Yintoni i-Narcissistic Rage, kwaye Yeyiphi indlela eyiyo yokujongana nayo?

Umxholo

• Ingaba ijongeka kanjani?
• Yintoni enokuthi ikhokelele kwiziqendu zomsindo woburharha?
• Ukwenzakala kukuzithemba okanye ukuzixabisa
• Umceli mngeni kukuzithemba kwabo
• Ingqondo yesiqu sakho iyabuzwa
• Ichongwa njani i-NPD
• Ungamelana njani nomsindo ovela komnye umntu
• Emsebenzini
• Kubudlelwane bamaqabane
• Kubahlobo
• Ukusuka kumntu ongamaziyo
• Zinyangwa njani iingcwangu?
• Ukuthatha

Umsindo weNarcissistic kukugqabhuka komsindo okanye ukuthula okunokwenzeka kumntu oneempawu zobuntu ezingalunganga.

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu beNarcissistic (NPD) kwenzeka xa umntu enokubaxwa okanye umoya ogqithisileyo wokubaluleka kwabo. Kwahlukile kwi-narcissism kuba i-NPD inxulunyaniswa nemfuza kunye nokusingqongileyo.

Umntu ohlangabezana noburhalarhume bungavakalelwa kukuba omnye umntu okanye isiganeko ebomini babo esoyikisa okanye angabenzakalisa ukuzithemba okanye ukuzixabisa.

Banokusebenza kwaye bazive besihle kwaye bengaphezulu kwabanye. Umzekelo, banokufuna unyango olukhethekileyo kunye nembeko nokuba kubonakala ngathi akukho nto bayenzileyo ukuyifumana.

Abantu abane-NPD banokuba neemvakalelo zokungazithembi kwaye bazive bengenakukwazi ukuphatha nantoni na abayibona njengokugxeka.

Xa kutyhilwa "isiqu sabo", umntu one-NPD unokuziva esongelwa, kwaye ukuzithemba kwabo kuyachithwa.

Ngenxa yoko, banokuphendula ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zeemvakalelo kunye nezenzo. Umsindo ungomnye wabo, kodwa uhlala ungoyena ubonakalayo.

Ukuphindaphinda okungafunekiyo okuphindaphindayo kwenzeka kubantu abanezinye iimeko, nazo. Ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo uhlala unalezi ziqendu zomsindo, kubalulekile ukuba ufumane ukuxilongwa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ufumane unyango olungcono.

Ingaba ijongeka kanjani?

Sonke sinqwenela ukuhoywa nokunconywa ngabantu abasingqongileyo.

Kodwa abantu abane-NPD banokuphendula ngomsindo we-narcissistic xa benganikwanga ingqalelo abaziva befanelekile.

Lo msindo usenokuba kukungxola nokukhwaza. Ukuthula okunganyanzelekanga kunye nokuthintela ubundlongondlongo kunokwenzeka kunye nengqumbo.

Uninzi lweziqendu zoburhalarhume obukhoyo ziyaqhubeka nokuziphatha. Kwelinye icala, umntu unokuba yedwa kwaye arhoxe. Injongo yabo inokuba kukulimaza omnye umntu ngokungabikho.

Kwelinye icala kukugqabhuka kunye nokudubula. Nalapha kwakhona, injongo inokuba kukujika "ukwenzakala" baziva kukuhlaselwa komnye umntu njengendlela yokuzikhusela.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ayizizo zonke iingqumbo ezinomsindo eziziziqwenga zomsindo woburharha. Nabani na okwaziyo ukuba nomsindo, nokuba abanangxaki yobuntu.

Umsindo weNarcissistic yinto enye ye-NPD. Ezinye iimeko zinokubangela iziqendu ezifanayo nengqumbo, kubandakanya:

• Ukukhohlisa
• ukuxhuzula
• Iziqendu zokudakumba

Yintoni enokuthi ikhokelele kwiziqendu zomsindo woburharha?

Zintathu izizathu eziphambili zokuba umsindo wenzakalise.

Ukwenzakala kukuzithemba okanye ukuzixabisa

Ngaphandle koluvo olugqithisileyo lwabo, abantu abane-NPD bahlala befihla ukuzithemba kwabo kwenzakala ngokulula.

Xa "bebuhlungu," ii-narcissists zihlala zikhawuleza njengeyona ndlela yazo yokuqala yokuzikhusela. Banokuziva ngathi ukusika umntu ngaphandle okanye ukubenza buhlungu ngamagama okanye ubundlobongela kunokubanceda bakhusele ubuntu babo.

Umceli mngeni kukuzithemba kwabo

Abantu abane-NPD bahlala bezama ukuzithemba ngokwabo ngokuqhubeka nokubaleka ngobuxoki okanye ngee-personas zobuxoki.

Xa umntu ebatyhala kwaye eveza ubuthathaka, abantu abane-NPD banokuziva bengonelanga. Le mvakalelo ingavumelekanga inokubangela ukuba baphumele ngaphandle njengokhuseleko.

Ingqondo yesiqu sakho iyabuzwa

Ukuba abantu baveza ukuba umntu one-NPD akanakho ukuba nesakhono okanye anetalente njengoko banokuzenza ngathi, lo mceli mngeni kwimvakalelo yabo yokuzingca unokubangela ukusika kunye nokuqhushumba.

Ichongwa njani i-NPD

I-NPD inokubangela imiba ebomini bomntu, ubudlelwane, umsebenzi, kunye nemeko yezemali.

Abantu abane-NPD bahlala bekhohlisa ngokuqaqamba, ubungangamsha kunye nelungelo. Banokujongana nemicimbi eyongezelelekileyo njengokuziphatha gwenxa kunye nomsindo woburharha.

Kodwa i-narcissistic rage and other NPD-related issues are not as simple as umsindo okanye uxinzelelo.

Umboneleli wezempilo okanye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo efana nonyango okanye ugqirha wezifo zengqondo unokuchonga iimpawu ze-NPD. Oku kunokunceda umntu one-NPD kunye neempawu zomsindo afumane uncedo olufanelekileyo aludingayo.

Akukho luvavanyo luchazayo. Endaweni yoko, umboneleli wakho wezempilo uya kucela kwaye aqwalasele kwakhona imbali yakho yezempilo kunye nokuziphatha kunye nengxelo evela ebantwini ebomini bakho.

Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokumisela ukuba unayo i-NPD ngokusekwe:

• uxele kwaye wajonga iimpawu
• Uvavanyo lomzimba ukunceda ukukhupha umba osisiseko somzimba onokubangela iimpawu
• uvavanyo lwengqondo
• Iikhrayitheriya zokuthelekisa kwiNcwadi yokuChonga kunye neNgcaciso yeNcwadi yokuPhazamiseka kwengqondo (DSM-5) nguMbutho wezengqondo zaseMelika
• Iikhrayitheriya zokuthelekisa kuHlelo lwaMazwe ngaMazwe lweZifo kunye neeNgxaki zeMpilo ezinxulumene noko (i-ICD-10), uluhlu lokuhlelwa kwezonyango nguMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi (i-WHO)

Ungamelana njani nomsindo ovela komnye umntu

Abantu ebomini bakho abane-NPD kunye neziqendu zomsindo obukhalazayo banezixhobo ezininzi zokufumana uncedo.

Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ekufumaneni uncedo olufanelekileyo, njengoko uninzi lwezindlela zokhetho ezingakhange ziqinisekiswe luphando.

Ngokwengxelo ka-2009 epapashwe kwi-Psychiatric Annals, khange kubekho zifundo zininzi zenziweyo kunyango lwe-NPD kunye nabantu abafumana umsindo we-narcissistic njengophawu lwe-NPD.

Ke ngelixa unyango lwengqondo lunokusebenzela abanye abantu, ayisebenzi kubo bonke abantu abane-NPD. Kwaye ayingabo bonke abaqeqeshi bezempilo yengqondo bade bavumelane malunga nokuba ungachonga njani, unyange kwaye ulawule njani esi sifo.

Uphononongo luka-2015 olupapashwe kwi -American Journal of Psychiatry luchaza ukuba iintlobo zeempawu ezinokuthi zenzeke kumntu ngamnye nge-NPD zingenza kube ngumngeni ukwenza uxilongo oluqinisekileyo loluphi "uhlobo" lwe-NPD umntu anayo:

• Ukugqithisa. Iimpawu zicacile kwaye kulula ukufumanisa i-DSM-5.
• Guqula. Iimpawu azisoloko zibonakala okanye zicacile, kunye nokuziphatha okanye iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezinxulunyaniswa ne-NPD, njengokucaphuka okanye uxinzelelo, kunokuba nzima ukufumanisa.
• "Ukusebenza okuphezulu". Iimpawu ze-NPD zinokuba nzima okanye zingenakwenzeka ukuba ziqwalaselwe ngokwahlukeneyo kwindlela aziphethe ngayo umntu okanye imeko yengqondo. Banokuchongwa njengezinto ezingaziphathi kakuhle njengokuziphatha okungalunganga okanye ukungathembeki.

Kuba iimeko ezinjenge-NPD zihlala zichongiwe ngokujonga iimpawu ezibonakalayo, zinokubakho ubuninzi beempawu zobuntu okanye izinto zengqondo ezingenakwenzeka ukuba zihlukane kuvavanyo.

Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awufanele ufune uncedo. Zama ukuthetha neengcali zempilo yengqondo kwaye uzame iindlela ezahlukeneyo ukuze ubone ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwesicwangciso sonyango esisebenza kakuhle kuwe.

Kwaye ngelixa wena okanye umntu one-NPD ebomini bakho esebenza ngokuziphatha kunye nembali, abanye banokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukuzifunela uncedo lobungcali.

Unokufunda ubuchule bokulawula ingqumbo ye-narcissistic xa isenzeka okanye ukulungiselela iziqendu ezizayo ukunciphisa okanye ukucubungula ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo onokuziva ngexesha lesigigaba.

Emsebenzini

Nciphisa ukubandakanyeka nomntu lowo. Yithembe into abayithethayo kodwa qinisekisa ukuba oko bakuxelele kona kuyinyani okanye bubuxoki.

Abantu abane-NPD banokuthetha ngokufezekisa kunye namandla abo. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba abanako okanye abenzi imisebenzi ebalulekileyo, zilungiselele ukulawula ukusilela kwabo kobungcali.

Kwakhona lumka ekunikeni ingxelo ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokugxeka. Oku kunokubangela impendulo enzulu ngalo mzuzu, enokukubeka emngciphekweni wobuqu okanye wobungcali.

Ayiloxanduva lwakho ukwenza ukuba umntu afune uncedo. Ingxelo yakho okanye ukugxekwa kunokuba yenye yeendlela okwazi ukukhuthaza umntu ukuba afune uncedo.

Thetha nomphathi wakho okanye umphathi womnye umntu okanye ufune uncedo kwisebe lezabasebenzi (HR) lenkampani yakho.

Nazi ezinye iindlela onokuzisebenzisa ukulawula unxibelelwano nabantu osebenza nabo abanokuba notyekelo lwe-narcissistic okanye iziqendu zomsindo:

• bhala phantsi konke ukunxibelelana onakho kwiinkcukacha ezininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka
• sukukhulisa ukungavisisani nomntu, kuba oku kungaphelela ekwenzakaleni wena okanye abanye emsebenzini
• sukuyithatha buqu okanye uzame ukuziphindezela emntwini
• sukutyhila ulwazi oluninzi kakhulu okanye uvakalise izimvo zakho emntwini abanokuzisebenzisa ngokuchasene nawe
• zama ukungabinabo kwigumbi elinye wedwa ukuze abanye babe ngamangqina ngokuziphatha kwabo
• Xela nakuphi na ukuxhatshazwa okungekho mthethweni, imisebenzi, okanye ucalucalulo ozibonele ngokwakho kwisebe lakho le-HR

Kubudlelwane bamaqabane

Kuyenzeka ukuba ube nobomi obunempilo, obunemveliso kunye nomntu one-NPD kunye neziqendu zomsindo.

Kodwa nobabini ninokudinga ukufuna unyango kunye nokwakha indlela yokuziphatha kunye neendlela zonxibelelwano ezisebenzela ubudlelwane bakho.

Abantu abanomsindo okrakra banokwenzakalisa. Ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabo kunokukunceda uzikhusele ekwenzakaleni ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Zama ezinye zezi ndlela zilandelayo zokujongana ne-NPD:

• thaca eyona nguqu yakho inyanisekileyo kwiqabane lakho, uphephe nakuphi na ukuxoka okanye ukukhohlisa
• zamkela iimpawu ze-NPD kwiqabane lakho okanye ngokwakho, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukunxibelelana nento eqhubeka entlokweni yakho xa ubonakalisa isimilo esithile
• musa ukuzibamba okanye iqabane lakho kwimigangatho enzima okanye engenakwenzeka, njengoko oku kunokwandisa iimvakalelo zokungazithembi okanye ukungoneliseki okukhokelela kwingqumbo
• misela imigaqo ethile okanye imida kulwalamano lwakho ukuze wena neqabane lakho nazi ukuba kulindelwe ntoni kubo njengeqabane lothando, kunokuba usabele kwisimo esisekho kungekho sakhiwo kulindelo lwakho
• funa unyango ngokuzimeleyo nanjengesibini ukuze usebenze ngokwakho nakubudlelwane kwi-tandem
• sukucinga ngawe okanye iqabane lakho njengonanto "engalunganga”Kodwa uchonge iindawo ezinokuphazamisa ubudlelwane obufuna umsebenzi
• Qiniseka ekupheliseni ubudlelwane ukuba awusakholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane busempilweni kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho

Kubahlobo

Nciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwakho kuye nawuphina umhlobo okucinezela ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasengqondweni, okanye ngokweemvakalelo kwinzondo.

Unokufuna ukucinga ngokususa kubuhlobo bakho ngokupheleleyo ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba ubuhlobo abusenampilo okanye buluncedo macala.

Ukuba lo ngumhlobo osenyongweni onobuhlobo obuxabisileyo, unokufumana uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.

Banokukunceda ufunde indlela yokuziphatha eyenza ukuba ukujongana kube lula. Unokufunda nokuziphatha okunokukunceda ulawule ngcono unxibelelwano kunye nokunxibelelana nomhlobo wakho ngexesha leziqendu zomsindo.

Oku kunokwenza ukuba ixesha lakho kunye lingonwabi kwaye lizalisekise ngakumbi okanye libe nemveliso.

Ukusuka kumntu ongamaziyo

Olona khetho lufanelekileyo kukuhamba. Akunakuba wena okanye loo mntu uya kuba nakho ukufikelela nasiphi na isigqibo esakhayo kunxibelelwano lwakho.

Kodwa qaphela ukuba izenzo zakho azibanga mpendulo. Iqhutywa zizinto ezingazenziyo iimpembelelo nangayiphi na indlela.

Zinyangwa njani iingcwangu?

Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokunceda ukunyanga zombini i-NPD kunye nomsindo.

Banokusebenzisa unyango oluthethwayo, okanye unyango lwengqondo, ukunceda abantu abane-NPD baqonde indlela abaziphethe ngayo, ukhetho lwabo, kunye neziphumo zabo. Iingcali zonyango zinokuthi emva koko zisebenze nomntu lowo ekusombululeni izinto ezisisiseko.

Unyango lokuthetha lunokunceda abantu abane-NPD ukuba benze izicwangciso ezintsha zokuziphatha ukuze baphucule impilo kunye nezakhono zobudlelwane.

• Abantu abane-NPD kunye nomsindo we-narcissistic banokwenzakalisa abantu kubomi babo, nangona bengaqapheli. Awudingi ukuhlala uxhalabile rhoqo malunga nomsindo wexesha elizayo. Unokuthatha amanyathelo okuzikhusela.
• Ukuba woyika umntu one-NPD ebomini bakho angawela ukusuka ekuphathweni gadalala ukuya ekuphatheni gadalala okanye ucinga ukuba usengozini kwangoko, tsalela umnxeba kwi-911 okanye iinkonzo zengxamiseko zalapha.
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Ukuthatha

Uncedo luyafumaneka kubantu abane-NPD kunye narcissistic rage. Ngokuxilongwa ngokuchanekileyo kunye nonyango oluqhubekayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile ubomi obunempilo, obunomvuzo.

Okwangoku, umsindo unokubonakala ngathi uyadla kwaye uyasongela. Kodwa ukukhuthaza umntu omthandayo (okanye wena ngokwakho) ukuba afune uncedo kunokukhuthaza ukhetho olusempilweni kuwe, kubo, nakubo bonke abanye ebomini bakho.