Ukuba neVagina ngokwenyani i-Matered… De Ndikufumane

Umxholo

• Umbutho unobungozi obungenampilo ngamalungu esini namalungu omzimba
• Isini somntu oguqukayo asixhomekekanga kugqirha okanye kutshintsho lwentlalo
• Ayizizo zonke i-vaginoplasty ehamba ngokungagungqiyo

Emva kotyando, ndiye ndakwazi ukuqhubeka nobomi bam.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Ndingudade ozinikeleyo, intombi enombulelo, kunye nomakazi onebhongo. Ndingumfazi weshishini, igcisa, kwaye ndilwela amalungelo abafazi. Kwaye ukusukela kule nyanga, ndinelungu lobufazi iminyaka emibini.

Ngandlela thile, ukuba nelungu lobufazi akuthethi nto kum. Kukuphumla emzimbeni we-dysmorphia owenza wonke umahluko, inkululeko yokuba nomzimba omiswe ngendlela engavakaliyo kum.

Ngaba ndiziva "ndigqibelele" ngoku? Ndicinga ukuba ndingatsho oko. Kodwa ukuba nelungu lobufazi yinxalenye enye kuphela encinci yalo. Amava obomi beTransgender aquka ngaphezulu kakhulu kunelinye ilungu lomzimba elinokushwankathela.

Ndaziva ndiqinisekile ukuba ndingowasetyhini xa ndandimncinci kakhulu. Ndaziva ukuqiniseka okufanayo xa ndandimdala, ngaphambi kokungenelela kwezonyango. Ndiva ukuqiniseka okufanayo ngoku, kwaye utyando aluzange lwenze nto kuyo.

Ayingabo bonke abantu be-transgender abavakalelwa yile arc efanayo. Akukho bantu babini badlulayo abazikhulela ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa indlela endizibona ngayo ayiqhelekanga. Ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na into, utshintsho kwezentlalo nakwezonyango lwenze ukuba ilizwe langaphandle lindiqonde ngcono, kunokuziguqula okanye ukuzitshintsha ndenze into eyahlukileyo kunaleyo bendiyiyo.

Thina njengabafazi nabantu simele iindlela ezininzi zobuntu njengokuba kukho abantu abaphilayo emhlabeni.

Umbutho unobungozi obungenampilo ngamalungu esini namalungu omzimba

Inkcazo yemfuza yomntu eneneni inezigqibo zomzimba ezibekekileyo ebesizisebenzisa ukwahlula abantu kunye namava abo. Ityhila ukuba indoda okanye umfazi "ogqibeleleyo" yimbali eyenziwe ngokwentlalo engayikhathalelanga umda opheleleyo wento yokuba ngumntu.

Ukwahlula abantu kuphela njengamadoda okanye ababhinqileyo, sikwahlisa nokubathetha kwiingxelo ezinje "Amadoda anezikhuthazo azikwazi ukulawula" okanye "Abasetyhini ngabakhulisi." Ezi ngxelo zigqithisileyo, zinciphisayo zihlala zisetyenziselwa ukuthethelela iindima zethu nabanye.

Inyani yile, utyando alubalulekanga kubo bonke abantu abadlulayo, kwaye ayingabo bonke abantu ababhinqileyo abathatha i-vaginoplasty njengeyimfuneko kwindlela yabo yobomi. Ndicinga ukuba bonke abantu, bayo nayiphi na imvelaphi, kufuneka bavunyelwe benenkululeko efanayo nokuba bangazichonga njani kunye nemizimba yabo.

Abanye abantu basetyhini baziva benyanzelekile ukuba bondle. Abanye baziva benyanzelekile ukuba babeleke. Abanye baba bafazi baziva benxibelelana ngokunzulu nelungu labo lobufazi, kwaye abanye abayenzi. Abanye abantu basetyhini baziva benxibelelana nelungu labo lobufazi kwaye abananjongo zokuzalwa ngokwabo.

Thina njengabafazi nabantu simele iindlela ezininzi zobuntu njengokuba kukho abantu abaphilayo emhlabeni.

Inxalenye yomnqweno wam we-vaginoplasty yayilula. Ndifuna ukukhululeka kokungahambi kakuhle kokuhamba kunye nokubopha amalungu omzimba wam wangaphambili ukuze bangabonakali.Bendifuna ukuziva ndimhle ndinxibe isuti yokuhlamba.

Lo mnqweno wokulungiselela uncoma ezinye iinkolelo, njengokufuna ukuba neentlobano zesini ngendlela ethile, kwaye mhlawumbi ngokungathandabuzekiyo ndifuna ukuziva ndingumfazi ngakumbi kunokuba bendisele ndenzile - ukuziva ndikufutshane nombono wentlalontle wobufazi emva kokuziva ndihlukanisiwe nalo ixesha elide.

Akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokuziva ngomzimba wakho, akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokungenelela kwezonyango, kwaye akukho buhlobo bulungileyo okanye bubi nobufazi bakho okanye isini sakho.

Ezi zinto zininzi zintsonkothileyo kwaye zahlukahlukene zongezwa koko kwavakala ngathi kukungaziphathi phakathi kwengqondo yam nomzimba wam, kwaye ndanyanzeleka ukuba ndiyilungise. Okwangoku, akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye ingalunganga yokwenza malunga nayo. Akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokuziva ngomzimba wakho, akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokungenelela kwezonyango, kwaye akukho buhlobo bulungileyo okanye bubi nobufazi bakho okanye isini sakho.

Isini somntu oguqukayo asixhomekekanga kugqirha okanye kutshintsho lwentlalo

Nokuba kukhetho lobuqu, uloyiko, okanye ukunqongophala kwezixhobo, umntu oguqukayo akanakuze athathe amanyathelo ngoncedo lwezonyango. Oku akuphikisi ukuba ngoobani, okanye ubunyani bobuntu babo.

Nokuba abo balandela inguqu kwezonyango bazifumana benelisekile ngokuthatha iihomoni. Unyango olungena endaweni yeHormone (HRT) ngokuqinisekileyo lelona candelo likhulu kunye nefuthe lotshintsho kwezonyango.

Ukuthatha irejimeni emiselweyo yesini-esiqhelekileyo ihomoni iqala ukukhula kweempawu zesondo ezisesekondari umntu ebeya kuba nazo xa sele efikisa kwaye ichaphazele inkanuko yesini kunye nemeko yeemvakalelo. Kwimeko yokuhamba kwabasetyhini, ukuthatha i-estrogen ukuqala ukukhula kwamabele, ukuphinda usasaze amanqatha omzimba, kunciphise okanye kuguqule umgangatho wentshisakalo yesini kwiimeko ezininzi, kwaye kuveze umntu kutshintsho lweemvakalelo, olufana neziphumo zomjikelo wokuya exesheni.

Kubafazi abaninzi, oku kwanele ukuba bazive beseluxolweni ngamava abo esini. Ngesi sizathu, phakathi kwabanye abaninzi, ayingabo bonke abantu ababhinqileyo abafuna i-vaginoplasty.

Kum, ukufezekisa i-transgender vaginoplasty kwakuthetha indlela ende yokukhangela umphefumlo, unyango, ukutshintshwa kwehomoni, kunye neminyaka yophando kuyo yonke into malunga nenkqubo. Idama labagqirha liyakhula, kodwa xa ndiqala ukutshintsha, bekukho inani eliqingqiweyo loogqirha abanokuzikhethela kunye nophando oluncinci olwenziwa kumaziko emfundo.

Ukufumana kwakhona kwi-vaginoplasty kufuna iiveki ezimbalwa zokubeka iliso, ke indawo zononophelo lwasemva kwexesha kunye nokusondela ekhaya zizinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe, nazo. Ukufezekisa utyando lwam kwafuna urhulumente kunye notshintsho kwezentlalo ukuphembelela izimvo zoluntu ngabantu abadlulayo: Kwiinyanga ezingaphambi kotyando lwam, ilizwe laseNew York lenza imigaqo enyanzelisa i-inshurensi ukuba igubungele iinkonzo ze-transgender.

Ayizizo zonke i-vaginoplasty ehamba ngokungagungqiyo

Abanye abantu baphela belahlekelwa yimvakalelo ngenxa yeemithambo ezinqunqiweyo kwaye bakufumanisa kunzima okanye kungenakwenzeka ukufezekisa i-orgasm. Abanye bazifumana bexhwalekile ngenxa yesiphumo esingaphantsi-kunqwenelekayo sobuhle. Abanye abantu bafumana ukubuyela umva, kwaye olunye uqhaqho lukhokelela kwikholon egqobhoziweyo.

Ndingomnye wabanethamsanqa, kwaye ndonwabile ngeziphumo zam. Nangona ndinokuba ne-nitpicks yobuhle (kwaye ngowuphi umfazi ongenayo?), Ndine-clitoris enesidima kunye nelayini yelungu lobufazi. Ndiyakwazi ukufezekisa i-orgasm. Kwaye njengesiqhelo, ngoku ndinelungu lobufazi elinokuthi iqabane lakho lokwabelana ngesondo lingayamkeli njengemveliso yotyando.

Ngelixa ezinye izinto zempilo ye-transgender zihlala ziphantsi kophando, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kwiziphumo zexesha elide zonyango lwehomoni, inyani yengqondo yamava e-transgender iphandwe kakuhle kwaye yabhalwa. Kukho ukuphucuka okungaguquguqukiyo kwiziphumo zempilo yengqondo yabantu abenza utyando lwe-transgender olufana ne-vaginoplasty, i-phalloplasty, utyando lobuso lobufazi, i-mastectomy ephindwe kabini kunye nokwakhiwa kwakhona kwesifuba, okanye ukonyusa isifuba.

Kukwanjalo nakum. Emva kotyando, ndiye ndakwazi ukuqhubeka nobomi bam. Ndiziva ngakumbi ngokwam, ndilungelelaniswe ngakumbi. Ndiziva ndinamandla ngokwesondo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyakonwabela amava ngakumbi ngoku. Ndiziva ndonwabe ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye andizisoli.

Kwaye okwangoku, ekubeni loo nto ye-dysmorphia isemva kwam, andichithi ixesha lam rhoqo ndicinga ngobufazi bam. Ibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ngoku ithi qatha engqondweni yam.

Ubufazi bam bubalulekile, kwaye kwangaxeshanye, ayinamsebenzi. Ndiziva ndikhululekile.

Ukuba uluntu luye luziqonde ngcono izinto zonyango ezijamelene nabantu, kunye nohambo lwethu ngokwembono zethu, sinokukwazi ukutyhila iinyaniso ezinzulu kunye nezixhobo eziluncedo ukunqanda iintsomi kunye nolwazi olungelulo.

Ndihlala ndinobunewunewu "bokupasa" njengebhinqa le-cisgender, ndibhabha phantsi kwe-radar yabo bangandibona njenge-transgender. Xa ndiqala ukudibana nomntu, andikhethi ukukhokelela kwinto yokuba ndi-trans. Ayikuko kuba ndineentloni-inene, ndiyazingca ngendawo endikuyo kwaye noko ndiyoyisile. Kungenxa yokuba abantu bandigweba ngokwahlukileyo xa befumene ixesha lam elidlulileyo, nangona kuvunywa, eso sizathu silinga ukufihla.

Ndikhetha ukungayichazi imeko yam yokuhamba kwangoko kuba, kum, ukuba ngumtshintshi kude noluhlu lwezona zinto zinomdla nezifanelekileyo ngam.

Nangona kunjalo, uluntu ngokubanzi lusazifumana iinkcukacha zamava otshintshiselwano namhlanje, kwaye ndiziva ndinyanzelekile ukuba ndizimele ngokwam kunye nabahlali be-transgender ngendlela elungileyo, enolwazi. Ukuba uluntu luza kuziqonda ngcono izinto zonyango ezijamelene nabantu, kunye nohambo lwethu ngokwembono zethu, sinokukwazi ukutyhila iinyaniso ezinzulu kunye nezixhobo eziluncedo ukunqanda iintsomi kunye nolwazi olungelulo.

Ndiyakholelwa ekubeni abantu be-transgender kunye ne-cisgender ngokufanayo bonke baya kuxhamla ngokuqhubela phambili ngokuqonda okufanayo ngamava omntu ngokubanzi ngokwesini.

Ndifuna abantu banxibelelane nam ngomculo endiwenzayo, umahluko endiwenzayo kwindawo endihlala kuyo, kunye nobubele endibonisa abahlobo bam. Inqaku lotshintsho kwezonyango, kuninzi lwabantu abadlulayo, kukuzikhulula kwi-dysmorphia yomzimba okanye ukungahambi kakuhle kwengqondo, ukuze ezo zixhobo zengqondo zisetyenziselwe ukubangumntu nje, ukunxibelelana nehlabathi ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa kukungonwabi kwabo.

I-Healthline izinikele ngokunzulu ekuboneleleni ngomxholo wempilo kunye nentlalontle efundisayo kwaye exhobisa abantu ukuba baphile obona bomi bomeleleyo, nobusempilweni. Ukufunda ngakumbi ngezixhobo ze-transgender, isazisi, kunye namava, cofa apha.