Bazali: Lixesha lokuzinakekela, izikrini, kunye nokusika ezinye izinto

Umxholo

• Izinto zitshintshile
• Ukuba ngumzali kufuna ukutshintsha

Sijongene nobhubhane kwimowudi yokusinda, ke kulungile ukuba uthobe imigangatho yakho kwaye ulinde isilayidi. Wamkelekile kuMama wam ogqibeleleyo wobomi bukaMama.

Ubomi abugqibeki ngokugqibeleleyo, nkqu nangeyona mihla intle. Nditsho kakhulu. Ngapha koko ndibhala ngalo lonke ixesha kwikholamu yam ehlekisayo kunye neencwadi zam zobuzali. Kwaye ndikhumbuza iintombi zam ezimbini phantse yonke imihla, kuba iyinyani.

Nokuba sizama kangakanani na ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubomi buhamba kakuhle, ngakumbi njengabazali, indalo iphela ihlala isikhona ukuze isikhuthaze endlebeni ukusikhumbuza ukuba ezinye izinto zingaphaya kwamandla ethu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka senze izinto eziziva zilungile kwaye ziyathuthuzela kunye nomhlaba.

Kinda njengangoku. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba ukuhlala kwinto enje nge-f'd up kunye ne-epic njengobhubhane nabantwana bethu ayisiyiyo eyona ndlebe inkulu kuyo yonke into, andazi ukuba yintoni.

Zinqumle kancinci.

Kumcimbi wosuku olunye, sonke sayeka ukuhlala rhoqo, abazali abaqhelekileyo bathumela abantwana bethu esikolweni okanye kukhathalelo lwemini okanye babahambahamba epakini, ukulandela i-odolo lokuhlala ekhaya ekhaya ixesha elinokuphela kwexesha , ekude ngokwasekhaya nosapho kunye nabahlobo, ukulinganisa uluhlu lwephepha langasese, kunye nokwamkela iTikTok njengomhlobo wethu omtsha.

Ngoku abantwana bethu basekhaya, sisekhaya, uninzi lwezinto esasizisebenzisa ukushiya indlu zenzeka ekhaya, kwaye ngamnye wethu uthathe indima yokuba ngumzali, utitshala, odlala naye, umqeqeshi, umqeqeshi, unyango kunye nohambo ngenqanawa umlawuli zonke zisongelwe emntwini omnye. Kwaye olo luxinzelelo oluninzi. Ewe ewe, kwaye ukucacisa nje, akukho namnye kuthi onesicwangciso sayo.

Sika wonke umntu kancinci.

Izinto zitshintshile

Kule mihla, siphila phakathi kweNew Normal, sodwa nosapho lwethu kwaye sizama ukuhamba kwilizwe elingaphaya kweminyango, kungekho zikhefu, kwaye singenakho ukufikelela ebantwini nakwizinto neendlela esihlala uyakwazi ukubala.

Ngobusuku bonke, zonke iishedyuli zethu zemihla ngemihla zomsebenzi kunye nezinto eziza kwenziwa ziye zafakwa. Izinto ezinje ngesikolo kunye nomsebenzi kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla buhlengahlengisiwe, kwaye sijonga nje iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo kunye nosizi kuzo zonke izinto esizilahlekileyo. Kwaye siyayenza lo gama kwangaxeshanye sinceda abantwana bethu ukuba benze okufanayo.

Ungayichazanga eyokuba abazali kuyo yonke indawo baziva benetyala elinzima kunye noxinzelelo lokugcina abantwana bethu behleli kwaye befunda kwaye behamba kwaye bekhula kwaye bonwabisa yonke iminithi yosuku.

Ngapha koko, abo basebenza ekhaya banezongezo zokulinganisa konke ngomsebenzi kunye nezoom zoom kunye neFaceTime kunye neentlanganiso ezibonakalayo. Ungasathethi ke ngabo bashiya indlu beye kusebenza ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo baziva befumana uxinzelelo lokugcina wonke umntu ekhuselekile ngelixa bekhathalela iintsapho zabo kwaye besenza nemisebenzi yabo. Kwaye kuninzi.

Sika omnye nomnye ngokudinwa.

Ukuba ngumzali kufuna ukutshintsha

Nantsi into, nangona- Esi sisitshixo Ngelixa ndiyazi ukuba umnqweno awunakuphikiswa kumzali ngendlela esihlala sinayo- ngolwakhiwo kunye nesiqhelo kunye neetoni zemisebenzi yokugcina abantwana bethu bekhuthele kwaye bevuselelekile, ngoku, kufuneka simile. Nje. Yeka. Kwaye phefumla. Emva koko kufuneka sibange abantwana bethu, sikhuphe umoya, kwaye siyiyeke ihambe.

Eli ayiloxesha lokuba ngumama wehelikopta okanye utata otyala ingca, ulawula yonke imizuzwana yosuku lwabantwana bethu. Ngoku lixesha lokuba abantwana bethu babe ngabantwana.

Ke mabenze iinqaba kwaye badlale imidlalo kwaye babhake iicookies kwaye benze ubumdaka kwaye basebenzise izixhobo. Ngenxa yokuba inyani ilula yile, sonke sikwimo yokusinda, kwaye imigaqo yesiqhelo yokuphila ubomi nje ayikho ngoku. Abakwazi.

Oko kuthetha ukuba, ekuphela kwento esele yenziwe kukwenza oko uziva ulungile, kwaye oko kuya kujongeka kwahluke kancinane kuthi sonke.

Kuthi bazali, oko kunokuthetha ukuskrolela kwii-Insta feed zethu ngokufuthi ngakumbi ukuziva unxibelelana nehlabathi. Kubantwana bethu abadala, kunokubonakala ngathi lixesha elongeziweyo ukujongana nabahlobo babo ukuba bazive bodwa kwaye banxibelelana ngakumbi. Kwaye kwabancinci bethu, kunokuba ziiyure ezininzi phambi kweevidiyo abazithandayo njengendlela yokuthomalalisa imiphefumlo yabo emincinci. Ngenxa yokuba umhlaba wonke umntu utshintshile kwaye isingqisho somntu wonke sicinyiwe.

Ke, ukuba lalikhona ixesha lokuzinakekela, kungoku. Zizo ezo zinto kufuneka sithembele kuzo kude kugqitywe oku. Izinto ezizalisa iintliziyo zethu kunye neengqondo ngokubuyisa okanye ukuhleka okanye ukudubula okuzolileyo okusigcinayo.

Kufuneka sinike abantwana bethu ibhendi eyongezelelweyo yokuhamba hamba kuluntu kusetyenziswa itekhnoloji abanayo eminweni yabo, kuba sinethamsanqa ukuba banayo.

Ngoku inikiwe, andicebisi ukuba sibayeke iFaceTime kwaye babukele iiyure ze-Netflix ezili-19 ngosuku, kodwa kufuneka sibanike umgaqo wokubaleka ixesha elide ukuze basebenzise ezi ndlela zokudibanisa ukunceda ukulinganisa isikali sokwahlula kancinci.

Cutha abantwana bakho kancinci.

Njengoko iingcali zithi, siphila ngembali. Ke kufuneka sivume ukuba oku kunzima. Ngokwenene kunzima. Kwaye ngoku, okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukugcina impilo yomntu wonke ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba, olucelomngeni olukhulu ekuqwalaseleni amaqabane kunye namaqabane achitha ixesha elininzi kunye kunangaphambili. Ngaphandle kwesikhuseli. Kwaye ngenxa yalonto, ukungavisisani kusebenza kwindawo ephezulu ngalo lonke ixesha.

Sika iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho kancinci.

Eyona nto iphambili kukuba, wonke umntu ufuna imvume yokungabinanjongo ngoku. Sonke kufuneka sikwazi ukubaleka ekuphumeni ngokufanayo kwemihla ngemihla nangayiphi na indlela evakalayo kuthi. Kwaye ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba abantwana bethu bachitha ixesha elininzi ngaphakathi kwincwadi okanye phambi kwescreen ngoku, makube njalo. Kuba eso sisicwangciso sethu sokuphila.

Sika usapho lwakho kancinci.

Njengoko besenditshilo, la ngamaxesha angaqhelekanga, angaqhelekanga, ke zinike imvume yokubeka phambili izinto ezithi zibangele uvuyo kuwe kunye nosapho lwakho ngoku, uyeke ezinye zihambe. Yiyeke ihambe. Kuba xa siseta ithoni, abantwana bethu baya kulandela.

Sinayo le nto, zihlobo. Phambili.

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