Zithini iziphumo zokukhulelwa kwabakwishumi elivisayo?

Umxholo

• Uphando malunga nokukhulelwa kolutsha
• Iimeko zempilo yengqondo koomama abakwishumi elivisayo
• Imingcipheko yomngcipheko wezempilo yengqondo
• Ezinye izinto
• Imali
• Impilo yomzimba
• Impembelelo emntwaneni
• Ngelixa elizayo
• Iingcebiso zoomama abakwishumi elivisayo
• Amanyathelo alandelayo

Intro

Kwakukho malunga ne-250,000 yeentsana ezizalwe ngo-2014 ukuya koomama abakwishumi elivisayo, ngokweSebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neNkonzo zoLuntu. Malunga neepesenti ezingama-77 zokukhulelwa bezingacwangciswanga. Ukukhulelwa kolutsha kungatshintsha ikhosi yobomi bomama omncinci. Ibeka kwindawo apho inoxanduva kungekuphela kwakhe, kodwa komnye umntu.

Ukuthwala umntwana nokuba ngumama akudali kuphela utshintsho lwasemzimbeni. Abasetyhini nabo baya kutshintshwa ngengqondo. Oomama abancinci bajongene noxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo oluvela:

• ukungalali ebusuku
• ukulungiselela ukunakekelwa kwabantwana
• ukwenza amadinga ogqirha
• ukuzama ukugqiba isikolo esiphakamileyo

Nangona ingengabo bonke oomama abakwishumi elivisayo abachaphazeleka kakhulu lutshintsho ngokwasengqondweni nangokwasemzimbeni, abaninzi bayachaphazeleka. Ukuba ufumana utshintsho kwezempilo yengqondo emva kokubeleka, kubalulekile ukuba ufikelele kwabanye kwaye ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha.

Uphando malunga nokukhulelwa kolutsha

Uphononongo lophando olupapashwe kwiphephancwadi iPediatrics lufunde ngaphezulu kwama-6,000 abantu basetyhini baseCanada, abakwiminyaka yokufikisa ukuya kubantu abadala. Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba amantombazana aqala kwi-15 ukuya kwi-19 anamava odandatheko lwasemva kokubeleka ngenqanaba eliphindwe kabini kunabafazi abaneminyaka engama-25 nangaphezulu.

Olunye uphononongo luxele ukuba oomama abakwishumi elivisayo bajongana noxinzelelo olunokubangela ukonyuka kwezempilo. Ukongeza kumazinga aphezulu oxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, oomama abakwishumi elivisayo banamazinga aphezulu oxinzelelo.

Banamazinga aphezulu okuzibulala kunontanga babo abangomama. Oomama abakwishumi elivisayo kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba bafumane uxinzelelo lwasemva kwesifo (PTSD) kunabanye abantu basetyhini abakwishumi elivisayo, ngokunjalo. Oku kungenxa yokuba oomama abakwishumi elivisayo kunokwenzeka ukuba baye baphathwa gadalala ngokwasengqondweni kunye / okanye ngokwasemzimbeni.

Iimeko zempilo yengqondo koomama abakwishumi elivisayo

Oomama abakwishumi elivisayo banokujamelana nenani leemeko zempilo yengqondo ezinxulumene nokubeleka nokuba ngumama omtsha. Imizekelo yale miqathango ibandakanya:

• I-Baby blues: "I-baby blues" kuxa umntu obhinqileyo efumana iimpawu kwiveki enye okanye ezimbini emva kokubeleka. Ezi mpawu zibandakanya ukutshintsha kwemozulu, unxunguphalo, usizi, ukukhathazeka, ubunzima bokugxila, ukungatyi ukutya, kunye nobunzima bokulala.
• Uxinzelelo: Ukuba ngumama okwishumi elivisayo ngumngcipheko wokudakumba. Ukuba umama unomntwana ngaphambi kweeveki ezingama-37 okanye amava obunzima, umngcipheko woxinzelelo unokunyuka.
• Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka: Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka kubandakanya iimpawu ezibi kakhulu kunye neempawu ezibonakalayo kuneblues yabantwana. Oomama abakwishumi elivisayo banamathuba aphindwe kabini okufumana uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka njengabantu abadala. Abasetyhini ngamanye amaxesha benza impazamo yoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka kublues zabantwana. Iimpawu zeblue blues ziya kuhamba emva kweeveki ezimbalwa. Iimpawu zokudakumba aziyi.

Iimpawu ezongezelelweyo zoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka zibandakanya:

• ubunzima bokudibana nosana lwakho
• ukudinwa okungaphaya
• ndiziva ndingento yanto
• ixhala
• uloyiko
• ucinga ukuzenzakalisa okanye usonzakalise umntwana wakho
• kunzima ukonwabela imisebenzi owakha wayenza

Ukuba ufumana ezi ziphumo emva kokubeleka, uncedo luyafumaneka. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba awuwedwa. Khumbula, uninzi lwabasetyhini luba noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.

Imingcipheko yomngcipheko wezempilo yengqondo

Oomama abakwishumi elivisayo kunokwenzeka ukuba bawele kudidi lwabantu abenza umngcipheko wokugula ngengqondo ube phezulu. Ezi zinto zibeka emngciphekweni zibandakanya:

• ukuba nabazali abakumgangatho ophantsi wemfundo
• Imbali yokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana
• ukunxibelelana kwezonxibelelwano
• Ukuhlala kwindawo enesidima nengazinzanga ekhaya
• sihlala kwimiphakathi enengeniso ephantsi

Ukongeza kwezi zinto, oomama abakwishumi elivisayo kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba bafumane amanqanaba abalulekileyo oxinzelelo olunokonyusa umngcipheko wokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Kodwa ezinye izinto zinokunciphisa amathuba okuba umama okwishumi elivisayo abe nemicimbi yengqondo. Ukuba umama okwishumi elivisayo unobuhlobo obuxhasayo nonina kunye / okanye utata womntwana, ingozi yakhe iyancitshiswa.

Ezinye izinto

Ngelixa ukukhulelwa kolutsha kunokuba nefuthe elibonakalayo kwimpilo yengqondo yomama omncinci, ichaphazela nezinye iinkalo zobomi bakhe. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ezi zinto:

Imali

Ngokophononongo olupapashwe kwi, abazali abakwishumi elivisayo bahlala bewagqibezela amanqanaba aphezulu emfundo. Bahlala bethintelwa ngakumbi ngamathuba ezoqoqosho kunabazali abadala.

Phantse kwisiqingatha soomama abakwishumi elivisayo baneediploma zabo zamabanga aphakamileyo beneminyaka engama-22. Kuphela li-10 leepesenti zoomama abakwishumi elivisayo abagqibe isidanga seminyaka emibini okanye emine. Ngelixa kukho umahluko, ukugqitywa kwesikolo esiphakamileyo kunye nemfundo ephezulu kunxulunyaniswa namandla amakhulu okufumana umvuzo ongaphezulu kwexesha lokuphila.

Impilo yomzimba

Ngokophando olupapashiweyo, oomama abakwishumi elivisayo babesempilweni ngokwasempilweni kuwo onke amanqanaba amabhinqa afundwayo, kubandakanya nabasetyhini ababelana ngesondo ngokungakhuselekanga. Oomama abakwishumi elivisayo banokuyityeshela impilo yabo yomzimba ngelixa bekhathalela iintsana zabo. Basenokungabi nakho ukufikelela okanye bazi malunga nokutya okusempilweni kunye nokutya. Kananjalo kunokwenzeka ukuba batyebe.

NgokwamaZiko ezeMpilo kaZwelonke, kukho umngcipheko ophezulu woku kulandelayo ekukhulelweni kolutsha:

• preeclampsia
• ianemia
• ukosuleleka zii-STD (izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini)
• ukuhanjiswa kwangethuba
• ukuhambisa kubunzima bokuzalwa obuncinci

Impembelelo emntwaneni

Ngokutsho kweSebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neenkonzo zoLuntu, abantwana abazalwa ngabazali abafikisayo bajongene nemiceli mngeni ebomini babo. Le mingeni ibandakanya ukufumana imfundo encinci kunye nokuziphatha okubi kunye neziphumo zempilo yomzimba.

Ngokwe-Youth.gov, ezinye iziphumo kumntwana ongumama okwishumi elivisayo zibandakanya:

• umngcipheko omkhulu wokuzala okuphantsi kunye nokufa kweentsana
• akulungele kangako ukungena enkulisa
• baxhomekeke kakhulu kuncedo lwezempilo oluxhaswa ngurhulumente
• kunokwenzeka ukuba bavalelwe ngexesha lokufikisa
• kunokwenzeka ukuba bayeke isikolo amabanga aphakamileyo
• kusenokwenzeka ukuba bangaphangeli okanye bangasebenzi njengabantu abadala

Ezi ziphumo zingenza umjikelo ongapheliyo koomama abakwishumi elivisayo, abantwana babo, kunye nabantwana babantwana babo.

Ngelixa elizayo

Ukuba ngumama okwishumi elivisayo akufuneki kuthetha ukuba umfazi osemncinci akazukuphumelela ebomini. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba baqwalasele ukuba yintoni abanye oomama abancinci phambi kwabo abaye bajongana nayo enxulumene nempilo iyonke, uzinzo kwezemali, kunye nempilo yomntwana wabo.

Oomama abancinci kufuneka bathethe nomcebisi wesikolo okanye unontlalontle malunga neenkonzo ezinokubanceda ekugqibeni isikolo kwaye baphile ubomi obunempilo.

Iingcebiso zoomama abakwishumi elivisayo

Ukufuna inkxaso kwabanye kungayiphucula impilo yengqondo yomama okwishumi elivisayo. Oku kubandakanya inkxaso:

• abazali
• umakhulu notatomkhulu
• abahlobo
• abantu abadala abangumzekelo
• oogqirha kunye nabanye ababoneleli ngezempilo

Amaziko amaninzi oluntu nawo aneenkonzo ngokukodwa kubazali abakwishumi elivisayo, kubandakanya nokunakekelwa kwemini ngexesha lesikolo.

Kubalulekile ukuba oomama abakwishumi elivisayo bafune ukhathalelo lwaphambi kokubeleka kwangoko njengoko kucetyiswayo, ngesiqhelo kwikota yokuqala. Le nkxaso yempilo yakho kunye neyomntwana wakho ikhuthaza iziphumo ezingcono, zombini ngexesha lokukhulelwa nasemva koko.

Oomama abakwishumi elivisayo kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nezempilo yengqondo kunye neziphumo zemali xa begqiba amabanga aphakamileyo. Uninzi lwezikolo eziphakamileyo zibonelela ngeenkqubo okanye ziya kwenza amalungiselelo nomama okwishumi elivisayo ukumnceda agqibe imfundo yakhe. Ngelixa ukugqiba isikolo kunokuba luxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo, kubalulekile kwikamva lomama okwishumi elivisayo kunye nosana lwakhe.

Amanyathelo alandelayo

Abakwishumi elivisayo ababelethayo basemngciphekweni omkhulu wokukhathazeka ngempilo yengqondo kunonina abadala. Kodwa ukubazi ubungozi nokwazi ukuba ungalufumana phi uncedo kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Ukuba ngumama omtsha akukho lula, nokuba ungakanani. Xa ungumama okwishumi elivisayo, ukuzikhathalela ngelixa ukhathalela umntwana wakho kubaluleke kakhulu.