Iingcebiso zokuba ngumzali ze-ADHD: Izinto ezenziwayo kunye neeDon'ts

Umxholo

• Imigaqo yolawulo lokuziphatha
• Thatha isigqibo ngaphambi kwexesha lokuba yeyiphi indlela yokuziphatha eyamkelekileyo nengamkelekanga
• Chaza imigaqo, kodwa vumela ubhetyebhetye
• Lawula ubundlongondlongo
• Ezinye "zenze" zokujongana ne-ADHD
• Yenza ulwakhiwo
• Yahlula imisebenzi ibe ngamaqhekeza anokulawuleka
• Yenza lula kwaye uququzelele ubomi bomntwana wakho
• Nciphisa iziphazamiso
• Khuthaza umthambo
• Misela iipateni zokulala
• Khuthaza ukucinga okuvakalayo
• Khuthaza ixesha lokulinda
• Kholelwa emntwaneni wakho
• Fumana iingcebiso
• Thatha ikhefu
• Zolile
• "Musa ukwenza" ngokujongana nomntwana one-ADHD
• Musa ukubila izinto ezincinci
• Musa ukonganyelwa kwaye ungxole
• Musa ukuba mbi
• Ungavumeli umntwana wakho okanye ukuphazamiseka kuthathe ulawulo

Iingcebiso zobuzali ze-ADHD

Ukukhulisa umntwana one-ADHD akufani nokukhulisa abantwana ngokwesiko. Ukwenza imigaqo yesiqhelo kunye neenkqubo zasekhaya kunokuba yinto engenakwenzeka, kuxhomekeke kuhlobo kunye nobukrakra beempawu zomntwana wakho, ke kuyakufuneka usebenzise iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Ingakhathaza ukumelana nezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha ezibangelwa yi-ADHD yomntwana wakho, kodwa kukho iindlela zokwenza ubomi bube lula.

Abazali kufuneka bayamkele into yokuba abantwana abane-ADHD basebenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuleyo yabanye abantwana. Ngelixa abantwana abane-ADHD besenokufunda into eyamkelekileyo nengamkelekanga, ukuphazamiseka kwabo kubenza bathambekele ngakumbi ekuziphatheni okungxamisekileyo.

Ukukhuthaza ukukhula komntwana one-ADHD kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka uguqule indlela oziphatha ngayo kwaye ufunde ukulawula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho. Amayeza angaba linyathelo lokuqala kunyango lomntwana wakho. Iindlela zokuziphatha zokulawula iimpawu ze-ADHD yomntwana kufuneka zihlale zikhona. Ngokulandela ezi zikhokelo, unokunciphisa imilinganiselo yokuziphatha eyonakalisayo kwaye uncede umntwana wakho ayeke ukuzithemba.

Imigaqo yolawulo lokuziphatha

Mibini imigaqo-siseko yolawulo lokuziphatha yonyango. Eyokuqala iyakhuthaza kwaye inomvuzo wokuziphatha okuhle (ukomelezwa okuqinisekileyo). Okwesibini kukususa imivuzo ngokulandela indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga kunye neziphumo ezifanelekileyo, ekhokelela ekucinyweni kokuziphatha gwenxa (ukohlwaya, ngokweendlela zokuziphatha). Ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba amanyathelo aneziphumo ngokumisela imigaqo kunye neziphumo ezicacileyo zokulandela okanye ukungathobeli le mithetho. Le mithetho-siseko kufuneka ilandelwe kuyo yonke indawo yobomi bomntwana. Oko kuthetha ukuba ekhaya, kwigumbi lokufundela, nakwibala lezentlalo.

Thatha isigqibo ngaphambi kwexesha lokuba yeyiphi indlela yokuziphatha eyamkelekileyo nengamkelekanga

Injongo yokuguqulwa kokuziphatha kukunceda umntwana wakho aqwalasele imiphumo yesenzo kunye nokulawula ukunyanzeliswa ukuba enze okuthile. Oku kufuna uvelwano, umonde, uthando, amandla kunye namandla kwicala lomzali. Abazali kufuneka kuqala bathathe isigqibo sokuba zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha abaya kuzinyamezela. Kubalulekile ukunamathela kwezi zikhokelo. Ukohlwaya ngokuziphatha ngenye imini kwaye ukuvumela oku kulandelayo kuyingozi kuphuculo lomntwana. Ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kufuneka zihlala zingamkelekanga, njengokugqabhuka komzimba, ukwala ukuvuka ekuseni, okanye ukungafuni ukucima umabonwakude xa uxelelwa ukuba wenze njalo.

Umntwana wakho unokuba nobunzima bokufunda kunye nokwenza izikhokelo zakho. Imigaqo ifanele ukuba ibe lula kwaye icace, kwaye abantwana bafanele ukuvuzwa ngokuba bayilandele. Oku kunokufezekiswa kusetyenziswa inkqubo yamanqaku. Umzekelo, vumela umntwana wakho ukuba aqokelele amanqaku ngokuziphatha okuhle okunokuhlawulelwa ukuchitha imali, ixesha phambi kweTV, okanye umdlalo wevidiyo omtsha. Ukuba unoluhlu lwemithetho yasekhaya, yibhale phantsi uze uyibeke apho kulula ukubona khona. Ukuphindaphinda kunye nokuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo kunokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ayiqonde ngcono imithetho yakho.

Chaza imigaqo, kodwa vumela ubhetyebhetye

Kubalulekile ukuba uhlale uvuza isimilo esihle kwaye ungatyhafisi ezonakalisayo, kodwa akufuneki ube ngqongqo kakhulu emntwaneni wakho. Khumbula ukuba abantwana abane-ADHD abanako ukuziqhelanisa notshintsho kunye nabanye. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba enze iimpazamo njengoko efunda. Ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga okungonakalisi umntwana wakho okanye omnye umntu kufuneka kwamkelwe njengenxalenye yobuntu bomntwana wakho. Ekugqibeleni kuyingozi ukudimaza isimilo somntwana ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba asiqhelekanga.

Lawula ubundlongondlongo

Ukugqajukelwa ngumsindo kubantwana abane-ADHD kunokuba yingxaki eqhelekileyo. Ixesha lokuphuma ngaphandle yindlela esebenzayo yokuthomalalisa wena kunye nomntwana wakho odlamkileyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha esidlangalaleni, kuya kufuneka basuswe ngoko nangoko ngendlela ezolileyo kwaye ethatha isigqibo. Ixesha lokuphuma kufuneka lichazwe emntwaneni njengethuba lokuphola kwaye acinge ngokuziphatha okungalunganga abakubonisileyo. Zama ukungahoyi isimilo esiphazamisayo ngokuzithoba njengendlela yokuba umntwana wakho akhulule amandla akhe okothula amandla. Nangona kunjalo, isimilo esikhohlakeleyo, esihlukumezayo, okanye esiphazamisayo esenza ngokuchasene nemigaqo oyimiselayo kufuneka sohlwaywe ngalo lonke ixesha.

Ezinye "zenze" zokujongana ne-ADHD

Yenza ulwakhiwo

Yenza isiqhelo somntwana wakho kwaye unamathele kuyo yonke imihla. Sungula amasiko malunga nokutya, umsebenzi wesikolo, ixesha lokudlala, kunye nexesha lokulala. Imisebenzi elula yemihla ngemihla, njengokubeka umntwana wakho iimpahla zakhe kusuku olulandelayo, inokubonelela ngolwakhiwo olubalulekileyo.

Yahlula imisebenzi ibe ngamaqhekeza anokulawuleka

Zama ukusebenzisa ikhalenda enkulu yodonga ukunceda ukukhumbuza umntwana ngemisebenzi yabo. Imisebenzi yokufaka iikhowudi kwimisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nomsebenzi wasekhaya unokugcina umntwana wakho ukuba angadinwa yimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla kunye nokunikezelwa kwesikolo. Nokuba iinkqubo zentsasa kufuneka zohlulwe zenziwe imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo.

Yenza lula kwaye uququzelele ubomi bomntwana wakho

Yenza indawo ekhethekileyo, ethuleyo ukuze umntwana afunde, enze umsebenzi wesikolo, kwaye athathe ikhefu kwiziphithiphithi zobomi bemihla ngemihla. Gcina ikhaya lakho licocekile kwaye lilungelelanisiwe ukuze umntwana wakho azi apho yonke into iya khona. Oku kunceda ukunciphisa iziphazamiso ezingeyomfuneko.

Nciphisa iziphazamiso

Abantwana abane-ADHD bamkela iziphazamiso ezifikeleleka ngokulula. Umabonwakude, imidlalo yevidiyo, kunye nekhompyuter zikhuthaza indlela yokuziphatha engxamisekileyo kwaye kufuneka zilawulwe. Ngokunciphisa ixesha kunye nezinto ze-elektroniki kunye nexesha elonyukayo lokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi engaphandle kwekhaya, umntwana wakho uya kuba nakho ukuphuma kwamandla okwakha.

Khuthaza umthambo

Umsebenzi womzimba utshisa amandla agqithisileyo ngeendlela ezisempilweni. Kwakhona kunceda umntwana ukuba agxininise ingqalelo kwiintshukumo ezithile. Oku kunokunciphisa ukungxamiseka. Ukuzivocavoca kunokunceda ukuphucula uxinzelelo, ukunciphisa umngcipheko woxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, kunye nokukhuthaza ingqondo ngeendlela ezisempilweni. Uninzi lweembaleki ezinobuchule ezine-ADHD. Iingcali zikholelwa ekubeni iimbaleki zinokunceda umntwana one-ADHD ukuba afumane indlela eyakhayo yokujonga ukuthanda kwakhe, ingqalelo namandla abo.

Misela iipateni zokulala

Ixesha lokulala kunokuba nzima ngakumbi kubantwana abaphethwe yi-ADHD. Ukungabikho kokulala kukhulisa ukungakhathalelwa, ukungasebenzi kakuhle kunye nokungakhathali. Ukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba alale ngcono kubalulekile. Ukubanceda baphumle ngcono, baphelise izikhuthazi ezifana neswekile kunye necaffeine, kunye nokwehlisa ixesha likamabonwakude. Ukuseka isiko elisempilweni, lokuthomalalisa ixesha lokulala.

Khuthaza ukucinga okuvakalayo

Abantwana abane-ADHD abanako ukuzibamba. Oku kubangela ukuba bathethe kwaye benze ngaphambi kokucinga. Cela umntwana wakho ukuba athethe ngomlomo iingcinga zakhe kunye nokuqiqa xa umnqweno wokwenza into uvela. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde inkqubo yokucinga yomntwana wakho ukuze umncede aphelise isimilo esingxamisekileyo.

Khuthaza ixesha lokulinda

Enye indlela yokulawula umnqweno wokuthetha ngaphambi kokucinga kukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba eme kancinci ngaphambi kokuba uthethe okanye uphendule. Khuthaza iimpendulo ezicingisisiweyo ngokunceda umntwana wakho ngemisebenzi yesikolo yasekhaya kwaye ubuze imibuzo enonxibelelwano malunga nomdlalo oyithandayo kamabonakude okanye incwadi.

Kholelwa emntwaneni wakho

Umntwana wakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba akaluqapheli uxinzelelo olunokubangelwa yimeko yabo. Kubalulekile ukuhlala ulungile kwaye ukhuthaze. Mncome umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kakuhle ukuze azi xa into yenziwe kakuhle. Umntwana wakho unokujamelana ne-ADHD ngoku, kodwa ayiyi kuhlala ngonaphakade. Yiba nokuzithemba emntwaneni wakho kwaye ube nethemba ngekamva labo.

Fumana iingcebiso

Awungekhe uyenze yonke. Umntwana wakho ufuna ukukhuthazwa kwakho, kodwa bafuna uncedo lobungcali. Fumana ugqirha oza kusebenza nomntwana wakho kwaye ubanikeze enye indawo. Musa ukoyika ukufuna uncedo ukuba uyalufuna. Uninzi lwabazali lujolise ebantwaneni babo kangangokuba bazityeshele iimfuno zabo zengqondo. Ingcali inokunceda ukulawula uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kunye nolomntwana wakho. Amaqela enkxaso asekuhlaleni angaba sisixhobo esiluncedo kubazali.

Thatha ikhefu

Awungekhe uxhase iipesenti ezili-100 zexesha. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukothuka okanye ukhathazeke wena okanye umntwana wakho. Njengokuba umntwana wakho kuya kufuneka athathe ikhefu ngelixa efunda, nawe uyakufuna ezakho ikhefu. Ukucwangcisa ixesha lodwa kubalulekile kuye nawuphi na umzali. Cinga ngokuqesha umntu ogcina umntwana. Ukukhetha okuhle kubandakanya:

• Ukuhambahamba
• uya ejimini
• ukuthatha ibhafu yokuphumla

Zolile

Awunakho ukunceda umntwana ongxamisekileyo ukuba wena ucaphukile. Abantwana baxelisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo xa bebabona, ke ukuba uhlala uhleli kwaye ulawulwa ngexesha lokugqabhuka, oko kuya kunceda umntwana wakho ukuba enze okufanayo. Thatha ixesha lokuphefumla, uphumle, kwaye uqokelele iingcinga zakho ngaphambi kokuzama ukuthomalalisa umntwana wakho. Uzolile, umntwana wakho uya kuzola.

"Musa ukwenza" ngokujongana nomntwana one-ADHD

Musa ukubila izinto ezincinci

Kulungele ukwenza ulungelelwaniso nomntwana wakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphumeze imisebenzi emibini kwemithathu oyabileyo, cinga ngokuba bhetyebhetye nomsebenzi wesithathu, ongagqitywanga. Yinkqubo yokufunda kwaye kubalwa namanyathelo amancinci.

Musa ukonganyelwa kwaye ungxole

Khumbula ukuba indlela aziphethe ngayo umntwana wakho ibangelwa sisifo. I-ADHD isenokungabonakali ngaphandle, kodwa kukukhubazeka kwaye kufuneka iphathwe njalo. Xa uqala ukuziva unomsindo okanye ukhathazekile, khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho akakwazi "ukuphuma kuyo" okanye "abe yinto eqhelekileyo."

Musa ukuba mbi

Kuvakala ngathi kulula, kodwa thabatha izinto ngosuku olunye ngexesha kwaye ukhumbule ukuzigcina zonke ngendlela efanelekileyo. Yintoni enoxinzelelo okanye eneentloni namhlanje izakuphela ngomso.

Ungavumeli umntwana wakho okanye ukuphazamiseka kuthathe ulawulo

Khumbula ukuba ungumzali kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ubeka imigaqo yokuziphatha eyamkelekileyo ekhayeni lakho. Yiba nomonde kwaye ukondle, kodwa ungazivumeli ukuba uxhatshazwe okanye woyikiswe kukuziphatha komntwana wakho.