Ukuhlala noMntu oLikhoboka lotywala: Ungabaxhasa njani-nawe

Umxholo

• Malunga nokulutha kotywala
• Ukuqonda ukuba likhoboka lotywala
• Ukuba likhoboka lotywala kunokulichaphazela njani ikhaya
• Impembelelo yotywala kubantwana
• Iingcebiso ngokuhlala nomntu olikhoboka lotywala
• Iingcebiso ngokuhlala nomntu uchacha kwikhoboka lotywala
• Yise kude

Malunga nokulutha kotywala

Ayisiyo kuphela into yokuba likhoboka lotywala, okanye ingxaki yokusebenzisa utywala (AUD), echaphazela abo banayo, kodwa inokuba nefuthe elibonakalayo kulwalamano lwabo nakwimizi.

Ukuba uhlala nomntu one-AUD, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba likhoboka lotywala kwaye ufunde indlela yokujongana nayo. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi ukoyisa imiceli mngeni yotywala.

Ukuqonda ukuba likhoboka lotywala

Inxalenye yesizathu sokuba ukubakho kotywala kuxhaphake eMelika kungenxa yokufumaneka kwayo ngokubanzi kunye nokufikeleleka xa kuthelekiswa nezinye izinto, ukongeza kwinto yokuba inokuthengwa ngokusemthethweni.

Kodwa, njengakwikhoboka leziyobisi, ukuba likhoboka lotywala kuthathwa njengesifo esinganyangekiyo, okanye sexesha elide. Ngaphezulu kokulindeleka, umntu omthandayo ubazi ubungozi be-AUD, kodwa umlutha wabo unamandla kangangokuba kunzima ukubulawula.

Xa umntu omthandayo esela okanye ejongene neempawu zokurhoxa, iimvakalelo zabo zinokungaqiniseki. Banokuba nobuhlobo okomzuzwana, kuphela ukuba babe nomsindo kwaye babe nogonyamelo olandelayo. Ngokwenethiwekhi yokuBuyisa iZiseko, ukuya kuthi ga kwisibini kwisithathu samatyala obundlobongela obunxulumene notywala kwenzeka kubudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwabantu. Iimeko ezinjalo zinokubeka wena nomzi wakho emngciphekweni.

Ukuba likhoboka lotywala kunokulichaphazela njani ikhaya

Xa umntu one-AUD ahlala ekhayeni lakho, amanye amalungu osapho lwakho anokuba semngciphekweni weziphumo ezibi. Eminye yemingcipheko exhaphakileyo ngumonakalo kwimpilo-ntle yakho yeemvakalelo nezengqondo.

Ukuba nomntu onxilileyo ngokungaguquguqukiyo kunokuba noxinzelelo kwaye kubangele uxinzelelo malunga nento eza kwenzeka ngokulandelayo. Ungaziva unetyala ngale meko, ekugqibeleni ukhokelele kuxinzelelo. Umlutha womntu obathandayo usenokuqala ukuthatha umrhumo wezezimali.

Ukunxila nako kunokubonisa ezinye iziganeko ezingalindelekanga, kubandakanya neengozi zomzimba. Xa uphantsi kwempembelelo, umntu omthandayo unokucaphuka kwaye aphume. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abayiqondi nokuba baziphethe ngale ndlela, kwaye abanokukhumbula zakube ziphelile iziphumo zotywala. Umntu one-AUD naye unokuba nomsindo okanye acaphuke xa engafikeleli etywaleni kuba efumana ukurhoxa.

Nokuba umntu wakho omthandayo akabi ndlongondlongo kwi-AUD, basenokubonisa iingozi zokhuseleko ekhaya. Basenokungaphindi benze iindima zabo, kwaye banokuphazamisa amandla osapho. Olo tshintsho lunokuba luxinzelelo kusapho lonke.

Impembelelo yotywala kubantwana

Ukuba umzali une-AUD, umntwana unokufumana uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo ngenxa yokuba engazi ukuba yeyiphi imo umzali wakhe aya kuba kuyo imihla ngemihla. Abantwana abanakuphinda baxhomekeke kumntu omdala nge-AUD, enokuthi ibeke uxinzelelo olungafanelekanga kubo. Banokuba semngciphekweni wolunye uhlobo lobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.

Abantwana abakhula benomzali one-AUD kunokwenzeka ukuba babusebenzise kakubi utywala ngokwabo kamva ebomini. Bakwasemngciphekweni omkhulu wolunye ucelomngeni, kubandakanya ubunzima bokwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukuxoka, kunye nokuzigweba.

Iingcebiso ngokuhlala nomntu olikhoboka lotywala

Ukuba umntu omthandayo kwikhaya lakho une-AUD, jonga ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo zokwenza ukuba ubomi bulawuleke ngakumbi:

• Cinga ukhuseleko lwakho kuqala. Oku kubandakanya abantu abasesichengeni sobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, njengabantwana kunye nezilwanyana zasekhaya. Ukufuduka okwethutyana kunokuba yimfuneko kulowo umthandayo nge-AUD ukuba ukhuseleko lwakho lusongelwa.
• Thintela ukufikelela kwimali yakho. Susa umntu omthandayo nge-AUD kuyo nayiphi na iakhawunti edibeneyo, okanye uzivale ngokupheleleyo. Musa ukubanika imali, nokuba bathi zezinye iinjongo ngaphandle kotywala.
• Musa ukwenza. Ukuba uqhubeka nokuxhasa ukubakho kotywala kothandekayo wakho ngokuvumela izinto zihlale zikwimo, ungabenza bakwazi. Unokuba nakho ukwenza ukuba umntu omthandayo abe uyaqhubeka nokuthenga utywala okanye ubanike imali yokuchitha iziyobisi ngokwabo. Ukoyika umsindo okanye impindezelo kunokubangela isimilo esinjalo. Kodwa ukuze uphule lo mjikelo, kubalulekile ukuba unganikezeli.
• Misela ungenelelo. Eli li thuba xa amalungu osapho lwakho obathandayo, abahlobo, kunye nabantu osebenza nabo behlangene ukuze babacenge ukuba bayeke ukusela. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba neqela elingathathi hlangothi, njengonyango.
• Yenza umntu omthandayo kwinkqubo yonyango. Oku kunokubandakanya iinkqubo zokuhlala kwiindawo ezinamandla ngakumbi ze-AUD. Ugqirha wakho unokunceda ukucebisa okona kulungileyo kulowo umthandayo.

Kukwabalulekile ukujongana neemfuno zosapho lwakho ngeli xesha. Qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho batya ukutya okusempilweni kwaye bafumana umthambo owaneleyo kunye nokulala.

Cinga ngoncedo okanye inkxaso yobungcali kuwe nakwintsapho yakho. Iqela lenkxaso lokwakha unxibelelwano nabanye abahamba namava afanayo kunokuba luncedo.

Unyango lokuthetha (okanye ukudlala unyango kubantwana abancinci) lunokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngemiceli mngeni enokuboniswa likhaya.

Iingcebiso ngokuhlala nomntu uchacha kwikhoboka lotywala

Emva kokuchacha, abanye abantu abane-AUD banokufuna inkxaso evela kubahlobo nakwintsapho. Unokunceda ngokunikezela ngenkxaso engenamiqathango, kubandakanya ukungaseli ngokwakho.

Kukwabalulekile ukubuza umntu omthandayo ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ungenza ntoni ukunceda, ngakumbi ngexesha leziganeko ezizodwa apho kunokuhanjiswa khona utywala.

Yilungiselele ukuba umntu wakho omthandayo ubuyela umva. Qonda ukuba ukubuyiswa luhambo kwaye ayisiyiyo injongo yexesha elinye.

Yise kude

Xa uhlala nomntu one-AUD, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba khange ubangele likhoboka. Ke ngoko, awukwazi ukuyilungisa ngokwakho, nokuba.

I-AUD iyanyangeka kwaye ngokubanzi ifuna uncedo lobuchule. Kodwa ntoni wena I-cando luxhasa umntu obathandayo ekubuyiseni kwabo. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, thabatha amanyathelo okukugcina ukhuselekile kwaye wena kunye nendlu yakho yonke nisempilweni.

Iimbonakalo Ukwangoku usebenza kule dissertation yakhe, ethi iphonononge iindlela ezinqamlezileyo zezifundo zokukhubazeka kunye nezifundo zokufunda nokubhala. Xa engaphandi okanye ebhala, uCherney uyakonwabela ukuphuma ngaphandle kangangoko. Uziqhelanisa neyoga kunye nokukhaba amanqindi.