Umongikazi Ongaziwayo: Sifanelwe yintlonipho efanayo njengoGqirha. Nantsi kutheni

Umxholo

• Ilizwi likagqirha lidla ngokubamba ubunzima obuninzi
• Kusoloko kukho iingcinga eziphosakeleyo ngaphezulu kwamanqanaba emfundo yabongikazi kunye nenxalenye abayidlalayo ekuphulukaneni nesigulana
• Umongikazi uhlala ebona umfanekiso omkhulu wembonakalo yesigulana
• Idatha ibonisa ukuba abaguli baneziphumo ezingcono xa abongikazi benikwa inkululeko engakumbi
• Ukungabikho kwentlonipho kubongikazi kunokuchaphazela umgangatho wokhathalelo

Umongikazi ongaziwayo yikholamu ebhalwe ngabongikazi abangqonge iUnited States ngento abanokuyithetha. Ukuba ungumongikazi kwaye ungathanda ukubhala malunga nokusebenza kwinkqubo yezempilo yaseMelika, nxibelelana nayo [email protected].

Ndidiniwe. Bekufuneka ndibize ikhowudi izolo kuba isigulana sam siphulukene nokubetha kwentliziyo yakhe. Iqela lonke le-ICU lalikhona ukunceda ukuvuselela, kodwa iingalo zam zibuhlungu ngokwenza uxinzelelo lwesifuba.

Ndibona isigulana kunye nomatshini ovelayo ekufuneka sibeke ecaleni kwebhedi yakhe ukunceda ukuxhasa intliziyo yakhe izolo. Ndikhululekile kuba ubonakala engcono kakhulu. Xa ndijika ndibone inenekazi lisitsho iinyembezi. Ngudade wesigulana owabhabha evela ngaphandle kwedolophu, kwaye yayilixesha lokuqala ukumbona oko kusenziwa utyando. Ngokucacileyo khange athethe nomfazi wakhe okwangoku kwaye ebengalindelanga ukumbona e-ICU.

Iinyembezi zijika zibe sisimilo, aze aqale ukubuza, “Kutheni ebonakala enjalo? Kuqhubekani?" Ndimxelela ukuba ndingumongikazi kabhuti wakhe wosuku kwaye ndimfumanele isitulo. Ndicacisa yonke into, ukusuka kotyando kunye neengxaki ukuya kwimeko akuyo ngoku kunye nokuba yintoni amayeza noomatshini abenzayo. Ndimxelela icebo lokhathalelo losuku, kwaye kuba sise-ICU, izinto zenzeka ngokukhawuleza kakhulu kwaye iimeko zingatshintsha ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Nangona kunjalo, uzinzile okwangoku kwaye ndiza kuba lapha ndimjonga. Kananjalo, ukuba uneminye imibuzo, nceda undazise, ​​kuba ndiza kuba naye apha kwiiyure ezili-12 ezizayo.

Undithatha xa ndimnika kwaye uqhubeka endibuza ukuba ndenza ntoni, zithini iinombolo kumlindi wecala lokulala ezimeleyo, kutheni kukho ii-alamu zicimayo? Ndihlala ndicacisa xa ndiqhubeka nomsebenzi wam.

Emva koko kuza umhlali omtsha enxibe ibhatyi yakhe emhlophe, kwaye ndiyayiqaphela indlela atshintsha ngayo lo dade kwangoko. Umda kwilizwi lakhe akasekho. Akasahambi phezu kwam.

“Ungugqirha? Ndicela undixelele kwenzeke ntoni kubhuti wam? Kuqhubekani? Ngaba uyaphila? ” Ubuza watsho.

Umhlali umnika into ayithethileyo, kwaye ubonakala onelisekile.

Uhleli ngokuzolileyo kwaye unqwala ngokungathi uyaqala ukuyiva lento.

Ilizwi likagqirha lidla ngokubamba ubunzima obuninzi

Njengomongikazi obhalisiweyo kangangeminyaka eli-14, ndikhe ndayibona le meko idlala amaxesha ngamaxesha, xa ugqirha ephinda inkcazo efanayo nomongikazi ayinikeze amaxesha ngaphambili, kuphela ukuba ahlangane nempendulo ehloniphekileyo nokuzithemba evela kwisigulana.

Ngamafutshane: Amagama kagqirha ahlala ethwele ubunzima ngaphezu kwalawo onesi. Kwaye oku kunokuba phantsi kwenyani yokuba uluvo lokonga lusaqhubeka.

Umsebenzi wobongikazi, embindini wawo, bekusoloko kukunyamekela abaguli. Nangona kunjalo, yayiyeyona nto ilawulwa ngumfazi apho aba baboneleli bezempilo babesebenza njengabancedisi koogqirha abangamadoda, ukukhathalela nokucoca emva kwezigulana. Kule minyaka idlulileyo, nangona kunjalo, abongikazi bafumene inkululeko engakumbi xa bekhathalela abaguli kwaye abasayi kuphinda benze ngokungaboni ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba kutheni isenziwa.

Kwaye kukho izizathu ezininzi zoku.

Kusoloko kukho iingcinga eziphosakeleyo ngaphezulu kwamanqanaba emfundo yabongikazi kunye nenxalenye abayidlalayo ekuphulukaneni nesigulana

Kusekho ukuqonda okungachananga xa kufikwa kumanqanaba emfundo abongikazi. Umongikazi onikhathaleleyo unokuba nemfundo eninzi njengomfundi wasemsebenzini ekubhaleni iiodolo ngaloo mini. Nangona umongikazi obhalisiweyo (RNs) - abongikazi ababandakanyeka ngokuthe ngqo ekunyamekeleni abaguli- bafuna kuphela isidanga sabo sokudlula kuvavanyo lweLayisensi yeBhunga likaZwelonke, uninzi lwabongikazi luya ngaphaya kweli nqanaba kwimfundo yabo.

Ngokwe-Bureau of Labor Statistics, imfundo yesiqhelo kwinqanaba lokungena elifunekayo lokonga kwi-2018 yidigri yesidanga sokuqala. Iingcali zabongikazi (NP) zifuna imfundo engaphezulu kunye namava onyango kunee-RNs. Banoqeqesho kunye namandla okuchonga nokunyanga izifo kunye neemeko ngezicwangciso zonyango okanye amayeza. Bayakwazi ukunceda isigulana kuyo yonke inkqubo yonyango kunye nokulandela isigulana ekuqhubeni ukubonisana.

Emva kokugqiba isidanga seminyaka emine se-bachelor, emva koko kufuneka bafumane isidanga sobugqirha (MSN), engomnye iminyaka emibini. Ngaphandle koko, banokufumana ugqirha wabo wobugqirha (DNP), onokuthatha eminye iminyaka emibini ukuya kwemine. Ngokubanzi, akuqhelekanga ukuba unesi ekunyamekele ngeedigri ezininzi kunye neziqinisekiso.

Umongikazi uhlala ebona umfanekiso omkhulu wembonakalo yesigulana

Kuvavanyo oluqhelekileyo loogqirha kwi-2018, ngaphezulu kweepesenti ze-60 bathi bachitha phakathi kwe-13 kunye nemizuzu engama-24 kwisigulana ngasinye ngosuku. Oku kuthelekiswa nabongikazi abakwindawo yezibhedlele abasebenza umndilili weeyure ezili-12 ngosuku. Kwezo iiyure ze-12, ixesha elininzi lichithwa nezigulana.

Rhoqo, uya kubona oogqirha abaninzi ngexesha lokuhlala kwakho esibhedlele. Kungenxa yokuba oogqirha bahlala begxile kwiindawo ezithile, endaweni yokunyanga isigulana sonke. Unokuba nomgqirha omnye ujonge ukukhawuleza kwakho kwaye unike iingcebiso kunye nodokotela ohluke ngokupheleleyo oza kuza aphathe isilonda sakho sesifo sikashukela onyawo lwakho.

Umongikazi wakho, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka azi ukuba bathini aba dokotela bacebisayo ukuze benze ukhathalelo olufanelekileyo kuzo zonke ezi meko. Umongikazi wakho uyakuyiqonda imeko yakho iyonke kwaye abone owona mfanekiso mkhulu, kuba bakhathalele zonke iinkalo zemeko yakho. Bayanyanga konke yakho endaweni yeempawu zakho nje.

Idatha ibonisa ukuba abaguli baneziphumo ezingcono xa abongikazi benikwa inkululeko engakumbi

Izigulana ezijongana nokugula kunye nokwenzakala zifuna inkxaso kunye neemeko zolwazi ezivela kubaboneleli. Eli nqanaba lokhathalelo ngokubanzi livela kubongikazi kwaye libonakalise ukunciphisa ngokuthe ngcembe uxinzelelo lwesigulana kunye neempawu zomzimba.

Ngapha koko, ibonakalisile ukuba imeko eyomeleleyo, yobungcali bobuhlengikazi yayinexabiso eliphantsi kakhulu lokufa kweentsuku ezingama-30. Indawo yokuqeqeshelwa ukuba ngumongikazi ibonakaliswa ngu:

• Amanqanaba aphezulu okuzimela kwabongikazi. Kulapho abongikazi banamandla okwenza izigqibo kunye nenkululeko yokwenza izigqibo ngeklinikhi.
• Ulawulo lomongikazi kwindlela yabo yokusebenza kunye nokuseta. Kulapho abongikazi banegalelo kwindlela yokwenza ukuba ukhuseleko lwabo lukhuseleke bona kunye nezigulana.
• Ubudlelwane obusebenzayo phakathi kwamalungu eqela lokhathalelo lwempilo.

Ngamafutshane, xa abongikazi benikwa ithuba lokwenza eyona nto bayenzayo, oku kunefuthe elihle kwimpilo yomguli kunye nakwinqanaba lokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

Ukungabikho kwentlonipho kubongikazi kunokuchaphazela umgangatho wokhathalelo

Xa izigulana kunye neentsapho zingabaphathi abongikazi ngenqanaba elifanayo lentlonipho njengoogqirha, oko kunokuchaphazela umgangatho wokhathalelo. Nokuba bayazi okanye abazi, abongikazi abayi kufuna ukujonga isigulana rhoqo. Basenokungaphenduli ngokukhawuleza njengoko kufanele kwaye baphoswe ziimpawu ezifihlakeleyo zento enokubaluleka.

Kwiphepha le-flip, abongikazi abahlakulela ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nezigulana zabo kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nakho ukunika iingcebiso, izicwangciso zonyango, kunye nolunye ulwazi lwezempilo olumamelweyo kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba lulandelwe xa izigulana zibuyela ekhaya. Ubudlelwane obuhloniphayo bunokuba nezibonelelo ezibalulekileyo, zexesha elide ezilungileyo kwizigulana.

Ngexesha elizayo xa udibana nomongikazi, khumbula ukuba abaze "nje" ngumongikazi. Ngamehlo neendlebe zakho kunye nesithandwa sakho. Baya kunceda ukubamba iimpawu zokuthintela ukuba ungaguli. Baya kuba ngummeli wakho kunye nelizwi xa ungaziva ukuba unayo. Baza kubakho ukubamba isandla somntu omthandayo xa ungekho.

Bashiya iintsapho zabo yonke imihla ukuze baye kukhathalela eyakho. Onke amalungu ezempilo aye esikolweni ukuze abe ziingcali ekukhathaleleni.