Amagama Anamandla. Yeka ukundibiza ngesigulana.

Umxholo

• Ngoku cinga mna njenge apile okanye isityalo
• Ukugqithisa itotshi yobubele

Umkhosi. Umsindisi. Umoyisi. UMoyisi.

Umonde. Abagulayo. Ukubandezeleka. Khubazekile.

Ukuma ucinga ngamagama esiwasebenzisa yonke imihla kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwihlabathi lakho. Ubuncinci, uzenzele wena kunye nobomi bakho.

Utata wandifundisa ukuba ndiqonde ukungakhathali okuhambelana negama "intiyo." Imalunga neminyaka eli-11 okoko wazisa oku kum. Ngoku ndineminyaka engama-33 kwaye ndenze konke okusemandleni am ukususa eli gama kwisigama sam - nakwintombi yam. Nokuba ucinga nje ngokulula, ndifumana incasa embi emlonyeni wam.

Omnye wabafundi bam bokomoya, uDanielle LaPorte, wenza uvavanyo oluncinci kunyana wakhe kwiapile kunye namandla wamagama. Ngokwenene. Yonke into ababeyidinga ngama-apile, amagama kunye nekhitshi lakhe.

Ii-apile ezifumene amagama okungakhathali zibole ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Iziphumo zakhe zinomdla, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, ayothusi kwaphela: Amagama abalulekile. Inzululwazi emva koku iphononongwe ngokufanayo kwizityalo eziphilayo, kananjalo, kuphononongo olucebisa ukuba izityalo zifunde kumava.

Ngoku cinga mna njenge apile okanye isityalo

Xa umntu ebhekisa kum "njengesigulana," ndikhawuleza ndilibale lonke uloyiso lwam. Ndivakalelwa kukuba ndiye ndaba zizichaso ezingathandekiyo ezingqonge elo gama.

Ndiyazi ukuba yahlukile kuye wonke umntu. Kodwa kum, xa ndisiva igama elithi isiguli, ndiyabona ukuba ucinga ntoni ngalo. Umntu ogulayo, olele ebhedini yasesibhedlele, uxhomekeke kwabanye imihla ngemihla.

Into ehlekisayo kukuba, ndichithe ubomi bam ngaphandle kwesibhedlele kunasesibhedlele. Ngapha koko, ukugcinwa kwam esibhedlele okokugqibela yayiyiminyaka esi-7 1/2 eyadlulayo xa ndandibeleka intombi yam.

Ndingaphezulu kwesigulana.

Kuyinyani ukuba ndihlala nesifo esinqabileyo esinganyangekiyo esichaphazela abantu abangaphantsi kwama-500 e-United States kunye nabantu abangama-2 000 kwihlabathi liphela. Yimeko yemfuza ebangela ukuveliswa ngokugqithisileyo kwe-amino acid ephambili, kwaye ke inefuthe kuyo yonke iseli emzimbeni wam. Okwangoku, inye kuphela inkalo yehologram yomntu wam uphela.

Ndingomntu oyise ubunzima obukhulu. Xa ndafumana ukuxilongwa kwam kwiinyanga ezili-16 ubudala, oogqirha baxelela abazali bam ukuba andiyi kuphila ukuze ndibone iminyaka eyi-10 yokuzalwa. Ndiyaphila ngoku ngoba umama wanikela ngezintso zakhe kum kwiminyaka engama-22 eyadlulayo.

Apho ndikhoyo namhlanje: umfazi one-Bachelor yeSayensi kuphuhliso lomntu kunye nezifundo zosapho.

Umntu osebenzise umzimba wam ukudala omnye umntu osele ekulo mhlaba iminyaka esixhenxe.

Incwadi yeencwadi.

Umntu wokomoya onamava omntu.

Umntu oziva ukubetha komculo kuyo yonke ifayibha yakhe.

I-nerd ye-astrology kunye nokukholelwa kumandla eekristal.

Ndingumntu odanisa ekhitshini lam nentombi yam kwaye uhlala ngenxa yokugigitheka okuphuma emlonyeni wakhe.

Zininzi izinto ezininzi, nazo: umhlobo, umzala, umntu ocinga, umbhali, umntu onobuzaza kakhulu, ibhola yebhola, umthandi wendalo.

Ndiziintlobo ngeentlobo zabantu ngaphambi kokuba ndigule.

Ukugqithisa itotshi yobubele

Abantwana banomdla ngakumbi kumagama, ubukhulu becala xa abantu abadala bebasebenzisa ukuba bathathe isigqibo sokuba yintoni intsingiselo yabo. Ndikubonile oku kusenzeka amaxesha amaninzi kwiindawo ezinqabileyo zezifo.

Ukuba uxelela umntwana ukuba bayisigulana- umntu ogulayo, o-ethe-ethe okanye obuthathaka- baqala ukuthatha olo lwazi. Baqala ukukholelwa ukuba nokuba baziva njani ngokwenene, mhlawumbi "basisigulana" eyona nto iphambili ebomini babo.

Ndihlala ndiyikhumbula le nto, ngakumbi xa ndijikeleze intombi yam. Usemncinci ngeminyaka yakhe kwaye uhlala efumana izimvo kwabanye abantwana malunga nendlela emfutshane ngayo.

Ndenze konke okusemandleni am ukumfundisa ukuba angayivuma into yokuba akakho mde kuninzi loontanga bakhe, ukuba abantu beza ngobukhulu obahlukeneyo. Ukuphakama kwabo akunanto yakwenza nokukwazi kwabo ebomini okanye ukuba baninzi kangakanani ububele abanako ukukhulisa.

Lixesha lokuba siwazi ngakumbi amandla asemva kwamagama esiwakhethileyo. Eyabantwana bethu, yekamva lethu.

Ayingawo onke amagama athwala ubunzima beemvakalelo ezifanayo kuwo wonke umntu, kwaye anditsho ukuba sonke kufuneka sihambe phezu kwamaqokobhe amaqanda xa sithetha omnye nomnye. Kodwa ukuba kukho umbuzo, hamba nokhetho olunamandla kakhulu. Nokuba kwi-Intanethi okanye kubomi bokwenyani (kodwa ngakumbi kwi-Intanethi), ukuthetha ngobubele kuphelela ekuzuzeni wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.

Amagama anokuxhobisa kakhulu. Masikhethe abo basiphakamisayo kwaye sizibukele sinyuka njengesiphumo.

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