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UMELISSA RYCROFT, Wayengomnye wabafazi abangama-25 abakhuphisana ngokuqwalaselwa nguJason Mesnick ISidanga. "Ndaya kumboniso ngengqondo evulekileyo kunye nentliziyo evulekileyo-kwaye ndicinga ukuba wonke umntu uyazi ukuba iphele kanjani!" iziqhulo ezineminyaka engama-26 ubudala. (Kwimeko apho uyiphosile, uJason wacebisa uMelissa kwisiphelo sonyaka, emva koko wayeka ukubandakanyeka kwisiqendu esilandelayo kwiiveki nje ezintandathu ukulandela ubudlelwane kunye nembaleki yomboniso.) Kodwa endaweni yokuhlala kuluntu Ukuphoxeka, uMelissa waqhubela phambili. Uye waphumelela kwindawo yesithathu Ukudanisa ngeenkwenkwezi (DWTS) , waba a Molo waseMelika elungileyo Umnikeli okhethekileyo, kwaye waphinda wadibana noTye Strickland, athe wajola naye iminyaka emibini. Ke ngoDisemba ophelileyo, uMelissa noTye bathi "ndenza" phambi kwabahlobo abangama-200 kunye namalungu osapho kumtshato waselwandle e-Isla Mujeres, eMexico. Uthi: "Andikakholelwa nangoku," utshilo. "Kulo nyaka uphelileyo, ubomi bam bebusentsomini!" UMelissa wahlala naye phantsi Ubume Ukwabelana ngelo xesha "liphambeneyo" emfundise ngalo ngokuthandana, ukucwangcisa umtshato, nokulandela intliziyo yakho nokuba ithini.

Uthando lokwenene luya kukufumana

UMelissa noTye babekhe batshata ngaphambili ISidanga, kunye nokwahlukana kwabo kuko okwenze ukuba uMelisa ahambe umboniso. "Ndandinentliziyo ebuhlungu ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ndaye ndacinga ukuba izakundikhupha eDallas iphinde indibuyisele ebomini," utshilo uMelissa. "Ngaphezu koko, inike ixesha likaTye kude nam." Kungekudala emva kokuba umboniso ulandele isiqendu, yena noTye babuyelana, kwaye abazange bahlukane ukususela ngoko. "Sinendlela ephambeneyo, yiyo loo nto ingoma yethu yomtshato yayinguRascal Flatt's 'Sikelela iNdlela eyaphukileyo,' utshilo uMelissa. "Kodwa xa sijonga emva kuyo, siyazi ukuba konke oko bekuyinxalenye yesicwangciso sikaThixo kuthi. Yonke into iwela endaweni xa ixesha lilungile.

"Ndive umntu esithi xa ufumana uthando lwakho lokwenyani, uya kuziva usekhaya ngalo lonke ixesha. Tye ngu ikhaya lam: Uyindawo yam enoxolo, ethuthuzelayo, kwaye ndiziva ndonwabe ngokupheleleyo nanini na ndikunye naye. "

Akukho nto ifana nomtshato ogqibeleleyo

"Bendifuna usapho lwam kunye nosapho lukaTye bonwabe emtshatweni, kodwa ke nam bendifuna ukonwaba," utshilo uMelissa. "Ndiye ndanikezela ukutya okwahlukeneyo kwaye ndadlala umxube womculo, kwaye ndaqinisekisa ukuba zonke iinkcukacha zeendwendwe ukusuka kuhambo ukuya kwimisebenzi zigutyungelwe." Ingcebiso yakhe ayithandayo kubafazi abaza kuba: Yiphumle kwaye uyenze eyakho usuku olugqibeleleyo. "Ifilosofi yam yayikukuba ndiza kutya ukutya, ndidanise umculo, kwaye ndichithe ixesha kunye nomyeni wam-kwaye ndingavumeli izinto ezincinci ezinje ngezixhobo zangaphantsi okanye i-napkins ukuba indixinzelele. Nokuba ikhekhe lam belibonisile limnyama kunye neentyatyambo zam bonke bafile, umtshato wam ubuya kuba uphelele kum.

Ilizwi lakho langaphakathi lihlala lilungile

Xa kufikwa kwiinkcukacha zomtshato wakhe-yonke into ukusuka ekubeni nabahlobo abane abasondeleyo kuphela kwitheko lakhe lomtshato ukuya ekutsibeni iholide yasemva komtshato-uMelissa wayesazi kakuhle into ayifunayo kwaye uyawathemba amandla akhe. “Ndaya eAlfred Angelo ndiyokunxiba ilokhwe yam, ndaze ndayithanda ilokhwe yokuqala endayibona kwikhathalogu yabo,” utsho. “Baye bayithumela ngenqanawa, ndayizama, kwaye yaba njalo i isinxibo. Ivenkile yayindilungiselele ixesha leeyure ezintathu, kodwa ndaphuma ngemizuzu engama-20!”

Kwaye malunga neholide yasemva komtshato, amathumbu akhe ayenyanisile malunga naloo nto: “UTye wayeqalisa ishishini lakhe ngoJanuwari, ngoko ke ukuhamba kwakungaziva kakuhle,” utshilo uMelissa. “Wonke umntu uthe kufuneka siye kwihoneymoon ngenxa yesimboli, kodwawethu Isimboli yayikukuba sasiqala ngokutsha kunye. "

Sukuvumela uloyiko lukuthintele

Xa uMelissa wanikwa ithuba lokutshintsha uNancy O'Dell (emva kwelo xesha- Fikelela eHollywood co-ankile wazenzakalisa ngexesha lokuziqhelanisa nomboniso) on DWTS, kwabanjwa enye: Wayeneentsuku ezimbini kuphela ukuba afunde isiqhelo. Ndandisoyika ukuba ndihlale ndicinga, 'Wonke umntu uyayithanda le nto okanye bazakuyithiya,' utshilo. "Kodwa xa ndiphuma eqongeni, abaphulaphuli bahamba ngokukhawuleza. Ndandibuva ubomi bam buguquka ngelo xesha."

Ebenyanisile: I stint yakhe DWTS kukhokelele emsebenzini kaMelissa njengegalelo elikhethekileyo kwi Molo waseMelika elungileyo. "Ndiphantse ndabuza abavelisi, 'Uqinisekile?'" Utshilo. "Kodwa bathi bafuna ukuba ndizise ubuntu bam kumboniso, kwaye ndacinga, 'Ewe, ndingayenza loo nto.' Kukhwele okumangalisayo, kwaye andikholelwa ukuba kusaqhubeka. "

Ungaze ulalanise ekubeni ungubani

Ngaphandle kwekhondo lakhe elitsha kwishishini lokubonisa, le yangaphambili i-Dallas Cowboys cheerleader ayinazicwangciso zokufudukela eLos Angeles okanye kwisiXeko saseNew York. “Iintsapho zethu, abahlobo, kunye nomsebenzi kaTye bonke balapha eTexas,” utshilo. "Siza kugcina ubomi bethu apho bakhoyo kunye nalapho bahlala khona." Kwaba batshatayo, oko kuthetha iintsuku ezininzi endleleni. "Ndihamba amatyeli aliqela ngenyanga," utshilo uMelissa. "Ngamanye amaxesha uTye uhamba nam, nto leyo eyenza kube mnandi ngakumbi.Kodwa xa engenako, sinomthetho wokuba asizukuhlukana iintsuku ezine.

Ukusebenza kufuneka kube mnandi

Uqeqesho lwe DWTS Ifuna ukuziqhelanisa neeyure ezisibhozo, iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngeveki, ezishiye uMelissa enqunqa kunye neetoni-kodwa ediniwe. Uthi: `` Ndaye ndayeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo ebomini bam, '' utshilo. "Ngesinye isikhathi ndakhangela i-abs yam kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuyibala! Kodwa akusiyo umzimba wam wendalo, kwaye ndazi ukuba andinakuqhubeka ndisebenza ngelo xesha." Kwaye emva komboniso, uMelissa wayeka ngokupheleleyo ukwenza umthambo. "Kwakufuneka ndihambe kuyo, kuba ndandingafuni ukuphulukana novuyo lokusebenza. Emva kwenyanga, ndaqala ukuyikhumbula kwaye ndaziva ndikulungele ukuqala kwakhona." Ngoku ubaleka iimayile ezimbini okanye ezintathu iintsuku ezine ukuya kwezintandathu ngeveki, kunye noololiwe bokuqina ekhaya. Kwaye ngelixa ukujonga kuqingqwe kuyinto edibeneyo, uMelissa uthi umthambo uyamnceda ukuba ahlale omelele ngokwasemoyeni. "Sisixhobo sokunciphisa uxinzelelo, kwaye lixesha lam lokuba ndedwa ndilungise iingcinga zam," utshilo. "Emva kokubaleka, uxinzelelo lwam luphelile kwaye ndihlala ndiziva ndibhetele ngalo lonke usuku."

Ukuba sempilweni yindlela yokuphila

UMelissa akanazintloni zokuvuma ukuba ikhefu lakhe ekusebenzeni kwaba kukutya simahla nako konke. Uthi: “Mna noTye sasidla ngokutya ezivenkileni ubusuku obuninzi ngeveki size sibe nazo zonke iintlobo zokutya okunamafutha. "Kodwa xa siqala ukuzivocavoca kwakhona, sazi ukuba kufuneka sidle ngcono-kubalulekile ukufumana iziphumo." Endaweni yokutya, esi sibini senza utshintsho olulula, kubandakanya nokutya kakhulu ekhaya endaweni yokutya. "Ngoku sitya ngaphandle kube kanye ngeveki-nokuba kungoLwesihlanu okanye ngoMgqibelo- kwaye ndiyapheka kwezinye iintsuku ezininzi," utshilo uMelissa. "Kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo, bendizikhathalele, kwaye ngoku ndikonwabela kakhulu ukutya etafileni xa uTye efika ekhaya- siza kubona ukuba ithatha ixesha elingakanani! yenkukhu, kodwa ndifunde nje indlela yokulungisa ityhuna, kwaye imnandi! "

UMelissa uye wafumana indlela yokutya okunempilo ngaphandle kokushiya ukutya okukhawulezayo. "Xa ndifuna into efana neminwe yenkukhu kunye neefries zaseFrance, ndifumana nje isidlo sabantwana," utshilo. "Kwanele ukwanelisa umnqweno wam."

Kukho ngaphezu kwengcaciso enye ye-sexy

UMelissa ufumene imfihlo yokuziva emhle nokuba ukhangeleka njani okanye unxibe ntoni na: ukuzithemba. "Ukuzithemba, kunye nendlela oyichaza ngayo, kuyinto entle," utshilo. "Ndiyenza ngoncumo kwaye ndonwabile kwaye ndonwabile. Andinguye uMegan Fox oshushu, kodwa ndiyintombazana-elandelayo-inesini-kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uTye ufumana oko kunomdla kakhulu. Wonke umntu kufuneka afumane intsingiselo yelizwi -ndiye ndayiqhayisa! "

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