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Umxholo

• Ziyintoni
• Kutheni kubalulekile
• Yenza (kwaye ugcine) ishedyuli
• Phinda uthumele iitalente zakho zendalo
• Zama ukucamngca
• Yenza ixesha lokucingisisa ngokwakho
• Gcina ingxelo
• Hlakulela imfesane
• Ziqhelise ukuthetha ngokwakho
• Thatha amathuba
• Cinga ngosukelo lwakho
• Thetha nonyango

Ziyintoni

Ngelixa ungachithi ixesha elininzi ucinga ngezakhono zakho zangaphakathi, ziya kudlala rhoqo. Ngapha koko, mhlawumbi usebenzisa ezi zakhono kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi bakho.

Intrapersonal ("ngaphakathi kwakho") zizakhono zangaphakathi kunye nokuziphatha okukunceda ulawule iimvakalelo, ujongane nemiceli mngeni, kwaye ufunde ulwazi olutsha.

Ezi zakhono, ezinxulumene nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, zibandakanya izinto ezinje:

• ukuzithemba
• ukomelela
• ukuzeyisa
• ukuzingisa
• ukuvuleleka kwimibono emitsha
• ukukwazi ukoyisa iziphazamiso
• ulawulo lwexesha

Kutheni kubalulekile

Usenokuba uqaphele ukuba ezi zakhono zinento yokwenza namandla akho okuzilawula.

Abantu abanamandla okuzilawula ngokuzimeleyo bahlala benexesha elilula:

• ukulawula indlela yokuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo
• imingeni yemozulu
• ukusebenza kwiinjongo ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka

Ngokungafaniyo nezakhono zokunxibelelana nabanye njengokumamela okusebenzayo, izakhono zangaphakathi zinokuba nefuthe elincinci kunxibelelwano lwakho nabanye. Kodwa zisabalulekile.

Ungakhathazeki ukuba ezi zakhono azizi kuwe ngokwendalo. Kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ukuhlakulela ubukrelekrele bangaphakathi. Iingcebiso ezili-10 ezingezantsi zinokunceda.

Yenza (kwaye ugcine) ishedyuli

Ngaba uxanduva nemisebenzi ekufuneka uyenzile iyakongamela?

Mhlawumbi uhlala ulibale malunga nokuzibophelela okanye uvumele imisebenzi ongayithandiyo ngenxa yokuba ungaziva ngathi uyayenza.

Kunzima ukuqalisa xa ungazi apho uqala khona. Uqhubeka ubeka izinto kude, kodwa kunjalo oko kukushiya unexesha elincinci lokwenza yonke imisebenzi (enokuba imbi).

Ukuba uhlala uphambuka emsebenzini xa unokuninzi ekufuneka ukwenzile, zama ukwenza ishedyuli ebandakanya ukuzibophelela emsebenzini kunye nokuqeshwa kunye nezinto ezenziwa ekuhlaleni, imisebenzi yasekhaya, kunye nokuzikhathalela, njengokuzilolonga kunye nokuzonwabisa.

Oku kunokunceda kuba:

• ukuba nezikhumbuzo zayo yonke into ekufuneka uyigqibile kunokukunceda ugcine umkhondo ngaphandle kweziphazamiso
• ukucwangcisa imisebenzi eyonwabisayo kukukhumbuza ukuba kuninzi ekufuneka ujonge kuyo kunaleyo yokuhlamba impahla

Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, unokuqaphela utshintsho kwindlela olilawula ngayo ixesha lakho- ngaphandle koncedo lweshedyuli.

Phinda uthumele iitalente zakho zendalo

Bambalwa kakhulu abantu ngokwemvelo abalunge kuyo yonke into, kwaye kulungile! Kodwa mhlawumbi unamandla athile, nokuba awukaziboni okwangoku.

Mhlawumbi unobuchule bokuba nomonde kubantwana abancinci okanye abantu osebenza nabo abakrwada, kodwa awunyamezeleki xa usenza iimpazamo.

Okanye mhlawumbi usombulula ingxaki emsebenzini kodwa unzima ukulungisa iingxaki kubomi bakho.

Kuqhelekile ukuqondisa izakhono zeemvakalelo ngaphandle ngeendlela ezizuzisa abanye kwaye zisilele ukusebenzisa ezo zakhono ezifanayo kumava akho.

Oku kunokwenza kubonakale ngathi awunazo ezo zakhono, xa ngokwenene ukufumanisa kulula ukunceda abanye abantu. Kodwa nawe ufanelwe yinkxaso efanayo.

Qala ukuziqhelanisa nala mandla ngokujonga into onokuyenza komnye umntu okwimeko yakho.

Ukuba ungakhuthaza umhlobo ukuba anamathele kwinto ethile ecelomngeni, umzekelo, yalathisela ukuzingisa kuwe endaweni yokuyeka.

Zama ukucamngca

Ukucamngca kunokukunceda ukuba ufunde ngokwengqondo kwaye wamkele into oyicingayo kunye nemvakalelo yakho ngaphandle kokubanjiswa kwimimoya engalunganga okanye ukugweba.

Kukuziqhelanisa nabantu abaninzi abafuna ukwandisa ulwazi lweemvakalelo.

Izibonelelo zayo eziphambili zibandakanya:

• ukuphumla

Mhlawumbi ezi ziphumo azikuncedisi ngokuthe ngqo ekunxibelelaniseni ngokwakho. Kodwa banokuba negalelo ekuphuculeni impilo yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo.

Ukuziva womelele ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomzimba kunokunceda ekunyuseni isisombululo sakho sangaphakathi, sikwenze kube lula ukusebenza kwiimeko ezinzima.

Ukucamngca kukwanazo nezinye izibonelelo ezifanelekileyo ngakumbi ekwandiseni ukuziqonda ngokwakho:

• Inokukunceda ujolise ingqalelo yakho ngokufanelekileyo, enokuthi ikhokelele kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi.
• Ukwandisa ukuqonda ukuzimisela kwakho ukuqaphela iindlela ezintsha zokusombulula iingxaki.

Yenza ixesha lokucingisisa ngokwakho

Ukuzibonakalisa ngokwakho kunokubonakala ngathi yinto enkulu enkulu. Ewe, kunjalo unako gubungela umhlaba omkhulu.

Kodwa ngenene kubandakanya ukucinga ngezenzo zakho, ukhetho, kunye nezinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini bakho, kubandakanya izinto ozixabisileyo kunye nabantu obathandayo.

Xa ubonakalisa ngokwakho, unokujonga ukuba yeyiphi imikhwa esebenza kakuhle kuwe kwaye apho ufumana imiceli mngeni.

Mhlawumbi wena:

• thintela abahlobo endaweni yokuxhomekeka kubo xa usokola
• ukubambezela kwimisebenzi yasemsebenzini xa ungayiqondi

Inkqubo inokukunceda ukomeleza ulwazi lwakho ngabantu kunye nezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu.

Oku kukunika ithuba lokujonga iindlela ezintsha zokufezekisa okanye ukubambelela kwezo zinto.

Umzekelo, abahlobo bakho bathetha lukhulu kuwe, ke uthatha isigqibo sokuba kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuphelisa engabandakanyi ukubavalela.

Gcina ingxelo

Ukushicilela kunokukunceda unxibelelane nawe kwinqanaba leemvakalelo ezinzulu ngokunika irekhodi elibonakalayo leengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zokujonga emva kamva.

Ijenali yakho irekhodi ebhaliweyo ye wena. Inika indawo enkulu yokugcina umkhondo weenjongo ezibalulekileyo, iimvakalelo kunye namava akho emihla ngemihla.

Inokukunceda ukuba ukhombe izinto ofuna ukuzilungisa, njengokuzithemba okuphantsi okanye ukungabikho kwenkuthazo.

Ukugcina incwadana kungabonisa ukukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Xa ubuthandabuza ubuchule bakho bangaphakathi okanye uziva ngathi awuzange uphumeze okuninzi, ukujonga emva kwiinyanga okanye kwiminyaka edlulileyo kunokukubonisa apho ubuchule bakho bukhanye khona.

Mhlawumbi uye wayisingatha kakuhle ingxaki okanye waba nokomelela ukuze ubuye umva kukwahlukana okubuhlungu, umzekelo.

Hlakulela imfesane

Ukwandisa imfesane kwabanye kunokukunceda ufumane ukuhambelana ngakumbi namava akho emvakalelo kwaye uncede uvelwano lwakho lukhule.

Imfesane ayisoloko isiza ngokulula. Kudla ngokuba nzima ngakumbi ukuba nemfesane kubantu abaphatha kakubi abanye kwaye babonakalise ukungabi nabubele, ukungakhathali.

Kodwa intetho ethi "Zibeke ezihlangwini zabo" ihlala yindawo elungileyo ukuqala. Ukujonga umbono womnye umntu kuhlala kunika ukuqonda ukuba kutheni benokuthi benze ngendlela ethile.

Ukwenza isenzo sobubele esingacwangciswanga kunokunceda ukukhuthaza iimvakalelo ezintle kwabanye nakwiziqu zakho.

Kuyanceda nokukhumbula wonke umntu Uyazenza iimpazamo.

Ukuba uziva uneentloni okanye unetyala ngento ozisolayo ngayo, khumbula ukuba sonke senza izinto esinqwenela ukuba sizisuse. Ubomi abunikezeli nge-do-overs, kodwa ungasoloko uzama kwakhona.

Ixesha lesibini (okanye lesithathu), uya kuba nolwazi olungakumbi kunye namava, wandise amathuba akho okuba ulunge.

Imfesane kunye nezinye izakhono zokuzazi zenza ukuba kube lula:

• Qaphela apho uphazame khona
• yamkela ukuba oonobangela kunye nobunzima obuhlala busenza kube nzima ukwenza olona khetho lufanelekileyo kuzo zonke iimeko
• kholelwa ukuba uninzi lwabantu (kuquka nawe) luzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni abo ngezinto abanazo

Ziqhelise ukuthetha ngokwakho

Indlela othetha ngayo ngokwakho kwaye ucinga ngawe inokuba nefuthe elikhulu kumava akho angaphakathi.

Iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga kunye nokuzigxeka ngokungqongqo kunokubonakala kuyindlela elungileyo yokuzikhuthaza kwaye uzibambe uxanduva ngeempazamo, kodwa amaxesha ngamaxesha kunokuba zinjalo, ezi zineziphumo ezichaseneyo.

Endaweni yokuzihlafuna ngengqondo xa usenza isiphithiphithi, zama ukujonga apho uphumelele khona. Yintoni ekufaneleyo?

Kusengobulumko ukuqaphela apho unokuba negumbi lokukhula. Kodwa ukuzincoma ngenxa yamandla kunye nempumelelo kunokukunceda usondele kula manqaku abuthathaka ngokuzithemba nokuzimisela.

Ukwenza njalo kunokunceda ukuba kube lula ukuzama kwakhona kamva.

Thatha amathuba

Ukuzama into entsha kunokoyikisa. Ihlala ibonakala ikhuselekile ukunamathela kwinto uyazi ukuba sele isebenza.

Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umngcipheko omncinci unokuhlawula, nokuba:

• ukuzama ukunceda ubudlelwane buphumelele
• ukuqalisa kwikhondo elitsha
• Ukuthatha into entsha oyithandayo

Ukulandela iindlela ezifanayo kunokukubamba umva kwaye kukugcine ekuphononongeni ezinye iindlela ezinokuthi zizalisekise iimfuno zakho ngokufanelekileyo.

Ukuthatha umngcipheko ophela empumelelweni kunokunyusa ukuzithemba kwaye kukukhuthaze ukuba uhlale uzama izinto ezintsha.

Kodwa ukuthatha amathuba angasebenziyo kungakhokelela kwinkqubela phambili.

Usakha imikhwa efana nokomelela nokuzingisa, kuba ukuyenza ngothintelo kubonisa ukuba kuhlala kunokwenzeka ukuqhubeka nokuzama kwakhona.

Cinga ngosukelo lwakho

Iinjongo zithetha kakhulu malunga nokuba ungubani njengomntu kwaye yintoni ekuqhubayo. Bayanceda ukwazisa ukhetho lwakho kunye nokubumba ubomi bakho.

Kubalulekile ukuba neenjongo, zombini kwikamva elikhawulezayo nelikude.

Ukuphumelela ngeenjongo ezincinci, njengokuphula umkhwa ongafunekiyo okanye ukufunda incwadi inyanga nenyanga, kunokukunika amandla okwenza iinjongo ezibanzi ezifuna umzamo wexesha elide, njengokunciphisa ikhabhoni yakho okanye ube ngumntu othembeke ngokupheleleyo.

Iinjongo ezizizo zithathela ingqalelo ukusikelwa umda kunye namandla akho.

Ukuqonda izinto oziphumezileyo zangaphambili kuqhubela phambili ukuziqonda ngelixa ukomeleza isibindi sakho sokuthatha amanyathelo amakhulu ngeenjongo ezizayo.

Ukucinga ngomntu ofuna ukuba nguye kunokukunceda uqhubeke nokubeka iinjongo zokufezekisa loo maphupha.

Thetha nonyango

Akusoloko kulula ukwandisa ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo ngokwakho, ngakumbi ukuba unoluvo olungaqondakaliyo lweempawu ofuna ukuzomeleza.

Ngoncedo lwegqirha, unokuhlala ukwandisa ukuzazi kwakho njengoko uchonga imiceli mngeni okanye iindawo ezinomdla ezivelayo kwiingcinga nakwimikhwa yakho.

Unyango unokukunceda unxibelelanise iipateni ezithile ubuyele kwizakhono zobuntu kwaye unike isikhokelo kwiindawo ezifanelekileyo zokuqhubeka nokuphononongwa.

Umzekelo, ukuba unengxaki yokuzixolela ngeempazamo ozenzileyo, ugqirha unokukunceda unxibelelanise oku nokuzenzelakwangaphakathi kwaye ufundise izakhono zokukhulisa ububele bakho.

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