Indlela yokujongana nesizungu kwiLizwe lanamhlanje: Iinketho zakho zeNkxaso

Umxholo

• Izixhobo zomntu wonke
• Ukuba ujongene nemeko yempilo yengqondo
• Ukuba ujongene nemeko engapheliyo
• Ukuba ukwishumi elivisayo
• Ukuba sele umdala
• Ukuba uligqala
• Ukuba ungumphambukeli eUnited States
• Uziqhelanisa njani nokuzikhathalela kwaye ufune inkxaso

Ngaba oku kuqhelekile?

Ubulolo abufani nokuba wedwa. Unokuba wedwa, kodwa ungabi nesithukuthezi. Ungaziva ulilolo kwindlu enabantu.

Kukuziva ukuba unqanyulwe kwabanye, kungekho mntu unokuzityand 'igila kuye. Kukungabikho kolwalamano olunentsingiselo kwaye kunokwenzeka kubantwana, kubantu abadala, nakubo bonke abaphakathi.

Ngobuchwephesha, sinokufikelela ngakumbi komnye nomnye kunangaphambili. Unokuziva unxibelelene ngakumbi nehlabathi xa ufumana "abahlobo" kwimidiya yoluntu, kodwa ayisoloko ibuthomalalisa ubulolo.

Phantse wonke umntu uziva elilolo ngaxa lithile, kwaye oko akuyongozi. Ngamanye amaxesha, yimeko yexeshana yemicimbi ngenxa yeemeko, njengaxa ufudukela kwidolophu entsha, uqhawula umtshato, okanye uphulukana nomntu omthandayo. Ukuzibandakanya kakhulu kwimicimbi yezentlalo kunye nokudibana nabantu abatsha kuhlala kukunceda uye phambili.

Kodwa oku kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye okukhona ukuhlala uwedwa kuqhubeka, kokukhona kunokuba nzima ukutshintsha. Mhlawumbi awuyazi into omawuyenze, okanye mhlawumbi uzame ngaphandle kwempumelelo.

Oku kunokuba yingxaki, kuba isizungu esingapheliyo sinokuchaphazela impilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni. Ngapha koko, ukuba lilolo kunxulunyaniswa nokudakumba, ukuzibulala kunye nokugula emzimbeni.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omkhathaleleyo unesizungu, yazi ukuba isisombululo sinokulula. Ukunxibelelana ngakumbi nabanye nokudibana nabantu abatsha kunokukunceda uye phambili.

Kulapho ezi zibonelelo zingena khona. Banikezela ngeendlela zokunxibelelana nabanye ngeendlela ezininzi, ukusuka ekuzinikeleni ngenjongo, ukudibana nabantu abanomdla ofanayo, ukuya ekutholeni inja okanye ikati ukuze isebenze njengeqabane elithembekileyo.

Ke qhubeka-ujonge ezi ndawo kwaye ufumane ezona zilungele iimfuno ezizodwa zakho okanye umntu onomdla kuye. Jonga ngeenxa zonke, cofa amanye amakhonkco, kwaye uthathe inyathelo elilandelayo lokoyisa isizungu kunye nokufumana unxibelelwano olunentsingiselo nabanye.

Izixhobo zomntu wonke

• Umanyano lukaZwelonke kwiMpilo yeNgqondo (i-NAMI) lusebenzela ukuphucula ubomi baseMelika abachaphazeleke sisifo sengqondo. Iinkqubo zeNAMI zibandakanya ubuninzi bamathuba emfundo, ukufikelela ebantwini kunye nenkxaso, kunye neenkonzo zenkxaso kwilizwe liphela.
• IHalfofus.com inokukunceda ukuba uqale ngokujongana nesizungu okanye nawuphina umba wezempilo yengqondo osokolayo.
• IVolontiyaMarch.org ibeka amavolontiya kunye nezizathu ezibakhathaleleyo kwiindawo abahlala kuzo. Kukho ubungqina bokuba ivolontiya lingasinciphisa isizungu. Ukuba ufuna unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni okanye injongo yenjongo, kodwa ungazi ukuba ungayenza njani, le database inokukhangelwa inokukunceda ukuba uqalise.
• I-MeetUp.com sisixhobo esikwi-intanethi ukukunceda udibane nabantu abatsha ubuso ngobuso. Khangela indawo ukuze ufumane abantu abakufutshane nawe ababelana ngezinto ezifanayo. Ungazibandakanya neqela ukuze ubone ukuba badibana phi kwaye nini kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba uyafuna ukuzama. Akukho sinyanzelo sokunamathela kwiqela xa sele ujoyinile.
• I-ASPCA inokukunceda ufumane indawo yokuhlala yezilwanyana ekufuphi kuwe kunye nezilwanyana ezifuna ikhaya. Isifundo sika-2014 sagqiba kwelokuba ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya kunokunika izibonelelo zempilo-ntle, kubandakanya ukuthomalalisa isithukuthezi.
• I-Lonely Hour yipodcast apho abantu bevula malunga nemizabalazo yabo yokuba nesizungu kunye nokuzimela. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuyanceda ukuva ukuba asisodwa kwezi mvakalelo, kwaye kuyakhuthaza ukufunda ukuba abanye bajongana njani nayo.

Ukuba ujongene nemeko yempilo yengqondo

Ngelishwa, kusekho isixa esithile sehlazo eliqhotyoshelwe kwiimeko zempilo yengqondo. Ukuzahlula kunokubangela ukuba ube lilolo. Ubulolo bexesha elide bukwanxulunyaniswa nokudakumba kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala.

Ukuba unempilo yengqondo, enje ngoxinzelelo okanye ukusebenzisa gwenxa iziyobisi, ukungabikho mntu uncike kuye kungenza kube nzima ukufuna uncedo oludingayo.

Nokuba amanyathelo akho okuqala ayenziwa ngokuncokola kwi-Intanethi okanye nge-hotline yempilo yengqondo, ukuthetha ngayo nomntu yindawo elungileyo ukuqala. Buza ugqirha wakho ukuba akuthumele kwizixhobo ezikwindawo yakho.

Siphinde sahlanganisa ezinye izixhobo zempilo yengqondo ongazama ngazo ngoku:

• IMental Health America ibonelela ngobutyebi bolwazi, kubandakanya namaqela enkxaso kwi-intanethi kwiimfuno ezithile. Banokukukhokelela kumaqela akummandla wakho.
• Ukuzibulala kukazwelonke kuthintela Lifeline iyafumaneka ubusuku nemini ukukunceda xa usengxakini. Inombolo yomnxeba: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255).
• Amandla emihla ngemihla adibanisa abantu kunye nemiba efanayo yokuxhasana.
• Idolophu yaBafana ine-24/7 yeengxaki kumnxeba kulutsha nakubazali, abasebenza ngabacebisi abaqeqeshiweyo. Inombolo yomnxeba: 800-448-3000.
• U-Childhelp ubonelela ngenkxaso kubantwana nakubantu abadala abasindileyo ekuphathweni gadalala. Tsalela umnxeba kwi-24/7: 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453).
• Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zeMpilo yeNgqondo (i-SAMHSA) ibonelela ngendawo eyimfihlo yokuFumana iiNkonzo zokuNyanga ezeMpilo kunye ne-24/7 yomnxeba: 800-662-HELP (800-662-4357).

Ukuba ujongene nemeko engapheliyo

Xa ukugula okungapheliyo kunye nokukhubazeka kwenza kube nzima kuwe ukuba ujikeleze, ukuhlala wedwa kunokukuhlasela. Unokuziva ukuba abahlobo bakho bakudala abasakuxhasi njengokuba babenjalo ngaphambili, kwaye uchitha ixesha elininzi wedwa kunokuba ubungathanda.

Isizungu sinokuyichaphazela kakubi impilo, ke esiba ngumqobo wokungakhathali ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba.

Enye indlela yokwaphula umjikelo kukusebenza ngokunyusa inethiwekhi yabahlobo bakho. Ungaqala ngabantu abanemiceli mngeni empilweni. Khangela ubudlelwane obuxhasanayo apho ungabelana khona ngezimvo malunga nendlela yokoyisa isizungu kunye nokuba wedwa.

Nazi ezinye zeendawo zokudibanisa kunye nezinye izixhobo onokuzama ngazo ngoku:

• I-Rare Disease United Foundation ibonelela ngoluhlu lwamaqela e-Facebook ngurhulumente ukunceda abantu abanezifo ezinqabileyo ukuba babelane ngolwazi kunye neziganeko kwinqanaba lendawo.
• I-Healing Well ibonelela ngeeforum ezininzi ngemeko. Joyina uluntu kwaye ufumanise ukuba yintoni esebenzayo abanye abakwimeko efanayo.
• I-Arhente yoPhando lwezeMpilo kunye noMgangatho (AHRQ) ibonelela ngoluhlu lwezixhobo ezahlukeneyo zezifo ezinganyangekiyo kunye neemeko.
• Kodwa awuJongi ukuGula ukwiphulo lokunceda abantu abanesifo esinganyangekiyo okanye abakhubazekileyo ukuba bazive bodwa kwaye baphile ubomi babo ngokupheleleyo.
• Iinkqubo ze-4 zaBantu yinkqubo yoMbutho wabaKhubazekileyo ongabonakaliyo. Ikhasi lezixhobo elibanzi libandakanya uninzi lwemicimbi enxulumene neemeko zempilo ezingapheliyo.

Ukuba ukwishumi elivisayo

Kukho phakathi kwabantwana abanobunzima bokunxulumana noontanga kunye nesizungu. Yingxaki ephakanyiswayo ngexesha lokufikisa nangaphaya. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba uyiqwalasele ngokukhawuleza.

Zininzi izizathu zokuba ulutsha lube nesizungu, kodwa azisoloko zicacile. Izinto ezinjengeengxaki zosapho, ezemali kunye nokuxhaphaza zinokutyhalela ulutsha ekuhlaleni lodwa. Kunganzima kakhulu ukuba ulutsha olunentloni okanye olungenisiweyo luzokugqobhoza.

Ezi nkqubo zenziwa zinolutsha engqondweni:

• Iiklabhu zaMakhwenkwe naMantombazana zaseMelika zinika abantwana nabantwana abakwishumi elivisayo amathuba okunxulumana kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwezemidlalo nakweminye imisebenzi, kunokuba bahlale bodwa ekhaya.
• Indlu yoMnqophiso ibonelela ngoncedo lwabantwana abangenamakhaya nabasemngciphekweni.
• Isiseko seJED sigxile ekuncedeni ulutsha ukuba loyise imiceli mngeni yotshintsho ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ebuntombini.
• Yeka Ukuxhatshazwa unikeza iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nokuxhatshazwa, kunye namacandelo ahlukeneyo kubantwana, abazali kunye nabanye.

Ukuba sele umdala

Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuba abantu abadala babe lilolo. Abantwana bakhulile kwaye indlu ayinanto. Uthathe umhlala-phantsi kwikhondo lomsebenzi omde. Iingxaki zempilo zikushiye ungakwazi ukuhlala njengakuqala.

Nokuba uhlala wedwa okanye useto lweqela, isizungu yingxaki eqhelekileyo kubantu abadala. Inxulunyaniswa nempilo enkenenkene, uxinzelelo, kunye nokwehla kwengqondo.

Njengamanye amaqela obudala, izinto zinokuba ngcono ukuba ukhulisa ubuhlobo kwaye ujoyine imisebenzi ebonelela ngengqondo yenjongo.

Nazi izixhobo zokuba lilolo kubantu abadala abadala:

• Abazalwana abancinci Abahlobo baBantu abadala asinto engenzi nzuzo ebeka amavolontiya kunye nabantu abadala abaziva bengamalolo okanye belibele.
• Iinkqubo zaBadala beCorps zinceda abantu abadala abangama-55 nangaphezulu njengevolontiya ngeendlela ngeendlela, kwaye banikezela ngoqeqesho oludingayo. Ootatomkhulu obafundisayo baya kukufanisa nomntwana ofuna umcebisi kunye nomhlobo. I-RSVP ikunceda ukuba ube livolontiya kwindawo ohlala kuyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ukusuka kwintlekele ukuya ekufundiseni. Ngamaqabane aBadala, unganceda abanye abantu abadala abafuna nje uncedo oluncinci ukuba bahlale emakhayeni abo.

Ukuba uligqala

Uhlolisiso lwamajoni aseMelika aneminyaka engama-60 nangaphezulu lufumanise ukuba isizungu sixhaphakile. Kwaye inxulunyaniswa neziphumo ezibi ezifanayo zomzimba nezengqondo njengamanye amaqela.

Iziganeko ezothusayo, uxinzelelo olubonakalayo, kunye neempawu ze-PTSD zinxulunyaniswa ngokuqinisekileyo nesizungu. Ukuncamathiselwa okukhuselekileyo, umbulelo, kunye nokuzibandakanya ngakumbi kwiinkonzo zonqulo kwakudityaniswa kakubi nesizungu.

Utshintsho olusuka emkhosini luye kubomi boluntu lutshintsho olukhulu, nokuba ungakanani. Ukuziva ulilolo kuyinto engaqhelekanga, kodwa akufuneki kuqhubeke.

Oovimba benziwe benamagqala engqondweni:

• I-Crisis Line yeVeterans iyafumaneka nge-24/7 ukubonelela ngenkxaso eyimfihlo kumagqala asengxakini kunye nabantu ababathandayo. Inombolo yomnxeba: 800-273-8255. Unokuthumela umyalezo kwi-838255 okanye ungene kwingxoxo ekwi-Intanethi.
• Umda weCransans Crisis Line unendawo eyiLource Locator ukuze ufumane iinkonzo kufutshane nasekhaya.
• Yenza uqhagamshelo lubonelele ngolwazi malunga nendlela yokuphucula ubudlelwane kunye notshintsho ukusuka kwezomkhosi ukuya kubomi babantu. Banokukunceda ufumane iinkonzo zomntu ngaphakathi kufutshane nekhaya.
• Imishini iyaqhubeka inceda ukugcina imishini yakho iphila ngokukubonisa ukuba ungazibandakanya njani neeprojekthi zoluntu ngenjongo.
• Unxibelelwano lweWarrior Canine lusebenzisa unyango olusekwe ekliniki ngoncedo lokunxibelelana nosapho lwakho, uluntu kunye nobomi ngokubanzi. Abathathi-nxaxheba banokuqeqesha injana njengenja yenkonzo eya kuthi ekugqibeleni incede amagqala awonzakeleyo.

Ukuba ungumphambukeli eUnited States

Nokuba ziphi na izizathu zokufudukela kwilizwe elitsha, ukuhamba kulo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni. Ushiye iindawo eziqhelekileyo, abahlobo, kwaye mhlawumbi nosapho ngasemva. Inokuba ngamava awodwa ekuhlaleni, akhokelela kwisizungu esikhulu.

Uya kuqala ukudibana nabantu ngomsebenzi wakho, ubumelwane bakho, okanye iindawo zokunqula nezikolo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kubakho ixesha lohlengahlengiso olunokuthi, ngamanye amaxesha, lube lucaphukisayo.

Ukwazi inkcubeko, ulwimi kunye namasiko abantu abakwindawo ohlala kuyo linyathelo lokuqala ekwenzeni abantu obaqhelileyo abanokujika babenze ubuhlobo obuhlala buhleli.

Nazi iindawo ezimbalwa zokuqalisa inkqubo:

• Uluntu oluFundayo lujongana nemiceli mngeni ebandakanyekayo ekuziqhelaniseni nobomi eMelika. Banikezela ngeengcebiso zokuqonda inkcubeko kunye namasiko aseMelika, kubandakanya nokufunda ulwimi. Bayakukhomba nakwiinkonzo zikarhulumente eziyilelwe ukunceda abantwana abavela kwamanye amazwe kunye neentsapho.
• Isikhokelo sokufunda nokubhala eMelika sisiseko sedatha esinokukhangelwa kwiinkqubo zokufunda, kubandakanya isiNgesi njengolwimi lwesibini kunye nokuba ngummi okanye imfundo yezentlalo.
• Ubummi baseMelika kunye neeNkonzo zokuFudukela kwelinye ilizwe zibonelela ngoluhlu lwamathuba okuzithandela kwabafuduki.

Uziqhelanisa njani nokuzikhathalela kwaye ufune inkxaso

Unokuba nesithukuthezi ngenxa yokuba uziva unqanyuliwe ebantwini kwaye uswele ulwalamano olunentsingiselo, oluxhasayo. Xa oko kuqhubeka ixesha elide kakhulu, kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zosizi kunye nokugatywa, ezinokukuyekisa ukufikelela kwabanye.

Ukuthatha la manyathelo okuqala kungoyikisa, kodwa ungawophula umjikelo.

Akukho sisombululo sisodwa kwingxaki yesizungu. Cinga iimfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho. Cinga ngemisebenzi ebonisa umdla wakho okanye unike unxibelelwano kwabanye.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulinde omnye umntu ukuba aqalise incoko okanye ubuhlobo. Thatha ithuba lokuba ngowokuqala. Ukuba ayisebenzi, zama into okanye omnye umntu. Ufanele umzamo.

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