Yenza utshintsho olukhulu kubomi

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Ukurhawuzela ukwenza utshintsho ebomini bakho, kodwa ungaqinisekanga ukuba ukulungele na ukushenxisa, ukutshintsha imisebenzi okanye ngapha koko uphucule iindlela zakho ezizinzileyo zokwenza izinto? Nantsi eminye imiqondiso yokuba ukulungele ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu kubomi:

Yenza utshintsho ukuba… Uzibona uphupha ingqondo kwaye uzilazila ngakumbi kunesiqhelo.

URachna D. Jain, Psy.D, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi oqinisekisiweyo e-Columbia, Md. kubomi bakho bokwenyani ukuba unokukufumanisa kunzima ukuthatha inyathelo kwihlabathi lokwenyani. Umzekelo, ukuba awonwabanga emsebenzini, unokuchitha ixesha elininzi ucinga ngezinto onokuba nazo xa unomphathi omtsha okanye ishishini lakho kangangokuba ube ungasemva emsebenzini. Nikela ingqalelo kakhulu kwizinto oziphuphayo. "Ukuba uqhubeka uphupha ngento enye, nantso umkhomba kwinto onokufuna ukuyitshintsha," utshilo uJain.

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Yenza utshintsho ukuba… Uziva ucaphukile, unomsindo okanye unxunguphele amaxesha amaninzi.

Ukuba nengxaki yokuzikhupha ebhedini okanye ukoyika ukuya emsebenzini yonke imihla luphawu oluqinisekileyo lokuba ufuna utshintsho ebomini. Usenokungayiqondi indlela ongonwabanga ngayo ukuba izinto ziye zisiba mandundu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nosapho kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba le nto uyivayo yeyethutyana okanye yinxalenye yendlela yexesha elide, utshilo uChristine D'Amico, MA, umqeqeshi wotshintsho kubomi eSan Diego. "Omnye umthengi wam ubuze abantwana bakhe ukuba akayithandi ixesha elingakanani umsebenzi wakhe," uyakhumbula. “Bathi kuye, ‘Mama, asisakhumbuli naxa wawuthanda umsebenzi wakho. "

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Yenza utshintsho ukuba…Awuphumli okanye awanelisekanga ngendlela ecacileyo.

Ukudakumba ayikuphela kwendlela ofuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakho ngayo. Ukulula, ukungoneliseki kukungoneliseki kukwangumqondiso ocacileyo wokuba into ayilunganga. "Ndiyibona le nto rhoqo ngabasetyhini abafuna utshintsho kubudlelwane babo," utshilo uJain. "Ungacinga, 'Umfana wam ulungile, kodwa kukho into engekhoyo.' Okanye 'Akukho nto iphosakeleyo, kodwa oku akuziva kulungile.' "Ukuziva ungazinzanga ngesiqhelo luphawu lokuba ezantsi uyazi ukuba kufuneka wenze utshintsho ebomini, kodwa awukafumani ukuba yintoni ngoku.

Enye indlela yokwenza oko kukubhala okanye ukucingela nje ubomi bakho obufanelekileyo. "Yenza umbono opheleleyo wobomi bakho obulungileyo: ujongeka kanjani, unxibe ntoni, utya ntoni kwisidlo sakusasa kusasa, yonke into," utshilo uJain. Ukuthelekisa ubunyani kubomi bakho obufanelekileyo kunokutyhila into enokusebenzisa ukungcangcazela.

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Yenza utshintsho ukuba… Unephupha elingazalisekanga okanye eyona njongo iphambili yobomi ongasondelanga ukuyifikelela kunokuba wawunonyaka okanye emibini edlulileyo.

Mhlawumbi uyazi kakuhle ukuba bunjani ubomi bakho obufanelekileyo-awukenzi nto malunga nalo okwangoku. Esona sizathu sokuba abantu bayeke ukulandela amaphupha abo? Uloyiko. "Ukwenza ukolula okukhulu kunika uloyiko, kwaye olo loyiko luphawu oluhle-ukuba kuvakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuwe, ayilunganga," utshilo u-D'Amico. "Landela uloyiko-leyo yindlela ofuna ukuhamba ngayo."

Ngaphandle kweenzuzo ezicacileyo-umsebenzi owuthandayo, ubudlelwane obutsha, indawo engcono-ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu kunokuphucula ubomi bakho ngezinye iindlela. “Ukuphila ngotshintsho olukhulu kukufundisa ngezakhono zakho,” utshilo uJain. "Ungafunda ukuba womelele kakhulu, ukrelekrele kwaye ukhuthazekile kunokuba ubucinga, kwaye uzuza ngakumbi inkululeko nokuzilawula ebomini bakho."

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