Dibana noMfazi osebenzisa ukukhwela ibhayisekile ukukhuthaza ukulingana ngokwesini

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Ngo-2006, uShannon Galpin-umqeqeshi wezemidlalo kunye nomqeqeshi wePilates-wayeka umsebenzi wakhe, wathengisa umzi wakhe, waya e-Afghanistan eyayidlakazwe yimfazwe. Apho wasungula umbutho obizwa ngokuba yiMountain2Mountain, ojolise ekufundiseni nasekuxhobiseni abasetyhini. Kwiminyaka esibhozo emva koko, oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala ubese-Afghanistan amatyeli ali-19-kwaye wenze konke ukusukela ekutyeleleni iintolongo ukuya ekwakheni izikolo zabangevayo. Kutshanje, ubuyile kwiingcambu zakhe zomzimba, exhasa iqela lokuqala labasetyhini lokuhamba ngebhayisikile e-Afghanistan ngokubonelela ngaphezulu kweebhayisekile ezingama-55 zeLiv. Kwaye ngoku usemva kwenyathelo elibizwa Amandla kumanani, esebenzisa amavili amabini njengophawu lwenkululeko yabasetyhini kunye nesixhobo sobulungisa kwezentlalo kwaye isungulwe e-US kunye namazwe anongquzulwano oluphezulu ngo-2016.

Ubume:Kwakutheni ukuze uqale umbutho weMountain2Mountain?

UShannon Galpin [SG]: Udadewethu wayedlwengulwe kwikhampasi yakhe kwaye nam ndadlwengulwa xa ndandineminyaka eli-18 kwaye ndaphantse ndabulawa. Sasishiyana ngeminyaka eli-10 kwaye sahlasela sikwiminyaka yobudala eyi-18 kunye ne-20, kumazwe amabini ahlukeneyo, eMinnesota naseColorado-kwaye oko kwandenza ndaqonda ukuba umhlaba kufuneka utshintshe, kwaye kufuneka ndibe yinxalenye yalo nto. Ndandisazi ukuba ndinombono okhethekileyo kubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini; kananjalo ekubeni ndingumama, bendifuna ukuba umhlaba ube yindawo ekhuselekileyo, ebhetele yabasetyhini.

Ubume:Yintoni ekwenze ukuba ugxile kwi-Afghanistan?

SG: Nangona ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini kwenzeka kum eU.S., sinezi nkululeko abangenazo abo bafazi. Ngoko ke ndagqiba ekubeni ukuba ngokwenene ndiza kuyiqonda le miba, ndiza kuqala kwindawo ephindaphindayo kwindawo embi kakhulu yokuba ngumfazi. Ndifuna ukuyiqonda ngcono inkcubeko ngethemba lokuba ayizukufaka kuphela utshintsho apho, kodwa ndifunde nendlela yokuluchaphazela utshintsho ekhaya.

Ubume: Ngaba uziva ngathi ubonile icala elahlukileyo lento eyenzekayo phaya ngoku ubukuloo maxesha amaninzi?

SG: Ngokuqinisekileyo. Enye into eyandichukumisa kakhulu kukutyelela nokusebenza kwiintolongo zamabhinqa. Xa ndandikwintolongo yamabhinqa eKandahar, ndaguquka ngokwenene. Kwakusentolongweni yaseKandahar apho ndaqonda ngokwenene ukuba ilizwi libalulekile kwaye ukuba nebali lethu lingundoqo wokuba singubani. Ukuba asilisebenzisi ilizwi lethu, silwenza njani utshintsho?

Ubume: Ucinga ukuba yintoni ekhuphe loo nto?

SG: Uninzi lwabasetyhini endadibana nabo babengamaxhoba okudlwengulwa kwaye bavalelwa entolongweni ngenxa yejografi. Ukuzalelwa eMelika, ndandikwindawo eyahluke mpela. Endaweni yokuba ndibe ngumntu okwaziyo ukuqhubeka nobomi bakhe ndiqhubele phambili, bendinokuphoswa entolongweni ukuze ndikhusele imbeko ndibekwe ityala lokukrexeza. Kwabakho noku kuqonda ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini lusentolongweni kwaye akukho mntu wakhe waphulaphula ibali labo-hayi usapho lwabo, ijaji, okanye igqwetha. Kuyamangalisa ukungabi namandla. Kwaye ndiye ndaqonda ukuba aba bafazi, ababengenasizathu sokwabelana ngeemfihlo zabo ezinzulu, ezimnyama kunye nam basaphalaza amabali abo. Kukho into emangalisayo ekhululayo malunga nokwabelana ngebali lakho, usazi ukuba kukho umntu omameleyo, kwaye eli bali liya kuhlala ngaphandle kwezo ndonga. Ekugqibeleni balifumana ithuba lokuviwa. Lowo waba ngumsonto wawo wonke umsebenzi endiqalise ukuwenza neNtaba2Mountain, nokuba kukwezobugcisa okanye kwezembaleki.

Ubume: Khawusixelele ukuba uzibandakanye njani nebhayisekile.

SG: Ndaqala ndathatha ibhayisekile yam ndaya phaya ngo-2009. Yayililinge lohlobo lokuvavanya izithintelo zesini ezazithintela abasetyhini ekukhweleni iibhayisikile. Njengomqhubi webhayisikile wasentabeni, ndandinemincili kakhulu yokuhlola iAfghanistan. Ndifuna ukubona indlela abantu abaya kuphendula ngayo. Ngaba baya kuba nomdla? Ngaba babeza kucaphuka? Kwaye ndingaba nembono engcono yokuba kutheni abantu basetyhini bengenakukhwela iibhayisikile apho? Lelinye lamazwe ambalwa emhlabeni apho iseyitabhu. Ibhayisikile yaba ngumkhenkce omangalisayo. Ekugqibeleni, ngo-2012, ndadibana nomfana owayeyinxalenye yeqela lesizwe labakhweli beebhayisikile. Ndamenywa ukuba ndiyokukhwela neqela lamakhwenkwe ndaza ndadibana nomqeqeshi, endafumanisa ukuba naye wayeqeqesha iqela lamantombazana. Isizathu sokuba ayiqale yayikukuba intombi yakhe yayifuna ukukhwela kwaye njengomkhweli webhayisikile, wacinga, 'le yinto amantombazana. kwaye amakhwenkwe afanele akwazi.' Ndaye ndadibana namantombazana ndaza ndathembisa kwangoko ukubonelela ngezixhobo kwiqela, ukuxhasa imidyarho, kwaye ndaqhubeka nokuqeqesha ukuze ngethemba lokusasaza kwamanye amaphondo.

Ubume:Kunjani ukujikeleza namantombazana? Ngaba itshintshile ukususela ekukhweleni kokuqala?

SG: Eyona nto itshintshe kakhulu okoko ndaqala ukukhwela nabo okokuqala yinkqubela phambili yezakhono zabo. Baye baphucuka ekubeni bangazinzanga kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha bacothisa ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze basebenzise iinyawo zabo njengezikhefu kwipavumente ukuthembela kwikhefu labo. Ukubabona bekhwela kunye njengeqela kukhulu kakhulu. Ngelishwa, amatye ayaphoswa, izithuko, isilingi-esingatshintshanga. Kwaye kuyakuthatha isizukulwana ukutshintsha. Le yinkcubeko engazange ixhase abasetyhini. Ngokomzekelo, bambalwa kakhulu abafazi abaqhuba e-Afghanistan. Abambalwa abafumana impendulo efanayo-ngokucacileyo inkululeko, ngokucacileyo inkululeko, kwaye yile nto iphikisanayo kwaye kutheni abantu besabela. La mantombazana akhaliphile ngokungaqhelekanga, kuba bakumda wangaphambili otshintsha inkcubeko.

Ubume:Ngaba uziva ngathi ukubonile ukuzithemba kukhula ngaphakathi kwabo?

SG: Ngokuqinisekileyo. Enyanisweni, enye intombazana yandibalisela ibali lokukhwela nomqeqeshi wayo kwinqwelo-mafutha exhasa iqela njengoko lalikhwele, yaye onke la madoda ayethuka amantombazana xa etsala ukuba aphumle. Kanye emva kwakhe bekukho inqwelo yokutya enemifuno emitsha. Ubambe ii-turnips ezimbini ezinkulu kwaye waqala ukudlala ngokubetha omnye wabafana. Oko ngekhe kwenzeke ngaphambili. Umfazi wase-Afghanistan ngekhe asabele. 'Kufuneka uyithathe'-uye uve ngalo lonke ixesha. Kwaye inkulu into yokuba akazange ayamkele nje.

Ubume: Sesiphi esona sifundo sikhulu osifundileyo?

SG: Ukumamela ngaphezulu kokuthetha. Yile ndlela ufunda ngayo. Isifundo sesibini esikhulu kukuba xa kufikwa kwilungelo labasetyhini, ngelishwa sifana kakhulu kunokuba sahlukile. Njengomfazi waseMelika, ndinenkululeko esisiseko abafazi abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela abangenayo. Kwaye okwangoku, imiba emininzi endiyibonayo-engaphezulu kwiinkcukacha-iyafana. Abasetyhini batyholwa ngendlela abanxiba ngayo ukuba bayadlwengulwa okanye bahlaselwa eMelika, umzekelo. Asinakubususa obu bundlobongela njengokuthi, 'Kulungile oko kwenzeka e-Afghanistan, kuba kunjalo, yi-Afghanistan.' Hayi, kuyenzeka nasemva kwezindlu zaseColorado.

[Ukufumana indlela yokuzibandakanya nombutho weGalpin ungaya apha okanye unikele apha. Kwaye ngenxa yeenkcukacha ezithe kratya, ungaphoswa yile ncwadi yakhe intsha Intaba ukuya eNtabeni.]

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