Ukungathembeki: Ngaba ngumcimbi weNdalo ngokuchasene nokukhulisa?

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Ukuba sikholelwa zonke izibalo ezoyikisayo phaya, ukukopa kuyenzeka ... kakhulu. Inani elichanekileyo labathandi abangathembekanga kunzima ukulichitha (ngubani ofuna ukwamkela isenzo esingcolileyo?), Kodwa uqikelelo lobudlelwane obuchaphazelekileyo kukukopela luhlala lujikeleza malunga neepesenti ezingama-50. Yhu ...

Kodwa endaweni yokuphikisana ngokuba bangaphi kuthi abakhohlisayo, owona mbuzo ngulo ngoba siyayenza. Ngokwezifundo ezibini ezikhutshwe kulo nyaka, sisenokuba nebhayoloji yethu kunye nendlela esikhule ngayo ibe netyala lokungathembeki kwethu. (BTW, nantsi ingqondo yakho: Intliziyo eyaphukileyo.)

Indalo

Ngokophando oluthiwe thaca yi-ASAP Science, amathuba okuba iqabane lakho likopele unokumiselwa yiDNA yabo. Ukungathembeki kubandakanya iinkqubo ezimbini zobuchopho ezahlukeneyo. Eyokuqala inento yokwenza ne-dopamine receptors yakho. I-Dopamine yi-hormone evakalayo-ekhutshiweyo xa usenza into emnandi ngokwenene, njengokutshaya iklasi oyithandayo yeyoga, ukubetha isidlo esimnandi sasemva kokuzilolonga kwaye uqikelele ukuba une-orgasm.

Abaphandi bafumanisa utshintsho kwi-dopamine receptor eyenza ukuba abanye abantu bathambekele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi, njengokukopela. Abo babenotshintsho olude lwe-allele babika ukukopela i-50 pesenti yexesha, ngelixa kuphela i-22 yepesenti yabantu abaneenguqu ezimfutshane ze-allele bafikelela ekungathembeki. Ngokusisiseko, ukuba unovelwano ngakumbi kwezi neurotransmitters zolonwabo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufune ukonwaba ngokuziphatha okuyingozi. Ngena kubudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato.

Olunye unobangela webhayoloji onokubangela iliso lokuzulazula kweqabane lakho ngamanqanaba e-vasopressin-ihormone echaza amanqanaba ethu okuthembela, uvelwano, kunye nokukwazi kwethu ukwenza ubudlelwane obusempilweni. Ngokwabaphandi, ukuba namanqanaba asezantsi e-vasopressin kuthetha ukuba ezi zinto zintathu ziyeke: Awunakuthemba ukuthembana neqabane lakho, awunako ukuba novelwano kwiqabane lakho, kwaye awunako ukwenza olo lwimi lusempilweni. ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo. Amanqanaba asezantsi e-vasopressin, kukungathembeki okuba lula.

Ukukhulisa

Abaphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseTexas Tech bafumanise ukuba ngaphandle kwebhayoloji yethu, uninzi lwefuthe lokungathembeki linento yokwenza nabazali bethu. Kwisifundo sabo malunga nabantu abadala abamalunga nama-300, bafumanisa ukuba abo banabazali abaqhathileyo banamathuba aphindwe kabini okuzikopa.

Ngokuka mbhali ofundayo uDana Weiser, Ph.D., konke malunga nendlela izimvo zethu zakuqala malunga nobudlelwane ezakhiwe ngayo yile siqheleneyo nayo: ngabazali bethu. Uthi: "Abazali abakopayo banokunxibelelana nabantwana babo ukuba ukungathembeki kwamkelekile kwaye nokuba nomntu ongatshatanga naye yinto engenakulindeleka," utshilo. "Iinkolelo zethu kunye nokulindela kwethu emva koko kudlala indima ekuchazeni ukuziphatha kwethu kwangempela."

Zeziphi izinto ezingakumbi?

Ke yeyiphi eyona nto ilungileyo yokuxela kwangaphambili iliso elibhadulayo: Ingqondo yethu yemichiza okanye ezo ndlela zokuziphatha zakuqala? Ngokutsho kwe-Weiser, yi-combo yokwenyani. Kwiindlela ezininzi zokuziphatha ngokwesondo, ufuzo kunye nefuthe lokusingqongileyo zisebenza kunye ukunceda ukucacisa indlela esiziphatha ngayo, utshilo. "Ayingomcimbi omnye okanye omnye kodwa ukuba la mandla asebenza njani ngokubambisana." (Kwaye nangona inokuba sisihloko esithi cwaka, sifumanise ukuba kujongeka njani na ukukopa.)

Kuyo yomibini imikhosi esebenza ngokuchasene nathi xa kufikwa ekufumaneni iqabane elithembekileyo, ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba sikrwada ngokupheleleyo? Akunjalongo noko! Ubudlelwane obomeleleyo yenye yeendlela zokunciphisa amathuba okuba ukukopela, utshilo uWeiser. "Ukuba nemijelo yonxibelelwano evulekileyo, ukwenza ixesha elisemgangathweni, kunye nokuvumela iingxoxo ezinyanisekileyo malunga nokwaneliseka ngokwesondo kunokunceda ukuqinisa ubudlelwane bethu kunye nokusivumela ukuba sithethethethane nakuphi na ukungathandeki esinakho kubudlelwane bethu."

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: Ikhemikhali yengqondo kunye nokuvezwa kokuziphatha kwangoko kuphela abaqikeleli yokungathembeki. Nokuba sisesichengeni ngakumbi, sisenako ngokupheleleyo ukwenza izigqibo ezizezethu. Gcina incoko malunga nokukopela ivulekile kwaye wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba yintoni esebenzayo kwaye yintoni engenziyo kuwe kunye neqabane lakho.

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