Yonke into Okufanele Uyazi Ngokubophelela Ubumanzi

Umxholo

• Yintoni?
• Ngaba ikhuselekile?
• Kutheni abantu besenza njalo?
• Ngaba ngokwenene kukho inkalo yeemvakalelo?
• Loluphi ulwelo ekubhekiswa kulo?
• Loluphi uhlobo lwesondo oku kusebenza kulo?
• Ngaba lonke ulwabelwano ngesondo olungakhuselekanga "lubopha ulwelo"?
• Oku kusebenza njani kwizibini ezitshatileyo?
• Isebenza njani le nto kwi-solo polyamory okanye kwi-nonmonogamous ubudlelwane?
• Uluhamba njani uvavanyo lwe-STI kunye nomngcipheko wonke?
• Uluhamba njani uvavanyo lokukhulelwa kunye nomngcipheko wonke?
• Yintoni omele uyiqwalasele ngaphambi kokuba uzame?
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni?

Ukubophelela ulwelo kubhekisa kwisigqibo sokuyeka ukusebenzisa ukhuselo lomqobo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kwaye utshintshise ulwelo lomzimba kunye neqabane lakho.

Ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo okukhuselekileyo, ezinye iindlela zokuthintela, ezinjengekhondom okanye idama lamazinyo, linciphise ithuba lokuba wena neqabane lakho nizokwabelana ngamanzi. Oku kubandakanya isidoda, amathe, igazi, kunye ne-ejaculate.

Ukuba uyakuphepha ukwaba ulwelo, uwunciphisa umngcipheko wezifo ezosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukukhulelwa.

Ngenxa yomngcipheko obandakanyekayo, ukubopha ulwelo kuyinjongo ngakumbi kunokhetho kwi-whim lokutsiba ikhondom okanye ulinde idama lamazinyo.

Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukubopha ulwelo lukhetho olufanelekileyo kuwe nakwiqabane lakho.

Ngaba ikhuselekile?

Yonke imisebenzi yesondo iza neengozi. Kuyinyani oko nokuba uyathandana, usebenzisa ukhuseleko kuthintelo, okanye kulawulo lokuzalwa.

Ngokudibanisa ulwelo, usengayifumana i-STI. Kwaye ukuba uye waba neentlobano zesini lobudoda, ukukhulelwa kusenokwenzeka.

Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokudibana kunye neqabane, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukunciphisa ezinye zeengozi:

Nyaniseka. Musa ukuzibamba iinkcukacha zembali yakho yezesondo, zombini ezidlulileyo nezangoku. Ngale ndlela, unokwenza ukhetho olulungele ubudlelwane bakho.

Vavanywa. Ukuba awuyazi imeko yakho yangoku, hlolwa. Uvavanyo olusisiseko alunakuvavanya zonke ii-STIs, ke thetha nogqirha malunga nembali yakho yesondo. Oku kuqinisekisa ukuba umboneleli wakho ukhetha ukhetho olufanelekileyo lokujonga. Umzekelo, umqala swabs unokuba yimfuneko ukuba wenze isondo ngomlomo.

Sebenzisa ukhuseleko lwesithintelo olukhethiweyo. Ezinye ii-STIs azabelwanga ngokulula ngokudibana okungamanzi. Intsholongwane kaGawulayo, umzekelo, ayidluliswanga ngokwanga, kodwa ipapillomavirus yomntu (HPV) kunye ne-herpes simplex virus (HSV) zinokudluliselwa ngokudibana kolusu nolusu.

Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho ngaphambili kuvavanyiwe ukuba ninesifo esingumvuka wokwabelana ngesondo, funda ukuba idluliselwa njani kwaye usebenzise iindlela zokuthintela kwimisetyenzana apho ukubambezeleka kunokwenzeka khona.

Khetha uhlobo olutsha lokuthintela ukukhulelwa. Ukuba uyeka ukusebenzisa isithintelo sokuthintela ukukhulelwa, kuya kufuneka ufumane enye indlela. Ukulawulwa kokuzalwa kwehomoni, njengepilisi okanye i-IUD, kunokuba luncedo.

Kutheni abantu besenza njalo?

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukwabelana ngesondo ngaphandle kwendlela yokuthintela kuyonwabisa ngakumbi, kodwa bagcina isondo esingakhuselekanga kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo okanye obubodwa.

Kubo, ukhetho kwi-bond fluid lunokuba luphawu lokuba bayazithemba kwicala lolwalamano kwaye bafuna izinto zisondele.

Kwabanye, ukubopha okungamanzi kunokubamba kungabinantsingiselo ikhethekileyo yeemvakalelo. Isenokuba yindlela yokuyeka ukusebenzisa iindlela zokuthintela ubudlelwane kodwa wenze njalo ngendlela ecingisisiweyo kunye nenjongo.

Ngaba ngokwenene kukho inkalo yeemvakalelo?

Kwezinye izibini ezitshatileyo, ukhetho lokuba ngumdibaniso wamanzi sisenzo sokuthembana.

Ingabonisa omnye komnye ukuba uzimisele kwaye uhamba ngendlela efanayo kunye.

Oku kunokuthi, kwabanye abantu, kukhokelele kwimvakalelo enkulu yokusondelelana kunye nemvakalelo yokunxibelelana okunzulu komzimba.

Kwelinye icala, ukhetho lokuba ne-bond yolwelo lunokuzalwa nje ngokuqonda ukuba umntu ngamnye uvavanyelwe ii-STIs kwaye uyayazi imeko yabo.

Ngale ndlela, unokuzibandakanya kwisini esingakhuselekanga ngaphandle kokukhathazeka.

Loluphi ulwelo ekubhekiswa kulo?

Ukuzibophelela kolwelo kudla ngokubhekisa nakweyiphi na into efihlakeleyo okanye ulwelo oluveliswa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, nokuba ngumlomo, anal, okanye ubufazi.

Olu lwelo lunokubandakanya ukuphuma kwamanzi, ubufazi belungu lobufazi, incindi yobudoda, kunye nokufihla ezimpundu.

Kodwa olunye ulwelo lunokutshintshana ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kubandakanya amathe kunye negazi.

I-Urine ngokuqhelekileyo ayithathwa njengenxalenye yokubambisana kwamanzi. Iishawari zegolide ziyinkcubeko yesondo eyaziwayo, kodwa isigqibo sokwenza lo mthetho asithathwa njengenxalenye yokhetho olunamanzi.

Loluphi uhlobo lwesondo oku kusebenza kulo?

Phantse naluphi na uhlobo lokudibana ngesondo kunokukhokelela kusasazeko lwe-STI.

Oko kuthetha ukuba ukubopha okumanzi kufanele kuthathelwe ingqalelo kuhlobo ngalunye, nokuba kungomlomo, i-anal, i-PIV (ipeni kwilungu lobufazi), okanye nokuthinta ngokwasemzimbeni.

Unako kwakhona ukuhambisa izifo ezingumvuka wokwabelana ngesondo ngokuhlanganyela into yokudlala yokwabelana ngesondo enomphandle womhlaba kwaye engacocwanga ngokulula.

Uninzi lwezinto zokudlala zokwabelana ngesondo zenziwe ngeendawo ezomeleleyo ezingezizo ezokukhusela wena kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa ezinye zinokuhambisa intsholongwane okanye ibhaktiriya iiyure kunye neentsuku.

Ukubophelela ulwelo kunokuba lukhetho lokuyeka ukusebenzisa iindlela zokuthintela kwezi zinto zokudlala.

Ngaba lonke ulwabelwano ngesondo olungakhuselekanga "lubopha ulwelo"?

Hayi, ayizizo zonke iintlobano zesini ezingakhuselekanga ezibopha ulwelo.

Isigqibo sokudityaniswa kwebhondi ngamabomu, kwaye sifuna imvume yabo bonke abantu ababandakanyekayo.

Ngaphandle kokuba le ncoko ibikhe yabakho, ukudibana ngexesha elinye ngaphandle kwekhondom kuhlala kungathathelwa ngqalelo njengamanzi.

Ewe, ngobuchwephesha wenza isibophelelo samanzi - isondo esingakhuselekanga sikutyhila kulwelo lomlingane wakho - kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba yayingeyonxalenye yencoko evulekileyo, ethembekileyo malunga nempilo yakho yesondo kunye nokukhetha.

Oku kusebenza njani kwizibini ezitshatileyo?

Iinyanga zokuqala zobudlelwane zihlala zihlala zingaqhelekanga kwaye kumnandi njengoko nobabini nisazana.

Ukwabelana ngesondo okwangoku kubandakanya iindlela zokuthintela. Oku kukhusela kwezi zinto zibini zixhalabisayo- ii-STIs kunye nokukhulelwa.

Emva kwexesha, nobabini unokufuna ukuyeka ukusebenzisa indlela yothintelo. Okwangoku, unokuxoxa ukuba ungathanda na ukubopha ulwelo.

Njengenxalenye yale ngxoxo, kuya kufuneka uthethe ngesimo sakho se-STI kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kuvavanywa wedwa okanye kunye.

Iziphumo zovavanyo zisesandleni, ungagqiba ukuba ukulungele na ukuthobela imigaqo yindoda enye ukukhuselana ngokuchasene ne-STIs ezinokubakho.

Isebenza njani le nto kwi-solo polyamory okanye kwi-nonmonogamous ubudlelwane?

Ukukhethwa kwabantu ababini abalele nabanye abantu ukuba babe sisibini esidityaniswe lulwelo lukhetho oludlakadlaka kwiqela le-polyamorous.

Ngamanye amagama, olu khetho aluchaphazeli nina nobabini ninodwa.

Nokuba ucinga ukudibana nomntu obukhe wanobudlelwane naye ixesha elide, ukutshintshiselana ngeencindi kwandisa umngcipheko kwabanye kwiqela.

Kuya kufuneka ube nemvume yakhe wonke umntu kwisangqa sakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze ubudlelwane obumanzi neqabane.

Uluhamba njani uvavanyo lwe-STI kunye nomngcipheko wonke?

Ubumbano lwe-Fluid lwakhiwe kwinkqubo yokuthembela: ukuthembela ukuba uvavanyiwe kwaye uyakugcina ukuvavanywa kwe-STI rhoqo, kwaye uyathemba ukuba awuyi kuphuma ngaphandle kweqhina lobudlelwane kwaye ubeke amaqabane akho emngciphekweni.

Ukuba awuzange uvavanywe, sukuyonwabisa imbono yokubopha ulwelo de ube wena neqabane lakho nibe novavanyo olubanzi lwe-STI.

Kangangoko unokuhendeka ukuba uthembe iqabane lakho, sukuthatha ilizwi labo ngalo. Cela ukuvavanywa kunye, okanye cela ukubona iziphumo zovavanyo lwabo lwamva nje.

Kuya kufuneka uvavanywe rhoqo emva kokuba udibene nolwelo.

Rhoqo kwiinyanga ezintandathu kufanelekile, kodwa kube kanye ngonyaka kunokwanela. Ugqirha wakho unokukunceda ufumane ixesha elifanelekileyo lakho.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ayizizo zonke i-STI eziza kubonakala kwangoko emva kokuvezwa. Ezinye ii-STIs azivelisi neempawu.

Ngeso sizathu, kuya kufuneka ulinde iiveki ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu kuvavanyo lwe-STI. Abanye, njengegcushuwa, abanakho ukubonisa isiphumo esihle ubuncinci kwiiveki ezintandathu emva kokubhencwa okunokubakho.

Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka kwenziwe uvavanyo rhoqo.

Ukuba ufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo, thetha nogqirha wakho malunga namanyathelo alandelayo.

Emva koko, thetha neqabane lakho kwangoko. Esi siphumo sitsha sinokutshintsha ukubopha okungamanzi.

Uluhamba njani uvavanyo lokukhulelwa kunye nomngcipheko wonke?

Ii-STI ayingomngcipheko kuphela onxulunyaniswa nokudibana kolwelo. Ukuba unesondo lobudoda lobudoda, ukukhulelwa kunokwenzeka.

Indlela yokuthintela, efana nekhondom yangaphakathi okanye yangaphandle, inokuthintela ukukhulelwa kwexesha.

Ukungasebenzisi indlela yothintelo okanye olunye uhlobo lolawulo lokuzalwa kukonyusa kakhulu umngcipheko.

Ukuba ukukhulelwa yinto othanda ukuyiphepha, kuyakufuneka uqwalasele enye indlela yokuthintela ukukhulelwa.

Kuya kufuneka usebenzise eli thuba ukuthetha ngento oza kuyenza xa unokukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga.

Umzekelo, ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho ninokukhulelwa, ngaba niza kugcina ukukhulelwa okanye niyeke?

Kungcono ukuba ube kwiphepha elifanayo ngaphambi kokuba ungene kwesi sigaba sobudlelwane bakho.

Yintoni omele uyiqwalasele ngaphambi kokuba uzame?

Ngaphambi kokuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nenze ukhetho lokudibana kunye nolwelo, buza le mibuzo:

• Ngubani ofuna ukuvuma kolu khetho? Kubudlelwane bomntu omnye, impendulo icacile. Kwi-polyamorous one, kusenokufuneka ucinge ngabanye kunye neemvakalelo zabo malunga nokudibana okungamanzi.
• Uza kuvavanya kangaphi? Ukuvavanywa kwe-STI rhoqo kubalulekile, nakubudlelwane bomntu omnye. Beka imigaqo yomhlaba phambi kokubopha.
• Iphela nini i-bond bond? Xa sele umanzi ubotshiwe, akusoloko kubotshwa ulwelo. Ngaba ukungathembeki okanye ukwaziswa kweqabane elitsha kunokukwenza ufune ukuphelisa ubudlelwane? Unganqwenela ukuseka ukuba nobabini niya kufuna ukusebenzisa iindlela zokuthintela kwakhona.
• Kuthekani ngokuthintela inzala? Ukuba ukukhulelwa kukuxhalabisa, qaphela indlela oya kuyithintela ngayo ngaphandle kwendlela yokuthintela. Xoxa nokuba kwenzeka ntoni xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhulelwe ungacwangciswanga.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukubopha ulwelo kusoloko kusetyenziswa njengendlela yokusondelelana, xa kufanelekile ukuba ibeyinto eyodwa yokwandisa ulwalamano kunye nokuthembana.

Ungavumeli ukhetho lokuba lube lulwelo olunamathelayo lube lulo olokugqibela ngalo mbandela.

Gcina unxibelelwano luvulekile, kwaye ukulungele ukuphinda ujonge imida yakho njengoko ubudlelwane bakho butshintsha kunye nexesha.

Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho nigqibe ekubeni ukubopha ulwelo akusafaneleki, kubalulekile ukuba ukhetho luhlonitshwe. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukusondelelana kufuna intlonipho, ukuthembana kunye nokunyaniseka.