Izibonelelo zokuCinga ngokufanelekileyo, kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo

Umxholo

• Ushwankathelo
• Indlela yokucinga iingcinga ezintle
• Gxila kwizinto ezintle
• Ziqhelise ukubulela
• Gcina incwadi yokubulela
• Zivulele uburharha
• Chitha ixesha nabantu abathembekileyo
• Ziqhelise ukuthetha ngokwakho
• Chonga iindawo zakho zokungakhathali
• Qala yonke imihla ngenqaku elifanelekileyo
• Ungayicinga njani into elungileyo xa yonke into ihamba gwenxa
• Iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zokucinga okungalunganga
• Xa ufuna uncedo lwezonyango
• Yise kude

Ushwankathelo

Ngaba uyiglasi engenanto okanye uhlobo olupheleleyo lomntu? Izifundo zibonise ukuba zombini zinokuchaphazela impilo yakho yasemzimbeni nasengqondweni kwaye ukuba ucinga ngokuqinisekileyo kungcono kwezi zimbini.

Uphononongo lwamva nje luye lwalandela ama-70,000 abasetyhini ukusukela ngo-2004 ukuya ku-2012 kwaye bafumanisa ukuba abo babenethemba babenomngcipheko ophantsi kakhulu wokufa kwizizathu eziphambili zokufa, kubandakanya:

• isifo sentliziyo
• ukubetha
• umhlaza, kubandakanya ibele, i-ovari, imiphunga kunye nomhlaza ongafaniyo
• usulelo
• izifo zokuphefumla

Ezinye izibonelelo eziqinisekisiweyo zokucinga ngokuqinisekileyo zibandakanya:

• umgangatho wobomi obungcono
• amanqanaba aphezulu amandla
• impilo engcono ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni
• ukuchacha ngokukhawuleza ekonzakaleni okanye ekuguleni
• bambalwa umkhuhlane
• amaqondo asezantsi oxinzelelo
• ulawulo olungcono loxinzelelo kunye nezakhono zokujamelana
• ubomi obude

Ukucinga okuhle ayingomlingo kwaye ngekhe kuyenze inyamalale yonke ingxaki yakho. Into eya kuyenza kukwenza iingxaki zibonakale zilawuleka ngakumbi kwaye zikuncede ujongane nobunzima ngendlela efanelekileyo nenemveliso.

Indlela yokucinga iingcinga ezintle

Ukucinga okuqinisekileyo kunokufezekiswa ngeendlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo ezingqineke zisebenza, ezinje ngokuthetha okuhle kunye nemifanekiso elungileyo.

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuba uqalise ezinokukunceda uqeqeshe ingqondo yakho ukuze ucinge ngokuqinisekileyo.

Gxila kwizinto ezintle

Iimeko ezinzima kunye nezithintelo ziyinxalenye yobomi. Xa ujongene nenye, jolisa kwizinto ezintle nokuba zincinci okanye zibonakala ngathi azibalulekanga. Ukuba uyayikhangela, ungasoloko ufumana iingqekembe zesilivere engumzekeliso kwilifu ngalinye - nokuba ayicacanga kwangoko. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu urhoxa kwizicwangciso, jolisa kwindlela elisikhulula ngayo ixesha lokuba ubambe umboniso weTV okanye omnye umsebenzi owuthandayo.

Ziqhelise ukubulela

Ukuziqhelanisa nombulelo kubonisiwe ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukuphucula ukuzithemba, kunye nokukhuthaza ukomelela nakumaxesha anzima kakhulu. Cinga ngabantu, amaxesha, okanye izinto ezikulethela intuthuzelo okanye ulonwabo kwaye uzame ukubonakalisa umbulelo wakho kube kanye ngemini. Oku kunokuba kukubulela umntu osebenza naye ngokunceda kwiprojekthi, umntu omthandayo ngokuhlamba izitya, okanye inja yakho ngothando olungenamiqathango abakunika lona.

Gcina incwadi yokubulela

Ufumene ukuba ukubhala phantsi izinto onombulelo ngazo kunokukwenza ube nethemba kwaye ube nentlalontle. Unokwenza oku ngokubhala kwijenali yombulelo yonke imihla, okanye ubhale phantsi uluhlu lwezinto onombulelo ngazo kwiintsuku onzima kuzo.

Zivulele uburharha

Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba ukuhleka kunciphisa uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Ikwaphucula izakhono zokujamelana, imood, kunye nokuzithemba.

Vulela uburharha kuzo zonke iimeko, ngakumbi ezinzima, kwaye zinike imvume yokuhleka. Kwangoko ikhanyisela imeko kwaye yenza izinto zibonakale ngathi azikho nzima kangako. Nokuba awuyiva; ukuzenzisa okanye ukuzinyanzela ukuba uhleke kunokuphucula imeko yakho kunye noxinzelelo olusezantsi.

Chitha ixesha nabantu abathembekileyo

Ukungakhathali kunye nokuzithemba kubonisiwe kuyosulela. Cinga ngabantu ochitha nabo ixesha. Ngaba uqaphele ukuba umntu okwiimeko ezimbi unokuwisa phantse wonke umntu osegumbini? Umntu oqinisekileyo unefuthe elichaseneyo nabanye.

Ukuba phakathi kwabantu abaqinisekileyo kuboniswe ukuphucula ukuzithemba kunye nokwandisa amathuba okufikelela kwiinjongo. Zijikeleze ngabantu abaza kukuphakamisa kwaye bakuncede ubone icala eliqaqambileyo.

Ziqhelise ukuthetha ngokwakho

Sivame ukuba ngabona banzima kuthi kwaye sizigxeke kakhulu. Ixesha elingaphezulu, oku kunokubangela ukuba wenze uluvo olubi ngawe olunokuba nzima ukushukumisa. Ukuyeka oku, kuya kufuneka ulikhumbule ilizwi elisentloko kwaye uphendule ngemiyalezo eyakhayo, ekwabizwa ngokuba kukuthetha okuhle.

Uphando lubonisa ukuba notshintsho oluncinci kwindlela othetha ngayo lunokuchaphazela amandla akho okulawula iimvakalelo zakho, iingcinga, kunye nokuziphatha phantsi koxinzelelo.

Nanku umzekelo wokuzithetha ngokwakho: Endaweni yokucinga "Ndiyonakalisile loo nto," zama "ndiza kuyizama ngenye indlela."

Chonga iindawo zakho zokungakhathali

Jonga kakuhle iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakho kwaye uchonge ezona othanda ukungazithandi. Andiqinisekanga? Buza umhlobo omthembileyo okanye umntu osebenza naye. Amathuba kukuba, baya kuba nakho ukubonelela ngengqondo. Umntu osebenza naye unokuqaphela ukuba uhlala unezinto ezimbi emsebenzini. Iqabane lakho linokuqaphela ukuba ufumana ukungalunganga xa uqhuba. Thatha indawo ibe nye ngexesha.

Qala yonke imihla ngenqaku elifanelekileyo

Yenza isiko apho uqala khona suku ngalunye ngento eyakhayo neqinisekileyo. Nazi iimbono ezimbalwa:

• Zixelele ukuba iya kuba lusuku oluhle okanye naluphi na uqinisekiso oluqinisekileyo.
• Mamela ingoma eyonwabileyo neqinisekileyo okanye uluhlu lokudlala.
• Yabelana ngolwazelelelo ngokunika ukuncoma okanye ukwenza into entle yomntu.

Ungayicinga njani into elungileyo xa yonke into ihamba gwenxa

Ukuzama ukuba nethemba xa usentlungwini okanye ufumana olunye uxinzelelo olunzulu kunokubonakala kungenakwenzeka. Ngala maxesha, kubalulekile ukuba ususe uxinzelelo kuwe ukufumana ulwelwesi lwesilivere. Endaweni yokuba ujonge amandla ukuze ufumane inkxaso kwabanye.

Ukucinga okuqinisekileyo akungokungcwaba yonke ingcinga engalunganga okanye imvakalelo onayo okanye ukunqanda iimvakalelo ezinzima. Amanqaku asezantsi ebomini bethu ihlala ikukusikhuthaza ukuba siqhubele phambili kwaye senze utshintsho olufanelekileyo.

Xa uhamba ngexesha elinjalo, zama ukuzibona ngathi ungumhlobo olungileyo ofuna intuthuzelo kunye neengcebiso ezifanelekileyo. Ungathini kuye? Ungaziqonda iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye umkhumbuze ukuba unelungelo lokuziva elusizi okanye enomsindo kwimeko yakhe, emva koko unike inkxaso ngesikhumbuzo esimnandi sokuba izinto ziya kuba ngcono.

Iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zokucinga okungalunganga

Ukucinga okungalunganga kunye neemvakalelo ezininzi ezinokuhamba nayo, njengokuphelelwa lithemba, uxinzelelo, kunye nomsindo, kunokubangela inani leempawu ezibonakalayo kunye nokwandisa umngcipheko wezifo kunye nexesha elifutshane lokuphila.

Uxinzelelo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zibangela iinkqubo ezininzi emizimbeni yethu, kubandakanya ukukhutshwa kwehormoni yoxinzelelo, imetabolism, kunye nokusebenza komzimba. Ixesha elide loxinzelelo lonyusa ukudumba emzimbeni wakho, obuye wanyanzeliswa kwinani okanye kwizifo ezinobuzaza.

Ezinye zeempawu zoxinzelelo zibandakanya:

• intloko ebuhlungu
• iintlungu zomzimba
• isicaphucaphu
• ukudinwa
• ubunzima bokulala

Ukugxeka, uxinzelelo, umsindo kunye nobutshaba kunxulunyaniswe nomngcipheko ophezulu woku:

• isifo sentliziyo
• ukuhlaselwa yintliziyo
• ukubetha
• Isifo sengqondo esiyingozi

Xa ufuna uncedo lwezonyango

Ukuba uziva utyiwa ziingcinga ezimbi kwaye unengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho, bona ugqirha. Unokuxhamla kuncedo lwezonyango, ezinje ngengqondo elungileyo okanye unyango. Iingcinga ezingapheliyo ezinokubangelwa sisimo sengqondo esifuna unyango.

Yise kude

Awuyi kukwazi ukuhlengahlengisa iminyaka yokuphelelwa lithemba kunye neengcinga ezimbi ngobusuku obunye, kodwa ngokwenza okuthile, unokufunda indlela yokujongana nezinto ngombono oqinisekileyo.