Ngaba Ukubhoboza Ingono Kukhathaza? Yintoni Ongayilindela

Umxholo

• Ngaba kubuhlungu kangakanani?
• Ihlala ixesha elingakanani intlungu?
• Ngaba ikhona indlela yokunciphisa okanye yokuthintela iintlungu?
• Zithini izinto endinokukhetha kuzo zokuphucula iintlungu?
• Ngaba kuqhelekile ukuba ibele lam liphele?
• Ndiyazi njani ukuba inentsholongwane?
• Ngaba umzimba wam unokwala ubucwebe?
• Ngeliphi ixesha ekufuneka ndibone ugqirha?
• Umgca wezantsi

Akukho ndlela uyijikelezileyo - ukugqobhoza ingono kuyenzakalisa. Ayothusi ncam ukubona njengoko ubhoboza ngokoqobo umngxunya kwilungu lomzimba elipakishwe yimithambo-luvo.

Oko kwathethi, ayonzakalisi itoni kuye wonke umntu, kwaye kukho izinto ezithile ezinokuyenza ukuba ibe buhlungu ngakumbi okanye incinci.

Ukuba ucinga ngokubeka i-nip (s) yakho, sifumene iimpendulo kuzo zonke ii-Qs zakho.

Ngaba kubuhlungu kangakanani?

Kuxhomekeka kwindlela iingono zakho ezibuthathaka ngayo, ezinokwahluka kakhulu kumntu kumntu.

Abanye abantu bangathatha i-nurple emfusa ngaphandle kwempumelelo. Abanye abantu abakwazi nokuphatha impepho ngaphandle kokuba amagqabi abo eme ngxi.

Kwaye ezinye zinobuthathaka ngokwaneleyo ukuba zifikelele kuvuthondaba lokuvuselelwa kwengono kuphela. (Yep, ingono orgasms ziyinto- kwaye ziyamangalisa. Ungafunda ngazo zonke apha.)

Ukuba ubuza abantu ngokugqobhoza ingono ukuba kubuhlungu kangakanani kwisikali esi-1 ukuya kwi-10, iimpendulo zizonke ebhodini.

Xa kuthelekiswa nokunye ukugqobhoza, unokulindela ukuba kube buhlungu ngaphezu kokugqojozwa indlebe, kodwa kungaphantsi kweklitorisi okanye ukugqojozwa kwelungu lobudoda.

Intlungu ixhomekeke. Ukunyamezelwa kweentlungu zomntu wonke kwahlukile kwaye kunokwahluka mihla le kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezinje ngamanqanaba oxinzelelo lwakho, imood yakho, kunye nokuya esikhathini.

Ihlala ixesha elingakanani intlungu?

Intlungu ebangelwa sisenzo sokuhlaba ingono ithatha kuphela umzuzwana okanye emibini. Ngokwabantu abayenzileyo, kuvakala ngathi kukuluma ngokukhawuleza okanye ukucofa.

Ngaphaya koko, unokulindela ukuba iingono zakho zibe yithenda entle kwiintsuku ezimbini zokuqala okanye ezintathu. Uthambile kangakanani? Kwakhona, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ubuthathaka kangakanani. Intlungu ihlala ithelekiswa nokugruzuka okanye ukutshiswa lilanga. Imvakalelo yokubetha ngosuku lokuqala ayiqhelekanga.

Ngethuba nje uqhuba ngokufanelekileyo emva kokukhathalela kwaye uqaphele ngayo, iintlungu kufuneka ziphucule ngokuthe ngcembe kwiintsuku ezimbalwa.

Ngaba ikhona indlela yokunciphisa okanye yokuthintela iintlungu?

Ewe, eneneni.

Kwabaqalayo, yenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo kwaye ukhethe umntu ogqobayo onamava. Ubuchule kunye namava ogqobayo kunye nohlobo lwezixhobo abazisebenzisayo zinokuchaphazela indlela ebuhlungu ngayo le nkqubo.

Funda uphononongo kwaye ufumane iingcebiso kwabanye abaye benza ihiphu zabo. Nje ukuba unciphise ukhetho lwakho, yenza idinga ukuze ujonge ivenkile kwaye uthethe nomntu onokumgqobhoza. Buza malunga nokuqinisekiswa kunye neendlela zabo zempilo kunye nezokhuseleko.

Nazi ezinye izinto onokuzenza ezinokukunceda ukuba ungabi buhlungu kakhulu:

• Ukunciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo. Ukuyekelela ukuqeshwa kwakho kubalulekile. Ukuthetha ngokulula kunokuba kwenziwe, siyazi, kodwa ukuba noxinzelelo kuthoba unyamezelo lwakho. Phambi kokuqeshwa kwakho, yenza into ephumayo, njengeyoga, ebikukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokunyusa ukunyamezelana kwentlungu.
• Sebenzisa umfanekiso-ngqondweni. Kuvakala ngathi kukuhle, kodwa ukubona indawo yakho eyonwabileyo ngaphambi nangexesha lokuhlaba kwakho kunokukunceda uphumle kwaye ulawule iintlungu. Yiba nomfanekiso wakho ulele elunxwemeni okanye uhleli ungqongwe ziinjana ezithambileyo- okanye nantoni na ekwenza uzive wonwabile. Zama nje ukuba ube neenkcukacha kangangoko xa ucinga.
• Lala ngokwaneleyo. Kukho ukudibanisa ukungabikho kokulala kunye nokunyusa uvakalelo kwiintlungu kunye nokunyamezeleka kwentlungu kunye nomqobo. Zama ukulala ubusuku obuhle ubusuku bonke ubusuku obukhokelela ekutyunjweni kwakho.
• Musa ukusela. Ukusela ngaphambi kokugqobhoza akukho hayi. Ayisiyomthetho kuphela ukuba umntu enze ukubhoboza kumntu onxilileyo, kodwa ukusela kwangaphambili kunokukwenza ube novakalelo ngakumbi (ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye ngokweemvakalelo).
• Hlaba emva kwexesha lakho (ukuba unayo). Uninzi lwabantu lukwanalo nothambile lwebele ngaphambi nje kokuba ixesha labo liqale. Ukucwangcisa ukubhoboza ingono yakho iintsuku ezimbalwa emva kwexesha lakho kunokubangela ukuba kungabi buhlungu kangako.

Zithini izinto endinokukhetha kuzo zokuphucula iintlungu?

Nokuba uthatha onke amanyathelo afanelekileyo, kuya kubakho iintlungu. Ukunciphisa iintlungu kwi-counter-counter, njenge-ibuprofen (Advil) okanye i-acetaminophen (iTylenol) yindlela yokuhamba.

Ukufaka isicelo sepakethi yomkhenkce okanye ingqele ebandayo ngaphezulu kwendawo kunokuthuthuzela, nako. Lumka ungacinezeli kakhulu okanye ube krwada. Yhu!

Ukusebenzisa amanzi anetyiwa ukugcina ukugqojozwa kucocekile nako kunokuthomalalisa kwaye kuncede ukunciphisa iintlungu kunye nomngcipheko wosulelo.

Ukwenza oku, nyibilikisa ¼ itispuni yetyuwa yolwandle kwii-ounces ezisibhozo zamanzi afudumeleyo kwaye uthambise indawo.

Ngaba kuqhelekile ukuba ibele lam liphele?

Hayi. Nokuba unamabele abuthathaka, iintlungu zokugqobhoza ingono akufuneki zichaphazele lonke ibele lakho.

Ubuhlungu obungaphaya kwengono bunokubonisa usulelo, ngoko ke kungcono ukuba ulandele umboneleli wakho wezempilo

Ndiyazi njani ukuba inentsholongwane?

Iintlungu luphawu nje olunye losulelo.

Nazi ezinye zeempawu kunye neempawu ekufuneka uzijongile:

• ubuhlungu obukhulu okanye ubuntununtunu obujikeleze ingono okanye ibele
• ukudumba kwesiza sokugqobhoza
• ukugqobhoza kuve kushushu ekuphatheni
• ubomvu bomzimba okanye ukukhawuleza
• Ukukhutshwa okuluhlaza okomhlaza okanye okumdaka
• Iphunga elibi kufuphi nendawo yokugqobhoza
• ifiva
• iintlungu zomzimba

Ngaba umzimba wam unokwala ubucwebe?

Kunokwenzeka.

Amajoni omzimba wakho angabona ubucwebe njengezinto zangaphandle aze awugatye.

Oku kuqala ngenkqubo ebizwa ngokuba "kukufuduka" apho umzimba wakho uqala ukutyhala izacholo ngaphandle komzimba wakho. Iimpawu kunye neempawu ziza ngokuthe ngcembe-zihlala ziintsuku ezimbalwa okanye iiveki ngaphambi kokuba iyala ubucwebe.

Nantsi imiqondiso yokuba oku kunokwenzeka:

• ubucwebe busondela kufutshane nomphezulu wolusu lwakho
• izihlunu ziye zinciphe
• uqaphela utshintsho kwindlela ezibekwe ngayo izacholo
• ubucwebe buziva bukhululekile okanye umngxunya ubonakala umkhulu
• kukho izinto ezininzi zobucwebe ezibonisa phantsi kolusu

Ngeliphi ixesha ekufuneka ndibone ugqirha?

Umbhobozi wakho kufuneka abenakho ukunika ulwazi malunga naziphi na iimpawu ezizayo, kodwa kusoloko kububulumko ukufikelela kumboneleli wakho wezempilo malunga nantoni na engaqhelekanga.

Ngokwe-Association of Professional Piercers (i-APP), kuya kufuneka ubonane nogqirha ngoko nangoko xa ufumana oku kulandelayo:

• iintlungu eziqatha, ukudumba okanye ukuba bomvu
• Ininzi yokukhutshwa okuluhlaza, emthubi okanye engwevu
• ukukhupha okungqindilili okanye okunukayo
• Imigca ebomvu evela kwindawo egqobayo
• ifiva
• Ukugodola
• isicaphucaphu okanye ukugabha
• isiyezi
• ukudideka

Umgca wezantsi

Ukubhoboza iingono kubuhlungu, kodwa eyona ntlungu yokwenyani ihlala kuphela umzuzwana kwaye nayiphi na intlungu engaphaya inokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo.

Ukuba ukugqobhoza kubuhlungu ngaphezu kokuba ucinga ukuba kufanelekile, thetha umbhobozi wakho. Ukuba uphawula nayiphi na imiqondiso yosulelo, yenza idinga nogqirha ngoko nangoko.

U-Adrienne Santos-Longhurst ngumbhali ozimeleyo kunye nombhali obhale ngokubanzi kuzo zonke izinto zempilo kunye nendlela yokuphila ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka. Xa engakhange ahlanganiswe kwindawo yakhe yokubhala ephanda inqaku okanye evale udliwanondlebe neengcali zempilo, unokufunyanwa edlala ejikeleze idolophu yaselunxwemeni kunye nomyeni kunye nezinja kwi-tow okanye ngokutshiza malunga nelibi elizama ukuphatha i-paddleboard yokuma.