Indlela yokuba nomonde (kwaye kutheni kubalulekile)

Umxholo

• Yitsho kwakhona uxinzelelo lwakho
• Camngca
• Ukucamngca 101
• Lala ngokwaneleyo
• Hamba ngengqondo
• Yehlisa isantya
• Ziqhelise ukubulela
• Ngaba ibaluleke ngokwenene?
• Umgca wezantsi

Uyayikhumbula indlela utitshala wakho wasenkulisa ahlala ekukhumbuza ngayo ukuba ulinde ithuba lakho ebaleni lokudlala? Usenokuba ukhuphe amehlo emva koko, kodwa njengoko kuvela, ukuba nomonde omncinci kuhamba indlela ende.

Ukwazi ukulinda ngokuzolileyo xa ujamelene nobunzima kuphela kwencam yomkhenkce xa kufikwa kwizibonelelo zokuba nomonde. Ikwanokunyusa imeko yakho kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Elona candelo lililo? Ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, umonde ayisiyonto ilungileyo abanye abantu abazalwa benayo. Ngokwenene sisakhono onokuthi usebenze kuso yonke imihla. Nantsi indlela.

Yitsho kwakhona uxinzelelo lwakho

Yitsho ukuba ubulinde umntu osebenza naye ukuba avele kwintlanganiso ongazange ufune nokuya kuyo kwasekuqaleni.

Ukuncwina malunga nokulibaziseka kwabo ngekhe kubenze bavele ngomlingo. Ungalithatha elo xesha ukujonga amanqaku akho okanye uphendule ii-imeyile ezimbalwa kwifowuni yakho.

Ngokuphinda umise kwakhona umva njengempumelelo yobuqu, unokulawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye usebenzise ezo zihlunu zokuzibamba.

Camngca

Ukucamngca kubandakanya ukuqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuba ijolise kwaye iqondise iingcinga zakho kude kwisiphazamiso semihla ngemihla. Inokukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukulawula uxinzelelo, kunye nokukhuthaza impilo-ntle yakho-konke oku kukunceda ukuba wakhe umonde.

Olunye uphononongo lwango-2017 lade lwafumanisa ukuba ukucamngca ngengqondo kungalungisa uhlobo oluthile lwenkxalabo eyenzekayo xa unamathele ulinde into ethile.

Kwaye unokucamngca naphi na.

Ukucamngca 101

Emva kosuku olukhathazayo, thatha imizuzu embalwa ukuhlala kamnandi apho ukhoyo kwaye ulandele la manyathelo:

1. Vala amehlo akho kwaye ujonge kwindlela umzimba wakho oziva ngayo esihlalweni sakho.
2. Vumela ukuba uphefumle ngokwendalo, unikele ingqalelo kwi-inhale nganye kunye nangaphandle.
3. Zama ukugcina ingqalelo yakho igxile ekuphefumlweni kwakho ubuncinci imizuzu emi-2 ukuya kwezi-3.
4. Ukuphazanyiswa ziingcinga zakho? Musa ukulwa nabo. Bajonge ngokulula kwaye ubayeke badlule ngaphandle komgwebo.

Nanku ukukhangela kwezinye iintlobo zamayeza ezinokukunceda.

Lala ngokwaneleyo

Ukunqongophala kokulala kunokwenza iimvakalelo zomsindo okanye ukoyikeka ngakumbi. Ukuba awufumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo, unokuba nakho ukubamba umntu osebenza naye okanye unqumle loo mntu uhamba kancinci endleleni.

Ukubeka phambili ukulala kumgangatho ngu:

• Ukunciphisa ukutya kwakho i-caffeine, ngakumbi emva kwemini nangokuhlwa
• ukubeka izixhobo zombane kude nemizuzu engama-30 ngaphambi kokulala
• ukuzama ukunamathela kwishedyuli yokulala yokuvuka, nangeempelaveki
• ukunqanda ukutya okunzima okanye ukusela itoni yotywala ubuncinci iiyure ezi-2 ngaphambi kokuba ulale

Hamba ngengqondo

Ukuhlala uhleli ngelixa ulindile kunendlela ngandlela thile ekwenza uzive ungaphaya kwaye ungaphelelwa ngumonde.

Ngexesha elizayo xa ufumanisa ukuba ulinde idinga okanye umhlobo ongapheliyo, zama ukufumana intshukumo. Kuxhomekeka kwindawo ekungqongileyo, oku kunokubandakanya ukuzolula ngokupheleleyo okanye ukuma nje ngokunyuka usenyuka ezantsi kwiinzwane zakho.

Nokuba yeyiphi na intshukumo oyikhethayo, injongo kukubeka iingcinga zakho kumzuzu wangoku.

Yehlisa isantya

Kwihlabathi eligcwele ukoneliseka kwangoko, kulula ukuwela kumkhwa wokulindela ukuba yonke into yenzeke ngokukhawuleza. Xa uhlala uhlaziya ibhokisi lakho lokungenayo, umzekelo, uyaphoswa yinto ephambi kwakho.

Ukuba ukungxama sele kuseto lwakho olungagqibekanga, zama ezi ngcebiso zokucothisa izinto:

• Musa ukutsiba ebhedini kusasa. Vumela imizuzu emi-5 ukuya kweli-10 ukuba ulale neengcinga zakho (akukho fowuni iskrozayo!).
• Cima ngokuchitha ixesha kude nefowuni yakho yonke imihla, nokuba kungexesha lokuhamba kwakho okanye xa ubuya emsebenzini.
• Ndinqande ixesha elithile. Thatha uhambo, udlale nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya, okanye uhlale nje ujonge ngaphandle ngefestile.

Ziqhelise ukubulela

Kulula ukubanjwa ekugwebeni izenzo zabanye abantu: loo mama uhlala ethatha ixesha elide kumgca wokuthwala esikolweni, okanye umphathi wecashier ophethe ukutya kwakho ngokungathi abananto ngaphandle kwexesha.

Endaweni yokuthatha la manyathelo buqu, zama ukugxila kwizinto onombulelo ngazo. Mhlawumbi kuthatha umzuzwana kumgca wokuphuma ukuze uvume ukuba uyakwazi ukuzondla wena okanye usapho lwakho okanye unqumame ukuxabisa uhambo lwakho oluzayo xa ufumana eso saziso sokulibaziseka kwendiza.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba nombulelo akuyi kuyitshintsha imeko yakho, kodwa kuya kukunceda uhlale uzolile kwaye ujonge kumfanekiso omkhulu.

Ngaba ibaluleke ngokwenene?

Ewe. Ukulawula umonde akugcini nje ukukugcina ekuphulukaneni nokuphola kwakho ngelixa ulinde ithuba lakho. Kwakhona inezibonelelo ezininzi zezempilo.

Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2007 lwafumanisa ukuba abantu abanesigulana babekwazi ukumelana ngcono neemeko zoxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba okuncinci.

Ngaphezulu kwako konke, ukuhlakulela umonde kunye nokukwazi ukujongana ngcono nokucaphuka okungaphephekiyo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwenza ukuba ubomi bube lula kakhulu.

Umgca wezantsi

Umonde uyanceda ukuba udlule kwiimeko ezinzima kwaye wenze izigqibo ezingcono ngaphandle kokucaphuka okanye uxhalabise. Ukuba uyakrokra kuwe ngexesha lokuxinana kweemoto okanye imigca ehamba kancinci, ukwakha izakhono zakho zokulinda kungahamba indlela ende ekwenzeni ubomi bube mnandi.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba yinkqubo ethe chu engenzeki ngobusuku. Yiba nobubele kuwe okwangoku, kwaye uchithe ixesha elithile ujonge okwangoku.

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