Ubomi kunye neSifo sokuDinwa okungapheliyo: Izifundo ezili-11 ezivela kuMamazala wam

Umxholo

• 1. Ukuphila neCFS akukubi konke.
• 2. Ukuhlala "nonyokozala" wakho kuza nezinto ezithile.
• 3. Awunakubetha umazala wakho.
• 4. Ububele obuncinane buhamba indlela ende.
• 5. UNGAYENZI, naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko, ungabandakanyi umkhwekazi wakho kwimidlalo eyingozi.
• 6. Nantoni na oyenzayo: Khetha amadabi akho.
• 7. Awuyi kuliphumelela lonke idabi.
• 8. Mphose ngethambo ngoku.
• 9. Abahlobo abalungileyo abanakhathazeka ukuba i-MIL tag ihamba kunye.
• 10. Yamkela izinto ongenakuzitshintsha.
• 11. Guqula izinto onakho.

Khawufan 'ucinge. Uya ebomini wonwabile. Wabelana ngobomi bakho nendoda yamaphupha akho. Unabantwana abambalwa, umsebenzi owonwabelayo ixesha elininzi, kunye nezinto ozithandayo kunye nabahlobo ukukugcina uxakekile. Ngenye imini, umkhwekazi wakho uza kungena ngaphakathi.

Awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni. Khange ummeme, kwaye uqinisekile ukuba nomyeni wakho akamfumananga. Uhlala ucinga ukuba uzakuhamba, kodwa uyaqaphela ukuba iibhegi zakhe zikhululwe kakuhle, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha uzisa ukuhamba kwakhe okuzayo, uyayitshintsha intetho.

Ewe, oku akufani nendlela endiye ndanesifo sokudinwa esinganyangekiyo. Uyabona, kum, njengoko kunjalo kubantu abaninzi abaneCFS, isifo sokudinwa okungapheliyo sifike ngohlobo lwento endicinga ukuba ngumkhuhlane wesisu olula. Njengoko ubunokundwendwela umamazala wakho ixesha elifutshane, ndizilungiselele ngokwengqondo iintsuku ezimbalwa zosizi kunye nokuphazamiseka okungathandekiyo kwaye ndicinga ukuba ubomi buya kubuyela esiqhelweni ngeentsuku ezimbalwa. Kwakungenjalo. Iimpawu, ngakumbi ukudinwa okucinezelayo, zahlala emzimbeni wam, kwaye, kwiminyaka emihlanu, kuyabonakala ukuba umkhwekazi wam ongumfuziselo ungene ngokugqibeleleyo.

Akusiyo imeko efanelekileyo, kwaye enye iyaqhubeka ididekile, kodwa akuzona zonke iindaba ezimbi. Iminyaka yokuhlala no "her" indifundise izinto ezimbalwa. Ukuba nobutyebi bolwazi ngoku, ndicinga ukuba wonke umntu kufuneka ayazi ukuba…

1. Ukuphila neCFS akukubi konke.

Njengalo naluphi na ulwalamano oluhloniphekileyo lwe-MIL-DIL, ubomi obunokudinwa okungapheliyo bunamahla ndenyuka. Ngamaxesha athile, ngekhe uyiphakamise intloko yakho umqamelo ngenxa yokoyika umsindo wakhe. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba unyathela kancinci, ungahamba iiveki, kwaneenyanga, ngaphandle kwengxabano enkulu.

2. Ukuhlala "nonyokozala" wakho kuza nezinto ezithile.

Ngenye imini umhlobo wam wandibuza ukuba ndiyafuna ukumjoyina ekukhankaseleni abamelwane abathengisa iiamangile zeetshokholethi. Impendulo yayilula, “Hayi. Ndizokonwabisa umazala wam ngokuhlwanje. " Ukuhlala nolu ndwendwe lungaphantsi kunqwenelekayo lwendlu aluzi namacala amaninzi, ke ndiyabona ukuba ndilusebenzisa njengesizathu esivakalayo ngoku kwaye kulungile.

3. Awunakubetha umazala wakho.

Nangona ungathanda, ngekhe ubethe iCFS ngokwasemzimbeni okanye isikweko njengokuba abanye benokuthi "babethe," okanye baphilise, esinye isifo. Nawaphi na amalinge okulwa, ukutyeshela, okanye ukoyisa enye into enza ukuba ukuhlala nayo kubenzima. Senditshilo…

4. Ububele obuncinane buhamba indlela ende.

Xa ndisebenza nomhlali ongafunekiyo ebomini bam, ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba kungcono ndibonise ububele ngazo zonke iindlela. Indlela yokondla, yoxolo, kunye neyomonde ihlala ivelisa amaxesha okwaziwa njenge-CFS njenge "uxolelo" -ixesha apho iimpawu ziba lula kwaye umntu angalonyusa amanqanaba omsebenzi.

5. UNGAYENZI, naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko, ungabandakanyi umkhwekazi wakho kwimidlalo eyingozi.

Umkhabi wokwenene weCFS yinto encinci embi ebizwa ngokuba. Ukubeka ngokulula, ezi zizinto zonke-ezoyikisayo oziva ngazo iiyure ezingama-24 ukuya kwezi-48 emva kokuthatha inxaxheba kwimithambo yomzimba engqongqo. Ke ngelixa umkhwekazi wakho enokubonakala elonwabela ixesha lakhe kumkhondo we-BMX, ungenzi mpazamo, uya kukuhlawula kamva. Akuyi kubakho kuxelelwa ukuba loluphi na ukonzakala anokulufumana kwaye kuya kufuneka uve ntoni ngalo.

6. Nantoni na oyenzayo: Khetha amadabi akho.

Isifo esinganyangekiyo esingapheliyo asiphoswa lithuba lokuviwa xa, uthi, unokulala ebusuku nabahlobo bakho okanye uzama ukwenza igadi enzima. Ukwazi oku, ndiya edabini kuphela nesi sigulo xa kufanelekile. Kum, oku kuthetha ukuthi hayi kwizinto ezinje ngeofisi yezentlalo okanye ngokuzithandela kwi-PTA. Kodwa ikhonsathi yeGarth Brooks? SIHOGO YEAH!

7. Awuyi kuliphumelela lonke idabi.

Umamazala wam okomzekeliso ngumntu owoyikekayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho amaxesha amabi ekuthi xa sithetha neCFS siwabize ngokuba “kukuphinda ubuye.” Xa oku kusenzeka, andinakukwazi ukugxininisa ngokwaneleyo kumandla okwamkela ukohlulwa njengenyathelo lokuqala ekubuyiseni. Ngenxa yam, ndisebenzisa la maxesha ukusela iti eninzi nge-MIL, ndimqinisekise ukuba yonke into izakulunga, kwaye ndimqinisekise ukuba abukele iDownton Abbey kunye nam de abe ukulungele ukungcwaba i-hatchet.

8. Mphose ngethambo ngoku.

Ingaziva ngathi i-MIL yakho iyafuneka ngamanye amaxesha. Ufuna ukuphumla, akafuni ukumba ukhula namhlanje, umsebenzi uxinzelelekile kuye, ufuna ukulala ebhedini kungadlulanga u-8: 00 ebusuku. … Uluhlu luqhubeka njalo. Ngenxa yokulunga, phosa ithambo lakhe ngoku nangoko! Hayi Kroba loo nto. Yiphose onke amathambo ayifunayo emva koko amanye. Ndiyakuthembisa intlawulo ngokubhekisele kwimpilo yakho izakufaneleka.

9. Abahlobo abalungileyo abanakhathazeka ukuba i-MIL tag ihamba kunye.

Ndisoloko ndinabahlobo abalungileyo, kodwa andizange ndibaxabise ngaphezu kweminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo. Zilungile kwaye zithembekile kwaye azikhathazi ukuba umkhwekazi wam ethatha isigqibo sokusicothisa kukhenketho- okanye nokuba uyanyanzelisa ukuba sonke sihlale ekhaya endaweni yoko!

10. Yamkela izinto ongenakuzitshintsha.

Andizange ndivume kulo lonke eli lungiselelo lokuphila. Ndiye ndacenga ndacela iMIL yam ukuba iye kuhlala kwenye indawo. Ndide ndashiya izinto zakhe emnyango, ngethemba lokuba uza kufumana uthsuphe, kodwa kungancedi nto. Kuya kubonakala ngathi ulapha ukuhlala, kwaye kungcono ukuba…

11. Guqula izinto onakho.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, xa isigulo singena ebomini bakho singachazelwanga kwaye siqala ukuhlala, sinokukushiya unomsindo, woyisiwe, kwaye ungabi namandla. Kum, kwafika inqanaba, nangona kunjalo, apho ezo mvakalelo zazifuna ukuthatha isihlalo esingasemva kugxilwe ngokwakhayo kwizinto endinokuzitshintsha. Umzekelo, ndingangumama. Ndingathatha i-tai chi, kwaye ndinokulandela ikhondo elitsha ngokubhala. Ezi zizinto endizonwabisayo, ezizalisekisayo, kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, "umamazala wam" uzifumana ezithandeka nazo!

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