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Umxholo

• 1. Ziqonde iimpawu zakho ukuba ziyintoni na
• 2. Yenza abahlobo ngoloyiko lwakho
• 3. Phinda uqhagamshele kunye nomzimba wakho
• 4. Yiba nemantra, kwaye uyisebenzise yonke imihla
• 5. Funda indlela yokungenelela nawe
• 6. Yenza iqela lenkxaso
• Ukuhamba okuNengqondo: I-15 yemizuzu yokuhamba kweYoga yoxinzelelo

Ukuba ujonge phezulu "ngaphezulu kwesigcini" kwisichazi magama, ungafumana umfanekiso wam apho inkcazo kufuneka ibe khona. Ndikhulele kwihlomela-dolophu laseWashington, D.C., kwaye ndiyimveliso yesantya sayo, phantse isantya sokuwoyika. Ndaya kwikholeji ekumgangatho ophezulu ndaza ndaphumelela iPhi Beta Kappa, magna cum laude.

Kwaye, kuyo yonke iminyaka yam yokusebenza, ndibalasele kuwo wonke umsebenzi endiye ndawubamba. Ndandidla ngokufika kuqala ndize ndigqibele ukuphuma eofisini. Uluhlu lwezinto endizenzayo zezona zilungelelaniswe (kunye nolona khowudi lunemibala). Ndingumdlali weqela, isithethi esidlangalaleni esidlangalaleni, kwaye ndiyazi nje ukuba mandithini okanye ndenzeni ukukholisa abantu abandingqongileyo.

Izandi zigqibelele, akunjalo?

Ngaphandle kweepesenti ezingama-99,9 zabalingane bam kunye nabaphathi babengazi ukuba ndihlala kunye noxinzelelo ngokubanzi. Ixhala lichaphazela malunga neepesenti ezili-19 zabantu abadala eUnited States minyaka le. Ngelixa abanye bekhenkceziswe luxinzelelo, ndiqhutywa sisigidi ngeyure. Uphawu lwam oluthile loxinzelelo "lusebenza kakhulu," oko kuthetha ukuba iimpawu zam zigutyungelwe kukugqithisa, ukugqithisa, kunye nokusebenza kakhulu.

Kangangexesha elide, bendingayiqondi into yokuba ukusebenza nzima nokukhathalela kangaka kundidinisile. Babonakala ngathi baneempawu ezintle, ingezizo iimpawu zokuphazamiseka, yiyo loo nto yenza ukuba kube nzima ukuzibona.

"Hayi
Nokuba ndisebenze nzima kangakanani okanye indlela endizingcayo ngayo ngempumelelo yam, ixhala
inxalenye ethile yengqondo yam ibindijonga, indigxeke ize indikhusele. ”

Kodwa ngoxinzelelo olusebenzayo oluphezulu, akukho mpu melelo eyoneleyo yokuthula uloyiko. Emva kwayo yonke intetho egqibeleleyo kunye neprojekthi engenasiphoso yayiyintaba yexhala. Ndandihlutshwa kukuziva ndingenzanga ngokwaneleyo, okanye ndingakhange ndiyenze ngokukhawuleza ngokwaneleyo, okanye ndingakhange ndiyenze ngokwaneleyo. Ndaphila ngokuvunywa ngabanye kwaye ndachitha iiyure ezininzi ndizama ukwenza kumgangatho ongenakwenzeka owawukwenzile ixhala lam. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndisebenze nzima kangakanani okanye ndizingca kangakanani ngempumelelo yam, icandelo elixhalabileyo lobuchopho beliza kundijonga, ligxeke, lize lindiphathe.

Kwaye, okona kubi kakhulu, ndasokola ndithe cwaka. Khange ndibaxelele abantu endisebenza nabo okanye abaphathi. Uloyiko lwam lomgwebo kunye nokungaqondani kwakukhulu kakhulu. Ekuphela kwendlela endandisazi ngayo ukujongana neempawu zam yayikukuzama kancinci kwaye ndingaze ndicothe.

Ixhala lalikwisihlalo somqhubi kwiminyaka eli-10 yokuqala yomsebenzi wam, ndithatha uhambo oloyikisayo nolungayekeleliyo kwiindawo eziphakamileyo nangaphezulu nangakumbi… Uloliwe wasuka kuloliwe kwiminyaka embalwa eyadlulayo xa ndazibona ndisihla ingxaki yezempilo yengqondo.

Ndiyabulela kunyango, amayeza, kunye nomsebenzi omkhulu onzima, ndiye ndamkela kwaye ndinobunyani bokuba ndihlala noxinzelelo olusebenzayo. Namhlanje ndiyaziqonda iindlela zam zokucinga kunye nokuziphatha kwaye ndisebenzisa izakhono zokungenelela xa ndiziva ndingena kwi-vortex yoxinzelelo.

Ezi zinto zintandathu zilandelayo zilandelwa ngamava am aphilayo.

1. Ziqonde iimpawu zakho ukuba ziyintoni na

“Ingqondo
Izigulo ziyinxalenye yendalo, kwaye ndizama ukukhumbula ukucinga ngexhala lam
njengoko bendiya kwenza nayiphi na imeko yomzimba. Oku kuyandinceda ndiyeke ukukhathazeka
malunga nendlela endiziva ngayo ngokupasa. ”

Ngaba uyazazi iimpawu zoxinzelelo oluphezulu? Ukuba awukwenzi oko, yazi. Ukuba uyakwenza oko, qonda kwaye uyivume indlela ekuchaphazela ngayo. Ixhala likhaba ubuchopho bethu kuvavanyo olugqithisileyo. “Kutheni, kutheni, kutheni ndiziva ndinje?” Ngamanye amaxesha, kubakho impendulo elula: "Kuba sinexhala." Ukukhanya ngaphezulu kwesigqibo esilula, ukulungiselela iintlanganiso ngaphezulu, okanye ukuthanda kakhulu incoko kuhlala kungathethi nto ngaphezu kokuba ixhala lam lisebenza.

Izigulo zengqondo ziyinxalenye yendalo, kwaye ndizama ukukhumbula ukucinga ngoxinzelelo lwam njengoko bendiya kwenza nayiphi na imeko yomzimba. Oku kundinceda ukuba ndinqumle ixhala lam malunga nendlela endiziva ngayo xa ndipasa. Ndizixelela, "Ndinexhala kwaye kulungile." Ndiyayamkela into yokuba namhlanje kunzima kakhulu kwaye ndigxile kumandla am kwindlela endinokuzinceda ngayo.

2. Yenza abahlobo ngoloyiko lwakho

Ukuba unexhala, uloyiko ngumhlobo wakho. Usenokungayithandi, kodwa yinxalenye yobomi bakho. Kwaye ikhuthaza kakhulu into oyenzayo. Ngaba ukhe wema wajonga imeko yoloyiko lwakho? Ngaba uyixhume kwakhona kumava adlulileyo anokukuxelela ukuba awunangqondo okanye uphumelele ngokwaneleyo? Kutheni le nto ujolise kakhulu ekwamkelweni ngabanye?

Kumava am, ixhala alinakungahoywa okanye uzenze ngathi ukude. Ndincedwe ngugqirha, ndayeka ukujonga uloyiko lwam ebusweni. Endaweni yokuyondla ngexhala elingaphezulu, ndiye ndasebenza ukuqonda apho ivela khona.

Umzekelo, ndiyabona ukuba uloyiko lwam alukho kangako malunga nokuba nenkcazo ye-stellar njengoko imalunga nesidingo sam sokuthandwa nokwamkelwa. Olu lwazi luye lwasusa amanye amandla kuwo.

Nje ukuba ndiqale ukuyiqonda, uloyiko lwam lwaba lukhulu kakhulu, kwaye ndakwazi ukwenza unxibelelwano olubalulekileyo phakathi kwesiseko soloyiko lwam kunye nendlela endandiziphatha ngayo emsebenzini.

3. Phinda uqhagamshele kunye nomzimba wakho

"Ndiyathatha
uhamba phandle, ngamanye amaxesha ngexesha lekhefu lam. Ndiyazilolonga. Ndenza iyoga. Kwaye nini
Ndiziva ndixakekile okanye ndothukile… ndiyazenza ezi zinto phofu. Kuba ndiyayidinga
nokuba yeyimizuzu nje eli-10 okanye eli-15 ”

Ixhala lisemzimbeni nje ngokuba lisengqondweni. Abantu abanoxinzelelo oluphezulu basebenza bahlala kwiintloko zabo kwaye bakufumanisa kunzima ukwaphula umjikelo wokucinga oboyikisayo kunye neemvakalelo. Bendihlala ndichitha iiyure ezili-10 ukuya kwezili-12 eofisini yonke imihla, kwaye ndingaze ndenze mithambo. Ndaziva ndinamathele, emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Icandelo elibalulekileyo lendlela endijongana ngayo neempawu zam namhlanje kukunxibelelana kwakhona nomzimba wam.

Ndisebenzisa ukuphefumla okunzulu yonke imihla, yonke imihla. Nokuba ndikhona entlanganisweni, kwikhompyuter yam, okanye ndikhwele ekhaya ndigcwele ukugcwala, ndinokuthatha kancinci, ndiphefumle kakhulu ukuhambisa ioksijini engaphezulu, ndiphumze izihlunu, kwaye ndinciphise uxinzelelo lwegazi. Ndizolula edesikeni yam. Ndithatha uhambo ngaphandle, ngamanye amaxesha ngexesha lesidlo sasemini. Ndiyazilolonga. Ndenza iyoga.

Kwaye xa ndiziva ndixakeke kakhulu okanye ndothuke kakhulu… ndiyazenza ezi zinto phofu. Kuba ndiyazidinga, nokuba yeyimizuzu nje eli-10 okanye eli-15. Ukuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nomzimba wam kuyandikhupha entlokweni yam kunye namajelo amandla am oovalo kwicala elilungileyo.

4. Yiba nemantra, kwaye uyisebenzise yonke imihla

Ndifunde indlela yokuthetha ndisoyika. Xa elo lizwi lingenakuncinci ngaphakathi liqala ukundixelela ukuba andonelanga okanye ukuba ndifuna ukuzityhala ngakumbi, ndivelise amabinzana ambalwa ukubuyela kuwo:

"Ndingubani ngoku ndilunge ngokwaneleyo."

“Ndenza konke okusemandleni.”

"Andifezekanga kwaye ndiyazithanda ngenxa yento endiyiyo."

“Kufanelekile ukuba ndizikhathalele.”

Esi sixhobo siluncedo ngakumbi xa kuziwa ekujonganeni neempawu ezinobunzima bokusebenza okuphezulu koxinzelelo: ukugqibelela. Ukuba nemantra kuyasomeleza, kwaye kundinika ithuba lokuziqhelanisa nokuzikhathalela kunye nokujongana noxinzelelo ngaxeshanye. Ndiyakhumbula ukuba ndinelizwi kwaye into endiyifunayo ibalulekile, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kwimpilo yam yengqondo.

5. Funda indlela yokungenelela nawe

"Xa ndi
qala ukuthatheka kwaye ujonge ngapha nangapha, ngapha nangapha, ndiyeke. Ndiyazenza
ndishiye nantoni na ebangela ukuba ixhala lam linyuke. ”

Ixhala liphelisa unxunguphalo, njengebhola ekhatywayo enkulu eqengqeleka ezantsi. Nje ukuba uchonge iimpawu zakho, ungafunda ukuba ungenelela njani xa evela, kwaye uphume endleleni ngaphambi kokuba uqengqeleke.

Ndikufumanisa kunzima ukwenza izigqibo, nokuba zezokuyila incwadana okanye ukukhetha uphawu lwesitshizi sokuhlamba izitya. Xa ndiqala ukuthathela ingqalelo kwaye ndikhangela ngapha nangapha, ngapha nangapha, ndiyeka. Ndizenza ukuba ndihambe kude nantoni na ebangela ukuba uxinzelelo lwam lunyuke.

Esinye isixhobo endisisebenzisayo sisibali maxesha. Xa ixesha liphuma, ndiyaziphendulela kwaye ndihamba. Ukuba bendineveki enexinzelelo emsebenzini, andiyilandeli ngeempelaveki ezixineneyo. Oku kunokuthetha ukuthi "Hayi" kwaye ndidanise umntu, kodwa kufuneka ndibeke phambili impilo yam. Ndiye ndachonga imisebenzi engaphandle komsebenzi iyandithuthuzela, kwaye ndizinika ixesha lokuba ndiyenze.

Ukufunda indlela yokumodareyitha iimvakalelo zam kunye nokuziphatha ekuphenduleni uxinzelelo kuyeyona nto iphambili ekulawuleni iimpawu zam, kwaye kunciphisile inqanaba lam loxinzelelo.

6. Yenza iqela lenkxaso

Olunye uloyiko lwam olukhulu kukuxelela abantu emsebenzini malunga noxinzelelo lwam. Ndandisoyika ukuxelela abantu ngeenxa zonke kum ukuba bendisoyika- thetha malunga nomjikelo wokucinga ongalunganga! Ndiza kuwela kwindlela yokucinga emnyama nomhlophe yokungaxeleli mntu okanye yokuxelela wonke umntu. Kodwa ndifundile ukuba kukho impilo phakathi.

Ndifikelele kubantu abambalwa eofisini endiziva ndikhululekile ukuba kunye nabo. Kuyanceda kakhulu ukuba ukwazi ukuthetha nomntu omnye okanye ababini xa unosuku olubi. Oku kwathatha uxinzelelo olukhulu kum, kuba ndandingasakwazi ukwenza amandla suku ngalunye nomntu onamandla angaphezu kokuzithemba. Ukudala iqela elincinci lenkxaso yayilinyathelo lokuqala lokudala eyona nto iyiyo kum, kokubini emsebenzini wam nakubomi bam bobuqu.

Ndifumanise ukuba ukuvuleka kwam kusebenza kuzo zombini ezi ndlela, kuba ndakhawuleza ndafumanisa ukuba oogxa bam beza kum, nto leyo yandenza ndaziva ndonwabile ngesigqibo sam sokuvula.

Zonke ezi zinto zintandathu zokuphila zinokufakwa kunye kwibhokisi yesixhobo esisebenzayo esinexhala. Nokuba ndiyaphangela okanye ndisekhaya okanye ndiphumile nabahlobo, ndingazisebenzisa ezi zakhono ukuzibuyisela kwisitulo somqhubi. Ukufunda indlela yokujamelana nexhala akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye, into esiyifaka ku-A inokudana. Kodwa ndiqinisekile ukuba xa ndibeka iqhezu lalawo amandla okuphucula impilo yam, iziphumo ziya kuba ntle.

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