Ungabunqanda njani ubulolo ngelixa Ihlabathi liseLockdown

Umxholo

• Ukuziva uwedwa ngokuchasene nokuziva ulilolo
• Ukuphepha ukuba nesizungu ngelixa ubuyela ekhaya
• Hlala uqhagamshele kwaye ungene ngaphakathi
• Zimasa iintlanganiso zentlalo
• Amavolontiya phantse
• Thetha phandle nengcali yezempilo yengqondo
• Fikelela kwinkxaso
• Uncedo lukhona phaya

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Ungahlala wedwa, usebenze wedwa, kwaye uhambe wedwa ngelixa uzive uxolile nesiqu sakho. Ubulolo buhlasela ngokwahlukileyo.

Mna nomyeni wam sikude lee kwindawo esiyibiza ngokuba “likhaya.”

Siphume kwilizwe kunyaka ophelileyo satshintsha indawo. Kunye nolo tshintsho kweza umbingelelo omkhulu: ukumka kubantu esibathandayo.

Njengoko ixesha lihamba, siyaqonda ukuba ikhaya asiyondawo nje. Kulapho bakho abantu.

Ngelixa ukuhamba emzimbeni kuye kwanciphisa ifuthe lokuqhambuka kwe-COVID-19, aluniki luncedo kwisizungu esijongana naso.

Ubhubhane wesizungu uvele kakuhle ngaphambi kwesidingo sokuziqhelanisa nomzimba. Abantu bebesoloko belwa nesizungu kangangexesha elide, kwanaxa izinto “bezisisiqhelo” ehlabathini.

Imiyalelo yokuphambuka ngokwasemzimbeni iye yalwandisa nje ifuthe, ngakumbi ngokwanda koluntu oluyalelwe ukuba luzimele.

Ndizivile ngokwam iziphumo ngeli xesha lokuhlala. Ndikhumbula abahlobo bam, usapho lwam kunye nenkululeko yokuphuma ndiyokudibana nabantu abatsha.

Ukuziva uwedwa ngokuchasene nokuziva ulilolo

Ukuziva ulilolo nokuba lilolo zizinto ezimbini ezahluke ngokupheleleyo. Ukuchukunyiswa kukungabikho kobudlelwane, isithukuthezi sibangela inqanaba lokuzahlula elinokonakalisa impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nentlalontle.

Njengengeniso, ndifumana amandla am ekubeni ndedwa. Ndingumntu wasekhaya oqhele ukuphangela ekhaya. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndikwazi ukujamelana kakuhle neli xesha lokuba ndodwa. Kwicala elisezantsi, ndikhetha ukuba ndilinganise phakathi kokuba wedwa nokunxibelelana kwezentlalo.

Ungahlala wedwa, usebenze wedwa, kwaye uhambe wedwa ngelixa uzive uxolile ngokupheleleyo nesiqu sakho. Ubulolo, nangona kunjalo? Ibetha ngokwahlukileyo.

Ihlala ikwenza uzive ungoyena "mntu ungaqhelekanga" kwiimeko zentlalo, kwaye loo mvakalelo inokukukhokelela kwindlela ebuhlungu ngokweemvakalelo.

Iziphumo zokuziva ulilolo zinokwenza kube nzima kuwe ukuseka unxibelelwano kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo nabanye. Ngamaxesha apho usengozini kakhulu, kunokubonakala ngathi awunandawo ikhuselekileyo yomhlaba ngokwenkxaso yemvakalelo.

Ukuziva ulilolo kunokuba nefuthe nakweliphi na inqanaba lobomi bakho, ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ebudaleni. Amaxesha e-episodic okuba lilolo aqhelekile. Kungenzeka, uya kuziva iziphumo zayo kwinqanaba elincinci.

Ukukhula njengomntwana okuphela komama, ndafumana isizungu kwasekuqaleni. Andizange ndibenabantakwethu abalingana nam iminyaka yokudlala, ukulwa nabo, okanye ukusombulula ukungavisisani nabo. Ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba, oku kubuphazamisile ubomi bam bentlalo.

Ukwenza abahlobo akuzange kube ngumcimbi kum, kodwa kwandithatha iminyaka ukuqonda ubugcisa bonxibelelwano kunye nokusombulula ungquzulwano. Ubudlelwane bunqabile ukuhlala xa kukho ukunqongophala kwezi zinto zimbini, kwaye ndikufunde oku ngendlela enzima.

Ubulolo bexesha elide yindawo eyingozi ongafuniyo ukufikelela kuyo, njengoko ibeka umngcipheko ophezulu kakhulu wezempilo.

Ukuphepha ukuba nesizungu ngelixa ubuyela ekhaya

Njengabantu, sihlala ngokwendalo. Sasingaxhonywanga okanye sidalelwe ukuhlala ubomi bodwa. Yiyo loo nto sinqwenela ukunxibelelana xa kukho ukusilela kwayo kubomi bethu bobuqu.

Ukuzikhetha kuneengenelo zako. Umzekelo, unokufumana kulula ukugxila xa usebenza okanye usenza izinto wedwa. Le yenye yeemeko apho kukho ubuhle bodwa. Kwelinye icala, ineengxaki zalo njengawo nawuphi na umkhwa.

Njengomntu wobugcisa, ndisebenza kakuhle xa kungekho mntu. Ndikhetha ukuba ndedwa xa iivili zam zijikajika kwaye ndikuloo ndawo yentloko yoyilo. Ngoba? Iziphazamiso zinokuphazamisa ukuhamba kwam ngokulula, nto leyo indikhupha ngaphandle kwe-groove yam kwaye indenze ndibambezele.

Andikwazi ukuzivumela ukuba ndisebenze imini yonke, okanye bendiya kuhlala ndikwedwa. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndibhloka ixesha kwishedyuli yam yokusebenza kwiiprojekthi zoyilo.

Ngale ndlela, ndiyakwazi ukwandisa ixesha lam kwaye ndibenempilo eseleyo yokuphila-ubomi. Ngamaxesha ngamanye, ndiqinisekile ukunxibelelana nabantu bam.

Xa sichitha ixesha elininzi sodwa, iingqondo zethu ngamanye amaxesha zinokujikeleza umngxuma womvundla wokucinga okungalunganga. Musa ukuwela kulo mgibe. Ukuzabalazela amalungelo kubalulekile.

Ngokwe-American Psychological Association (APA), ukubonwa kwabantu bodwa kunokubangela iingxaki ezahlukeneyo zempilo. Iziphumo zinokubakho ukusuka kuxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kukungakhuseleki komzimba.

Ngamaxesha obunzima, kungcono ukuhlala kwinqanaba-eliphambili kwaye ujonge kwinto onokuyilawula. Ukugxila kwinto onokuyenza kuya kukunceda ukumelana nenyani yakho entsha.

Hlala uqhagamshele kwaye ungene ngaphakathi

I-APA iqaphela ukuba isizungu esigqithisileyo sinokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho. Njengoko sinyamezela le ngxaki, kufuneka sihlale siqhagamshelene nabanye ngelixa sikuyo.

Itekhnoloji yenza kube lula ukuhlala unxibelelana nabantu ngaphandle kokubakho ngokwasemzimbeni. Usapho, abahlobo, kunye nabantu obathandayo bahlala befowunela kude-ngaphandle kokuba uhlala nabo.

Ukuba uziva ngathi uphumile kunxibelelwano nabo usondele kubo, ngoku ingalixesha elihle lokuphinda uqhagamshele. Enkosi kumaqonga asekwe kwingxoxo njengeFoTTime kunye neGroupMe, unokujonga abantu obathandayo ngokulula ukusuka ekhaya.

Ayipheleli apho. Imidiya yokuncokola isebenza injongo yayo ngeendlela ezininzi kunenye. Ngokuyintloko, sisixhobo esihle sokusebenzisa ukwenza unxibelelwano olutsha.

Abantu kwihlabathi liphela basebenzise imithombo yeendaba kwesi sizathu. Unethuba elingcono lokuseka unxibelelwano nomntu ukuba unokwazi ukunxibelelana nabo ngandlela thile.

Kuba sonke siziva imiphumo yale ntlekele, oku kunokuba sisiqalo esihle sokufumana indawo esivumelana ngayo.

Kukho Ingxoxo yokuQinisa, i-app entsha yabantu abalwa nesizungu njengoko sithambisa ijika le-COVID-19.

Zimasa iintlanganiso zentlalo

Kuba asinakuphuma sihlangabeze abantu abatsha ngaphandle kweintanethi, kutheni ungaqhathi ngendlela odibana nabo kwi-Intanethi?

Kunye ne-intanethi kuza izibonelelo zoluntu kwi-Intanethi. Kukho iitoni zoluntu ekuhle kakhulu kuzo zonke iindlela zobomi. Uninzi luyafumaneka kuluntu simahla.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiza kuqala ngaphi? Jonga amaqela e-Facebook ahambelana nezinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo.

Olunye uluntu lubamba iindibano ezibonakala ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ziyasebenza ngoku. Ndizibonile zonke, ukusuka kubusuku bemiboniso bhanyabhanya kunye nabaxube kwiiklabhu zencwadi ezikwi-Intanethi kunye nemihla yekofu. Kwaye kukho phantse lonke uhlobo lweklasi yokomelela komzimba onokucinga ngayo.

Musa ukoyika ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Kuya kuba ngumcimbi wexesha ngaphambi kokuba ufumane isizwe sakho, nokuba ukwi-Intanethi.

Amavolontiya phantse

Ngaba ukhe wafuna ukufaka isandla kwinto enkulu kunawe? Ngoku lithuba lakho lokwenza loo mpembelelo inentsingiselo eluntwini.

Zininzi iindlela onokuyihlawula ngayo ngaphandle kokushiya indlu. Ukunceda abanye kunokususa ingqondo yakho kwisizungu kwaye kugxile ekujongeni okuhle.

Unokunceda abaphandi be-COVID-19 basekhaya.

Yimpumelelo yakho kunye nabantu.

Thetha phandle nengcali yezempilo yengqondo

Kuninzi unyango olunokuyenza kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Kwelinye, ingcali yeengcali inokukuxhobisa ngezixhobo ozifunayo ukuze umelane ngempumelelo nesizungu.

Unyango lomntu alufikeleleki ngoku, kodwa awuzukukhetha ngokupheleleyo. Iiapps ezinje ngeTalkspace kunye neBellhelp zenze ukuba kube lula ukufumana unyango kwi-intanethi.

"Iinkonzo zonyango kwi-Intanethi zinokunceda ukunyanga iimpawu zokudakumba, kubandakanya isithukuthezi," utshilo uGqirha Zlatin Ivanov, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo onelayisensi kwisiXeko saseNew York.

Nangona amava anokwahluka kunoko ubuqhele ukukusebenzisa, unyango lwe-Intanethi lunokusebenza ngokuchanekileyo njengonyango lomntu.

"Inika abantu amandla] okuxoxa ngeempawu zabo, benze isicwangciso sonyango, kwaye basebenze umntu nomnye ngonyango," u-Ivanov wongeza.

Fikelela kwinkxaso

Kulabo bajongane nobulolo bexesha elide iiveki, iinyanga, okanye iminyaka ngexesha, ukuphambuka komzimba kuzibonakalise ngexesha elingafanelekanga.

Ukuba ngoku ulwa nesizungu, siyakukhuthaza ukuba usebenzise izibonelelo ezilapha. Ngokwenyani akufuneki uhambe wedwa.

Uncedo lukhona phaya

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo usengxakini kwaye ucinga ngokuzibulala okanye ukuzenzakalisa, nceda ufune inkxaso:

• Tsalela umnxeba ku-911 okanye inombolo yakho yeenkonzo zoncedo olungxamisekileyo.
• Tsalela umnxeba iNational Lifeline Prevention Lifeline ku-800-273-8255.
• Thumela i-HOME kwi-Crisis Textline kwi-741741.
• Hayi eUnited States? Fumana umnxeba woncedo kwilizwe lakho kunye nabahlobo bakho kwihlabathi liphela.

Ngelixa ulinde uncedo ukuba lufike, hlala nabo kwaye ususe naziphi na izixhobo okanye izinto ezinokubangela ingozi.

Ukuba anikho kuloo ndlu inye, hlala emnxebeni kude kufike uncedo.

UJohnaé De Felicis ngumbhali, umntu obhadulayo, kunye nempilo entle e-California. Uhlanganisa izihloko ezahlukeneyo ezinxulumene nendawo yempilo nokuba sempilweni, ukusuka kwimpilo yengqondo ukuya kukuphila kwendalo.