrele. Ndenze izifundo zam kwizidanga. Ndacinga ukuba ndingacinga indlela yam yokuphuma kuyo ngefomula efanelekileyo.

Ukwayama NgoMthambo Endaweni Yotywala

Ukwenza umthambo bekusoloko kunempembelelo entle ebomini bam. Imidlalo ibonelela ngokuziphatha, ukuzibophelela, kunye nokugxila. Ndabaleka i-marathon yam yokuqala kwi-20 kwaye umzimba wam wawuziva uphilile kwaye womelele. Ubuntu bam bokulutha bukhatywa kwaye olunye ugqatso belungonelanga. Ndifuna ukubaleka ngokukhawuleza nangakumbi. Ndaqhubeka nokukhuphisana nam ndaza ndakufanelekela ugqatso lweBoston Marathon (ndichama ibhulukhwe yam ukuze ndichebe umzuzwana ngamnye wokugqibela). Ndade ndikhuphisana nee-triathlons, iHalf Ironwoman, kunye nokukhwela ibhayisekile ngenkulungwane.

Yeyiphi indlela eqinisekileyo yokuziqinisekisa ukuba awunayo ingxaki yokusela? Ukuvuka nge-5 kusasa yonke iMigqibelo yoqeqesho lokubaleka. Ukuvelisa kunye nokufezekisa kwandinika ipasile yasimahla yokuzivuza kunye nokubhiyozela ngeeyure zakusasa. Ndizamile ukulawula kwaye ndilawula ukusela kwam nge-motto "sebenza nzima, dlala nzima", kodwa emva koko kwafika abantwana bam bokuqala be-30 kunye nabantwana abane abancinci. Umyeni wam wayedla ngokusebenza ebusuku, nto leyo eyayindishiya ndihamba ndedwa kunye nabantwana. Ndiza kuhleka nabanye abahlobo bam abangomama malunga nokusela ibhotile yewayini ukumelana noxinzelelo. Into ebendingabelani ngayo kukuba bendizicaphukela ukuba ndingubani xa ndisela. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo andizange ndibaxelele malunga nokucima umbane kunye nokukhathazeka okukhulu okuza nako. (Eyeleleneyo: Ziziphi iiNzuzo zokungaseli utywala?)

Ukukhululeka kwam kwafika xa umhlobo wam wacebisa ukuba ndiye kwintlanganiso yamabhinqa ane-12. Njengengcali yokuziphatha kwengqondo, ndakhawuleza ndaqonda ukuba kufuneka ndiyenze. Ngoko xa ndemkayo kwiintlanganiso ngaloo mini, ndenza ucwangciso lweyure neyure. Ukuzilolonga endaweni yotywala kwakuyeyona nto iphambili kum, kodwa ndandikulumkele ukwenza umthambo wokunciphisa uxinezeleko.

Ndiye ndarhoxisa ubulungu bam beCrossFit ndaza ndabuyela kwiziseko. Ndandinebhayisekile kwigaraji yam ukusukela kwiminyaka eyi-10 ndifundisa iiklasi ze-Spin, ke ndenza uluhlu lokudlala nge-P! Nk kunye noFlorence kunye noMatshini, ndanxiba izihlangu zam, ndashukuma nomculo, ndacula kakhulu ndandiva ukuva ukungcangcazela ngaphakathi emphefumlweni wam. Ndalila, ndabila, ndaza ndaziva ndinamandla okuqhubeka. Ndiye ndaqala nokuya kwiiseshoni zeBikram yoga amatyeli ambalwa ngeveki. Ndivale amehlo kum ndime phambi kwesipili ndihamba nge pozi. Emva kweenyanga zokuchacha, ndaqalisa ukuzithanda kwakhona. Ukucoca, ukucamngca, kwaye yayikukusetha ngokutsha endikudingayo. (Kwaye andindedwa - bayanda abantu abenza ubukrelekrele kwaye, njengam, bayame kwimithambo endaweni yotywala.)

Izibonelelo ezi-5 eziPhambili zokukhetha uKwenza uMthambo endaweni yoTywala

Ukugxila kwimithambo endaweni yotywala kunye nokuphila ubomi bam umzuzu omnye sesona sigqibo sihle endakha ndasenza. (Phezulu ngokulandelayo: Into ekufuneka ifunyenwe ngabafazi abaselula malunga notywala) Ukufumana ulawulo lobomi bam yayiyeyona mpumelelo inkulu, kodwa ndabona iqela lezinto ezimangalisayo xa ndandihamba ndingajonganga-tywala.

• Ukucaca: Inkungu iphelile. Ndiphumle ngakumbi, ndikhululekile, kwaye ndomelele ekwenzeni kwam izigqibo. Ndicela uncedo kwaye ndifuna ukhokelo. Ndaqonda ukuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndenze yonke into ndedwa.
• Ukulala okungcono: Intloko yam ibetha umqamelo ngoko nangoko ndilele. Ndiziva ndiphumle kwaye ndinomdla wokuqalisa usuku olulandelayo kwangethuba. Xa bendisela, bendisoloko ndilala ebusuku ndiphosa kwaye ndijika ndizihlupha ngokungapheliyo. Ndavuka ndisoyika, ndinentloko ebuhlungu kwaye ndisoyika. Ngoku ndilayita ikhandlela, ndibale uluhlu lwam lombulelo, kwaye ndibone ukuphuma kwelanga xa ndisiya emsebenzini ngentsasa elandelayo. (BTW, nantsi isizathu sokuba uhlala uvuka kwangoko emva kokusela ebusuku.)
• Isimo esingaguquguqukiyo: Utywala bungaziva ngathi buyabukhuthaza kwiidosi ezincinci, kodwa isiselo esinye sisela kakhulu kwaye ngokukhawuleza kuyacaca ukuba siyadakumba. Umoya wam ngoku uhambelana ngakumbi kwaye unokuxelwa kwangaphambili.
• Ubudlelwane obuqaphela ngakumbi: Ngokuqinisekileyo, kusekho amaxesha obunzima kubudlelwane bam nosapho lwam kunye nabahlobo, kodwa umahluko ngoku kukuba ndikhona ngokupheleleyo kubo. Ngenxa yoko, ngoku ndizama ukungathethi izinto endizisolayo ngazo. Xa ndityibilika, ndiye ndicele uxolo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ndizame ukwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo. (Idibeneyo: 5 Izinto endizifundileyo malunga nokuDibana kunye nobuhlobo xa ndayeka utywala)
• Isondlo esingcono: Ndiyekile ukwenza ukhetho lokutya okungalunganga ebusuku kakhulu kwaye ndiye ndaqonda ngakumbi ngamaxesha okutya rhoqo kwaye ndonwabela amashwamshwam asempilweni. Kuyavunywa ukuba, ndaye ndaba nenyongo enkulu. (Mhlawumbi yingqondo yam ekhangela ezinye iindlela zokunyusa inqanaba le-serotonin?)

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