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Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kulula kangakanani ukuba i-rom-coms ibonakale, ngokutsho kwesifundo esitsha esenziwe yi-UGallery, iipesenti ezingama-83 zabasetyhini bathi ukuhamba kunye kunzima kakhulu. Ukuba awuzilungiselelanga, izinto ezincinci eziza nenqanaba elitsha lobudlelwane zinokuqhuma ngokulula nolona lwalamano lubalaseleyo. Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana indlela yokwabelana ngomsebenzi wenja, kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa kufuneka wabelane ngexesha losapho kwiiholide? "Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kangaka ukuthintela ezona ngxaki zixhaphakileyo phambi kokuba ubeke unyawo ngaphaya komgaqo owabelwana ngawo," utshilo uWendy Walsh, Ph.D., ingcali kwezobudlelwane, kunye nombhali I-Detox yothando lweentsuku ezingama-30.

Apha, eyona miba mihlanu iphambili izibini ezinayo xa ibunking up, kunye neengcebiso zikaWalsh malunga nendlela yokujongana nomntu ngamnye.

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Uphononongo lwakutsha nje lufumanise ukuba kwanakwizibini ezikhetha ukuhlala kunye amabhinqa asawenza umsebenzi omninzi wasekhaya, njengoko kunjalo Iipesenti ezingama-90 yemisebenzi-nokuba bobabini amaqabane ayasebenza. Ukuba loo nto ayilunganga nawe (kwaye kutheni inokuba njalo?), UWalsh ucebisa ukuba nengxoxo phambi kokuba nihambe kunye malunga nokuba ngubani oza kwenza ntoni. Siyazi ukuba ukuza neshedyuli yomsebenzi ayisiyonto yothando, kodwa ke akukhatywa ngobukrakra izitya ezinzulwini zobusuku ngelixa ucinga ukumngcungcuthekisa ngomqamelo.

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Xa kuziwa kwimali, kuya kufuneka uvume ubuncinci ukwahlula izinto 50/50 okanye umhlawule kancinci. "Amadoda amaninzi athanda ukuziva njengomboneleli," uWalsh uyachaza. Kusenokungabonakali "kufanelekile" ekuqaleni, kodwa uveza ukuba ubudlelwane bakho nesoka lakho abufani nomntu ohlala naye, ke akufuneki uphathe ukuhamba naye njengokukhetha umqeshi kwi-Craigslist. Ukongeza, kufuneka uzikhusele ngokwezezimali. Nangona ukuhlala kunye akufani nokutshata, uWalsh uthi ukwahlukana kudla ngokufana noqhawulo-mtshato-ngaphandle kokhuseleko olusemthethweni. Inyathelo lokuqala elifanelekileyo kukugcina iiakhawunti zakho zobuqu egameni lakho ukuze ukonga kunye nembali yekhredithi ingabinangxaki ukuba izinto ziya emazantsi.

Kodwa eyona nto intle onokuyenza, ngokwe-Walsh, kukuba ube nesivumelwano esibhaliweyo malunga nendlela amatyala aza kwahlulwa ngayo. Ukwacebisa ukuba uqhelane noMthetho oQhelekileyo okanye imithetho yePropati eqhelekileyo kwilizwe lakho.

Amaxesha Asenyongweni

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Ukucwangcisa isondo unako yiba nomtsalane! "Abantu balindele ukuba bafudukele kufana nokuthandana kodwa babe nokufikelela ngakumbi kwisini, kodwa kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba ekugqibeleni iyazinza," ucacisa uWalsh. "Oko akuthethi ukuba awusathandani naloo mntu kodwa ukuba uye kwinqanaba elinzulu, elizolileyo lothando." Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kunokuba ulindele ukuba kwenzeke ngokuzenzekelayo.

Ukongeza, kufuneka uvuleleke kwezinye iindlela zokugcina omnye anelisekile. “Musa ukuthelekisa i-sex drive yakho neyakhe,” utshilo. "Amadoda afana ne-microwaves-ukukhawuleza ukutshisa kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukugqiba-ngelixa abafazi befana nee-crockpots." Ucebisa ukusebenzisa ithuba elikhawulezayo, ukudibana ngexesha lesidlo sasemini, kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo phakathi kweeseshoni ezinde zothando.

Ishishini lokuhlambela

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Isitulo sangasese siza kunyuka. Xa omnye wenu emile ngelixa omnye ehleli, kuyenzeka nje. Ukanti ukwabelana ngendlu yangasese akufuneki kube yingxaki. UWalsh ucebisa ukuba wenze isigqibo kwangethuba malunga nento onokuthi uyivumele isilayidi (iphepha lendlu yangasese elingenanto okanye intlama yamazinyo kwi sinki?) kwaye yintoni ongakwaziyo ukuyenza (chama phantsi?). Ukusebenza kwesiqhelo kwindawo yokuhlambela kuyakuthatha indawo yomibini kumalungu akho kodwa nantoni na oyenzayo, sukukrokrela-okanye uza kuphelela ekubeni ungaziphathi kakuhle, utshilo uWalsh. "Kungcono ukuvuza imikhwa yakhe emihle emva koko uhlale umkhumbuza ezimbi zakhe."

Ixesha leTV

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Akukho mntu ufuna igazi le-zombie liphazamise ingubo yabo yomtshato xa Abahamba befile iingxabano ne Yithi Ewe kwilokhwe, kunene? Kodwa nangona abaphenduli bophando babenexhala malunga nemikhwa engqubanayo yeTV kangangokuba yenza amaxhala amahlanu aphezulu, uWalsh uthi ayibonisi ukungaboni ngawona mcimbi wokwenyani, kodwa indlela osombulula ngayo ungquzulwano ngokubanzi. Kuya kubakho izinto ezizizigidi zokulwa kwaye amaxesha amaninzi ezo mfazwe ziqala ngaphezulu kwento encinci, njengeTV. “Akufuneki uhambe nomntu de ube umlo omnye omkhulu ubuncinci,” uyacebisa. Akunjalo ukuze ube neentlobano zesini kunye nokuba ungabona indlela enisombulula ngayo ungquzulwano. Uye wathi ezinye izibini zokucebisa ngaphambi kokungena zinokuba yindlela elungileyo yokufumana indlela yokusombulula iingxabano.

Ekugqibeleni, ukusebenza kweekink kumalunga nonxibelelwano oluhle kunye nokulindelweyo. Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abatshatileyo abonwabileyo bakulungele ukuphendula imibuzo ebalulekileyo, njengalapho ubudlelwane bujolise khona ukongeza kwizinto zemihla ngemihla, utshilo. "Kwaye ukuba yena (okanye wena) akazimiselanga kuphendula imibuzo enzima, ngekhe ungahambisani."

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