UDenise Bidot Ukwabelana ngesizathu sokuba athande iiMark zokolula isisu sakhe

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Usenokungamazi uDenise Bidot ngegama okwangoku, kodwa uya kuthi umbone kwimikhankaso ephambili yentengiso athe wabonakala kulo nyaka weThagethi kunye neLane Bryant. Nangona i-Bidot ibisenza imodeli kangangamashumi eminyaka, i-body pos advocate (waseka i-No Wrong Way movement, ethi "ekhuthaza wonke umntu ukuba amkele eyona nto ayiyo ngokwenene") uye waphula imida emikhulu kwihlabathi lokulinganisa ubungakanani kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo. Okona kubalulekileyo? Ngo-2014, waba ngumzekelo wokuqala wesayizi kunye nokuhamba kwimiboniso esayizi ethe ngqo kwiVeki yeFashoni yaseNew York. Kwaye ebutsheni balo nyaka, intengiso yakhe engakhange ichukunyiswe ngokupheleleyo ka-Lane Bryant (eneempawu zokuzolula esiswini sakhe) yasasazeka kwaye yavezwa kumbandela Imidlalo eboniswe.

Njengenxalenye yephulo lakhe lakutshanje noLane Bryant, #TheNewSkinny, bebhiyozela uphawu lophawu olusandula ukwenziwa lweeSuper Stretch Skinny jeans, sithethe nemodeli kunye nommeli womzimba malunga nomzabalazo wokuthenga ijean ezinqinileyo njengomfazi ojijekileyo. Uguquko, kunye neqhinga lakhe lokuzithemba kwangoko.

Ikhredithi yefoto: uLane Bryant ukhethekileyo kwiShape

Kutheni ezi jeans ezibhityileyo zitshintsha umdlalo kubafazi abagobileyo.

"Njengomfazi okrwada kakhulu, ijean zihlala zifunyanwa nzima. Ndihlala ndizilungelelanisa ukuze zilungele umzimba wam kuba zilingana emathangeni kwaye azilungeli esinqeni, kungoko ndinemincili kwezi jean. Kungumzuzu ohlaziyayo wokufumana ipere yeebhulukhwe ezilungele iijika zam ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye ndigcine ukumila kwazo-ndiyabacaphukela xa beqala ukuba nengxowa emadolweni.Yiyo inguquko esasiyifuna. ijini. "

Kutheni ubume bomzimba * hayi * ingumba nje wabasetyhini abakhulu.

"Ndikhulele kwisizukulwana xa ungazange ubone iyantlukwano kunye nokubandakanyeka kuzo zonke iinkalo zeendaba, ke ukuba phambili koku kupholile kwaye ndiyazingca ngokuba yinxalenye yayo. Inene malunga nokuma kunye.Ukulungelwa komzimba ayisiyongxaki yabasetyhini abakhulu kuphela, kwaye ndicinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuyivuma.Yimalunga nokubandakanya wonke umntu, nokuba uyadlula kwi-transgender, okanye i-LGBTQ, inyani malunga nokwamkela ukwahluka komntu wonke. kuye wonke umntu kwaye ndicinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuqala ukophula loo mida kunye nemigangatho yobuhle engacaciswanga. Ukuqhubeka nokubonisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba kunye neentlobo zobuhle, kuba sonke kufuneka sithandwe kwaye samkelwe ngokuchanekileyo njengoko sinjalo.

Kutheni ukubona iistretch marks kubaluleke kangaka.

"Impendulo kumfanekiso ongafunyanwanga yayimangalisa ngokwenene kum - nje ukuthululwa kwenkxaso kunye nenani labantu ababelane ngomfanekiso kunye nendlela wentsholongwane owawuhamba ngayo ngokukhawuleza. Kukwindalo yam ukufuna yonke imifanekiso yam ukuba inyaniseke kodwa Isiphelo sosuku njengomzekelo, andisoloko ndilawula indlela umntu agqiba ngayo ukubeka umfanekiso wam.Ngoko ndenza konke okusemandleni am kwaye ndizama ukukhuthaza abantu basetyhini ukuba bayithande imizimba yabo kwaye baxhasane. Ke ndibonisa oko nge-Instagram yam ngemifanekiso emininzi engekachukunyiswa. Ndiyimodeli ngoku ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 kwaye ixesha elide bendicinga ukuba kufuneka nditshintshe umzimba wam ukuze ndibhukishwe, kunye nemisebenzi endiyifumeneyo, mininzi kakhulu. amaxesha baphinde bachukumisa ukungafezeki ngaphandle. Ke ukuba eneneni brand ezimangalisayo ezifana Lane Bryant kunye Target ume emva kwam kwaye ukhulule imifanekiso njengoko-iyiyo ngokwenene ukunika amandla. Ngu-2017 kwaye ekugqibeleni sifumana ukubona imizimba yokwenyani kwaye ukuba ukubalisa ngaphandle phaya kwaye iluncedo kakhulu kwabasetyhini kuyo yonke indawo iyahlaziya kwaye ikhulula ngokwenene. " (Idibeneyo: Ithagethi ikhuthaza ukwahluka komzimba kunye nomgaqo wayo oMangalisayo weSwimsuit)

Kutheni le nto ukuba ngumama nokuba nomtsalane kungangqinelaniyo.

"UTess Holliday ngumhlobo omkhulu kwaye sinezi ngxoxo malunga nokuba ngumama rhoqo. Njengomama, kufuneka uvunyelwe ukuba u-sexy kwaye uxhotyiswe kunye nomphathi wonke. Emva kokuba nabantwana, ndandinexhala lokuba i-stretch marks iya kundenza intle kancinci kodwa funeka uzifunele obakho ubuhle uzifunele owakho ubulili so noba ndingumama ndinxiba iilingerie ezihexayo qho ngoba ndicinga ukuba kufuneka sivunyelwe ukuba sibebahle sibesexy nokuba sibadala kangakanani. ukho, apho uvela khona, nokuba ungumama okanye awunguye. Yinxalenye nje yokuba ngumfazi."

Kutheni ungasoze umbambe ngentambo yebhikini.

"Ixesha elide, ndizamile ukuzifihla ngasemva kwesuti yokuqubha. Ndihlala ndingumntu othanda iimpahla zokuqubha ezinesinqe esiphakamileyo ke xa beqala ukuphuma kunye nobukhulu obukhulu ndandingoyena mfazi wonwabileyo emhlabeni kwaye yaba iyunifomu yam yokuqubha ne bralette top.ndingene kamnandi kuyo qha andiziva ngathi ndizowa.Njengoba bendiye ndakhululeka ngomzimba wam,ndiye ndehla ngomzantsi we swimsuit kodwa. soze undibambe nangayiphi na into exandileyo.Andisoze ndibe yila ntombazana ikwi string bikini.Ndikhulele eMiami so a lot of my friends rock thong bikinis ehlotyeni.Ndizoba ngathi, ntombazana uyinxibe nyani lonto? Kodwa yile nto uziva unomtsalane kwaye uzithembile kuyo. Kufuneka ukwazi ukunxiba nantoni na oyifunayo."

Kutheni le nto ekhetha izithende kwiziteki xa usebenza.

"Ndiyakonwabela kakhulu ukuthatha iiklasi zokudanisa ibhola. Yenye yeendlela endizithandayo-kukuzonwabisa kwaye uzive ngathi uyaphila kwaye ndihlala ndifunda amanyathelo amatsha. ezinye izithende kwaye sidanisa sijikeleze nje sonwabe. Ndizishiya ngokwam zonke iiklasi zibuhlungu kwaye kukuzilolonga kakhulu, kwaye ndicinga ukuba kuyinto entle-uya kudanisa neqabane! kundigcina ndimncinci.

Kutheni ukuzijikeleza ngepositivity kubangela ulonwabo kunye nokuzithemba.

"Ndingulo mntu uya kuthanda uGoogle, 'iikowuti ezikhuthazayo' okanye ajonge ii-hashtag kwi-Instagram kwaye ahlale apho azifunde. Ndiyincindi xa kufikwa kwizinto ezinje. Ndicinga ukubeka umxholo olungileyo Ingqondo yakho ibaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kwaye uziva njani imini yonke kwaye uza kuyenza njani imini kunye neemeko eziza kuwe. Ndihlala ndizondla iingqondo zam ezikhuthazayo kunye namazwi amnandi. izinto ezintle ezikungqongileyo. Ndihlala ndikhangela loo mathuba. Ukonwaba yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ekuzithembeni kwam kunye nokuzithemba kwam.

Kutheni ethanda ii-stretch mark esiswini sakhe.

"Ndikwelo xesha ebomini bam apho ndiya kubamba onke amalungu omzimba wam. I-stretch marks, isisu sam-endisibalekele kwaye ndasifihla iminyaka emininzi-ekugqibeleni ndiye ndafunda ukuthanda kunye . Yamkela into endiyiyo, iyinxalenye yam, kwaye kulungile ukuba ekugqibeleni ndiyamkele into yokuba sasingadalelwanga ukugqibelela. Kwaye ke ndiyasithanda isisu sam. "

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