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Ayifane idlule imini ndingakhange ndibile ndibile ngandlela ithile. Nokuba kukuphakamisa ubunzima okanye i-yoga, i-5 yeemayile ebaleka ujikeleze iCentral Park okanye iklasi yokujikeleza ekuseni, ubomi bubonakala buvakala ngakumbi xa kusasa kubandakanya ukuzilolonga. Yiyo loo nto iyinto emangalisayo ukuvuma ukuba, njengomfazi ongatshatanga kakhulu kwiminyaka yam engama-20, andizange ndibe neqabane elizimiseleyo elalikude njengoko ndisebenza njengam. Kwakukho i-ex kwiminyaka embalwa emva eyabetha ijim kwisakhiwo sakhe iintsuku ezimbini okanye ezintathu ngeveki-kodwa kuphela kwiiveki ezikhokelela kuSuku lweSikhumbuzo (#summerbody). Kwakukho omnye owayesebenza ebusuku. Iminxeba yasekuseni yayiyindlela eqhelekileyo yokuba sibambe xa ndikwisithuba esiphakathi ndibuya ebaleka njengoko wayekwikhabhathi ebuyela endaweni yakhe ukuze alale.

Inkcazo emfutshane: Andiyongxaki. Ndiyazi ukuba ukunqongophala kokuthandana komsebenzi ayisiyiyo kuphela into ebangele obu budlelwane bufikelele kwimo ye-Titanic. Kodwa ngaba izinto zinokwahluka ukuba mna nomfana omtsha singajongana nokubaleka kunye ngoMgqibelo endaweni yokuba ndibe nentiyo engathethwayo ebesiyiyo, kodwa kwakhona, sinentsasa eyonqenayo? Ngaba singanxibelelana ngcono, okanye sixhasane ngakumbi? Ngaba angayifumana amanqanaba am aphezulu okuzimisela? INzululwazi itsho njalo. Emva kokwenza umthambo kunye, izibini ziye zanikela ingxelo yokuba ziwathanda ngakumbi amaqabane azo yaye zaneliseke ngakumbi ngolwalamano lwazo, ngokutsho kolunye uhlolisiso lweState University of New York.

Ndenze isigqibo: Inyanga enye, ngenxa yokufuna ukwazi kwam (kwaye ke, ubuntatheli obubalaseleyo) bendibetha abafana abakwiiklasi zam zokufaneleka kwevenkile. Iiklasi zamanqindi. Iiklasi zeYoga. Iiklasi zeCrossFit. Ndifunde izifundo ezibalulekileyo apha endleleni:

Isifundo 1: Ukuncoma i-sneaker akusebenzi.

Imvelaphi ethile. Ngokubanzi, uninzi lwam lokuzilolonga lwenzeka kwindawo yokuzivocavoca yeCrossFit, istin studio, okanye istudiyo seyoga. Ukusukela oko bendibetha la mabala kunyaka ophelileyo okanye kunjalo, ndingatsho ngepesenti ye-100 yokuzithemba ukuba ndiyazi kakuhle abathengi. Ndandisazi ukuba ndingena kule nto ukuba ndifuna ukwenza isicwangciso kangangoko ndinako, kuya kufuneka ndizame izinto ezintsha.

Ngoko ke, ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiye kumdlalo wamanqindi. Makhe ndikuxelele into encinci malunga nale ndawo ikhethiweyo yokuzivocavoca yamanqindi eFlatiron yaseNew York. Hamba malunga neenyawo ezili-13 ngasemnyango wangaphambili kwaye uya kuba ungaboni ngamehlo ngendlela obukeka ngayo bonke abantu abangatshatanga abathengisa amanani abo kwisitayile sokusayinwa kwesandla se studio. Ndicinge ukuba le yindawo efanelekileyo yokuvavanya isicwangciso sam esitsha kwaye ndaze ndaphosa ilululemon endiyithandayo yezityalo eziphezulu zomnyhadala. Emva kwemizuzu engama-45 nditshintsha phakathi kwebhegi yomdlalo wamanqindi kunye nebhentshi yobunzima, ndaye ndahlala phezulu ngaphambili ukuze ndipholile kwaye ndiphinde ndibekho ngokukhanya emva kokuzilolonga. Ndijonga phezulu, kwaye ndibone umfana omde oneenwele ezimdaka ngesanti. Ndijonge phantsi, ndiyabona ukuba udlala iperi yakudala ye-Asics Tiger Gel-Lyte ekhabayo. Akunjalo ngokuchanekileyo izicathulo ezisebenzayo kwiikhonkco ezifanelekileyo kunye ne-burpees, kodwa kunjalo, zintle. Ngaphandle kokucinga kabini, ndiyamncumela. "Ndiyazithanda kakhulu izihlangu zakho," nditsho.

"Oh, ezi?" Utsho, kunzima nokundijonga emehlweni. "Enkosi." Ngaloo nto, uqhubeka ehamba. Ndoyiswe kancinci kukutyhala indawo yam yokuthuthuzela kumzamo wokuxoxa nomntu ongamaziyo, ndiyehla kwigumbi lokutshixa kwaye ndibone intwana encinci yemascara phantsi kweliso lasekunene. Ukuthandana komdlalo 1, uEmily 0. Isifundo esifundwayo: Ukuncoma indoda kwiziteki zayo akunakuba yeyona nto iqala incoko. (Ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi ngakumbi isantya sakho? Jonga ezi Ngcebiso zokuDibana kwi-Intanethi.)

Isifundo 2: Thetha ngakumbi.

Kamva evekini, emva kokubuza omnye umfana omhle ukuba uqhube njani eklasini yeSpin phezu kwesmoothie (wandixelela, wandibuza ukuba yeyiphi incasa yesmoothie endiyiselayo, emva koko imood yasuka apho), ndatsibela kwi-smoothie. iklasi yeyoga kwindawo yokuzivocavoca yeCrossFit eGramercy. Into entle malunga neyoga eyenziwe kule ndawo yokuzivocavoca yeCrossFit kukuba uya kubona uninzi lwee-handsome endinokuziphakamisa ziphindwe kabini-zomzimba-onomzimba wakho okhoyo ukuze zisebenze ukuhamba kwazo.

Ewe, kolu luhlu, uninzi lwamadoda lwalulwela elinye iqela. Okwangoku, bendinethuba lokuthetha nentombi yam (wayefundisa iklasi) malunga nolingo lwam oluncinci. Uye wandixelela ukuba wayekhe wayekwiklasi yeyoga xa wayeziva ngathi ugilwe yindlela awayemhle ngayo umfana kumqolo osecaleni kwakhe. Phambi kokuba ashiye istudiyo, uye wahamba waya kuye ngqo kwaye wathetha into ecaleni kwemigca ethi "Andikwazanga ukukuphawula xa ndingena eklasini, ndingathanda ukukwazi ngcono." Ngelixa "wayenentombi," watsho ukuba uyayincoma ngokuzithemba kwakhe. Qaphela kuwe: Le migca ye-smoothie kunye ne-sneaker pick up ayizukundenzela ubulungisa.

Isifundo 3: Xa zonke ezinye izinto zisilela, baleka...ngokoqobo.

Kwiveki elandelayo ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndinike le ndlela ngqo. Ngelixa bendizimisele ukuyenza yonke le nto ngaphakathi kwizitudiyo ze-boutique, andikwazi kunceda kodwa ndicinge ukuba iPark Park inokuba kufanelekile ukuba idutyulwe. Ukuphosa ibhendi yam endiyithandayo ye-Sweaty Betty ebalekayo kunye nesiqingatha se-zip, ndazibopha iziteki zam ndaza ndabetheka emhlabeni. Malunga neekhilomitha ezi-2 ukuya ekubalekeni kwam, ndayeka ngasemithonjeni yamanzi ndayivavanya imeko. Malunga ne-7: 45 kusasa, ipaki yayipakishwe intle ngabahambi. Ngasekhohlo kwam: umfazi obambe into ebonakala ngathi ininzi kakhulu inja iyamlungela. Ngasekunene kwam: iiseti ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zamadoda anomdla enza i-100-yadi Sprint ephindayo.

Akukho namnye ophazamisa ukuzilolonga komntu, ndijonge ukubukela imizuzwana embalwa. Omnye umfana, enxibe isweatshirt eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka yeNike kunye nezinye iiteki ezitsha zeBrooks, wabetha umdla wam. Indlela ababeququzelela ngayo le setyhula yayikukuba abafana ababini bebaleke kwangoko, banqumle isiphelo sabo, kwaye bahambe ubude babuyele ngaphambi kokuyiphinda. Emva kokungena kunye nokucima ukubukela betshaya ezimbalwa ngokulandelelana, bendisazi ukuba kufuneka ndithathe iwindow yam ngelixa ndinayo. "Kuya kufuneka uzame abo baseHarlem Hill," ndaphakama ndathi kuye.

Ebebonakala ephoswe ecaleni, ingathi uyazibuza ukuba ndithetha naye na. "Senze iinduli izolo, ke le yinto nje, yinto esigqibe ukuyenza ukunqanda ukujikeleza indawo yokugcina amanzi okwesithathu."

Isihlandlo sesithathu? Ndacinga ngaphakathi. Lo mfo uyakwazi ukumelana nomgama othile. Ndiyayithanda. “Fair,” ndatsho kuye. Kwaye kwenzeka ke, iphantse yafana nokuhlanza kwegama. "Ngaba uza apha rhoqo?" Ndambuza.

UFIKA APHA Qho?! YIZA EMILY. Ndizamile ukufihla isixa se uyandibhanxa lonto ibisenzeka entlokweni yam. Wahleka, "Yeyona nto uyifumeneyo?"

Ndayihleka, ndathi yayingeyiyo kanye into yam yesiqhelo ukubetha abafana ababetha ii-sprint repeats epakini. Wandixelela ukuba wayesoloko esiza apha, kodwa edla ngokuza nentombi yakhe. Ndaye ndahleka, ndamnqwenelela amathamsanqa, wabaleka (ngokoqobo) ngokukhawuleza njengoko imilenze yam ingandithatha.

Isifundo 4: Ezinye izinto zithatha ixesha.

Kwaye emva koko, kukho ibhola ejikelezayo. Embindini walo lonke uvavanyo, ndafumana isimemo esingahleliwe ngaphezulu komyalezo othe ngqo we-Instagram (ileta yothando yanamhlanje, ngokwenene) isuka kumfana endadibana naye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva, ukujonga ukuba yintoni eyaziwayo Iklasi lokuzilolonga elingenabuntu. Iklasi, eneneni, ngokubanzi, inabafazi abangama-98 ekhulwini. Uthetha ukundixelela ukuba ndizamile ukuzama ukubetha kumadoda amaninzi kwiiklasi zokuzilolonga kwaye ngoku umntu ongatshatanga ufuna ukundisa kwiklasi engaphandle ngokupheleleyo kwendawo yam yokuthuthuzela, akukho mandla okucoca, akukho sprints? Ndilahliwe kancinci, ndamthabatha ndamnika, kuba, ukubukela umntu onomtsalane kule meko kungafana nokubukela uhlobo oluthile lwesilwanyana esingaqhelekanga eSahara.

Sagqiba kusasa ngolwesibini. Ndaziva ndixakiwe xa engena estudio, wandikhomba kwi mat emva kwam ukuze alale ngasemva eklasini angaphumi ngathi ngubhontsi obuhlungu. Kwakukho ukutsiba okuninzi. Abanye bayakrokra. Ii-burpees ezihambelanayo. Uninzi lweengalo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba bekukho noWhitney Houston ngexesha elinye. Khange ndikwazi ukunyamezela ukuvala amehlo naye ngexesha lokuzilolonga, ndisoyika ukuba angandithuka ngandlela thile ngokumrhwebesha ukuba asebenze nam ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nto ingumbono wakhe. Akuzange kube emva koko, njengoko sasihamba sibila simanzi ukuze sibambe ikofu ngaphambi kokuba sitsibe indlela yangaphantsi, ndacinga ukuba, iulapha nyani lomfana kuba endijongile?

Andiqinisekanga, sabamba iikomityi zekofu embindini wenqwelo-mafutha ehamba ngaphantsi komhlaba saza sahamba ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Isifundo 5: Indawo yokwenza umthambo yindawo engcwele.

Kwincoko kunye nomhlobo wam olungileyo ngexesha lovavanyo, wandixelela ngentombazana eyambuza ukuba iphume kwi-gym yakhe ye-CrossFit emva kwe-WOD yangoLwesihlanu ebusuku. Ukuphendula kwakhe kuyo yonke le nto kunamathele kum, into ecaleni kwemigca: "Ibhokisi yindawo yam. Ibiyindawo yam umzuzu ngoku. Kutheni ndifuna ukuphazamisa i-vibe apho ngokuya kumhla nomntu ndinokuhamba kakubi ngendlela engathethekiyo emva koko kubekho ukungakhululeki endaweni yam. "

Ngobuchule wathi? Ewe, akunjalo, kodwa le ndoda ifumene iphuzu. Ukufumana umthambo wakho kunokuba yinto yobuqu kakhulu. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, bendikhe ndacinywa ngabantu abenze amagqabantshintshi phakathi kweeseti, bandikhwaza xa ndibaleka phakathi, okanye bendijonge xa ​​bendisenza imigca yeebarbell ejimini. Ngaphandle kokwenza iinzame zokuphuma kwindawo yam yokuthuthuzela kuyo yonke inyanga kwizitudiyo ezahlukeneyo, ukusuka kwi-yoga eshushu ukuya kwi-Equinox, ayikaze izive indalo. Ewe, abantu bakule mihlaba banomdla ofanayo. Kodwa ukuba ulapho ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo, ulapho ukugxila kuloo mdla, hayi abanye abantu abenza umthambo.

Okwangoku, ngaba ndicinga ukuba ukuba neqabane elisebenza ngakumbi kunokuba yimfihlo kuhlobo oluthile lolwalamano oluhlala luhleli? Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ndingatsho ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba ibiyindlovu egumbini kum iminyaka ngoku. Ngelixa ukubila kunye neqabane lakho isenokungabi yeyawo wonke umntu, ndingatsho ngokuzithemba ukuba ibalulekile kum. Inyanga yam yemigca yokuthwala engafezekiswanga kakuhle indifundise ukuba ukuthetha nomntu omtsha akufuneki ukuba koyike. Ukuba ayihambi kakuhle, ayihambi kakuhle. Kuko konke. Ubomi buqhubeka, awunakukhubeka, kwaye elona candelo lililo? Uzamile ukonwaba ngokungonwabi. Ngaphezu koko, ngenxa yolu vavanyo luncinci, ndiye ndazifumana ndihamba phambili ngaphandle kwendawo yokuzivocavoca. Phambili ngokwaneleyo ukubuza kusasa ngoLwesibini ukuba ubambe iziselo endaweni yeedumbbells.

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