Indlela oJonga ngayo uMtshato ichaphazela ubudlelwane bakho

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Kutshanje, UAngelina Jolie uvumile kudliwanondlebe ukuba akazange acinge ukuba angathandana.

"Ukuphuma kwikhaya eliqhekekileyo-uyamkela ukuba izinto ezithile zivakala ngathi yintsomi, kwaye awuzijongi," ucacisile. Kwaye ke, ewe, wadibana UBrad Pitt, kwaye enye into ivelisa, ukuba ngumzali, kunye nembali yokusebenzisana. Kodwa ngaba umbono wakhe ochasene nothando wamnceda okanye wenzakalisa amathuba akhe ngokonwaba ngonaphakade?

Ukuba usuka kwikhaya elaphukileyo okanye ube namaqhuma kwimbali yobudlelwane bakho, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ube ngqongqo ngokuzibophelela, utsho uDanielle Dowling, Ph.D., umqeqeshi wobudlelwane oseLos Angeles. "Ukuba ulugxotha uloyiko lwakho kwaye ungaluhlalutyi, lunokukhathaza."

Kodwa ukuba ubudlelwane buthatha indawo yangasemva kwezinye izinto ebomini bakho, okanye unesimo sengqondo esithi "Andingomntu womtshato" (kwaye iimbono zakho ziyinyani), ingqondo yakho inokunceda ukuzisa uhlobo lonxibelelwano olufunayo. Utshilo uVicky Barrios, ingcali kwezonxibelelwano eseNew York. Ukuba awujoli kwinjongo yokugqibela, ugqibela ngokuthandana nomntu kuba ufuna ukuba kunye nabo, uyacacisa uBarrios. Ukuthandana namadoda ahlukeneyo, ukuphonononga ukuba kunjani ukungatshati, okanye ukuba nesoka lexesha elide zizo zonke iindlela zokufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto isebenzayo kuwe endaweni yokwenza into ocinga ukuba kufanele ukuba uyayenza. "Kukumaxesha akutshanje abantu baye bajonga umtshato njengesixhobo sokukhula kwentlalo kunye nokwandiswa kokomoya. Kutshanje nje ngenkulungwane edluleyo, umtshato wawungowona ziko lentlalontle nezoqoqosho," kuchaza uDowling.

Ewe, njengoko uJolie ebonisa, iimvakalelo- kunye nezicwangciso-zinokutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Soloko uvumela ubukho-nokuba ucinga ukuba ucacile ukuba umi phi.

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