Kuthetha Ukuthini ukuHeteroflexible?

Umxholo

• Ingaba ithetha ntoni?
• Lavela phi eli gama?
• Inokubonakala njani le nto xa usenza?
• Ngaba ayisiyiyo into efanayo nokuba nesini?
• Kutheni le nto lo mahluko ubangela impikiswano kwabanye?
• Kutheni le nto umntu enokukhetha ukusebenzisa igama elinye kwelinye?
• Wazi njani ukuba eli lixesha elifanelekileyo kuwe?
• Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba awusazichongi njenge-heteroflexible?
• Ungafunda phi ngaphezulu?

Ingaba ithetha ntoni?

Umntu ongathandabuzekiyo ngumntu "othe ngqo" - bahlala befumana abantu besini esahlukileyo kubo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha bazifumana betsalelekile kubantu besini esifanayo.

Olu mtsalane lunokuba lolothando (Oko kukuthi, ngokubhekisele kubantu ofuna ukuthandana nabo) okanye ngokwesondo (malunga nabantu ofuna ukulala nabo), okanye zombini.

Lavela phi eli gama?

Imvelaphi ayicacanga, kodwa kubonakala ngathi eli gama laqala ukubonakala kwi-intanethi kwii-2000s zokuqala.

Oko akutsho ukuba amava okuba "ngokuthe ngqo ngokuthe tye" yinto entsha. Kukho imbali ende yabantu abathe tye abazama kunye nokufumana inqanaba lokutsala kubantu besini esifanayo nabo.

Inokubonakala njani le nto xa usenza?

I-Heteroflexibility yahlukile kuye wonke umntu ochonga igama.

Umzekelo, indoda e-heteroflexible inokuzifumana itsalelekile kubafazi nakubantu abangabhalisiyo ubukhulu becala, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha itsale amadoda. Unokwenza okanye angabinako ukwenza lo mtsalane ngokulala naye okanye ukuthandana nendoda ayithandayo.

Umfazi o-heteroflexible usenokufumanisa ukuba unomdla kakhulu emadodeni, kodwa uvulelekile ukuzama abantu basetyhini.

Wonke umntu heteroflexible wahlukile, nangona kunjalo, kwaye amava abo anokubonakala ahlukile.

Ngaba ayisiyiyo into efanayo nokuba nesini?

Ubundlobongela malunga nokutsalwa ngokwesondo kubantu abangaphezulu kwesinye.

Abantu be-Heteroflexible banomdla kwisini esingaphezulu kwesinye, ke ngaba azizo ezobuchwephesha?

Ewe, abanye abantu abathandanayo baziva betsala kakhulu kubantu besini esahlukileyo-ubungqingili yinto ebonakalayo, kwaye abantu banezinto abazikhethayo.

Ewe ewe, inkcazo yokuchaneka kokungafaniyo nayo inokuhambelana nenkcazo yesini. Ngapha koko, abanye abantu bazichaza njengabanobunzima kunye nobungqingili.

Khumbula: Ezi iilebhile zichazayo, azimiselwanga. Bachaza uluhlu lwamava kunye neemvakalelo; Azinazo iinkcazo ezingqongqo ekufuneka uzilandele ukuze uzisebenzise.

Kutheni le nto lo mahluko ubangela impikiswano kwabanye?

Kukho izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni igama elithi "heteroflexible" linempikiswano.

Abanye abantu basakholelwa ekubeni umntu unokutsalwa kuphela kwisini esinye, kwaye olu qhelwaniso alunakuba bhetyebhetye.

Enye ingxoxo kukuba "i-heteroflexible" ligama elinobubi, nto leyo ethetha ukuba inkulu kubantu abathandanayo. Le ngxoxo yeyokuba umntu kufuneka azibize ngokwabelana ngesini ukuba utshatile kwisini esingaphezulu kwesinye.

Kwinqaku kwi-Affinity Magazine, umbhali uCharlie Williams uthi eli gama linegalelo ekucinyweni kwezinto ezimbini kuba into esiyichaza njenge-heteroflexibility is just just bisexuality.

Kukho ukungaqondi okuqhelekileyo ukuba abantu abathandanayo abatshatileyo abantu babo bonke abantu besini esilinganayo, kodwa oko akuyonyani - abanye abantu abathandana nabasetyhini bethanda isini esinye kunabanye, ke igama elithi "heteroflexible" liya kulunga kule nkcazo.

Nangona kunjalo, njengoko uKasandra Brabaw esitsho kweli nqaku le-Refinery29, "Abantu bachonga njengendlovukazi, i-pansexual, i-fluid, i-polysexual, kunye namanye amagama amaninzi athetha ukuba banomdla kwisini esingaphezulu kwesinye. Ezo iilebheli azicimi bisexuality, kutheni le nto i-heteroflexible? "

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba, xa kufikwa kuqhelaniso, sonke kufuneka sikhethe iilebhile zethu.

Abanye abantu bavakalelwa kukuba "i-heteroflexible" ifaneleke ngakumbi kune "bisexual," kungekhona ngenxa yokuba bengakuqondi kakuhle okanye bengabuthandi ubungqingili, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ichaza ngcono amava abo.

Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngaphambili, abanye abantu banokuzichaza njengabantu abathandanayo nabangatshatanga.

Kutheni le nto umntu enokukhetha ukusebenzisa igama elinye kwelinye?

Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu bekhetha ukusebenzisa "i-heteroflexible" ngaphezulu kwe "bisexual." Umzekelo:

• Banokukhetha kakhulu abantu besini esahlukileyo kubo, kwaye banokucinga ukuba "i-heteroflexible" idlulisela la mava ngakumbi kunabantu abathandanayo.
• Banokuvuleleka kumbono wokutsala abantu besini esifanayo, kodwa abaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo.
• Banokufuna ukwamkela ilungelo labo njengomntu ohlangana ikakhulu nesini esahlukileyo, ngelixa bevuma ukuba bhetyebhetye.

Le yimizekelo nje. Unokuchonga njenge-heteroflexible ngesizathu esahluke ngokupheleleyo-kwaye kulungile!

Xa ucinga ulwazelelo lwakho, licebo elihle ukucinga ukuba kutheni amagama athile evisisana nawe. Nangona kunjalo, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uthethelele komnye umntu ngaphandle kokuba uyafuna.

Wazi njani ukuba eli lixesha elifanelekileyo kuwe?

Akukho quiz okanye uvavanyo lokufumanisa ukuba ngaba heteroflexible. Nangona kunjalo, unokukwazi ukufumanisa ukuba awunangxaki ngokuzibuza le mibuzo ilandelayo:

• Ndiziva nditsaleleke kubani?
• Ngaba ndikhe ndaziva nditsalelekile kubantu besini sam kwixa elidlulileyo?
• Ngaba ndikhe ndazenza ezo mvakalelo? Ngaba ndifuna ukwenza into ngezo mvakalelo?
• Ukuba kunjalo, ibivakalelwa njani?
• Kwilizwe apho abantu babengengabo abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana bodwa okanye biphobic, ndingathandana nabani, ndilale naye, nditsaleke?
• Ndingathanda ukuzama umntu wesini esifanayo?

Akukho mpendulo zichanekileyo kule mibuzo-zijolise nje ekukucingeni ngolwazelelo lwakho, amava akho, kunye neemvakalelo zakho.

Yisebenzise ukukunceda ucinge ngesihloko, kodwa ungaziva ulinganiselwe ngabo.

Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba awusazichongi njenge-heteroflexible?

Oku kulungile ngokupheleleyo! Ukwabelana ngesondo ngamanzi, oko kuthetha ukuba kunokutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Unokufumanisa ukuba uchonga njenge-heteroflexible ngoku, kodwa emva kwethutyana, amava kunye neemvakalelo zakho zinokutshintsha.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukutshintsha imeko akuthethi ukuba ulwazelelelo lwakho alusebenzi okanye alulunganga. Akuthethi ukuba ubudidekile- nangona ukudideka kulungile, nawe.

Nokuba ungubani na uhlala unjalo kubomi bakho bonke, okanye nokuba uyatshintsha rhoqo, uvumelekile kwaye igama olisebenzisayo ukuzichaza kufuneka lihlonitshwe.

Ungafunda phi ngaphezulu?

Ukuba ufuna ukufunda okungakumbi malunga nokuqhelaniswa kwamanqwanqwa, zininzi iiwebhusayithi onokuthi uzindwendwele.

• Ukubonakala ngokwesini kunye nenethiwekhi yemfundo. Apha, unokukhangela iinkcazo zamagama ahlukeneyo ngokunxulumene nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokuziqhelanisa.
• Iprojekthi kaTrevor. Indawo inikezela ngongenelelo lwengxaki kunye nenkxaso yeemvakalelo kulutsha olungamanga, kubandakanya abantu abancinci abathandana nabantu abathandanayo.
• Iiforum ezikwi-Intanethi. Eminye imizekelo yoku ibandakanya i-Bisexual subreddit kunye namaqela ahlukeneyo e-Facebook.

Ukuba ungathanda, ungazibandakanya nomntu weqela le-LGBTQ + okanye iqela lezentlalo kwindawo yakho.

USian Ferguson ngumbhali ozimeleyo kunye nomhleli ozinze eKapa, ​​eMzantsi Afrika. Ukubhala kwakhe kugubungela imiba enxulumene nobulungisa kwezentlalo, i-cannabis kunye nempilo. Unokufikelela kuye Twitter.