Ngaba Lo Ngugwayimbo Lwabongikazi? Ungalubuyisa njani usana lwakho ekuncanciseni

Umxholo

• Wazi njani ukuba sisitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi?
• Yintoni enokubangela isitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi?
• Yintoni omele uyenze malunga nesiteleka sabongikazi?
• Ufanele ukhathazeke nini?
• Yise kude

Njengomzali oncelisayo, mhlawumbi uchitha ixesha elininzi ukubeka esweni ukuba ungakanani na kwaye usitya kangakanani umntwana wakho. Mhlawumbi uyaqaphela ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana wakho esitya rhoqo okanye esela ubisi oluncinci kunesiqhelo.

Xa umntwana wakho etshintsha ngesiquphe iipateni zakhe zokonga kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba kutheni, kwaye unokwenza ntoni ukulungisa oko, kwangoko. Funda ukuze ufumanise ukuba loluphi na uqhankqalazo lokonga kwaye wenzeni ukuba umntwana wakho unaso.

Wazi njani ukuba sisitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi?

Ke, yintoni isitrayikhi sokonga? Isitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi- okanye "isitrayikhi sokuncancisa" - sichazwa njengethuba lexesha xa umntwana oye wancancisa kakuhle ngesiquphe esala ukuncancisa. Bahlala bengayiqali le ndlela yokuziphatha de babe banenyanga ezi-3 ubudala kwaye babe nolwazi ngehlabathi elibajikelezileyo.

Iintsana ezingena kuqhankqalazo lokonga ngokwesiqhelo ziyalala ibele kodwa zibonakala ngathi azonwabanga, ziyaxakaniseka kwaye azikholiswa kukungabalisi. Ngelixa usana lwakho mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha luye luphazanyiswe ebeleni, ukutsala kude okanye ukubhula phakathi kwindawo yesondlo hayi ebonisa ugwayimbo lokonga, kunokuba baphazamisekile. Yiyo ukwala ukuncancisa naliphi na ixesha elibonisa ugwayimbo lokonga.

Ngamanye amaxesha, isitrayikhi sokonga siphazanyiswa luphawu lokuba umntwana ukulungele ukulunyulwa. Oku akunakulindeleka ekubeni iintsana kunqabile ukuba zizilumle ngaphambi kweminyaka emi-2 ubudala, kwaye xa zisenza njalo, zihlala zisenza njalo ngokunciphisa ngokuthe ngcembe ubude bexesha kunye nokuhamba rhoqo kweeseshoni zokonga kunokuba ziyeke ngesiquphe.

Yintoni enokubangela isitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi?

Iintsana zinokungenela isitrayikhi sokonga ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo ezomzimba kunye neemvakalelo. Ezinye zezizathu zinokuba:

• Ukuxinana okanye indlebe ebangela ukuba ukonwaba kungonwabi
• umqala obuhlungu, okanye ukusika okanye isilonda emlonyeni esenza ukuba ungonwabi ungonwabisi
• isigulo esinjengesandla, iinyawo, kunye nesifo somlomo esichaphazela umlomo wabo kwaye senza ukuba ukonwaba kungonwabi
• Ukuxubha kunye nokufumana iintsini
• Ukuphazamiseka okubangelwa kukufumaneka kobisi oluncinci apho ukuhamba kobisi kuhamba kancinci okanye ukugqithisa kobisi apho ukuhamba kukhawuleza
• Ukudakumba okubangelwa kukutshintsha incasa yobisi ngenxa yokutshintsha kwehomoni okanye ukutya
• Amava apho bothuka xa babencancisa ingxolo enkulu okanye ngomama bekhwaza emva kokulunywa
• uziva ukuba unoxinzelelo, unomsindo, okanye kungenjalo ngaphandle kweentlobo kwaye awujolisanga kubongikazi
• utshintsho lweemveliso zokhathalelo lomntu ezikwenza unuke ngokwahlukileyo
• iziphazamiso ezibangelwa yindawo eyoyikisayo

Ngelixa uninzi lwezi zizathu lungenakuthintelwa, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kusana lwakho olunokuchaphazela impumelelo ekuncanciseni.

Yintoni omele uyenze malunga nesiteleka sabongikazi?

Ngelixa isitrayikhi sokonga sinokuba noxinzelelo kuwe nakumntwana wakho, zininzi iindlela onokuthi uzisebenzise ukunceda usana lubuyele ebeleni ngempumelelo. Xa ulawula isitrayikhi sokonga, kukho imiceli mngeni emibini ephambili yokulawula: ukugcina unikezo lwakho kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyondliwa.

Xa umntwana ethatha ubisi oluncinci kunesiqhelo kuya kufuneka uvakalise ubisi ukugcina unikezelo lwakho. Unokwenza oko ngokumpompa okanye uvakalise isandla. Ukuveza ubisi lwakho kuya kwenza umzimba wakho wazi ukuba ubisi lusadingeka kwaye kukuncede uqhubeke uvelisa oko umntwana wakho aza kukufuna xa sele eqale ukuncancisa kwakhona.

Xa kuziwa ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umntwana uyondliwa ngexesha logwayimbo lokonga, cinga ukupompa kunye nokuncancisa ngebhotile okanye ukondla ikomityi. Ngelixa kunokuba noxinzelelo ukuzama ukwenza ukuba umntwana wakho athathe ibhotile okanye ikomityi, kubalulekile ukuba baqinisekise ukuba bathatha iikhalori ezaneleyo ukuze bahlale benamanzi kwaye bondleke kakuhle bade babuyele ebeleni.

Nje ukuba uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho kunye nonikezelo lwakho ziya kubakho nazo, ungasebenza ekubuyiseleni umntwana wakho ebeleni. Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba umntwana wakho unesifo okanye okunye ukungahambi kakuhle emzimbeni okukhokelela kwisitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi, utyelelo kugqirha wabantwana unokubanceda ukuba bafumane indlela eya kwimpilo engcono kunye nokunakekelwa okungcono.

Emva kokuzama ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ebangela ugwayimbo kunye nokusebenza ukuphelisa nakuphi na ukugula okanye eminye imiba, zininzi iindlela onokuthi ukhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba onesi:

• Xoka ulusu kulusu kunye nosana lwakho kwaye ngobunono unikezele isifuba sakho.
• Guqula izikhundla, kubandakanya ukubamba okungafaniyo kunye namacala ahlukeneyo.
• Umongikazi kwigumbi elimnyama okanye elimnyama ukuphelisa ukuphazamiseka.
• Nika isifuba sakho ngelixa uhleli kunye kwindawo yokuhlambela efudumeleyo.
• Zama ukuhlala ukhululekile kwaye usebenze ukuphelisa uxinzelelo malunga neeseshoni zokonga.
• Chitha ixesha elilungileyo, lokudibanisa kunye xa ungongikazi.
• Nika ukomelezwa okuninzi kwimpumelelo yokuncancisa.

Ufanele ukhathazeke nini?

Uninzi logwayimbo lwabongikazi luqala kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ukuya evekini ubude bexesha. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyala ukutya nokuba uzama ukumtyisa njani (ibele, ibhotile okanye ikomityi), uyehla emzimbeni, akachami okanye akhuphe rhabaxa njengoko esenza ngesiqhelo, okanye ubonakalisa ezinye iimpawu onazo, thetha nogqirha wabantwana bakho kwangoko.

Ukuba umntwana wakho ebekonga kancinci kunakuqala, kodwa utya ngebhotile okanye ngekomityi, kwaye usempilweni kwaye wonwabile, unokuqiniseka ukuba isitrayikhi sabo sokonga asiyichaphazeli impilo yabo iphela.

Yise kude

Uqhanqalazo lokonga lunokukhathaza wena kunye nosana lwakho kwaye kunokubangelwa ziimeko ezahlukeneyo zomzimba okanye zeemvakalelo. Isitrayikhi sobuhlengikazi asithethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ungenise ifomula okanye ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bokuncancisa buyaphela.

Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa kunye nokudibanisa kunye nenkxaso eyongezelelweyo, wena kunye nosana lwakho niyakubuyela kubuhlengikazi njengesiqhelo!