Nantsi indlela oZicamngca ngayo onokubomeleza ngayo ubukrelekrele bakho beemvakalelo
Umxholo
Ukuqhubela phambili ukucamngca kwengqondo, lixesha lokuba uthethe ngokuzicamngca. Ukuzixakekisa ngokuxakeka kubomi bemihla ngemihla kunokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukungena ngaphakathi kwaye ucamngce ngeengcinga neemvakalelo zethu. Kodwa ukuzazisa-okanye ukuzibonakalisa-kunokubangela ukuqonda, okunokutshintsha indlela esizibona ngayo thina kunye nabo basingqongileyo.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba "ukujikela ngaphakathi" kungomeleza ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo zethu, ezinokwenza kube lula kuthi ukumelana nemiceli mngeni yobomi.Iingcebiso zokucinga ngokwakho
Uzibuza ukuba ungayibonisa phi imbonakalo yakho? Nantsi eminye imibuzo ebangela ukuba uqalise:
- Lubonakala njani uloyiko ebomini bam? Indibamba njani?
- Yeyiphi enye indlela endinokuba ngumhlobo okanye iqabane elingcono ngayo?
- Yeyiphi eyona nto ndizisola ngayo? Ndingayiyeka njani ihambe?
Elinye icebo eliluncedo, ngokweengcali zengqondo kwezentlalo, kukuvavanya iingcinga neemvakalelo ezikhathazayo kude.
Ukufezekisa oku, zama ukuthetha nawe kumntu wesithathu. Lo "mntu wesithathu athetha yedwa" unokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo zokubi.
UJuli Fraga sisayikholojisti enelayisensi esekwe eSan Francisco, California. Waphumelela i-PsyD kwiDyunivesithi yaseMantla Colado kwaye waya kubudlelwane basemva kwexesha e-UC Berkeley. Unomdla ngempilo yabasetyhini, usondela kuzo zonke iiseshoni zakhe ngokufudumala, ukunyaniseka, kunye nemfesane. Bona ukuba uphi kuTwitter.
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