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Omnye umntu wakhe wathi, "Ukuba ubeka nje abantu ukuba bashukume, baya kuziphilisa." Ndithengisiwe, ndedwa. Kwiminyaka emine edlulileyo umama wamshiya utata. Ndiphendule njani, umntu ongaboniyo kwaye onentliziyo eyaphukileyo oneminyaka eyi-25? Ndabaleka. Kwisithuba seenyanga ezintandathu ezilandela intlanganiso yosapho eyayintywizisa iinyembezi apho umama wam wenza isibhengezo esothusayo-“Ndikhethe ukuwuphelisa umtshato wethu”-ndenze imikhondo enzulu.

Iindlela zam eziziikhilomitha ezintathu kwipaki ekufutshane nekhaya lethu eSeattle zisebenza njengonyango. Imvakalelo yeekhemikhali zengqondo ezilungileyo kunye nokuhamba nobukrelekrele obuziswa kukubaleka kwandivumela ukuba ndigqithise usizi lokwahlukana kwabazali bam, ukuba sisiqingatha seyure okanye kunjalo.

Kodwa ndandingasoloko ndindedwa. Utata kunye nam kwakukudala sihamba nabahlobo, sixhasana ngokuziphatha njengoko sasiziqeqeshela olu gqatso okanye olo. NgeeCawe besidibana kwindlela edumileyo, sifake iipokotho zethu ngebhanana uGu, kwaye siphumle nje sibe kamnandi ngaphandle nangasemva.

Kungekudala emva kwe-D-Day iincoko zethu zaguqukela kubuntu. "Heyi, khawucinge ukuba ndifumene ntoni ngelixa bendihamba ngeebhokisi ezindala phezolo?" Ndibuze, iingalo zam zijinga ngokukhululekileyo emacaleni am. "Ezo zomoya zerhawutini zivela kweso sitrato sasePort Angeles. Ndineminyaka emingaphi ngoko, ngathi, 6?"

"Izandi zilungile," uphendule watsho, ehleka kwaye ewela kwinyathelo elisecaleni kwam.

"Ndiyakhumbula ukuba uMama wayendinxibise iimpahla ezimnyama ezinemigca yokutsiba," ndatsho. "UKevin mhlawumbi wayephosa i-tantrum, uneenwele ezininzi ..." Emva koko iinyembezi zaqala ukugeleza: Ngaba ndiza kukwazi njani ukucinga ngabazali bam njengento engeyiyo iyunithi, iqela?

Wandiyeka ndalila, ngalo lonke ixesha. Njengoko sasihamba ngokuvumelanisa, sitshintshiselana ngeyona nkumbulo imnandi (uhambo lokumisa inkampu eBritish Columbia, ukufudumeza umdlalo we-badminton kwiyadi yakudala), besibhiyoza, siqinisekisa amandla-amashumi eminyaka yosapho lwethu oluncinci. Utshintsho-utshintsho olukhulu-lwalusenzeka, kodwa amaphepha oqhawulo-mtshato ambalwa awasokuze asiphange imbali yethu ekwabelwana ngayo.

Asikwazanga ukuqhagamshela ngale ndlela ngaphezulu kwekofu. Iimvakalelo ezeza ngokulula phakathi ("Ndicela uxolo ukuba wonzakele") zahlala emqaleni wam njengoko sasihleli ubuso ngobuso kwindawo edibeneyo ye-java, kwindawo yentselo, okanye kwisihlalo esingaphambili seDodge katata. Zivakala zimbi kwaye zitshisa ziphuma emlonyeni wam.

Ngaphandle kwekhowudi yam ye-zip (ndemka eSeattle ndaya kwisiXeko saseNew York kunyaka ophelileyo), akukho nto ingako itshintshileyo ukusukela ngoko. Nangona mna noTata sithetha rhoqo emnxebeni, ndiye ndaphawula ukuba "sigcina" iincoko ezibuthathaka-kutsha nje malunga namahla ndinyuka okuthandana-amaxesha apho ndisekhaya ndindwendwele. Nje ukuba sihlangane kwakhona kwindlela, amalungu akhululeke, iintliziyo zivulekile, kwaye imiqobo ishiye uthuli lwethu.

Ukuba ukubaleka kwe-solo kundivumela ukuba ndikhuphe kuxinzelelo, ukubaleka ngePops kuqinisekisa ukuba ndisebenza kuzo zonke iisilinda, ndizisa ilizwi kuluhlu oluphilileyo lweemvakalelo: usizi, uthando, inkxalabo. Emva koqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali bam, ndakwazi ukujamelana nokukhathazeka kwam ndaza ekugqibeleni ndasamkela isigqibo sikamama. Ifomati yonyango lwentetho kayise intombi yejaunts yaba, kwaye iyaqhubeka, isicwangciso esiphambili sokuzulazula kumhlaba onzima-thabatha i-co-pays yonyango.

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