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Umxholo

• Inokukunceda uzive ukhuseleke ngakumbi-ngakumbi kwangethuba.
• 2. Kwenza kube lula ukubonisa uxabiso nge-S.O yakho.
• 3. Ukubhiyozela iziganeko ezibalulekileyo esidlangalaleni kunokunceda ekwakheni ukusondelelana.
• 4. Kuyanceda ukuba uhlale uqhagamshelene neeshedyuli ezixakekileyo.
• 5. Ingakunika amava owabelana ngawo.
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Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo ifumana ubushushu obuninzi ngokwenza ukuba ishishini libe nobudlelwane kwezothando-kunye nokuzisa ezona zinto zingakhuselekanga, umona otyekele kuthi sonke. Ezinye zazo zilungile ngokupheleleyo. Ewe, ukuba nabafana abashushu bayilayida kwi-DM yakho okanye i-ex yakho ikongeze kwi-Snapchat inokuphakamisa isilingo. Kwaye akukho luvo lubi kunokubonwa ngamehlo ngumfana osandula ukwahlukana nokuvela kwenye i-Instastory yenye intombazana. '

"Akukho nto iphikayo ukuba imidiya yoluntu itshintshile indlela esidibana ngayo, ukwabelana ngesondo, ukuthandana, nokuphuma eluthandweni, kodwa into endiyithathayo kukuba imidiya yoluntu iye yaba yibhokhwe kwiingxaki zethu zabantu," utsho uAtlanta- i-based relationship therapist uBrian Jory, Ph.D., umbhali we Cupid kwiTyala. "Ubudlelwane buyasilela ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kwaye akufanele sigxeke amajelo asekuhlaleni ngeengxaki esizenzele zona." Chukumisa.

Ngalo lonke ixesha kukho iteknoloji entsha-iimoto, i-imeyile, iivibrators-kufuneka sifunde ukuziqhelanisa nendlela abatshintsha ngayo ukuthandana , ubudlelwane, kunye nokusondelana, ugxininisa. UJory ukhombe kwi-Pew yeZiko loPhando lowama-2014 lafumana uninzi lwabantu-iipesenti ezingama-72-azive ngathi yimidiya yoluntu okanye i-intanethi zinefuthe lokwenyani kulwalamano lwabo. Kwaye kwabo benzayo, uninzi luthi yimpembelelo entle.

Ewe ewe, imithombo yeendaba zentlalo ngokuqinisekileyo inokwenza kube nzima ukuba nobudlelwane obuphilileyo ngo-2019. Nazi ezintlanu-kunye nezinye izinto eziluncedo onokuthi uzenze okanye ungazenzi, ngokweengcali zobudlelwane.

Inokukunceda uzive ukhuseleke ngakumbi-ngakumbi kwangethuba.

I-convo ye-DTR ngokuqinisekileyo ikunceda uzive ngathi ukwiphepha elinye ne-SO yakho entsha, kodwa uqinisekiso olongezelelweyo lusengahamba indlela ende. “Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ukwabelana ngomfanekiso wenu kunye kunokwenza ingxelo yokuba nizimisele ngale nto,” utshilo umqeqeshi wobudlelwane oseNew York uDonna Barnes.

"Ukuzibophelela ekubeni sisibini asiyonto eyenzekayo ngokufihlakeleyo phakathi kwabantu ababini - ngumsitho wentlalontle kwaye ubeka umda kubudlelwane babo obusondeleyo kwaye wenze abanye bazi ukuba kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kwabo olungaphezulu kokuqhelekileyo, "UJory uthi, esongeza ukuba ngumlenze obalulekileyo kanxantathu wothando, ukusondelana, kunye nokuzibophelela.

I-FYI, bobabini iingcali bayavuma ukuba le yinto ekufuneka uyithethile malunga nokuthumela kuqala ipiks yomntu okanye ukutshintsha imeko yobudlelwane bakho kuFacebook ngaphandle kokuthetha ngayo kuqala kunokudala ungquzulwano phakathi kwakho.

2. Kwenza kube lula ukubonisa uxabiso nge-S.O yakho.

Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo yenza ukuba kube lula kuwe ukuba wabelane ngezinto onelunda ngazo neqabane lakho lokugqibezela iiprojekthi, ukufumana ukunyuselwa, nantoni na abayisebenzele nzima, utshilo uBarnes. "Ukwamkela iqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo kuyindlela elungileyo yokugcina unxibelelwano lwakho lothando, kwaye amaqonga ezentlalo enza ukuba kube lula ukubabonisa ukuba uyabaxabisa," utshilo. (Idibeneyo: Kubonakala ukuba, ukucinga nje ngomntu omthandayo kunokukunceda ujongane neemeko zoxinzelelo)

Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba ukwiphepha elinye malunga nokuba ukhululekile ntoni xa usazi umhlaba. Ukuthumela esidlangalaleni kunokuluxhamla ulwalamano, kodwa kuya kufuneka usete imigaqo malunga nento oza kwabelana ngayo kwi-intanethi-kwaye loo mthetho kufuneka ube kukugcina i-roller coaster yeemvakalelo kubomi bokwenyani. "Yenza isivumelwano sokuba iimvakalelo zakho omnye komnye zezakho-hayi umhlaba wonke-kwaye ezo mvakalelo ziya kuba namandla xa ziyimfihlo," utshilo uJory.

Ukuba nisebatsha kakhulu ukuba nibe nencoko, bambelelani kumgaqo wokungabelani ngokugqithiseleyo: Ukuthumela izinto ezisondeleleneyo okanye ezingathandekiyo kunciphisa umtsalane wasekuhlaleni waloo mntu uzityhilayo, lutsho uhlolisiso olwenziwe IiKhompyutha kwiZimo zoMntu.

3. Ukubhiyozela iziganeko ezibalulekileyo esidlangalaleni kunokunceda ekwakheni ukusondelelana.

"Ukwenza incwadi yescrapbook yobudlelwane bakho kwi-intanethi kunye nokubhiyozela amanqanaba-uhambo lwakho lokuqala kunye, isikhumbuzo sonyaka-sikulungele ukwakha ulwalamano, ngakumbi kubudlelwane obutsha," utshilo uBarnes. Kwaye ngelixa unokwabelana kakhulu, ukubhala ama-firsts amakhulu kunokunceda abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ukuba bazi iSO yakho entsha. kwaye unikeze isiqinisekiso sokuba bakulungele, uyongeza.

"Ukugqiba ukuba yeyiphi imifanekiso okanye iividiyo oza kuzithumela, leliphi ibali oza kulibalisa, elihlekisayo nelingeyiyo ngumdlalo wezibini ezininzi," utshilo uJory. Ukudlala ngeenxa zonke malunga nendlela owabelana ngayo ngolwazi kunye neempawu ezibalulekileyo njengoko isibini sinokongeza kumava abelwanayo.

4. Kuyanceda ukuba uhlale uqhagamshelene neeshedyuli ezixakekileyo.

Ukuba ukhe wayithumela i-S.O yakho. I-Instagram DM ye-meme ehlekisayo ekukhumbuza ngokupheleleyo ngayo, okanye i-Snapchat yenja entle oyibonileyo ecaleni kwendlela, ke uyazi ukuba amajelo eendaba ezentlalo angaba yindlela emnandi yokuhlala uqhagamshelene nobomi bomnye nomnye, nokuba unako hlanganani ngokwasemzimbeni.

Uphononongo lwe-Pew luxhasa oko: Izibini zexesha elide zathi ukuthumela imiyalezo kubagcina benxibelelana xa behlukene-emsebenzini okanye bengekho kuhambo lweshishini-kwaye abanye baxela ukuba ukubona amaqabane abo bephuma nabahlobo kwiifoto babasondeza. "Ezinye izibini nazo [zisebenzisa imiyalezo kunye nemidiya yoluntu] ukwakha inkanuko yesini nge-innuendos okanye intetho yesondo ecacileyo-inokuba mnandi kwaye ikhuthaze," utsho uJory. (Unokuzama ezi ndawo zili-10 zahlukeneyo zesini ukuze uzipose ngobu busuku.)

5. Ingakunika amava owabelana ngawo.

"Amava ekwabelwana ngawo sisiseko sokwenza ubudlelwane obulungele ixesha elide," utshilo uJory. Ezi zizinto ezikugcina "ekukhuleni ngokwahlukileyo" okanye ekuphulukaneni nomdla omnye komnye. Elinye icandelo lobudlelwane obusondeleyo yinto enabelana ngayo phakathi kwenu nobabini ubuso ngobuso kwiincoko, ukuhlola ngokwesondo-kodwa eyona nto inkulu isondeleleneyo kukunxibelelana Ujoliso alukho omnye komnye kodwa endaweni yomdla ekwabelwana ngawo, usukelo, okanye umntu wangaphandle.

Kwimeko apho: "Xa uthumela ifoto yosana lwakho, ngamava abelwe ukuba ngumzali," utshilo uJory. Ngokuqinisekileyo, mhlawumbi yekaMakhulu, naye, kodwa inokukusondeza wena kunye neqabane lakho. (Kuyafana nakwisilo-qabane!)

Enye into ebalulekileyo yokubambisa? Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha amaxesha angenasikrini kunye ne-SO yakho. Isifundo kwi Psychology yeNkcubeko yeMithombo yeendaba iingxelo ezithi ukujonga ifowuni yakho ngalo lonke ixesha xa ukunye nesithandwa sakho kukhuthaza umona. "Ukuba sempilweni ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni, sikwadinga ukunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso-ukuchukumisa ulusu lokwenyani, ukujonga ngamehlo okwenyani okuqhwanyazayo okanye okulilayo," utshilo uJory. Imidiya yokuncokola inokuxhasa isiseko osenzayo ngaphandle kweintanethi, kodwa ubudlelwane bokwenyani buthatha ingxoxo yokwenyani, njengelizwi eliphuma emlonyeni wakho nezivakalisi ezipheleleyo. "Imalunga nokukhathalela kunye nokuzinikela kumzimba opheleleyo."

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